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Christmas is hard

I have memories if Christmas that are very dear and a few pictures ; but I’m not attached to it anymore . That took a ton of healing and acceptance.

If Christmas is hard,

If you’ve lost someone dear.

Just look in your heart,

And you’ll know they’re still here.

The star in the sky,

The light falling snow.

The robin outside,

It seems like they know.

If this is a time,

When you’re struggling through.

Just do what you can,

For what matters, is you.

There’s no need to be merry,

There’s no need to bright.

Just do what you can,

It will all be alright.

Unknown ⭐

Artist Credit: Lisa Aisato

Serendipity Corner

#NationalGriefAwarenessWeek

Narcissistic “ Splitting “

NARCISSISTS ENGAGE IN “SPLITTING”, EVEN WITH THEIR OWN CHILDREN…splitting means the narc sees things as all bad or all good, and other similar extremes.

With two or more children, they make one the “golden child” and the other the scapegoat.

The golden child’s burden is that they must live up to the narcissist’s “mini me” expectations, and is expected to reflect well on the narc. The expectations can be extremely burdensome for the golden child, and this carries out into adulthood. If the golden child fails to make the narc look good, or ever sees the narc for what they are, there’s hell to pay.

The scapegoat is the opposite. While the golden child is favored and can do no wrong, the scapegoat child is constantly blamed and shamed by the narcissist. While the golden child is given so many good things and treated like gold, the scapegoat treated as virtually worthless and a shame on the narcissist.

As a result, children often report very different childhood experiences. The scapegoat child will often report serious abuse and neglect, while the golden child may report that the narc was a nearly perfect parent, and may turn on the scapegoat child and be a flying monkey for the narc, and abuse the scapegoat child for speaking out about the abuse.

Hit & Run Love – Osho

“Man goes from one woman to another, goes on changing. People think he is a great lover; he is not a lover at all. He is avoiding, he is trying to avoid any deep involvement because with deep involvement problems have to be faced, and much pain has to be gone through. So one simply plays safe; one makes it a point never to go too deeply into somebody.

If you go too deep you may not be able to come back easily. And if you go deeply into somebody, somebody else will go deeply into you also; it is always proportionate. If I go very deep in you the only way is to allow you also to go that deep in me. It is a give and take, it is a sharing. Then one may get entangled too much, and it will be difficult to escape and the pain may be much. So people learn how to play safe: just let surfaces meet — hit-and-run love affairs. Before you are caught, run.

This is what is happening in the modern world. People have become so juvenile, so childish; they are losing all maturity.

Maturity comes only when you are ready to face the pain of your being; maturity comes only when you are ready to take the challenge. And there is no greater challenge than love.”

– Osho

Healing begins within : Focus on You 🙌💯

Heal First.. Do your shadow work.. Focus on YOU. Then you will align with your person and your souls purpose. This goes for ALL of us, we all must heal from our traumas and work towards finding our higher self. 💙🙌✨️ 💫

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Men with a mother wound often leave women emotionally wrecked. Their inner conflict—craving love but rejecting it—pulls women in, only to push them away, leaving the women holding the weight of wounds they didn’t create and cannot heal.

These women end up feeling confused, inadequate, and deeply hurt, questioning what they could’ve done differently. But the truth is, they were never meant to “fix” him. His pain isn’t their responsibility, yet they pay the price: abandonment, rejection, and emotional chaos.

When you try to save him, you sacrifice yourself. You pour your love into a bottomless pit, hoping it will be enough. It never is. Because the healing he needs can only come from within—through his willingness to face his wounds, not through your endless efforts to soothe them.

The hardest truth to accept is this: You can love him deeply, but you cannot save him. Loving him at the expense of yourself isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And while you’re busy trying to save him, you’re losing the very woman he needs: the whole, healed version of you.

Ask yourself: Is your love for him worth losing yourself? Because the cost of staying isn’t just heartbreak—it’s forgetting your worth in the process. The only way forward is to release the belief that it’s your job to fix him and reclaim your power. Only then can you stop the cycle and heal from the wreckage he left behind.

Healing starts with you choosing yourself. Let him choose to heal—or not—but don’t carry his pain as your own.

Soul Connection

“A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other’s individual natures, behind their facades, and who connect on this deeper level.

This kind of mutual recognition provides the catalyst for a potent alchemy. It is a sacred alliance whose purpose is to help both partners discover and realize their deepest potentials.”

— John Welwood

The manipulated alienated child – Charlie Mc Cready

It’s painful for the alienated child when they realise they’d put their trust in a parent who didn’t entirely have their best interests in mind, they were mostly thinking of themselves. They were being childish, vengeful and selfish when as a parent they’d have been expected, and trusted to be emotionally mature, mentally balanced, nurturing, and unconditionally loving.

Coming to terms with being manipulated, lied to, and deprived of a relationship with a loving parent can be a challenging process for an alienated child. It often involves recognising and acknowledging what really happened, which can evoke feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal. Healing and reconciliation requires support from people who understand parental alienation. They can gradually gain insight into the dynamics at play and develop a healthier perspective on the situation. It is essential for the child to separate their own identity and emotions from the alienating parent’s influence, allowing them to reclaim their autonomy and make informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the healing process involves finding ways to rebuild trust, establish boundaries, and create a fulfilling life that includes a sense of love and connection with both parents, regardless of the alienating parent’s actions.

A significant amount of programming of false beliefs and fictions need to be untangled so they can move on with their life as a sovereign, happy, healthy-minded individual who is free to love who they choose, not only who their alienating parent allows them to love.

Alienated children need to be immensely brave and strong to break free, but they can and do. Some cut ties with the alienating parent; some find a way to have both parents in their lives, which was always the best situation for them.

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Grandparents baby sitting

As a medicated 52 year old Granny , I totally wanted to help care for eldest grandchild .

A drug change was made with my agreement to aide in my weight loss and the side effects were horrific and aided in flipping me into what’s referred to a mania .

Then baby had a day of horrific reactions to Soy formula which I thought I had given him at first .

However baby has to go to day care $$$

Granddaddy that’s was caring part time had a form of cancer .

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