Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

Geivence Against Psychiatric Abuse

State Legislators: they represent you.

There are multiple lines all moving forward simultaneously – one of them is the legislative line with your state legislators – they represent you.

You have a grievance… with the licensing board’s failure to act to discipline incompetent and unethical malpractice by forensic psychologists.

This is child abuse. The courts and mental health professionals need greater guidance from the legislative branch regarding their obligations to protect children from child abuse. That means amending the child abuse reporting laws to more clearly define all forms of child abuse – including Child Psychological Abuse, DSM-5 V995.51 – and the obligations to protect the child.

Previous legislation was introduced in Florida to do this. There are forces that don’t want change… then there was the Trump era that sucked all the oxygen from the political room – then there was Covid that sucked all the oxygen from the political room.

We are starting to get our oxygen back within state legislatures and their interest in the injustice and child abuse occurring in the family courts.

The state licensing boards will be increasingly exposed for their cover-up of the unethical malpractice in forensic psychology. Parents only have two options when the licensing boards don’t protect the consumer and instead protect the ignorant, incompetent, and unethical forensic psychologist from accountability for their unethical malpractice.

1) Malpractice lawsuits filed in the courts.

2) Complaints to state representatives for legislative review of licensing boards and the corruption and exploitation within forensic psychology and the family courts.

A parent is in contact with their state legislator’s office regarding their matter. An aide was assigned. The parent, the aide, and I met in my doxy.me/drchildress office for background.

There was no opportunity to intervene on the individual matter, but the representative’s office requested more information about any prior legislation that has been helpful. That’s the way of things – we fight for each other – we move things forward step-by-step, no step is lost when we move together.

I sent this parent the following resources to provide to their state representative’s office:

The Florida proposed changes to the child abuse reporting laws that provide greater clarity to the courts and mental health professionals regarding child psychological abuse (DSM-5 V995.51) would be extremely helpful. The courts and mental health professionals need greater guidance and clarity from the legislative branch regarding the obligations surrounding child abuse.

Florida House Legislation Proposed: SB1342 Child Psychological Abuse (Torres) https://www.myfloridahouse.gov/Sections/Bills/billsdetail.aspx?BillId=58975

Florida Senate Legislation Proposed: HB1279 Child Psychological Abuse (Antone) https://www.myfloridahouse.gov/Sections/Bills/billsdetail.aspx?BillId=59358

In addition. Kentucky passed a rebuttable presumption of equal shared parenting legislation in 2018, and these laws too for a rebuttable presumption of equal shared parenting are also very helpful to calming court-involved custody conflicts.

Kentucky Equal Shared Parenting Law
https://www.kentuckylawjournal.org/blog/index.php/2019/02/19/kentuckys-new-presumption-for-joint-custody-and-equal-parenting-time#_edn2

US News: Equal Shared Parenting
https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/articles/2019-09-18/report-states-lack-laws-to-support-equal-shared-parenting

Forbes: Equal Shared Parenting
https://www.forbes.com/sites/tamiforman/2021/02/09/study-finds-that-equal-custody-arrangements-narrows-the-gender-pay-gap/?sh=67fc9c785611

I also have a presentation to the Pennsylvania House Children and Youth Committee on the situation in the family courts.

Pennsylvania Legislature: Dr. Childress Testimony
https://www.forbes.com/sites/tamiforman/2021/02/09/study-finds-that-equal-custody-arrangements-narrows-the-gender-pay-gap/?sh=67fc9c785611

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Narcissist Try To Make You Invisible ; Dead While Alive

When you reevaluate the pattern of narcissists in your life, you may have noticed a distinct feeling of invisibility as you were shoved to the side as a background character in your own life time and time again. Think of it this way: attention-seeking narcissists or otherwise toxic people work very hard to maintain the spotlight. In order to do so, they have to cast what feels akin to an invisibility spell over those they know will be “too visible” seen and noticed by others. They know your traits and assets make you someone who is a “main character” – someone who authentically brings attention to them without even trying because of their empathy, natural charisma and intelligence. If you have this pattern in your life, it’s time to recognize the ways in which you have been “hidden” from others by the narcissists in your life so people couldn’t see you accurately. Whether it was through smear campaigns or simply hogging the stage, realize that you do deserve to be visible and to be the main character of your life story without others downplaying who you are. Not in a narcissistic way but in a healthy self-loving way. You too deserve attention, acknowledgment and care. 💖🤗 #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #shahidaarabi #emotionalabuse #selfcare #healing

Childress offers response to questions

Prepare your questions for Dr. Childress.

