Tag: relationships

Why I don’t “date “, or involve myself in this energy .. I married it ..masked but it was real .

SADLY…✍🏾
We are dating people who are busy doing meet ups with other people while we are still in the picture. People who are brave to sleep with someone else and come back to sleep with you.

A person will look deep in your eyes and say “I love you” while they don’t mean it. 👀

We are a generation where:
▪Alcohol is turned into cool drinks.
▪️ Relationship are hobbies.
▪️ Breaking a girl’s virginity is an achievement.
▪️ Hurting someone is a joke.
▪️ Beating up your girlfriend is a discipline.
▪️ Nudity became a fashion.
▪️ Suicide becomes natural Death.
▪️ Party after breaking someone’s heart.
▪️ And cheating is a part of relationship.

Yeah, we lost our generation! We need to change our ways!

Watch out for the Narcissist Mother In Law

A very covert narcissist, it was years before she was openly hostile and witnessing the exchange , he did absolutely nothing .

It was so acute, so vulgar that I walked away, preferring to take a walk on the beach.. he followed. I recall saying , that I’d give him a divorce so he could be with his Mother.

He said ” I’ll divorce her , before I divorce you”. He had a lifetime of trauma bonding and confidential conversations with her , and in the end he targeted me for all the feminine energies that had not been kind to him, as I reflected his distortions back to him, the opportunity to have me disposed of arose and he ran with it.

No care for our sons, nor me, it was always about him and that hasn’t changed, it has gotten much worse.

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Narcissist behavior in pregnancy

This video hardly touches the heartbreaking 💔 results of his detached behavior when I became pregnant .

I used to laugh at my weight gain, 60 lbs with our 1st , but I realized that it was sadness at being alone , on my own though married during the most exciting phase of adulthood, and knowing gods love and faith in me to be a mother.

At age 2/3 he finally became more interested .. as baby #2 arrived , he welcomed him as his ” brother ” .

All 3 sons deserved a Dad, not a friend , an uncle type , or “brother” .

youtube.com/shorts/O5ytqYECWqM

” We” are pregnant .

https://youtube.com/shorts/pNWwUCnDye8?si=83Zl1f8sITj2rGL-

Much More Than a Flapper: The Legend of Zelda Fitzgerald – en.kckingdom.com

Much More Than a Flapper: The Legend of Zelda Fitzgerald – When you picture the prototypical 20s flapper girl, you probably picture someone who looked a heck of a lot like Zelda Fitzgerald. While this Southern belle turned into a cosmopolitan icon, many still view her simply as the woman who stood next to her husband, famed author F. Scott Fitzgerald. . However, Fitzgerald was much more than that. She was a fascinating and tragic figure, and she lived a life that veered wildly between heartbreaking and enviable. Here is her life in 35 incredible facts.
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Child support

I take not this Dad starts this out saying , ” I pay my ex wife”….

Sir, she’s is in charge of the children you had with her . She cares for these children for whom you pay $60, 000 per year for child support.

Post : This is a Dad’s experience

How did the alienating parent convince the children, despite all evidence to the contrary, of their father’s Scrooge-like lack of generosity and have them believe him to be miserly and mean? Why do children believe the utter nonsense and the lies even when evidence suggests otherwise? ⁠

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Cognitive dissonance refers to the discomfort or tension that arises when people, in this case, our children, hold conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or values, and when there are two contradictory ‘truths’. It causes the children to psychologically ‘split’ by way of coping. ⁠

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The children will have had a pre-existing positive image of their father as a generous and caring person based on their actual experiences with him and their inherent desire to have a loving relationship with both parents. But the alienating parent has consistently fed the children negative information about their father, portraying him as mean, miserly, or unloving. The tension between these conflicting beliefs creates emotional discomfort for the children.⁠

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Alienating parents often employ the following manipulative tactics to turn the children against the other parent:⁠

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Badmouthing: The alienating parent consistently speaks negatively about the other parent, emphasising their flaws and mistakes while ignoring their positive qualities (such as a loving, generous nature and happy times spent in the past). ⁠

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Isolation/Triangulation: The alienating parent may limit or control the children’s communication and contact with the other parent, isolating them from their extended family. This is also known as ‘divide and rule’. ⁠

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Creating Loyalty Conflicts: Children may be made to feel guilty or disloyal for wanting a relationship with the alienated parent.⁠

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False Accusations: Allegations of abuse, neglect, or other serious wrongdoing may be fabricated to tarnish the alienated parent’s reputation.⁠

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Undermining Visitation: The alienating parent may disrupt visitation schedules or make it difficult for the children to spend time with the other parent.⁠

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Children may believe the lies propagated by the alienating parent for several reasons.

Dependency: Having been coerced into rejecting one parent, children often depend on the remaining parent for their physical and emotional well-being. They may fear losing that support if they question or reject the alienating parent’s narrative.

Confirmation Bias: Children may selectively interpret or remember events to support their newfound beliefs once they adopt the negative narrative, and seek information confirming their views.

Protective Mechanism: Believing lies may serve as a psychological defence mechanism, to avoid the discomfort of cognitive dissonance and maintain a sense of stability in their family life.

Manipulation: The alienating parent’s tactics exploit the children’s vulnerability and desire for approval.

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Boundaries – Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Tuesday Teachings

Boundaries are not mean, although they are often firm, clear, and direct. When you set a boundary on your family member’s flagrant, abusive, behavior, be prepared for them to level the playing field with an unwillingness to own their abuse and instead cast all blame your way.

If, or when, your family reacts with retaliation, and pose continual threats to your boundaries, this is clear statement that they have no respect for you. They will not take perspective on why you feel the need to set the boundary you are setting.

You tried. You set the boundary and gave them an opportunity to learn and to take a healthier course of action with you, and they refused. This is hurtful and frustrating, but at least their problematic character is clear. If someone in your family continually turns themselves into a person you have to heal from, you are allowed to no longer have them in your life.

Time & Mothers

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who had been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my 3 children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation — nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” Asked my wife when I got home.

“Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place where mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless I paid for two plates — one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.”

“I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I love you,” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”