Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
Raising the bar – Moms & Dads
Dads deserve to be held to the same standard as moms.
Showing up isn’t “extra.”
Being present isn’t “helping.”
Being an active father isn’t a bonus, it’s the bare minimum.
We don’t get a standing ovation for changing diapers or rocking our babies to sleep.
We don’t get applause for knowing our kids’ routines, their doctors, their favorite snacks, their school schedules.
That’s just called being a parent.
And it should be the same for dads.
Fatherhood isn’t babysitting.
It isn’t part-time.
It’s full-time. All in. Every single day.
Because our kids deserve two parents who are fully present. Not one doing it all while the other gets praised for showing up once in a while.
Let’s raise the bar.
The Narcissist Target
Narcissists often make mistakes and hurt people around them. They look for victims who are forgiving and will overlook their mistakes. Forgiving people are easy to manipulate and control because they are less likely to hold the narcissist accountable for their actions.
They also look for victims who are highly empathetic because they are more likely to put the narcissist’s needs before their own. Empathetic people are also less likely to see the narcissist’s flaws and more likely to make excuses for their behaviour.
Intense Energy
The incoming energies in the last 48
hours have been extremely intense.
Waves upon waves undulating in.
Be kind to yourself — we are still in them.
So many old patterns of habits, of processing experiences , of thought are being lovingly dismantled. It is not easy, as it leaves one in a space of Divine not knowing , but our human mind focuses more on the ‘not knowing’ than the Divine aspect of this. Allow this all to be a part of the Divine expressed through you.
Allow yourself to be in a space of suspension , of quiet presence , observation. Your body is recalibrating: your lower chakras are coming back online more clearly in tune with the higher chakras , as it is all One system.
With this recalibration there might arise deep griefs , buried angers and more that have no clear origin. You don’t need to figure everything out — allow.
Allow the body with its Innate Intelligence to process this emotion , this energy , for it is alchemizing it.
In this way space is being made for new light codes , new frequency codes to infuse the body and activate aspects of the DNA that hold all the skills and technologies and ‘gifts’ that you have accrued over many lifetimes.
Remember all your emotions are sacred — Information streams. They simply give you information about aspects of your Being to be observed , reflected upon , and then allowed to move out. Unacknowledged emotion is unacknowledged energetic flow — emotion that has been backed up in the body and the etheric body. The energies are breaking apart the denser , stuck areas and thus emotions begin to flow again.
All of this allows You to be open to more multidimensional awareness. Allows your expanded senses, knowings, to operate without blockage, obstruction. As your senses expand, so too does your vision and your ability to accommodate information from multiple realms and not merely the 3D in front of you.
You are moving through the 3D/4D corridor of your journey, with moments of clear 5D knowing. The 5D is here , even those dimensions beyond. We are simply calibrating to it and to do this, energy must flow –everything hidden in density rises into the light of awareness. It is like so many geometric shapes or tones rearranging into a more harmonious chord. The echo and vibrational tone of your Being.
Remember , when we clean , when we clear things out , declutter , there is always a moment of mess before the clarity can present itself. Know, this is the work you are doing –and you know how to do it.
Give yourself rest. Don’t judge.
Try not to say ‘it should be a certain way.’ It is happening exactly how it is suppose to happen for You–and that will frequently look and feel differently and unfold differently than it does for others.
Bless yourself. Love You. You are doing amazing work. Know you are loved ,
you are loved , you are loved….
Blessings to us all,
Allannah Capwell ❤️
Powerless Triggers – Charlie McCready
I’ve come to understand that this isn’t about me personally; it’s a deeply rooted attachment pathology, and complex family dynamic involving disordered parenting. It’s spiralled into a situation where my child’s thoughts, beliefs and behaviours have been significantly influenced – trauma-bonded, coercively controlled, emotionally manipulated. Learning about this has helped me see the bigger picture, though I am working on my sense of isolation, frustration, injustice, and of course the grief. There’s nothing like it. People say it’s like a ‘living bereavement’ and that’s so true. It seems people don’t truly understand this unless they’ve been through it, and alienated parents are united in feeling let down by the mental health and family court system.
Still, I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned not to react to the hurtful behaviour anymore. Sometimes, I catch myself just shaking my head, thinking, ‘Oh, this again.’ It’s like recognising a pattern. I remind myself that ‘this too will pass.’ My focus now is on maintaining my love for my child, even if they can’t see it right now. Detaching with love has become my way of preserving our bond through this difficult time. Nobody can take the love I have for my child away from me. Nothing and no one.
