Highly improbable that your alienated child is acting autonomously/ Charlie McCready

Dealing with the rudeness, insults, and rejection from an alienated child can be incredibly challenging and emotionally distressing for a parent. Hard as it is sometimes (and believe me, I know!) we must try to remember their behaviour and their words don’t stem from them. This was downloaded like a software programme, it was inflicted on them. It was repeated until they believed this programme was their own creation. The child acts out of trauma-bonded loyalty and enforced alignment. That can be really irritating and upsetting to witness, but they’re not aware of it. We are the ‘target’ and often it’s only us who sees it. That’s also difficult for us to cope with! So, unpacking all this, we have to remember that deep down, hidden and dormant maybe, our children love us. They’ve just been told they shouldn’t or can’t. Isn’t that appalling? It’s tragic for them as much as for us. They’re victims of this abuse too. They might be confused and in emotional turmoil. It’s hard growing up at the best of times. This adds a huge amount of pressure.

Meanwhile, take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Focus on what you can control. Keep communication channels open if that’s possible (often it’s not). Engage in activities that bring you joy and provide support through therapy, support groups, or trusted friends and family. Prioritise your well-being to ensure you have the strength to navigate the difficult emotions associated with alienation. I’m here for you if you want to get some 1-2-1 coaching or take a look at my 9-step program. My posts are daily to inform, spread awareness and uplift. You’re not alone in going through this. Remember that healing from parental alienation takes time and is a complex and deeply emotional process. By adopting a compassionate and understanding mindset, seeking support, and prioritising your well-being, you can navigate the challenges, become more resilient and maintain hope for the future.

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No having to be in a relationship

“Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone.

But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore.

I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you?

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Quality of Mom’s happiness has most effects on baby/child thriving

I had to consider my Mom , who was someone I tried to avoid due to her moods and distance …

Sad 😢

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Rediscovering yourself – Ending daily trauma with a Narcissist/ Gabor Mate’

Yes 💯🙌🙏❤️

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Shedding the old

To The Ascension LightWorker Collective

Individuals undergoing Ascension at this time are experiencing major conscious shifts from lower vibrational states to much higher ones across different aspects, including physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Ascending individuals are witnessing significant changes within , in the upcoming three months many will transition into an evolved conscious existence and in new timelines , moving away from previous outdated energies.

This is TRANSFIGURATION. Ascending souls are being transfigured In higher vibrational frequencies , activating the Christ conciousness like self , they can no longer operate in denser and lower concious forms . The old duality, polarity, separateness which many still hold onto and believed in, the judgements, the pain, the lies, illusions etc. can no longer exist in higher dimensional frequency bands , and into the highest form self is morphing into.

The soul knows this in the highest degree of Soul Searching , it is a necessary compotent of the whole , in all awakenings self is merging into the morphing process literally shedding the old, in all forms and expressions, which includes false programming, false beliefs, lies and illusions, all which created separation from The Divine self .

The truth is Self cannot ever be separated from the Divine within , nor can it be separated from cosmic family and true origin .The ascending self is expanding in new earth energy changes, creating the inner morphing. It means that Self is now changing into the TRUTH of who and what the self is at the SOUL level, in Divine conscious levels , the ascending are preparing to step into the soul’s true expression .

The Divine Masculine and Feminine Christ Activations are reconciling as the ascending move beyond the separation of earths 3D timelines . Transitioning into the 5th dimension, inner power and self confidence are being restored, allowing for a safe space to love once more. This awakening of Masculine and Feminine energies is paving the way for divine partnerships in conscious unity.

Many are now Shedding the old garments. Shedding the old paradigm , shedding all the old and outdated ways, totally letting go of the past. As It no longer exists, just in memories of the mind , the images and memories are fading out . Eventually all of the past will fade out . Consciously Resounding in the now , letting go and dissolving residual aspects of the ego and cluttered mind . all that is in keeping within the framework of the old programming and belief systems of the ego mindset .

