Tag: Men

Don’t Ignore Negative Behaviors in Sons | Psychology Today

Parents should do the opposite when they hear: “Don’t worry, he’ll be fine.”
— Read on www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/spotlight-on-special-education/202310/dont-ignore-negative-behaviors-in-sons

He discusses his sexual molestation and his life of healing

I truly appreciate this man’s openness in telling his life story , which eventually allowed his healing and helping mental health issues with others.

I’m sure this happens more that we are allowed to know. I have listened to more than a few men discuss their trauma , via sex abuse and not having a support system he could confide in.

His experience in military school is one I believe Trump experienced , as a wealthy , braggart , he was vulnerable to those who wanted to shame him. I believe it’s a blow to be be in a military school, leading to feelings of not being wanted by family.

Little boys are seldom allowed to emote , and so resort to isolation and anger. Boys are not taught to communicate their feelings and hold on to the rage and shame of being violated.

I feel in my heart our sons were subject to some very horrific abuse from other boys/ men.

That is usually highly abusive , and it’s great to hear this man discuss his experiences , and how he was able to rise out of that darkness, and have a supportive partner in marriage that he trust.

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Dear Men

Dear Men..

We miss you.
Deeply.

When women gather together in circles..
we tell stories of how much we long for you.

Crave you.
Pray for you to rise and meet us here.
We mourn your missing presence.

In our childhoods.
In the homes we’ve built without you.
In our beds.

We hold hands and beg God to set you free from whatever keeps you from standing at our sides.

Right here.

Here In intimacy.
In integrity.
In wholeness.
In freedom.

The places where you are caught in dishonesty..
shame..
fear..
addiction..
we grieve and rage over.

We see your pain and we see your power.
We miss you.
We love you.
We can’t wait for you to come home.

For the men who have..
thank you so much.
Please call your brothers..
start men’s circles..
show them the manuals.

Tell them of what you gave up.
Of your brokenness and acceptance.
Of what it truly means to take up the mantle of protector.

Please.

There aren’t enough fathers..
resources and leaders for men to sit at the feet of.

The women have tried.
We can’t do it.

The restoration must come from within the Masculine.
The Feminine cannot mother grown men into wholeness.

We cannot strap men to our backs and walk.

We tried.
We bow out.
Not gracefully.

But in mournful acceptance nonetheless.
And we will wait for you to burst free from the shackles patriarchy has placed on you.

We pray.
We pray.
We pray.

For the Great Remembrance.

~Shade Ashani

Artist: Dorina Costras