Empathetic people are the most beautiful, and oftentimes the most misdirected and abused. Sadly, having a soft heart can get us locked into traumatic love connections where the gift of our empathy works against us. Empathy is something we feel for another person as we try and place ourselves in their shoes. When we are giving this to a manipulator, we are finding empathy and understanding in places that we shouldn’t. We do this because we want to believe people are honest, good, and authentic, so we project these qualities onto our abusers as a way to stay in the relationship and to avoid our own feelings and fears of abandonment. We cannot stand behind ourselves with zero empathy and give it out to those who do not deserve it and make our way into a happy life or relationship. Step back for a minute and ask yourself why are you not being empathetic towards yourself, towards the pain you feel at the hands of the toxic people/person in your life, and giving yourself the sage advice to do better for yourself? We must ask ourselves why it is so foreign to us to take the loving advice we would offer to others in the same position? If we could practice being more empathetic towards ourselves, we would certainly develop a more honest relationship with ourselves, which would lead us more naturally into making healthier decisions when choosing relationships with others because we would never want anyone to hurt in the ways we are hurting.
Testing for NPD
Today I rejoice in total acceptance, of all that
got me here .. Ancestors whom were perceived
as this or that, labeled forever negatively
as well as some living had/mask their sensitivities .
My current research has graced me , beyond
measure , in a true liberation that has resulted
in so much love ❤️ and liberation I am weak
with it .. Truths convey so much lightness
of being and where I must dwell.
While I am mindful of others energies , I
have amassed armor that shields me , or I
can transmute quickly , in large part due to
final exams, that signify that graduation has
allowed me mastership, and anyone who
is threatened by me , is not .. I decide how
much energy I wish to put in any situation
and in doing so have reduced repeated drains
as I live as quietly and peaceful as possible .
‘Tis only a facet of being multi-dimensional
a result of so many experiences good/bad
and all between , of many life’s .
Our conditioning, and social denial of
our essential self , has failed as we witness the
evolutionary leap forward , and the knowledge
and acceptance of our many gifts , will be
The insanity of repression , thus depression
is the shadow being revealed that much can
be transmuted , rejected , and eliminated .
Exits will increase of those who can move on
and those whose nature is shadow , denial
greed , abuse , etc .. our Leap forward threatens
their status quo , steeped in failure to own
their power to heal their own wounds …
I honor both , I honor I have made all efforts
possible in many cases , and I release and forgive
myself if I erred, in ignorance, and I release
my responsibility , in honor of the individual
choice of one’s destiny .
Blessings & Peace ,
A new study suggests that children who suffer through major trauma grow up to be adults with greater levels of empathy than others.
— Read on bigthink.com/mind-brain/childhood-trauma-adult-empathy