Tag: relationships

Cheaters

Men don’t cheat because of what you lack—they cheat because of who they are. You could be the most loving, caring, and supportive partner, but if a man has it in him to be unfaithful, he will be, no matter what you do.
A woman could give her all—emotionally, mentally, and physically—and still get played because cheating isn’t about the partner; it’s about the cheater’s morals, self-control, and respect for the relationship. A man who truly values and respects you will never make you feel like you have to prove your worth to keep him loyal. He won’t step out just because times get tough, the excitement fades, or another opportunity presents itself. He’ll stay committed because he knows the importance of trust and cherishes what he has.
Loyalty isn’t something you should have to beg for. A man who genuinely loves and values you will never put you in a position to question your worth over his lack of discipline. The right man won’t risk losing a good woman for a moment of weakness. His loyalty won’t depend on how well you treat him—it will be a reflection of the standards he holds for himself.

The child within

The child you once were does not disappear. They do not fade into the past like an old photograph or dissolve with the passage of time. They live within you still woven into your fears, your longings, your habits of self-protection. They are there in the way your body tenses at a raised voice, in the way you hesitate before asking for what you need, in the ache you feel when love seems just out of reach.

Healing is not about leaving this child behind. It is about turning toward them with the love and presence they were once denied.

Trauma is not just what happened to us it is what did not happen. It is the touch that never came, the safety that was absent, the soothing voice that never told us, You are enough just as you are. When we experience wounding at a young age, we do not just lose a moment in time. We lose trust, we lose connection, we lose the full expression of who we were meant to be. The child learns to survive, to adapt, to become small, quiet, or pleasing anything to maintain attachment. And so, they remain trapped in us, frozen in time, waiting for someone to come back for them.

But no one is coming except you.

Healing is not about discarding the past, as if we could simply will ourselves into a new story. It is about remembering. Not in the sense of reliving pain endlessly, but in the sense of reclaiming what was lost. To truly heal, we must become the very presence our younger selves longed for. We must speak to them gently, hold them in their sorrow, let them grieve the love they never received.

We do not heal by rejecting the child within us. We heal by turning toward them and saying:

“I see you. I know how much it hurt. I know how alone you felt. But I am here now. You are no longer abandoned. You are no longer unseen. You are safe with me.”

This is the work: to break the cycle of self-abandonment. To stop running from the echoes of our past and instead meet them with tenderness. Healing does not mean forgetting it means integrating. It means that the child who once felt unworthy of love is finally given the love they always deserved. It means that the pain that once defined us becomes the doorway to our deepest wisdom.

And so, the question is not whether the child within us still exists. The question is whether we will have the courage to go back for them.

Connected By Nature

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North Node of Destiny 3-17-25

The Pisces Sun is aligning with the North Node of Destiny at 27° Pisces, activating a fated turning point in your life. This only happens once a year, and the last time this alignment occurred was in April 2024—but then, it happened in Aries. Aries brought movement, action, and bold decisions. Now, Pisces takes over, shifting the focus from pushing forward to seeing the deeper meaning behind everything that has happened.

Think back to early April 2024. What was changing? What risks did you take? What relationships shifted? That period marked a major redirection—doors opened, some closed, and you were urged to step outside your comfort zone. Maybe you started a new path, walked away from something familiar, or felt pulled toward something unknown. Aries was about courage and momentum, even when the outcome wasn’t fully visible.

Now, almost a year later, Pisces is revealing what that moment was leading to. This is the time when divine timing becomes clear, when the Universe connects the dots and allows you to see why everything unfolded the way it did.

The past and future are merging in the present, bringing long-awaited clarity. Questions that lingered in April now have answers. A decision made last year is proving why it was always the right one. A relationship that began or ended then is showing its deeper purpose. If something felt unresolved, expect closure—or a second chance. Someone from that chapter of your life may reappear, because their presence still holds meaning.

Unfinished business resurfaces. A dream you once set aside now feels possible again. A lost opportunity may return with perfect timing. This is the moment when everything starts to make sense.

Pisces clears away illusions, dissolving doubts, and revealing the truth you’ve been seeking. What once felt confusing now feels obvious. Dreams are carrying deeper messages, offering guidance on your next steps. Intuition is heightened, allowing you to sense things before they happen. Signs and synchronicities multiply—repeated numbers, names resurfacing, unexpected opportunities appearing exactly when needed. The Universe is speaking louder than ever, guiding you with precision.