Starseeds embody truth and this is reflected into the world as conscious evolution develops . It has always existed within the eternal being . Reincarnation on this planet means there will be A temporary amnesia until the conscious awakening fully takes place. Ascension is the letting go of lower Conscious energies , attachments , repetitive thinking , anything within that is not serving the highest good .

Symptoms of this ascension shift includes experiencing difficulty falling asleep due to persistent thoughts , overwhelming emotions, alongside feeling emotionally triggered or sensitive without clear enough reasons. Self might struggle to keep up with daily human tasks, finding it challenging to stay on schedule, and noticing tendencies to procrastinate and delay responsibilities.

A heightened need for solitude may arise during this time leading to a need to disengage from others and their problems. fuzzy thinking and increased mental wandering, as well as feeling stagnate in certain areas of life .

Issues at times may seem insurmountable, recurring in a frustrating cycle that fuels feelings of persecution or misfortune , possibly attributed to akashic clearing and negative collective energies. By shedding layers of societal conditioning the self’s true desires evolve, shifting from external influences to aligning with the authentic self.

As deeper discovery is achieved , inner reflection becomes much clearer , childhood yearnings for simplicity may resurface, revealing that true fulfillment resides in recognising the abundance already present within .

Breakthroughs on the ascension journey may initially feel like setbacks before propelling the self forward, reflecting the interplay between past and new self energies as navigating through healing and growth can be challenging at various stages. Ascension is an ongoing and continuous process with patience and commitment this leads to a more peaceful , harmonious and transformational path towards self-discovery and conscious evolution.

As we approach the last few months of 2024 the Ascension process is intensifying and accelerating, leading to shifts in timelines, locations , careers , relationships, and situations. This is accompanied by intense energetic healing through internal Shadow Work. At all levels of ascension clearing the past self debris will be necessary.

The Celestial Alignments and energetic shifts during this time bring unconscious aspects to the surface more prominently. Recent and ongoing cosmic events serve as powerful catalysts, amplifying the energy and making it more difficult to ignore or avoid.

The ascending are consciously working with higher planetary energies, this shift is transformational and may feel uncomfortable for a time as ascension in self is a complex dynamic. This intensified planetary phase can bring up deep-seated emotions, patterns, and beliefs that have been overlooked or avoided. It can be a time of heightened sensitivity and vulnerability, allowing the ascending self to gain clarity on internal shadow aspects , cognising and integrating them for deeper healing, self-reflection, liberation and further self-discovery.

A profound change is now occurring within many marked by a palpable sense of electrical energies , recognising that not all on this planet will choose the ascension path . Certain people in life have played temporary roles such as guides, mentors , supporters, or messengers.

The individuals ascending are letting go of fears and uncertainties, nurturing a deeper sense of faith and trust in the fulfillment of their needs. Strengthening their inner power and acknowledging their divine birthright in the New Earth is proving more important in feeling guided through the transition from the old world. By listening to their intuition, they discover they have all the essential resources to move forward. Through incorporating joy and play into life, they raise their energy levels, releasing anxiety, and progressing with far more ease.

This next stage involves accepting all experiences, experiencing a deeper level of inner peace . Recognising an increase in repeating number patterns. uncovering the higher purpose in past pain experiences . Prioritising self-improvement , expanding in self love aspects , vibrational alignment shifts , feeling connected to divine source love.

Honouring the relationship with Self requires conscious dedication and unwavering commitment, especially during more difficult times. It involves strengthening patience, developing an understanding that self love is a gradual path of evolution, trust, and self devotion. Authentic self-love activates when given the time and attentive care it requires and genuinely deserves.

Every experience is a sacred offering and divine gift no matter how it is mentally perceived , Expecting changes in these last few months of this year, necessary changes are needed to place self in new earth alignment , ultimately leading to the highest good with optimal results. Many ascending are on the verge of achieving their desired aspirations , having eagerly and patiently awaited.

In Loving and Devoted Ascension Service

By : Ascension Lightworkers. ©️

Never underestimate

“Do not underestimate someone who has lost everything and is still here to tell the story.

Do not underestimate someone who has fought dearly for sobriety. Peace. Forgiveness. Self-love. Freedom. Authenticity. Truth.