On this New Year, I will be providing an email address here and I’ll ask for your questions. Any question. From anyone.

I’m attending to parents, but attorneys and mental health professionals can ask questions too. Now-adult kids recovering. Anyone. Any question.

There’s no such thing as a dumb question. Well, actually, that’s not true, but that’s okay, ask it anyway. Any question.

Except what’s my favorite color, no trick questions to get me confused.

In January, I’ll ask you to send me your questions to the email address I provide. In February, I’ll start answering your questions on YouTube. All your questions. Even the stupid questions. My favorite color is blue, no wait… red… now look what you’ve done, I’m all confused.

Why not?

You have questions. That likely means more people just like you have the same question. I could answer your questions over-and-over each time one-by-one… or all together on YouTube – whee, don’t you love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire.

So prepare your questions for Dr. Childress. I don’t need your stories. You think I need your stories to understand your questions, I don’t. I could tell you your stories. I want your questions – I can tell exactly your story by your question – each story has its questions.

I’ll won’t read your stories, I know your stories. I’ll read the sentences that end with this ? thing.

That sentence, the one that ends with that ? thing, is called a question. That’s what I’ll read and answer.

I’ll group your questions sort of, and I’ll start posting YouTube videos in February answering your questions, in 10-15 minute segments until there are no more questions – and a lot of answers on YouTube for everyone now and into the future.

Don’t ‘cha love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire. Internet gud, and oh my goodness, no one knows your a dog. What’s your question for Dr. Childress? January 2022.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

My belief was chipped away until 2008..”friendship never was :WAR Within

Too many beautiful, loving folks believe they and the narcissist are soul mates or twin flames. They believe the narcissist is simply fulfilling the “runner” dynamic and will ‘come to their senses’ and return to the relationship sooner or later.⁣⁠
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And they will wait YEARS for this to happen, enduring untold, horrific abuse.⁣⁠
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Please understand that a soul mate will not betray you, stab you in the back, tell you pathological lies, or make it their duty to cause you to feel unworthy of their love. Only sadistic manipulators do that.⁣⁠
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Many writers and content creators are romanticizing emotional abuse and calling it ‘spiritual lessons’ and ‘evolution’.⁣⁠
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This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting.⁣⁠
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The truth is, staying in a relationship with an individual who emotionally abuses you and repeatedly breaks their promises can cause crippling levels of chronic depression due to repeated emotional traumas, the nature of which is made worse by the limiting beliefs we form in response to the narcissist’s degrading verbal assaults.⁣⁠
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Even more alarming, repeated emotional injuries shrink the brain’s hippocampus, which is responsible for memory and learning, while enlarging the amygdala, which houses primitive emotions such as fear, grief, guilt, envy, and shame.⁣⁠

In short, you habitually become hijacked by your freeze response, unable to form rational thoughts or reactions. Over time, this becomes your baseline state of being. It’s a cycle of emotional destruction of the most grievous kind.⁣⁠
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⁣⁠I cannot recommend enough to stop romanticizing abuse and stop self-abandoning.

The Modules of THRIVE are dedicated to helping you evolve into a healed version of yourself so you can say “NO” to continued abuse.

And you will be restored in more incredible ways than you ever believed possible.

Learn more about THRIVE here: https://bit.ly/331a4j7

Much love xo

Kim

2:5 Full Time Jobs Normal for Mom , low no pay

As a stay at home Mom I had vision for my life , when each son was in school . My own business had great appeal and I had varied interest to consider .

Of course having a purpose in his life, meant doing what he wanted , which was a lot of being away from home and spending lots of money 💰if and when he chose .

It was important for him to align with the appearance of success and harmony.

I don’t feel that at any point in 21 years of being in the same home, when he was at home .. he wasn’t present ..

He is deeply defensive , and concerned for his happiness .

Never seeing the whole , bonded and dedicated to a partnership , ongoing , that sucks the positive energy from a relationship .

Never considering my needs , my need for action , and support I can assure you emotions never factored into an equation of self preservation on high .

So of course I never did enough .

