Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Abandoned Mothers

I regret not having the author’s name , for proper credit

ABANDONED MOTHERS

There is a noxious war being waged by estranged adult children …

The actual casualty of the war is:

The Mother

Not the absent Mother

Not the abusive Mother

Not the dead-beat Mother.

Not the uncaring Mother

But the Mother who loved and stayed

The Mother who broke herself into pieces to keep everything together …. The Mother who gave up her own identity so her children could find theirs…- The Mother who fed, clothed, soothed, worked, and showed up … The Mother who may also have had the role of an absent father.

These Mothers are being told to…

· Just quietly and gracefully, vanish, from the face of the earth, while adult children, wage war, and whine to others, with reinventions of their history, childhood, and their relationships with their mothers, and

· To shut up and accept the blame.

· To not complain.

· To not have needs.

· To not have feelings.

· To not get tired of blame shifting.

· To not be hurt.

· To not be emotional.

· To not be angry.

· To not defend themselves.

· To accept the reinventions and untruths.

Their reinventions then become indictments, waged against the mother, by people who do not even know the mother nor the truth.

· The mother is diagnosed as the bad person

· The mother is labeled as the trigger in a made-up story.

· The mother is the villain based on untruths

· The mother is dehumanized

· No one will think to ask for facts

· No one will think to seek the truth or content

· No one will think to help seek resolution

· No one will think to ask for a healing

· No one will think the adult child is the problem

· No one will think to ask the mother to speak for herself.

· Instead, they will validate the adult child’s reinvention.

· They will determine the mother’s entire identity.

· They will determine the mother is inhuman.

· They will determine the mother is the villain.

· They will diagnose the mother without facts.

· They will let the perpetrator be harmless.

· In other words, no one will think for themselves…

And the irony of this war is…

· The mother must remain silent.

· The mother is not allowed to get mad.

· The mother grieves the loss the hardest.

· The mother hurts the deepest.

· The mother is not allowed to say a word.

· The mother is not allowed to have feelings.

· The mother is not allowed to say how she feels.

· The mother is not allowed to cry.

· The mother is not allowed to be exhausted

· The mother is not allowed to feel pain.

· The mother is not allowed to have emotions.

· The mother is not allowed to have needs.

· The mother is not allowed to be upset about the reinventions and made-up stories.

· The mother must willingly be the scapegoat

· The mother must be dehumanized.

· The mother must accept her rewritten history and identity.

Because if she does not accept this role and speaks up, she will be called…

· “Manipulative”

· “Guilt-tripping”

· “Toxic”

· “Making it all about herself.”

· “She’s the problem”

If you are an estranged mother…

You are the one who willingly paid the cost of birthhood and motherhood and was repaid with blame, silence, betrayal, and distance, so, please, do not forget…

· You stayed

· You are a human

· You are a woman

· You are not toxic

· You are not broken

· You are not the blame

· You are not defined by the pain inflicted.

· You are not meant to be silent

· You are not meant to be diagnosed

· You are not meant to be judged.

· You are not meant to quietly vanish.

· You are not meant to be erased

· You did not create the distance

· You did not create the situation

· You are not disposable

· You are loved.

· You are beautiful.

· You are smart.

· You are kind

· you are caring

· you are loving

· You are precious

· You are unique

· You are strong

· You happily gave life

· And most importantly it is not you…

Killers of marriage

KILLERS OF MARRIAGE

1. Laziness kills marriage.

2. Suspicion kills marriage.

3. Lack of Trust kills marriage.

4. Lack of Mutual Respect kills marriage.

5. Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice, and Anger kill marriage.

6. Unnecessary Arguments kill marriage.

7. Keeping Secrets from Your Spouse kills marriage.

8. Infidelity (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc.) kills marriage.

9. Poor Communication kills marriage.

10. Lies easily kill marriage; be sincere with your spouse in every aspect.

11. Prioritizing Parents/Family Over Your Spouse kills marriage.

12. Lack of or Unenjoyable Intimacy kills marriage.

13. Nagging kills marriage.

14. Too Much Talk and Careless Talk kill marriage.

15. Spending Little Time with Your Spouse kills marriage.

16. Being Too Independent-Minded kills marriage.

17. Love for Partying, Money, Impulse Buying, and Financial Indiscipline kills marriage.

18. Exposing Your Spouse’s Inadequacies to Your Parents or Siblings kills marriage.

19. Neglecting Spiritual Practices and Not Praying Together kills not only marriage but also your life.

20. Spurning Correction and Reprimand kills marriage.

21. Always Wearing a Sad Face and Being Moody kills marriage.

22. Extreme Feminism Advocacy kills marriage.

23. Male Chauvinism kills marriage.

24. Uncontrolled Temper and Anger kill marriage.

25. Not Understanding Your Role and Responsibility in Marriage as instituted by God kills marriage.

26. Ignoring the Spiritual, Emotional, and Physical Needs of Your Spouse kills marriage.

27. Threatening the Security of a Spouse will have detrimental effects on the marriage.

28. Lack of Knowledge of and Obedience to the Word of God kills marriage.

Psychiatry

Narcissist parent

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We can do this – Katherine Falcon

I truly believe this time period is the most challenging part of the path right now.

You have changed but there isn’t quite yet a place to hold you and nothing much makes sense. The world still looks like nothing is changing and this is very disheartening watching all of the violence.

There’s not a world yet that supports your change so you have to sit in the waiting room and just observe while you are no longer interested in anything you used to be interested in. I don’t know about you but I’ve read all the magazines and am bored out of my mind in this waiting room.

There can be a lot of shame / depression with this phase, like what is wrong with me? I used to be so vibrant and excited? Now I dont want to do much of anything.

Dolores Cannon wrote a book about how many people felt this way as first, second and third wave volunteers. The message was, you are here to influence with your auric field and vibration and not much else. Most people asked what their purpose was and that was it. Hmmmmm

I also want to create change and yet I keep hearing “BE PATIENT” … I’m not sure how much longer I can be patient in this same position in my life. It feels interminable for the human yet like a split second for the soul.

Sometimes I feel like this was all a huge test run & experiment and none of us even know if it will truly happen in our lifetimes. It seems like a lot of hype. We are waiting to see but I’m not sure if I truly believe in this new earth anymore. Maybe it’s more about grounding into the now and facing the challenges with ease and grace. Earth supposedly is one of the hardest soul paths.

Sending love, we can do this ❤