Tag: patriarchy

Why Men are Alone

Totally right !

Imbalanced masculine’s feminine energy

I don’t need a man like I need a vacuum cleaner, use when needed put in closet when not needed .

I don’t like asking and distractions and thinking I had it all covered , instead of tuning in thus knowing what’s needed.

I’m not impressed by the men who think I’m here to support them ;” we could live very well on your income”, or expect me to help you raise your children or heal your long list of hurts and trauma , I may have triggered .

Runners , casual , liars etc don’t interest me and I feel blessed not to be in a relationship that doesn’t have a trusting solid foundational relationship.

Men clinging to the patriarchal mentality of control and dominance is absolutely not of interest to me or any woman who is conscious and has done her healing .

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Trauma & Betrayal

Because of their lack of empathy, a narcissist cannot really love you.

When they first meet you, they can and do become infatuated. But it’s not with you as a person. It’s the unrealistic fantasy they form that you see them as flawless. This is why the love-bombing period is so intense (in most cases).

However, they simply cannot maintain this charade forever. Love bombing is initially fun for the narcissist, but it eventually becomes draining and an annoyance to them.

This is not only when you begin to see their true colors start to peek through, but also when they begin to see that you’re a regular human and not the Peter Pan story character they made up in their mind.

They recognize that you’re beginning to understand that something isn’t quite right and this is when you fall from grace and the devaluation begins.

When it’s all said and done, narcissists know of only one way to keep people entangled with them and it’s through trauma and betrayal.

Repeated trauma and betrayal carried out by the narcissist strengthens insecure attachments and abandonment wounds (often borne through the narcissist) guaranteeing you will feel jealous, needy, and worried all the time, perpetually seeking reassurance and validation from the narcissist – the very person who will never give you either of those things.

Stop trying to have a heart-to-heart with the narcissist in order to get them to understand your point of view or discuss the ever-elusive resolutions to your relationship problems.

Narcissists don’t want to solve problems because that’s how they keep you hooked.

They can’t comprehend that you have willingly given your love and forgiveness to them because you care for them. This explains why nothing you do is ever good enough.

To the narcissist, compatibility means that you have learned their love language and are engaging with it.

And the longer you stay with them, the more they believe this to be true.

Kim

He Did it ; His way

Somewhere in the coverage of his break with protocol, perhaps at the 21 Club , the camera zoomed upward to the roof line .

Of note , though no one mentioned it , were ” lawn jockies” which are considered racially discriminatory in todays world .

A black jockie who had a ring to tether one’s horse in the past .

That’s where patriarchy dwells and wishes most of the planet to dwell as well ,as Trump shadow repressed and depressed the change needed in this nation and our world .

It comes regardless of those who attempt to force choice on citizens that’s is not healthy nor in step with creation of new earth .

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Grief

Imagine a reduced capacity to grasp what’s reality and what’s not , medicated by psychiatry into this state and your partner splits and 2 weeks later eldest child and knowing the preparation was being made to strip you of everything you held dear so he can begin a happy life

Not one Drs appointment did he attend. He did make a few phone calls to Dr

Mom nearing her death ( April; he split Dec 27) and spewed his tale of victim hood . He was too busy being happy to have quality time with children so he continued to throw money at em

When you lose someone…

all of a sudden you have no choice but to live in a world you don’t recognize.

It feels dark even when it’s daylight.

Lonely even when you are surrounded by people.

Only existing. Unsure of your identity now.

You can see life going on right in front of you.

You even try to reach out and touch that world. But you aren’t able to. Yet.

People out there are just living their mundane lives and seem to not have a care in the world. You sometimes try to live in that world too. This involves fake smiles and pretend interest in small talk. It’s exhausting. So you choose to isolate instead.

It would be nice to switch places with them. And not have your loss constantly replaying in your mind. All those anxious thoughts ruminating.

It’s a rude awakening when everyone just keeps moving. Laughing. Making plans. While you are suspended in time.

Just going through the motions. With a pain so deep that you can’t even exactly pinpoint where it is coming from.

Invisible to others. But it’s there. And it always hurts.

People will say “they are always with you”.

But where? It feels so long since you have heard their voice. You almost feel like you have been abandoned to roam this unrecognizable world alone. And on the other end, feel guilty for trying to move forward without them.

Loss is this way. A big ball of tangled up feelings. And it takes as long as it takes to move through these confusing emotions. It takes patience. Lots of self care and being kind to yourself.

Because grief is lonely journey when you are the only one who truly understands how this particular loss feels.

The After Glow