Tag: Children

The Role of Money in Child Psychological Abuse /Alienation

So true !

The last 5 years in family was a freaking Hell on earth and I watched the effects on our sons .

Of course I let him down , not doing my part to keep a house , tend to ALL the things he didn’t and did not serve his personal needs .

Of course knowing ALL he did not educate himself or sons ; excusing my not being with them as my being ” sick ” .

It seemed to be just what he needed ; a ” crazy ” wife , and absolutely no light shown on his abuse , neglect etc . He’s the injured one ; the Victim 💯

Money is his Super Power and he used it against me before and after marriage and still denies he has embezzled my income .

The facts are facts and cannot be denied . A contract handwritten to resolve this with help with a home and purchase of a new SUV was just more of his plot 4 years ago when we signed the lease agreement and I let him , knowing I can and will prove the facts .

Sending him home listings with no reply , he has his form of Justice by my homelessness. And loss of time and property as much more money goes out to accommodate homelessness , challenging health issues , all delight him and he feels proves me to be bad at finances !

Twisted Thinking

Money is weaponized when it comes to our children

That’s why he feels I deserve less because having a home or money would entice male friends and possibly sons to connect with me .

That’s not going to happen .

His ever present greed is revolting , as much as his denial that he is in any way responsible for anything ever .

What part does MONEY play in PARENTAL ALIENATION?

Please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post 2-6 each day to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

Money often motivates alienating behaviours. If there’s a personality disorder too, it’s a double whammy. Alienators are controlling, and money is a system of control too. Mind control is subtle, and it coercively nudges and persuades and influences, it changes thoughts and beliefs, but it’s entirely invisible. All anyone might see is the pretence of protection, best intentions, and care while, in truth it’s all about profit and power. Entirely selfish behaviours. This is how governments work too, and a debt-based financial system which is in itself disordered and broken. So, money and alienation often go hand in hand, a nightmare partnership, controlling and manipulating. The child might feel they are acting autonomously. They may believe the ‘grass is greener’ with the alienating parent. They may have been induced with bribes by a ‘Disneyland Parent’. Deep down, the child will know they are being played, but children, especially at a certain stage, are more selfish, and pliable, and try to spread their wings more anyway. But if there were years of a good, loving relationship with you and your alienated child/ren, despite all the rubbish the alienating parent says and does, the love will still exist between you and your child/ren. It may take time, but the relationship can be repaired

Wounded Child

With practice, we can see that our wounded child is not only us.

Our wounded child may represent several generations.

Our mother may have suffered throughout her life.

Our father may have suffered.

Perhaps our parents weren’t able to look after the wounded child in themselves.

So when we’re embracing the wounded child in us, we are embracing all the wounded child in our past generations.

This practice is not a practice for ourselves alone, but for numberless generations of ancestors and descendants.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Art: Emily Balivet

The Grace Project -PTS ( No Disorder )

Trauma and Complex PTSD Repeated trauma in adult life erodes the structure of the personality already formed, but repeated trauma in childhood forms and deforms the personality. The child trapped in an abusive environment is faced with formidable tasks of adaptation. Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery None of these posts can be considered easy reading….

Waking to the Truth / The Psychological Abuse of the Alienated Child

How does a child cope with ALIENATION from a parent they LOVE?

A child who has been induced into aligning with one parent against another has to survive this trauma however they can. Often they ‘split’ and this is to almost become a different person. It has been described as a ‘false persona’ while the true self is in itself alienated and hidden behind a false facade. This makes it ‘easier’ to cope with having to take on the false persecutory beliefs of the alienating parent who they feel they must align with (to survive). In this way, we could see the child’s anger, criticism, disdain, and rejection of the ‘other’ parent, as coping mechanisms too. They just can’t deal with it all. They’re dealing with coercive control, lies, enmeshment … they have been weaponised against a previously loved parent (they still do love). But at some point, when the child/ren has that ‘lightbulb moment’ and starts to see things different/more independently, it is extraordinarily difficult for them/their ego to accept how they’ve been played. The shame and guilt is huge. The false persona has to be replaced with the true, authentic self. They have to deal with feelings of anger towards the alienating parent, and learn to forgive and understand why they did what they did. They have to find a way to forgive the mental health and legal system that supported their continued alienation from a loving parent – from the healthy-minded parent. This child needs to reconnect, not only with their alienated parent but also their true self who split off in order to cope. This is why the target/alienated parent must do all they can to empower themselves with an understanding of the pathology, and emotional and mental resilience, despite a shocking lack of support out there, and the anti-PA campaigners. Strive to be happy. Stay strong. And please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post 2-6 each day to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

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Role of Women

The role of a women, and feminine energy, in a home is tremendous. I didn’t really understand this until I became a mom. Even though my husband and I share pretty equal responsibilities in the house (and sometimes he gets the heavy end of it), if I’m away for any extended period of time, my husband and son gradually begin to decompose. The opposite doesn’t seem to hold true as much. 😊

In the Ayurvedic tradition, the feminine energy in nature is a powerful creative force known as Shakti. Shakti is literally what makes the world go around — it powers all of nature and all of the planets. It is the creative intelligence that organizes life. My spiritual teacher in India, Amma, always says, “Shakti can live without Shiva, but Shiva cannot live without Shakti.” Shiva is the masculine energy in nature and is also present within each one of us, albeit generally more concentrated in men. I always thought Amma’s comment was referring to cosmology, because the universe originates only when Shakti begins to vibrate. But this principle is very much at work in our homes, as well as the rest of the cosmos.

