Tag: survivors

Peeling off the mask

Perhaps one of the hardest things in the world is discovering the true face hidden behind the mask of someone you hold dear—and being unable to accept it. Knowing everything yet pretending to know nothing.

After immense pain, betrayal, and broken trust, not everyone can scream in anger, cry their eyes out, or forgive generously. Nor does everyone possess the extraordinary strength to seek revenge. Some are left with a vague, intense sense of hurt—silent, unspoken, and deeply personal. A cold, bloodless battle fought within oneself.

In this battle, one must endure countless sleepless nights of unbearable agony. There are moments when one feels unbearable even to themselves, exhausted from trying to convince their own heart. The cruel stabs of shattered trust gnaw at the mind. And when you try to walk away from the relationship, stepping over the shards of broken trust to find peace, they shift the entire blame onto you. Their eyes show no remorse. They treat you as if you are the betrayer.

But they never understand the struggle of walking away from a heart where, at one time, you sought refuge in God’s name. They can’t comprehend the mental agony, the powerless days, the pain of sleepless nights, the fire in your tear-dried eyes, or the silent screams tearing through your chest. They don’t realize how a lively person—once someone who tried to spread joy in everyone’s life—becomes an empty shell, alive yet lifeless. They don’t understand, nor do they want to.

Sometimes, you feel like collapsing into someone’s arms and crying your heart out. You long to share your deepest wounds, to find a bit of solace. You yearn for someone to comfort you with oceans of affection, to caress your head and soothe the blazing fire in your heart with tender love. You wish for your sleepless eyelids to finally find rest in a blissful slumber.

Yet, like a fallen star, we never meet those things again—not the stories, not the love, not the relationships, nor the people. All that remains are sighs and an endless emptiness, scattered like fragrant autumn flowers along the path of life.

#sunnylargefollowers

Hold my hand

Will you… hold my hand for a little while?

I don’t need you to save me.

No need for you to fix anything.

No need for you to carry my pain.

But will you simply hold my hand?

I don’t need your words,

Your thoughts,

Nor your shoulders to carry me.

But will you sit here for a while with me?

Whilst my tears stream,

Whilst my heart shatters,

Whilst my mind plays tricks on me,

Will you, with your presence, let me know that I am not alone, while I wander into my inner unknown?

For my darkness is mine to face,

My pain is mine to feel,

And my wounds are mine to heal.

But will you sit with me here, while I courageously show up for it all, my dear?

For I am bright because of my darkness,

Beautiful because of my brokenness,

And strong because of my tender heart.

But will you take my hand lovingly when I sometimes journey into the dark?

I don’t ask for you to take my darkness away,

I don’t expect you to brighten my day,

And I don’t believe you can mend my pain.

But I would surely love it if you could sit for a while and hold my hand, until I find my way out of my shadowland!

So, will you… hold my hand until I return again?

Crime of Parental Alienation /Charlie McCready

The realisation that a parent has deceived them is horrifying. It’s no easy feat to come to terms with the lies fed to them to create a distorted picture of one of their parents – and often that entire side of the family too. They may remember how they felt at first when the alienating behaviours started, the times they felt conflicted and torn between their love for both parents and the requirement, encouragement and reasons given by one not to love the other, and their desire to please the parent who seemed so rightfully angry.

At first, there’s a profound sense of disbelief and shock that a parent they trusted manipulated them into believing a web of lies that poisoned their perception of a parent they had loved and wouldn’t have chosen to reject without their encouragement, coercion and false narratives. Anger quickly follows. It’s a betrayal that cuts deep as they grapple with the enormity of the lies. It hurts as they try to find a way to understand the fact their love and loyalty were exploited for selfish motives.

There’s grief too. A mourning for the time lost, and the version of their life that could have been, the innocence lost too. It’s a terrible realisation that their childhood was not what it should have been as they discover the extent of the deception. They may struggle to reconcile the person they are today with the person they could have been if they’d been allowed to make their own judgments and decisions.

Shame and self-blame can follow because they wonder how they were so easily misled. How can they ever trust their judgement again? Why didn’t they see the truth sooner? It’s a heavy burden to bear, feeling as though they played a role in their manipulation and the grief and anger they feel now that their rejected parent was put through because of the alienating behaviours of their trusted parent.

Ultimately, there’s a yearning for clarity and truth, even as the reality is painful to accept. Although the journey towards understanding and acceptance is fraught with complex emotions, it can also be liberating, as they break free of coercive control and deception. They can reconstruct their identity and life as they unpick the lies.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#CoerciveControl

Do not judge pain you do not feel

In life, it is easy to observe from the

outside and believe we understand

what others are going through.

