Narcissist Discard Their Children


Narcissists discard their children when they’ve been exposed for who they really are. In my experience outward appearances count for everything in the life of a narcissist. Narcissistic parents expect (in fact insist on) absolute loyalty from their children. A child may be well aware of his/her parents’ lying, cheating, and manipulative ways, but he/she is expected to remain “on side,” always. If the children dare to cross to the “other side,” and take a principled stand, they should be prepared for the inevitable outcome; alienation. A child will be treated with the same (or greater) contempt as anyone else outside the family who has dared to cross them. They will be made to suffer the consequences of exposure. After the perceived “injury,” narcissistic parents will set a deliberate course to rally as many “flying monkeys” as possible to their side, adeptly portraying themselves as victims of their children’s ungrateful, self-serving treatment of them. Their attempts to discredit their children to preserve their image will know no bounds. Accept that those who really know you will not be convinced, and those that don’t, simply don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Supporting one another in our decision to go “no contact” with our parents has not only strengthened our relationship, but has also allowed us to heal together.

  • Joanne Hill, Hon B.A., B.Ed Psychology & Sociology (1984)

Betrayal in Trauma

Sherrie Cambell PhD

The hardest thing to get past is the trauma of the betrayal we experience at the hands of toxic people. Toxic people betray us at the lowest levels, and in the most vile ways. Betrayal is nothing short of disorienting, and the impacts of it often last far past the time of the original assault.

The best way to recover from betrayal trauma is to recognize that you are not the dishonest, disgusting, irresponsible, conniving person who would ever two-face, gossip, cheat, lie, steal or intentionally scar another person and then deny any wrongdoing. Only sick people operate like this.

You must hold the wisdom that your life is better off without a person, including a close family member, that has shown your heart zero mercy when you won’t do exactly what they want.