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Misunderstood or Choice / Law & Child Psychology Abuse / Charlie Mc Cready

Throughout history, there have been behaviours and practices that were once widely accepted or overlooked, only to later be recognised as harmful or abusive. Take smoking, for example. For decades, it was promoted as a healthy habit, but we now know what effects it can have on health, and people can make an informed choice about it. Similarly, domestic abuse was often dismissed or normalised, with victims suffering in silence due to societal stigma and lack of awareness. It took years of advocacy and education to bring attention to the issue and provide support for survivors.

Parental alienation is another complex and often misunderstood form of abuse that follows this pattern. Despite the overwhelming evidence of its harmful impact on children and families, there are still those who deny its existence or downplay its severity. This denial only adds insult to injury for those of u who have experienced its devastating effects firsthand.

Alienated children are now coming forward in greater numbers to corroborate the experiences of parents who have had their loved, previously loving children turned against them unjustifiably. While parental alienation may not yet be officially classified as a mental health disorder, its profound and lasting effects cannot be ignored. Awareness of parental alienation needs to extend beyond those directly affected to encompass legal and mental health professionals, as well as educators and law enforcement.

As with cigarette packages, some parents should have warning labels—am I wrong? WARNING: THIS (PARENT) COULD CAUSE SERIOUS HARM TO YOUR (MENTAL) HEALTH.

About the artist, Claudia Kaak: Her brilliant work has a social narrative focusing on her childhood experiences and mental illness. Her artwork deals with existential feelings, human inner strife, and the extreme, unlimited emotional and physical experience pain

Disclosure of hidden truths – Charlie McCready

Carl Sagan, in the The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark said: “One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.”⁠

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Without going down any of the many rabbit holes, my point is that the waters are muddied. Many young people don’t even watch the news anymore and don’t vote. The point is that they don’t know who to trust or think ‘they’re all as bad as each other’. That’s how it often is with the alienated child too. Just as powerful influences might withhold knowledge to safeguard established systems, an alienating parent might manipulate narratives to serve their own agenda too.⁠

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When confronted with revelations challenging their deeply ingrained beliefs, alienated children (just as with the general public) feel outraged at the subterfuge. There’s an inclination to resist acknowledging the deception. Reconciling and ultimately embracing the truth underscores the intricate facets of human psychology and our inherent yearning to comprehend the world around us. ⁠

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As alienated parents, we prepare to embrace the moment when our children embark on a journey of seeking deeper truths, beyond the narrative (fake news?) of just one parent’s voice. Anticipating this pivotal juncture, we hold onto the aspiration that their evolving critical thinking, curiosity, and thirst for truth will eventually lead them back into our lives. ⁠

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A child’s view of parental alienation

From a child’s perspective:⁠

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Mom/Dad tells me I can’t see my other parent because they’re bad and they’ve done all these bad things, but I don’t understand why they’d do that. I always felt happy to be with them and I miss them. It hurts when I’m not allowed to see them. Why can’t I have both my parents like before? Why can’t I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They’re angry with my mom/dad, but I’m not … although the things I hear are really upsetting. ⁠

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I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it’s just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn’t care about me, but I can’t believe that’s true. Surely that’s not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It’s confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It’s like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn’t know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can’t get my head around it. I’ve kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn’t know the truth of what they have been all this time. It’s so sad. ⁠

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I try to understand it all, but it’s hard. I want to ask questions, but I’m scared it’ll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don’t know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I’m not supposed to say out loud.⁠

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I don’t know why everything changed. I don’t want to think that one of my parents is bad. It’s like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don’t think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I’m just going to have to cut off because it’s too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me from all this.

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Insidious manifestation of Domestic & Child Abuse ; Parental Alienation – Charlie McCready

Since the 1970s, scientists and psychologists have dedicated extensive research to parental alienation, establishing a clear link between this phenomenon and psychological maltreatment. After decades of ongoing study, parental alienation is now identified as one of the most insidious manifestations of domestic and child abuse, stemming from emotional abuse and family violence.

Parental alienation encompasses a set of characteristics associated with narcissistic and hostile aggressive parenting aimed at intentionally disrupting a child’s relationship with the other parent, usually following a high-conflict separation or divorce. These behaviours cause significant harm, resulting in profound damage to the mental and emotional well-being of the child. Psychologists researching parental alienation widely agree that it constitutes one of the most horrific forms of psychological violence.

Narcissism, marked by an absence of empathy, becomes evident in parental alienation, where the lack of concern for the suffering of both the targeted parent and child is shocking. The narcissistic parent employs manipulation and emotional exploitation to systematically dismantle the image of the targeted spouse, doing so in a brutal manner with the sole intent of eradicating the love the child shares with the other parent.