Do not underestimate the lonely. They have braved wars that only those who understand the absence of human connection can do. Even now. They are holding it all together while coming so wildly undone. And sometimes we may see them unravel ever so softly. Or loudly. Or however their soul unties its cage the best.

Do not underestimate the ones who have suffered the kind of grief that does not seem to end. Who have been broken in places you did not even know existed. The ones who fell into silence because their lungs had no words left to speak.

We will not always be strong.

No.

But we are enduring.”

— Ullie Kaye

[ Artist • Natalie Shau ]

Scold’s Bridle

The Scold’s Bridle was a device used to publicly humiliate and silence women. It featured a metal plate that fit inside the mouth, pressing down on the tongue to prevent speech. This contraption was typically placed on women considered troublesome, effectively forcing them into silence and preventing gossip.

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Charlie McCarthy- Bereavement

Our child is alive, but the other parent has severed, damaged, and wilfully blocked the emotional bond and connection that once existed. This loss is unjustified, ongoing and unresolved, leading to intense grief and mourning. It is isolating, too, especially as so many deny, minimise or misunderstand what we’re going through.

The unresolved loss stems from our longing for our previous relationship with our child, shared experiences, and love. I cannot tell you how many people say, ‘We used to be so close’ or ‘I did all I could to keep them close to their other parent’, and I have been in this situation myself. This unresolved loss also involves the dimming of hopes, dreams, and expectations of a nurturing and loving parent-child relationship. We grieve the loss of daily interactions, milestones, and the ability to be a meaningful presence in our child’s life.

Like bereavement, the grieving process for rejected and alienated parents may involve a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. However, unlike traditional bereavement, where closure can be reached through acceptance and adjustment to the loss, the unresolved loss experienced by alienated parents can persist indefinitely as we continue to hope for reconciliation and the restoration of our relationship with our child.

Acknowledging and addressing this unresolved loss is crucial for healing and finding some sense of peace. Finding a way to stay strong and find joy in our lives is so important too.

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Black Sheep

The black sheep usually doesn’t follow the crowd because every once in a while, the crowd is literally going the wrong way in mass. It takes a black sheep to stand out and say, ‘Hey, I think we’re headed off a cliff here!’ They may be labeled as outcasts or rebels, but in reality, they’re the ones who are brave enough to challenge the status quo and forge their own path.

Let’s celebrate the black sheep in our lives – the ones who inspire us to think differently, to question the norms, and to embrace our individuality.

Be careful who you let into your home

Be cautious about the souls you invite into your heart and your home, for the truest form of imprisonment doesn’t lie in locked doors or guarded walls, but within the confines of a house devoid of peace and love. The person you choose as a life partner can shape not only your happiness but the entire course of your life. They hold the power to either nurture your spirit or drain it. Therefore, choosing someone who treasures your peace and helps it grow is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. This becomes especially critical when dealing with toxic personalities like narcissists, who thrive on draining the emotional energy of others while offering nothing in return but turmoil.

In the beginning, a narcissist might seem like everything you ever dreamed of. Their magnetic charm, captivating presence, and lavish attention can make you feel like you’re living in a fairy tale. This intoxicating period of love-bombing can sweep you off your feet, leaving you with the impression that you’ve met your soulmate. Their constant compliments, seemingly endless affection, and intense focus on you may give the illusion of a deep, profound connection.

But this euphoria doesn’t last. Slowly, the mask starts to slip, and the narcissist’s true colors come to light. The warmth and affection that once made you feel so secure begins to shift into something darker and more unsettling. What starts as subtle criticism grows into blatant emotional manipulation. The person who once seemed to adore everything about you now finds fault in the smallest things. This slow, insidious process of breaking down your confidence can leave you confused and questioning your worth. The narcissist’s skill in gaslighting – making you doubt your own perceptions and reality – compounds this, creating a constant state of emotional dependency.

Living with a narcissist can feel like being trapped on a rollercoaster of emotions. One moment, they shower you with love and approval; the next, they withhold affection and become cold and distant.