Tag: relationships

The other side

“Don’t stand there crying in front of my grave,

I’m not there, I’m not sleeping…

I am the wind blowing in the trees

im the diamond sparkle in the snow

I am sunshine on the ripe grain

I am the gentle autumn rain…

When you wake up in the morning still, I am the flight of these silent birds

Who spin in the sky…

So don’t stand there in front of my grave lamenting

I’m not there, I’m not dead!

Why would I be out of your life simply

Cuz am out of your sight?

Death you know this ain’t nothing at all

I just went to the other side.

Im me and you are you

Whatever we were to each other before,

We will always remain so.

Use the first name to speak about me

With which you always called me.

Speak about me just like you always did.

Don’t change your tone, don’t look all serious and sad.

Laugh like before at jokes that together we enjoy so much.

Play, smile, think of me, live for me and with me.

Let my first name be the comforting song it’s always been.

Pronounce it simply and naturally,

Without a trace of regret

Life means everything it’s always meant.

Everything is still the same, she continues, the cord is not broken.

What is death if not a passage?

Relativize and let go of all the aggressions of life,

Always think and talk about me around you and you’ll see,

Everything will be alright.

You know, I hear you, I’m not far, I’m there, just on the other side. ”

Mary Elizabeth Fryer

Stella Davis – 1937

I had no idea of the content of this movie before watching it and it was so sad , I cried .

It concerns the mother – daughter relationship in which the Mom gave in to releasing her daughter to her Dad who remarried and was very secure and supportive of daughter .

The last scene is the daughter’s wedding and it moved me to tears .

I was not allowed to attend a wedding of any of the 3 sons I shared with the partner / husband whose win was vital .

I’m sure as I heard later in another family function , ex MIL was asked if it was ok if I attended an after party . The event was the Christening of granddaughter . I wasn’t allowed to attend her birthday party the day before , buying her Christening dress and a pearl bracelet was allowed . Taking chocolates to the Priest who remarked he preferred wine .

Exactly why I brought chocolates 😎

The then partner of the ex refused to attend if I were allowed .

Her Mom died ,and she had to travel out of town.

The paternal grandfather had his wallet stolen in the parking lot of the cathedral! He was not ever nice to be around , and even less so for his loss of money etc.

The ex MIL sat beside me and he on her right ; and as we sang a song of welcome, I looked her straight in the eyes allowing her to make the gesture . It was a ” draw” but she was aware of my intention as I quickly sat down .

I noted these things 2013 Neither brother nor their family attended the Christening because I was there .

I honked the horn , and maybe called for son to come out and get gifts , which he did.

I did not give up , nor am I giving up now , I’m ending the cycle of such distortion as to test the soul . I am ending being a target by a vicious , retaliatory, distorted ex partner who wishes me dead and would do anything to do me harm .

www.amazon.com/Stella-Dallas-King-Vidor/dp/B001NSNGXG/ref=nodl_

Empowered Woman

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman who has finally, painstakingly fixed her flaws.

She is the Woman who has stopped apologising for them.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman who has conquered fear.

She is the Woman who knows well there is no courage without fear.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman who has it all figured out.

She is the Woman who steps in to uncertainty and dances with the Mystery.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman who has never fallen or failed.

She is the Woman with scars on her hands and knees, some of which may still be bleeding.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman who never cries.

She is the Woman who dares to feel vulnerably and care deeply.

The Empowered Feminine is not in competition with other Women.

She is a diamond in a sky full of stars.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman playing the blame game.

She is the one whose divine assignment is the solution.

The Empowered Feminine is not the Woman waiting for the approval of others.

She gives her own permission.

She has heard the call.

And she’s not waiting any more.

❤ Dana

Artist unknown

Sacred Divine Feminine

Keanu Reeves- Earth Angel

“This is Keanu Reeves riding the subway. He was abandoned by his father at just 3-years-old and grew up with 3 different stepfathers. He is dyslexic and his dream of becoming a hockey player was shattered by a serious accident. His daughter died at birth. His wife died in a car accident, and his best friend, River Phoenix, died of an overdose. He also stayed by his sister’s side as she battled leukemia.

No bodyguards, no luxury houses. Keanu lives in an ordinary apartment and likes wandering around town and often seen riding a subway in NYC. When he was filming the movie “The Lake House,” he overheard the conversation of two costume assistants, one crying as he would lose his house if he did not pay $20,000 – On the same day, Keanu deposited the necessary amount in his bank account. In his career, he has donated large sums to hospitals including $75 million of his earnings from “The Matrix” to charities. In 1997 some paparazzi found him walking one morning in the company of a homeless man in Los Angeles, listening to him and sharing his life for a few hours.

In life, sometimes the ones most broken from inside are the ones most willing to help others. This man could buy everything, and instead every day he wakes up and chooses one thing that cannot be bought.”

Aging without children or grandchildren

It’s increasingly common for older adults to age without children or grandchildren. Here are tips to stay engaged and prepare for aging independently.

www.ajc.com/life/aging-in-atlanta/why-more-older-adults-dont-have-children/CGNE7XKFQZFYRDI5JJEEPJ24V4/