The North Node represents fate. Aries last year gave you the push to move forward. Now, Pisces is showing you where that movement was meant to lead. Everything is happening for a reason—the right people, the right opportunities, the right timing.

Divine intervention is working behind the scenes. Pay attention to the signs appearing around you. A recurring dream, a name that keeps coming up, a gut feeling you can’t ignore—these are messages guiding you toward your highest path. Someone may return because your souls have unfinished work together. An opportunity may reappear because now, you’re ready for it.

Relationships are evolving under this alignment. Aries last year was about independence and self-discovery in love. It was about choosing what felt right in the moment. Now, Pisces brings emotional depth, connection, and spiritual alignment. If a relationship began or ended in April, you may finally understand why. Some connections burned fast and bright but weren’t meant to last. Others needed time to grow, and now, the timing is right. If you’ve been seeking closure or clarity, expect answers.

Your career and purpose are also highlighted. If you took a leap of faith in April—changed jobs, started a new project, launched a business—this is when you see the true impact of that choice. Pisces shifts the focus from external success to inner fulfillment. Has this path brought happiness? Has the risk led to something meaningful? If you hesitated before, another opportunity may arise now, offering a second chance with greater wisdom.

Manifestation is especially powerful under this energy. Pisces moves like water, dissolving barriers between dreams and reality. What you believe is possible is beginning to take shape. Unlike Aries, which required action, Pisces works through alignment—flowing toward what is already meant for you. If you’ve been setting intentions, visualizing, or simply feeling drawn toward something, this is the moment when the Universe starts delivering.

Think back to April 2024. What did you desire most back then? What changes were unfolding? Now, look at where you are today. The puzzle pieces are falling into place. The lessons of the past year are becoming clear. What once felt uncertain is now undeniable.

The Universe is guiding you with precision. Every person, every challenge, every redirection has been part of something greater. The right path is unfolding, and you are being shown exactly where to go next.

Divine timing is shaping everything. If something returns, it is because it was always meant to, whether for reconnection or closure. If something fades, it has completed its role in your story. This is a time to trust—trust in your intuition, trust in the signs around you, and trust that everything is aligning exactly as it should.

April initiated the journey. Now, Pisces reveals where it was always meant to lead. The Universe is speaking, guiding, and showing you the way. Pay attention. Your destiny is unfolding right before your eyes. ~ Alex Myles ❤️

Alienated Children – Cognitive Dissonance

Alienated children often suffer from cognitive dissonance as they struggle to reconcile the negative narrative imposed on them by the alienating parent and their own genuine feelings and memories of the ‘target’ parent. This can lead them to seek reasons to justify their rejection of a loved, loving, available and non-abusive parent. It’s also a means to align with the alienating parent who presents as stronger and apparently safer. This is what the child wants – safety, security, love. Initially, they may subconsciously prioritise pleasing the controlling alienating parent to avoid conflict or further manipulation. ⁠

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The alienated child consciously or unconsciously seeks evidence, often exaggerated or distorted, that supports the negative image the alienating parent has portrayed of the ‘target’ parent. Information can be twisted out of all recognition. There are many examples of this. A phone call can be called harassment. Gifts can be bribery. Virtually everything can seem wrong as the alienating parent repositions it, and unfortunately, the child learns this behaviour and starts to put it into practise themselves. This can involve past and present events. Happy memories can be erased and reprogrammed in a negative light. ⁠

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But it has to be remembered that when the child does this, it is a way of surviving a dreadful ordeal and somehow trying to justify and validate the behaviours they’ve been coerced into. I’ve heard it so many times from adults who were alienated children that it really helped them to know their rejected parent was always there for them, waiting, in the background, with love, giving them hope that one day everything would be okay.⁠

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Craig Childress, PsyD – Child Attachment Pathology & Child Abuse

I think I’m going to Coffee talk you twice tomorrow.

In the first one I’ll answer a question. In the second I’m going to talk to teachers – and the principal. For schools, it’s mostly the principal who’s involved, but the teacher should know what’s up.

Mostly teachers need to keep their heads down and remain non-involved… mostly it’s navigating the parent conferences. It’s the principal and the front office where most of the inter-parental action happens.

Sometimes it’s the records thing. Sometimes it’s a child tantrum in the office at exchange. Sometimes it’s a missed pick-up because the allied parent already picked the child up.

Triangulation is a hallmark of manipulative pathology. General public bystanders need to de-triangulate. It’s the psychologists who should be handling it. But they’re not.

