I have reached the conclusion , that I’m not
Interested in a relationship ..
High quality friendship/relationships are truths
that negate anything less.
If he shows up, could be a thing.
Reciprocating is golden , not many are aware of
and willing to..
At the core of parental alienation lies a troubling truth: the alienating parent often harbours a profound animosity towards their ex-partner that eclipses their love for their child. This dynamic can be unsettling, as it reveals how personal vendettas can overshadow the fundamental duty of nurturing a child’s emotional and psychological well-being.
An alienator typically views their ex as an adversary rather than a co-parent. This perspective often stems from unresolved conflicts, feelings of betrayal, or even jealousy. Rather than seeking to heal or move forward, they channel that pain and perceived wrongs into a relentless campaign against their former partner. Their fixation on undermining the other parent can manifest in various ways—through manipulative narratives, distorted truths, and emotional coercion, all designed to create distance between the child and the targeted parent.
This hatred can be so consuming that it clouds the alienator’s ability to see the child’s needs clearly. They may project their bitterness onto the child, expecting them to take sides in a conflict that has little to do with the child’s own feelings or experiences. In doing so, the alienator denies their child the love and support they desperately need from both parents. The alienating parent may profess love for their child, but it is conditional and subject to the child’s allegiance to them and their distorted worldview.
The impact on the child can be profound and damaging. As the alienator fosters feelings of fear, resentment, and distrust towards the other parent, they may inadvertently instil in the child a skewed understanding of relationships. They may be led to believe that expressing affection for the targeted parent is a betrayal of their ‘favoured’ parent, reinforcing a toxic dynamic that prioritises control over emotional honesty.
Ultimately in their obsessive pursuit of revenge or validation, alienators are willing to sacrifice their child’s mental health and happiness. Recognising this truth is crucial for understanding the dynamics of parental alienation. It highlights the urgent need for intervention, support, and education for both parents and professionals.
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There is a time when the alienated child just cannot hear anything that is contrary to what their alienating parent has told them. It’s just too confusing. It means undoing all that programming, picking through all the lies, and manipulation, the denial of a relationship with a loved parent, and all the sadness and guilt associated with the way they were coerced into behaving. There may be times when a child can’t bear to hear ‘I love you’ from a parent they’ve rejected. It can potentially create anxiety, with the result the child may even reject the parent more. Sometimes, the attempt to make regular and/or daily contact with an alienated child has even been misconstrued as harassment. It is beyond cruel to not be able to tell our loved ones that we love them, but we have to wait for the right moment, the right conditions. That’s not normal, but it’s where we’re at, and learning about this pathology, much of which is counter-intuitive, is, I hope, helpful, which is why I post every day. It’s a ‘handle with care’ situation.
If you are going through parental alienation, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through it myself. Personally and professionally, I have over 20 years of experience. I am reunited with my children and here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Feel free to reach out to me anytime.
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#coercivecontrol
He didn’t enjoy living at his father’s house — mainly because of the constant “nagging.”
“You’re leaving the fan on when you exit the room.”
“The TV’s on in the living room and no one is watching… Turn it off!”
“Close the door properly.”
“Don’t waste so much water.”
He didn’t like how his father bothered him with those “little things.”
He tolerated it… until one day he got a call for a job interview.
“As soon as I get this job, I’ll leave this city. I won’t have to hear my dad complain anymore,” he thought.
As he was leaving, his father gave him some advice:
“Answer every question with confidence. Even if you don’t know the answer, speak with certainty.”
And then… gave him more money than necessary for the interview.
When he arrived at the interview center, he noticed there was no security at the entrance.
The door was wide open—swinging outward and possibly disturbing people passing by.
He closed it gently and stepped inside.
On both sides of the path, he saw beautiful flowers, but the gardener had left the hose running.
Water was spilling everywhere.
He adjusted the hose and placed it where the plants actually needed watering.
There was no receptionist, but a note said:
“Interview upstairs.”
He walked up slowly…
The lights in the staircase were still on, even though it was 10 a.m.—probably since the night before.
He remembered his dad’s voice:
“Why are you leaving the room with the lights on?”
Annoyed, yet thoughtful, he looked for the switch… and turned them off.
Upstairs, in a large hall, many candidates were waiting.
As he stepped in, he noticed the Welcome doormat was upside down.
With a slight sigh, he fixed it.
Old habits die hard…
He saw the front seats were full while the ones in the back were empty.
Several fans were blowing over empty chairs.
Once again, his dad’s voice echoed in his mind:
“Why are the fans on where no one is sitting?”
He turned off the unnecessary fans and sat in the back.
Candidate after candidate entered and left through another door—nobody knew what was being asked.
Finally, it was his turn.
He walked in nervously.
The interviewer took his papers but didn’t even look at them.
He asked:
“When can you start?”
He froze.
“Wait… Is this a trick question? Or… is he really offering me the job?”
The interviewer noticed his hesitation and said:
“Wondering why we’re not asking questions? Because we don’t believe questions reveal a person’s true nature.
We believe in observing people’s actions.”
“We tested everyone through surveillance cameras. Only one person closed the door, fixed the hose, turned off the lights, straightened the doormat, and shut off the fans.”
“That person… was you. That’s why you’re hired.”
In that moment, he realized that everything his father had taught him made sense.
All the discipline he once resented… was what helped him get his first job.
The irritation vanished.
He smiled—grateful—and decided:
“I’m bringing Dad with me. We’ll live together.”
Everything our parents tell us is for our good. They want to shape a brighter future for us.
A rock doesn’t become a sculpture without enduring the sculptor’s chisel.
To become people of value, we must accept guidance, corrections, and love—
Which is exactly what our parents give us.
A mother lifts a child to feed, comfort, and love.
A father lifts the child onto his shoulders…
So they can see the world he never could.
We easily feel a mother’s pain,
But a father’s pain is often invisible—only noticed when others reveal it.
At 5, our father is our teacher
At 20, he might feel like a villain
But for life… he is our guide.
Mothers may grow old and live with their children…
But many fathers don’t know how to ask for that.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to show love.
Care for them while they’re here. Hug them. Appreciate them. Always.
They are our greatest gifts.
Parents are real-life superheroes. Never forget.
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