Women are naturally built with more Shakti energy because of their ability to have children — we need concentrated amounts of Shakti to create another human being within our wombs. Although Shakti is an energy that both men and women have access to, women’s biology allow for more of it naturally without having to do the extra work of cultivating Shakti through spiritual practices. Even all of our mitochondria, which are the batteries for each cell in your body, are inherited exclusively from our mothers. Women literally power the world, cell by cell, and when their Shakti energy is honored and nurtured, they are able to support and uplift the entire family spontaneously. In fact, in ancient times, when a nation wanted to destroy another civilization, it began my weakening the women, who held the Shakti of the entire population.

But most women today — mothers, grandmothers, daughters, sisters, etc. — tend to focus on taking care of others much more than themselves during the holiday season. With all of the family events over the holidays, much of our attention is focused outward rather than inward. Also, women as a whole, tend to have more Vata and Kapha dosha due to their hormones. This means that we are generally at greater risk for an imbalance during Vata and Kapha season, which happens to be during the holiday season — it’s a double whammy! This leaves us exhausted by the New Year, and when we’re exhausted, the Shakti in the entire house is depleted.

Protecting my Shakti energy is a sacred act that supports my well-being, and the well-being of my entire household. I have seen it year after year that whenever I get frazzled during this time of year, my son and husband follow suit pretty quickly. Staying grounded and balanced is the greatest gift I can give to my family. I encourage you to see the ultimate value of your Shakti energy this holiday season and to honor that by taking a daily 20-minute pause to meditate and rejuvenate. Give thanks for the amazing gift to be the vessel of this Shakti energy and honor it my nourishing yourself so that your energy naturally flows to uplift the ones you love. If you need extra support at home or at work, ask for it. Just like the sun can’t help but kiss the flowers and tress when it is shining bright in the sky, we women spontaneously radiate our Shakti to the world when we’re healthy and happy. 😊

#shakti #selfcare #ayurveda #ayurvedalife

Excerpt – Little Child Rising

“In order to deal with the feelings related to the absent parent, children often make the assumption that they are to blame. This is the only way they can make sense of it- if the adult isn’t loving, it must be because we are ‘unworthy’. After all, “Rachel’s father spends a lot of time with her”, and “Michael’s mother always hugs and kisses him in public”, so if yours doesn’t, it must be because there is something wrong with you, something not enough, something not worthy of love. Thus begins the internalized shame and self-blame cycle, often reflected in the disdain we feel for our bodies, our creations, our very existence. Of course our unworthiness is entirely untrue, but it is experienced as deeply true for the child self. And if the bitter parent actually told you that you are unworthy, or bad, or a mistake or anything that undermines your sense of self, then you have literal evidence of your own valuelessness. Who do we believe if not the parent? Who defines us before we are ready to define ourselves? It then becomes very difficult to recognize and call out abuse and neglect, because you move through the world certain of only one thing- your inherent unworthiness. If you are constantly seeking validation and approval, if you are not yet at an egoic stage where you can recognize your own value, on what basis do you stand up to those who abuse you? I think one of the reasons I didn’t call out my mother in my early adulthood was because I had taken her negative message to heart. If I was a bad person, how could I demand her to treat me with respect? If I was ‘persona non grata’ on Mother Earth, on what basis would I fight for my right to the light?”

(~an excerpt from my affordable “Inner Child Rising: Healing the Effects of Unawakened Parents” course. This simple and easy-to-follow downloadable audio course will show you how to transform wounds and patterns, and move forward in your life. If curious, check it out at the link below…
https://jeffbrown.co/inner-child-rising-course/

Mother Love

I’ll be your voice

When you cannot speak

I’ll be your eyes

When you cannot see

I’ll be your heart

When you cannot feel

I’ll be your strength

When you feel you can’t go on

I’ll be your guide

When you’ve lost your way

I’ll be your hope

When you’ve lost faith in the world

I’ll be your confidence

When you’ve lost trust in yourself

I’ll be your biggest supporter

When your heart has been broken

I’ll be your inspiration

When you’ve lost motivation

I’ll be your compass

When you’ve lost direction

And I’ll be your mirror

When you cannot see your beauty

But as you grow, I won’t always be there

To support you and offer help

So I will teach you to do and be

All of the above for yourself

But in the meantime, I’ll do all I can and more

To help you flourish and thrive

And teach you to grow wings

So that you may one day fly.

– A love letter to my future children

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Artwork by Katie m. Berggren

There were those who found fault , silently , critically and in alignment with the judgement that children did not need their Mom after age 7 .

Our youngest was 6 when psychiatry intervened and I was never the same .

It only got worse , until it ended our family .

My intentions were to be there for our sons and educate them in ways their Dad was not as to self love , forgiveness , compassion and wholeness ✔️