Everything is a problem because the doctor psychologists in the family courts aren’t doing their job of fixing the problem. That’s their profession, that’s their job – to fix the mental health problem.

In this case, child attachment pathology and child abuse.

This isn’t a custody issue. Its a treatment issue. We need to fix the problem. To fix the problem we first have to identify what the problem is – i.e., which parent is abusing the child?

Diagnosis guides treatment. If we try to treat cancer with insulin, the patient dies from the misdiagnosed cancer. What is the diagnosis?

Start there. Once we have an accurate diagnosis for what the problem is, then we can develop an effective treatment plan to fix the problem… whatever the problem is.

That’s what we do in healthcare. You go to the doctor when you’re sick and the doctor diagnoses what’s causing your problem and then gives you a treatment plan to fix the problem.

Diagnosis first, then treatment. The treatment depends on the diagnosis, are we treating cancer or diabetes – which parent is abusing the child?

If a child is rejecting a parent, one parent or the other is abusing the child because abusive parenting is the ONLY thing that causes a symptom of a child rejecting a parent.

The ONLY diagnostic question is which parent is abusing the child?

Once the doctors start doing their job… everything will be fixed because they’ll fix the problem.

I should tell you how to fix problems. Maybe I should start with the basics of behavior change. Do you want to change any aspect of your life? I should tell you how to do that.

It’s relatively easy. The problem is you won’t do it. It’s called “resistance” and it arrived with Freud and has been the obstacle forever after.

I should tell you about Alfred Adler and why people want their problems. I should tell you about depression and anxiety too – just kind of orientations.

Should I tell you about Sapolsky and how it doesn’t matter what you do because it’s all Determined? Probably not.

I should talk to the teachers and principals to give them suggestions for navigating their child end of inter-parental custody conflict. We’ll see how the spirit moves me.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist
WA 61538481
OR 3942 – CA 18857

Alienating Parent & Narcissism -Charlie McCready

It has been established that in most cases an Alienator is Narcissistic.

Despite its prevalence and devastating consequences, parental alienation remains one of the most misunderstood and underreported forms of abuse, sometimes, in itself, invalidated and maligned, with dire repercussions for families, and this, in turn, damages the very fabric of our societies.

At its core, parental alienation involves a distorted and toxic manipulation of familial relationships, particularly in the context of separation or divorce. It encompasses a spectrum of abusive behaviours, from emotional manipulation and coercive control to psychological abuse and child maltreatment. An alienating parent nefariously orchestrates it, but it can also involve step-parents, grandparents and others. Far too often, it’s further enabled by anyone, including professionals in the mental health and legal space, who doesn’t recognise and understand the dynamics behind the pathology. ‘Parental alienation’ is often disguised as love and protectiveness by a caring, concerned parent. In contrast, the more mentally healthy, ‘target’ parent who seeks peaceful resolution and a form of co-parenting can be mistaken for the agitator and the problem, particularly when the ‘voice of the child’ (coached and aligned with the alienating parent) has the last word. Sometimes, the ‘target’ alienated parent doesn’t even get to share their side of things. And this very divisiveness, this black-and-white thinking, is to the advantage of the triangulating (divide and conquer) adversarial parent in an adversarial situation. This is generalising, of course; there are many grey areas, and it’s not to say the alienating parent can’t sometimes act with genuine love, and the ‘target’ parent doesn’t sometimes, especially given the injustice, grief and anger, this situation evokes, act as the more emotional parent. The alienating parent, by contrast, can come across as calm, confident, charming … and this is before we throw narcissistic traits into the mix too

Furthermore, the targeted parent, unjustly maligned and emotionally battered, often faces the isolation of not being heard and understood and a labyrinthine legal and mental health landscape. The true extent of the abuse often eludes well-meaning professionals who may inadvertently contribute to the perpetuation of parental alienation due to a lack of awareness and understanding. Mental health professionals, legal practitioners, and communities must be equipped to recognise the signs, intervene effectively, and provide the necessary resources for healing and reconciliation. It’s a false economy not to invest in a better understanding and support for those caught up in ‘parental alienation’. The repercussions extend far beyond the immediate family unit when the harm it causes impacts communities, schools, and society at large. By acknowledging and addressing this form of abuse, we could pave the way for healthier, more connected societies where the sacred bonds of family are honoured and the well-being of children is prioritised above all.

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