An alienating parent takes further destructive actions by sabotaging or blocking contact and then misleading the child into believing they’ve been abandoned and is unloved by the same blocked ‘target’ parent. This manipulative tactic encourages the child’s unjustified rejection of a parent they love and who loves them, constituting a form of child psychological abuse.

I’ve been through this myself. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

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Those who do not move , do not notice their chains

The quote about liberation from oppression captures how people can become so entangled in a situation that they fail to recognise their own subjugation. Alienated children are caught in a web of emotional manipulation, coercive control, psychological abuse, fear, and loyalty binds that prevent them from seeing the truth about the situation and, as a result, being distanced from a loving parent. The alienating parent creates a situation where the child’s perception becomes skewed, making it difficult for them to recognise the unhealthy dynamics at play and how they’ve become stuck, as if in chains. The children might believe they are acting out of their own free will, but they are held captive by invisible emotional chains, preventing them from breaking free and realising the depth of their situation. Often during custody battles, the control over the children and the indoctrination going on worsens. We need to keep raising awareness about parental alienation and its effects on children, as well as the need for intervention to help these children break free from the psychological control that binds them.⁠

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Rosa Luxemburg was a Polish theorist, philosopher, economist, and advocate for democracy, women’s rights, and worker’s liberation.⁠

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Pathology of Lies – Craig Childress , PsyD

Parallel Process

I will need to go silent on our world around us… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak out. But before I grow silent… I’ll make some observations for the 50% of minds who can see.

Compassion is a good thing. Empathy for the suffering of others is a good thing.

The absence of empathy is the capacity for cruelty – and the capacity for cruelty is the source of evil. The Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad are the core of evil.

The pathology in the family courts is evil. The pathology in our social surround is evil.

They – the target – whether in the family courts or in our society – “deserve” to suffer for their inadequacy… for their sins… for the bad things they supposedly did.

In the family courts, that’s the targeted parent who “deserves” to suffer – in our social surround… we have a variety of targets du jour. Pick your favorite target of fear – non-White people of color – the deep state – immigrants – liberals – LGBTQ – people who are different.

Anyone who makes me afraid.

In the family courts the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer because of their supposed inadequacy as a parent. That’s the narcissistic value system of cruelty – it’s okay to be cruel to someone when they “deserve” it.

The child is taught this narcissistic value of cruelty – and the child says immensely cruel things to the targeted parent because the parent supposedly “deserves” to suffer for what they did to the child, for their inadequacy as a parent.

In our social surround, the targets for cruelty are people of color, non-White immigrants, federal workers who are lazy, LGBTQ who are different, the media who criticize, Ukraine, pick your target who “deserve” to suffer because of the supposedly bad things they did.

Ukraine started the war – they deserve to suffer.

Trans-gender are different – they deserve to suffer.

People of color are not White – they deserve to suffer.

Federal workers are lazy parasites – they deserve to suffer.

The Jews killed Jesus – they deserve to suffer.

Pick your target. Whoever you want, whoever makes you afraid, whoever is different. The old woman who lives alone must be a witch – burn her.

They didn’t do bad things. They’re just normal-range people. The target, whether it’s the targeted parent in the family courts, or the targeted scapegoat in society, is just normal.

But they are villainized to justify the cruelty inflicted on them – they “deserve” to suffer, they “deserve” the cruelty.

We are purging our Shadow. We are purging our darkness within that we project onto the other to make them “deserve” our cruelty, reflecting our damaged love and bonding system, our absence of empathy for their suffering.

No one will comes. There’s no rescue. Not now, not when we’ve reached the purging of our Shadow. Your abuser can dominate you and do whatever they want… and there’s nothing you can do about it.

They have allies with power… you don’t. Accept your abuse like a good compliant victim.

Maga-mind is the pathological parent. Trump is the narcissistic dad variant (Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad). The 50% of the nation who are liberal (i.e., have normal-range compassion and empathy for the child-nation and each other) are the normal-range targeted parent in the parallel process of abuse.

The narcissistic dad-parent makes false allegations that are used to justify their cruelty – Ukraine started the war with Russia – whoever the “they” are of their selected victim will “deserve” to suffer for the bad things they did.

The bad things aren’t actually bad things… the bad things are the unresolved trauma from childhood – the lack of love – the attachment trauma – that is then projected onto the other.

The “bad-mommy” or “bad-man” of the family court narrative is not real, it’s a lie, it represents the unresolved trauma in the pathological parent from their childhood that is being projected onto the current normal-range mom or dad.

It’s called a scapegoat. The sins of the sinful person are projected into the target, and then the target is killed to supposedly alleviate the person’s sins.

There were no sins in the scapegoat. The targeted parent is a normal-range mom or dad, the sins of narcissistic cruelty are in the allied parent. The sins remain in the person and are never transferred to the scapegoat.