My body responded to the distorted home life , the projected blame in silence.

Of course I was a monster Mom and must have earned that designation as an induced mental patient who was aware of treachery within the family , the abusive side effects on our children and the trauma.

21 years of his WAR , taking as many prisoners as possible and holding his position though its clear, his truth is neigh , force or choice .

Ignoring my effort to inform him of factual results , none more vital than allowing truth to heal wounds in each child , the multifaceted irregular and illegal truths are forced into light by a crisis .

I asked for 13k to take a course in integrated nutrition in 2005. Of course he said no, he had other priorities and overinflated income that was always spending more than coming in .

Failing to see the results of my ability to produce income and or hoping to keep me down on the economic scale is a reality .

That shows up in the divorce contract , signed when I was medicated into Bipolar ll , secreting the mental , physical , spiritual and financial abuse in a distortion that made me responsible for everything .

Medical and Legal were my responsibility .

The Virginia Supreme Court heard my case on that word responsible , and I lost .

Instead of asking for cost of living increases , the presentation was asking for an increase to cover medical insurance.

Insurance in 2005 was $300ish and Co pays which were going up.

Anthem Blue Cross took 3k from me , to being health insurance at 1k permonth. My 1st bill 2 weeks later was 3k and I decided to release AMA and medical insurance .

Anthem Blue Cross did not receive a claim from me , NOR did they refund my money .

The side effects of malignancy in a marriage are many including surviving the intended death , that a human being prefers in order to escape facts that allow healing for 4 adults and 6 grandchildren.

I have assured him of a conclusion of unfinished, unclarified business , extortion and leverage of children who deserve release and responsibility; who lost their Mom , were deprived of a safe foundation , taught to fear and hate Mom , for the WIN 🏆.

Current situations highlight this discord and distortion and I’m assured of closure and healing time to further my intentions in regard to a career. Vision and dreams of childhood have a part in my future, as well as intentions and dreams of my work , my spiritual and my physical will be in harmony .

The unfinished, the continued secrets , lies and intentions to divest me of any of progress as he’s benefited with each and every obstacle and has never felt obligated to assist , even after an agreement signed 4 years ago .

Motherhood , was destroyed in varied acts and lack of respect and support by a partner who remained BOSS man , lacking knowledge or a desire to be part of a whole , has no idea of partnership or a partners worth .

Only what a person offers , produces , negating the spirit and soul needs .

I have accepted my value , and with each example of abuse and delay in my Grand Design , I release more any attachment to anyone who continues to accept a version of me that does not exist and dishonors my essence .

I am worthy to create a new life freed of the responsibility of abuses and negatives that created Mom as past , and never to discuss past , or honor it.

https://www.baby-chick.com/study-says-motherhood-is-equivalent-to-working-2-5-full-time-jobs/

Children who Reject a Parent

“Sometimes the pain of being rejected by our own adult children and being rendered completely invisible to our grandchildren cuts so deep that we loose sight of the fact that what our estranged/alienated adult children are truly rejecting is parts of themselves and their own children.
That’s the part of all this emotional cut-off / no-contact madness that is the most tragic. We’ve got a whole lot of adult sized humans running around pretending as if their own parents don’t exist, and, a whole many more adult humans trudging through life as if they have been buried alive. Then as a result we’ve got all these young humans being raised by parents who have come to believe the illusion that if they just emotionally cut-off and ignore the existence of their children’s grandparents they will somehow succeed in “parenting” the grandparents out of those children.” ~Anue Nue
“if you show someone the sun in your bones and they reject you you must remember. they hurt themselves this very same way. – unable” ― Nayyirah Waheed, Salt

Grandchildren used as leverage ,cycle continues

“Parents who try to punnish or coerce grandparents by witholding visitation defeat thier own child. Whenever there is a conflict between parents and grandparents, the child in the middle is likely to lose.

Some parents and grandparents get it wrong. It is not the parents’ or grandparents’ right over a child, it is a child’s right (and need) to have the love and access to both sets of grandparents without fear, guilt or conflict of loyalty.

A child must not be put in the position of taking sides. A major conflict between parents and grandparents teaches a child wrong lessons about parent-child relationships of grownups. Such a situation might have future repercussions for the quality of relationship the child might have with his parents or his or her own children in the future.” ~ Vijai Sharma, PhD