But in reality, every pain is unique,

every burden shaped by the experiences,

wounds, and emotions specific to the one carrying it.

Judging creates a wall between you and others. We sometimes forget that behind the silence, behind a forced smile, lies a story..!

A story we do not fully know,

a pain we have never truly felt…😐

What if, instead of judging, we chose empathy?

What if we extended a helping hand,

a gentle gaze, an unconditional ear?

Because, in the end, it is not our role to fully understand, but to offer a space where others feel seen, heard, and accepted in their uniqueness.

Compassion begins with respect for another’s path, even if that path seems unfamiliar or incomprehensible to us.

Let us be, then, that breath of love that accompanies rather than the gaze that condemns.🙂

Remember: what you do not feel, you cannot judge. But you can choose to honor it with humility and humanity. ! 💕✨🙏

She’s Tired

She’s tired of the psychological mind games and people pretending to be someone they’re not.

She’s tired of the shallow conversations with people that only care about themselves.

She’s tired of attention from men with hidden agendas.

She’s tired of being treated like an option when she should have been treated like a priority from the first conversation.

She’s tired of spending countless nights questioning her own self worth.

She’s tired of people not respecting her boundaries and forcing her to do things she’s not ready to do.

She’s at a point in her life where she wants to be loved correctly or be left alone completely.

~ Cody Bret

DSM turning against itself / Mad in America

This is so authentic!

What if the DSM diagnosed colonialism instead of the individuals suffering under it? A groundbreaking new paper in American Psychologist by Kaori Wada & Karlee Fellner does just that—turning psychiatry’s “diagnostic bible” against itself.

Rather than locating distress inside individuals, the authors apply the DSM’s own clinical language to diagnose the systemic disorders of colonialism and capitalism. Greed? A substance addiction. Land accumulation? Pathological hoarding. Historical amnesia? A dissociative disorder.

They argue that psychiatric diagnosis, rather than simply being a neutral scientific tool, is a colonial technology—one that individualizes suffering while leaving its systemic causes unexamined. This process, which they call psycholonization, allows Western mental health systems to medicalize Indigenous distress while ignoring the historical traumas that produce it.

But Wada & Fellner don’t just critique—they invert. Using satire, they construct a set of “new” DSM disorders that diagnose the core dysfunctions of settler colonialism, including:

🔹 Addictive Disorder (Power, Wealth & Status Dependence) – A compulsive drive to hoard land, money, and resources at the expense of others. Requires increasing dominance to maintain satisfaction.

🔹 Selective Amnesia (Colonial Memory Disorder) – A persistent inability to recall historical injustices, replacing real history with comforting national myths.

🔹 Delusional Disorder: Grandiose & Persecutory Types – Beliefs in Eurosettler supremacy, coupled with extreme defensiveness whenever privilege is questioned.

This isn’t just a thought experiment—it’s a serious challenge to the foundations of Western psychiatry. What if diagnosis weren’t a tool for pathologizing individuals, but a means of exposing and addressing the deeper dysfunctions of empire?

Their article is especially significant because it appears in American Psychologist, the flagship journal of the APA. The fact that a critique this sharp, this radical, made it into such a mainstream venue suggests that the conversation around decolonizing psychology is shifting. The question is: Will the field actually listen?

Read our full research summary on Mad in America:

www.madinamerica.com/2025/02/turning-the-dsm-against-itself-diagnosing-the-disorders-of-power/

Narcissism

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will always be another secret life going on behind your back.

This is because these people are very empty, and they need stimulation from multiple sources just to face existence. They’ll be doing drugs or pornography. They’ll be stringing multiple partners through flirting and emotional affairs. They will be chasing financial intrigue that occasionally gets them into scams and trouble.

The reason they must flirt with other people is also because they’re seeking to move on to other people who don’t know the games they play.

They know they’ll get bored with you eventually, or you’ll learn to resist their shenanigans. And since being alone would kill them, they begin to groom possible replacements among anyone whom they can charm.

You’ll also notice this habit of making promises to you and then using those promises as a dangling carrot to get compliance from you. If you don’t do what they want, they’ll withdraw the promise.

Sometimes, they’ll deny having promised at all, or they postpone it until you give up. The truth is that they never intended to fulfill it in the first place.

Narcissists have lost all sense of right and wrong. Everything is about satisfying themselves.

When you finally leave, they’ll circle back to you, pretending to be checking on you when actually they’re checking if they still have access.

If you have a child with them, they would weaponise that child to torture you until you cut them off totally or you manage to enforce boundaries with the help of the law.