Conscious parenting plays a significant role here. It’s about recognising the importance of my child’s emotional well-being even when they may not fully comprehend it themselves. So, I make an effort to create a safe and loving space for them whenever/should they ever walk through my door. My door, and my heart, are open. I don’t let their negative behaviour dictate my response. Instead, I model the behaviour I want them to see—unconditional love, patience, and understanding. It’s challenging, but it’s also empowering because I believe this will help me and it will help my child heal and come back into my life when they’re ready.
Meanwhile I’m getting on with my life and not feeling sad or guilty about it. I have my moments, but I’m focussing on the present not the past, the love not the loss. If I can do it, and I’ve been in the pits of despair believe me, I know you can too.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
Decluttering
The incoming energies in the last 48
hours have been extremely intense.
Waves upon waves undulating in.
Be kind to yourself — we are still in them.
So many old patterns of habits, of processing experiences , of thought are being lovingly dismantled. It is not easy, as it leaves one in a space of Divine not knowing , but our human mind focuses more on the ‘not knowing’ than the Divine aspect of this. Allow this all to be a part of the Divine expressed through you.
Allow yourself to be in a space of suspension , of quiet presence , observation. Your body is recalibrating: your lower chakras are coming back online more clearly in tune with the higher chakras , as it is all One system.
With this recalibration there might arise deep griefs , buried angers and more that have no clear origin. You don’t need to figure everything out — allow.
Allow the body with its Innate Intelligence to process this emotion , this energy , for it is alchemizing it.
In this way space is being made for new light codes , new frequency codes to infuse the body and activate aspects of the DNA that hold all the skills and technologies and ‘gifts’ that you have accrued over many lifetimes.
Remember all your emotions are sacred — Information streams. They simply give you information about aspects of your Being to be observed , reflected upon , and then allowed to move out. Unacknowledged emotion is unacknowledged energetic flow — emotion that has been backed up in the body and the etheric body. The energies are breaking apart the denser , stuck areas and thus emotions begin to flow again.
All of this allows You to be open to more multidimensional awareness. Allows your expanded senses, knowings, to operate without blockage, obstruction. As your senses expand, so too does your vision and your ability to accommodate information from multiple realms and not merely the 3D in front of you.
You are moving through the 3D/4D corridor of your journey, with moments of clear 5D knowing. The 5D is here , even those dimensions beyond. We are simply calibrating to it and to do this, energy must flow –everything hidden in density rises into the light of awareness. It is like so many geometric shapes or tones rearranging into a more harmonious chord. The echo and vibrational tone of your Being.
Remember , when we clean , when we clear things out , declutter , there is always a moment of mess before the clarity can present itself. Know, this is the work you are doing –and you know how to do it.
Give yourself rest. Don’t judge.
Try not to say ‘it should be a certain way.’ It is happening exactly how it is suppose to happen for You–and that will frequently look and feel differently and unfold differently than it does for others.
Bless yourself. Love You. You are doing amazing work. Know you are loved ,
you are loved , you are loved….
Blessings to us all,
Allannah Capwell ❤️
Family Therapist- Charlie McCready
CAFCAAS stands for “Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.” It is a government organization in England that provides advice to family courts and works to promote the welfare of children involved in family court proceedings, such as divorce, child custody disputes, and other related matters. CAFCAAS officers provide independent assessments, reports, and recommendations to assist the courts in making decisions that are in the best interests of the children involved.
It’s astonishing that, in this case, a junior civil servant working in a stressful envivonment, underpaid, under-trained, and under-resourced, can make a decision that overrides expert advice from a doctor working in mental health with years of experience. On top of this, the assessment made by CAFCASS, saying there’s no sign of parental alienation, came after about four years of parental alienation. This parent had not been in this child’s life. The alienation had been intense. This is what should be investigated. But it’s not. The child says the other parent does not influence them, and CAFCASS listens to that and nothing more. It’s not questioned as to why this child is in therapy for depression and anxiety. It couldn’t be because they’ve been coerced into hating and rejecting a parent who loves them, possibly? Or that they’re under a lot of pressure at home from the alienating parent? No. It all gets blamed on the parent who is not even in their life. How convenient. They will even blame the ‘target’ parent for going to court to fight for justice as a reason the children are stressed. Yes, they are stressed, but why does this parent have to go to court to see their children? The problem is there is no measure or standardised definition of parental alienation and, therefore, no specialist training. I am sure this will change. But at the moment, the ‘target’ parent is really cast adrift. The (indoctrinated) child’s decision to cut a loving parent out of their life should be challenged. People who can make such life-changing decisions about our families should be trained to spot signs of parental alienation and have the means to address it.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
Renewal & Rebirth
✨NAVIGATING EASTER WEEK’S CELESTIAL INFLUENCES ✨ APRIL 14, 2025
Dear friends, asteroid Juno, named after the Roman goddess of marriage and relationships, is a significant celestial body in our skies. Juno represents themes of partnership, commitment, and the dynamics of one-on-one relationships. As Juno slips into retrograde in Scorpio today Monday, the shadows of our relationships and commitments are illuminated, revealing hidden truths and desires that lie beneath the surface.