But the child will be scarred or wasted by the counter parenting and objectification from the narcissist.

Society knows very little about narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of letting go until you realize the pain you’re already taking for holding on.

Other times, you think you’re staying for the children until you realize that the narcissist is turning all of them into other small narcissists and broken empaths.

Your solution is to recognize that this person is incapable of peace. They’re only excellent at pretending and confusing you.

You will never have a life until you detach from them and direct your life towards wholeness and emotional stability.

Credit to original poster.

Creating your preferred reality on Earth

To The Ascension LightWorker Collective

There has been turmoil and confusion in the Mainstream collective as dense and heavy energies are breaking down, we are in a process of healing and transformation. Patience is required as hearts are still healing and you are ascending in preparation for the accelerated New Earth Energies of 2025.

Forgiveness in self is essential for your own Ascension , healing and to fully Integrate and reclaim your Divine inner Power as a Sovereign being of the Light .

Your Ascension will always require the trusting of the divine plan and process , The trusting in source , love, light messages and signs from the Higher realms as you are guided , protected and fully supported by Ascension Light Team.

Conscious living involves aligning with the spiritual laws of the 5th dimension, strengthening internal values and authenticating inner attributes. To create a harmonious, balanced and fulfilling life. Taking time to recharge and nourish yourself, withdrawing from any dysfunction and drama, finding peace in mindfulness Gratitude and meditation.

The expansion of consciousness is a continuous process, as the Universe gathers information and continues to evolve. Collective vibrations rise gradually inner fears diminish and you experience higher highs and fewer lows. The current planetary system must go through chaos and collapse to rebuild at a higher frequency, which is in accordance to the Universal law of evolution.

Many Ascending souls are currently undergoing a mass internal awakening and cellular restructuring preparing for higher dimensional existence. Resistance to these higher frequencies can create physical pain and internal discomfort . The entire ascending process itself is inevitable for awakening individuals.

Ascension Symptoms 4D, 5D Assimilation. The process of your transformation is being accelerated at a tremendous pace to fully handle and embody the powerful incoming energies .This is to clear your bodily vehicles of the residual shadow and 3D negative energies .

The reason for this is that any and all residual imbalances will create inner discomfort . It can also compromise self In accomplishing a complete transformation and transmutation process .

When residing in 4-5D Your physical being is operating in the world of the 3D -4D dimensions. Your emotional and mental bodies are trying to adjust to the 4th 5th dimensional experiences here on ascending Earth and your consciousness and higher self are reaching for the 5th beyond dimensional frequencies .

Some common ascension symptoms include fatigue, headaches, body aches, flu-like symptoms, changes in sleep patterns, vivid dreaming , dietary changes , anxiety , apathy, heightened sensitivity, emotional ups and downs, increased intuition, and spiritual awakening experiences.

Ascending light beings when you engage with lower energies negative absorption takes place and this creates contamination in self’s auric fields and crystalline properties , stabilising and clearing your fields is important , to re-centre and return to your natural state of being and light energy source.

Now is the time to tune out external distractions and delve deeper into the inner self. Amidst the chaos, we remind ourselves that we belong to a higher truth beyond worldly dysfunction. The true source of light and love resides within not in the outer world. Practicing sending compassion and love to those facing challenges due to disruptions. We can do this from home at any time, by radiating positive vibrations to our planet and humanity . Our world craves love and healing by shifting the focus inward, we can be more effective in spreading love , healing and positivity.

Recognising that you are in a higher vibration and your past self energies are no longer in vibrational alignment. You are lovingly being urged to move forward to BE and create in the New and the Now energy .

Starseeds play an important role in creating a ripple effect of positive changes. We are in the final cleansing stages of the New Earth , shedding the 2-3D paradigm , programming and transitioning to higher consciousness. Avoiding lower dimensional structures and beings is most important for ascension in self to genuinely take place.

We are receiving higher information and Light codes in the form of inspiration, inner wisdom, and intuition. Paying attention to the signs and synchronicities as your soul / higher self is constantly guiding you.

Starseeds you are a multi dimensional being This means you can expect your ascension desires to become a reality here on earth . As you make your ascension out of the old version of self you operate at a completely different level of consciousness . You are the new earth and deliberate Creators on this planet ,creating and manifesting in the new earth energy.

Our planet is ascending and accelerating at a much faster pace , presenting excellent opportunities for you to shift into your new and higher conscious timelines . Creating your preferred reality here on earth . Connecting to your higher purpose with greater clarity. There is extraordinary potential in all areas of life during this time.

In loving and dedicated ascension service

Source Information. By Ascension Lightworkers .