The intensity of Scorpio’s waters stirs the depths of our emotions, and passions may simmer, boil, or even overflow. In this mysterious and transformative realm, power dynamics come under scrutiny, and issues of control, trust, and vulnerability rise to the surface. At the individual and the collective levels, relationships may be tested, and the bonds that bind us may be re-forged in the fire of emotional intensity.
Physically, these energies may manifest as heightened sensitivity, insomnia, or vivid dreams. Some people might experience physical sensations like tingling, numbness, or flushing, as if their body is “rewiring” itself to process the emotional releases. Others might feel an intense need for physical touch, intimacy, or creative expression as a way to channel the potent emotional energies.
As Easter’s themes of renewal and rebirth intersect with these celestial influences, the body might also respond with increased vitality, renewed energy, or a sense of physical rejuvenation. Pay attention to your body’s signals, and allow yourself to rest, recharge, or engage in activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit.
This April, under the resonance of number four, we’re being nudged – willingly or not – to move into a new, more stable inner place of being. The number four energy emphasizes foundation, structure, and practicality, urging us to reassess our foundations and build a more secure, stable base for our lives. This might feel uncomfortable, like leaving a worn but familiar pair of shoes behind. However, this shift is an opportunity to create a more solid, grounded sense of self, even if it means confronting fears or stepping out of our comfort zones.
If you feel guided, you can listen to the “Grounding activation” in the 3D to 5D Activations Library if needing some extra assistance to anchor your energy and find a more stable inner emotional and physical balance during this week. This activation is most beneficial during periods of energetic shifts, personal challenges, experiencing energetic clearings, and life transitions in general. It will connect you energetically to the core of our planet and induce feelings of safety, relaxation, and inner balance. You can also work with the “Nervous System Overload” activation in the perennial section of the library for a deeper relaxation during this potentially rocky week:
As we navigate these intense emotional landscapes and celestial influences, the April energies are pushing us toward growth, renewal, and a deeper connection to our inner truth. The seeds of renewal sown in the darkness will bloom into a more vibrant, authentic, and meaningful life. Better things will come, and the stability and inner peace we cultivate now will serve as a foundation for the future. Have a wonderful week, much love 💖
WE ARE ONE ♡
Diego E. Berman 2025Ⓒ
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Spousal & Child Psychological Abuse via Narcissist
I post daily, spreading awareness about parental alienating behaviours, trying to empower you with a greater understanding, hoping to uplift you a little, and letting you know you’re not alone.
Parental alienation, often termed pathogenic parenting or an attachment disorder, encapsulates manipulative behaviours and psychological dynamics within familial relationships. A previously loving child will begin to change their behaviours, generally around the time of their parent’s separation or divorce, though it may have begun unnoticed earlier. If challenged, there will be denials by the other parent or caregiver that they unduly influence the child.
Their tactics often include coercive control, where the pathogenic parent exerts undue influence over the child through various forms of psychological manipulation (punishment/reward), intimidation, and threats. Coercive control serves to instil fear and dependency in the child, thereby undermining their relationship with the targeted parent.
Furthermore, the pathogenic parent engages in denigration, systematically disparaging the targeted parent in the child’s eyes through a campaign of lies, false allegations, and character assassination. By poisoning the child’s perception of the targeted parent, the pathogenic parent perpetuates a cycle of emotional abuse, both towards the child and the targeted parent.
Parental alienation shares parallels with Stockholm syndrome, wherein the child develops a skewed allegiance to the pathogenic parent out of fear, dependency, and perceived survival. This complex interplay of coercive control and psychological manipulation constitutes not only child psychological abuse but also spousal psychological abuse, as the targeted parent is subjected to ongoing trauma and victimization.
Parental alienation represents a severe breach of trust, perpetuating cycles of trauma and dysfunction. Recognising the insidious nature of these behaviours is crucial in addressing and combatting them, as it requires a comprehensive understanding of the underlying dynamics and a concerted effort to prioritise the well-being of both the child and the targeted parent.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#alienatedchild
#narcissisticabuseawareness
#narcissisticparent
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