It’s all projection. To see inside them, flip what they say to make it about themselves… everything will be revealed.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not the inadequate parent (spouse) – you are. You deserve to suffer for your inadequacy as a parent (spouse). You never loved the child (me) as the child “deserves” to be loved (as I deserve to be loved).”

Truth: “I’m an inadequate parent (and spouse). I deserve to be rejected because of the bad things I am. I don’t love the child, I never loved you. I’m incapable of love because I’m inadequate as a person.”

Everything – everything – everything – about this pathology is projection. Flip it and you’ll see what’s going on. The pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent isn’t revealing truth about the targeted parent… they are revealing the truth about themselves.

Pathological Parent: “The targeted parent is abusing the child” –

Reality: “I am abusing the child.”

The pathological parent decides who “deserves” their cruelty because of the “bad things” they did (the unresolved trauma from childhood that can never be solved) – it’s the unresolved trauma being projected out onto the target.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not bad – you are. You deserve to suffer for the bad things you do.”

What to look for in the assessment of the court-involved family conflict is the absence of empathy – the capacity for cruelty – probe for empathy and you won’t find it. A normal-range person will feel sad at the suffering of others – a pathologically cruel person won’t.

When prompted for empathy – when given a situation that should provoke empathy and compassion – the pathological parent (and child) in the family courts will respond that the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer for some past injury they supposedly inflicted on the child (or allied parent).

What’s interesting about this pathogen – i.e, about the projection of unresolved trauma in the attachment networks – a ripple of childhood attachment trauma – is that there are people who will be in the role of the targeted parent in the family court context, and who are in the role of the psychologically abusive parent in the social context of our times.

And they cannot see the parallel process. A shared delusion cannot – cannot – see itself… “despite contrary evidence” – it’s impossible.

I’m a mirror. I’m showing you to you. They will attack the mirror for the refection they see.

One reason among many that I post on Trump is to push the Maga-minds away from here.

I’m making a point not yet comprehended – I’m identifying a group of minds. They care more about Trump than they do their own children. I’m making a point about their motivations – I’m a mirror.

They can’t see themselves – no self-reflective insight. It’s impossible. Everything inside is projected out – that is the defense.

There’s a large group of targeted parents who won’t come to this location to receive the information I provide here about how to help their children, how to protect their child from child abuse, because they care more about Trump than they do the information.

If there is negative (contrary) information about Trump… their motivation to avoid the negative information will be stronger than their motivation to protect their child. It’s a cult.

How many times has the parent-child relationship in the family courts been described as a cult mind? That’s a good description of the fused psychological state.

I’m a mirror. I show you to you.

Another reason I comment about what’s happening is to teach using the parallel process for those 50% of minds that are not part of the shared persecutory delusion of “we’re being malevolently treated in some way” – who are not part of the cult.

The pathology of the Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad variant is on full display. It’s the core of evil.

We’re headed for complete destruction – with forensic psychology in the family courts – in our social surround. Same. Parallel process. It’s the same pathogen there and here, a Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad pathology.

Some things can only be seen looking the other direction in time. Trauma shuts down the frontal lobe executive function systems for three things – linear-logical reasoning – foresight and planning ahead – self-reflective insight.

The absence of foresight is going to become a substantial problem… for the forensic psychologists in the family courts… for the Trump administration.

Once you destroy, you then need to govern with a dysfunctional system. The mental health system in the family courts is completely broken. The system of forensic custody evaluations is entirely dysfunctional.

Same thing.

The exact same thing will happen in our social surround. Watch. Everything will be torn down and broken, beginning with the rule of law, everything will become chaotic and dysfunctional… just like the family courts and the mental health system in the courts.

There’s a reason no prior president ever did what Trump is doing. Do you want to know the reason? Wait… you’ll find out.

There are NO competent mental health services in the family courts. None. Zero. Parents are 98% UNABLE to get a diagnostic assessment of their families, and 100% unable to get effective treatment.

Let that sink in – understand it. There are no – none – zero – competent mental health services in the family courts. Parents cannot – cannot – get a diagnosis for the problem.

Everyone everywhere else, with all the other forms of pathology (problem) can get a diagnosis and treatment. Not parents and children in the family courts – zero – none.

We are headed into a state of complete dysfunction in the family courts – and – with our nation. This is the Encounter time. This is my time to Encounter the forensic psychologists directly. I’m going to collapse the dysfunctional system – so it can be properly rebuilt.

Trump is entirely collapsing the systems of government – so he and his minions can rebuild them in their desired image – long live King Donald I.

I’m encountering the forensic psychologists – by name – I’m destroying the “deep state” of psychologists who are disabling the mental health system response to the pathology.

I’m riding the same lines – just differently. I’m a clinical psychologist, so I’ve flipped some things on the lines of unfolding. Your lines will take a darker turn.

This is a pathology of lies – in the family courts – in our society.

Ukraine didn’t start the war. Russia did. Everything about this pathology is a lie. It isn’t about custody, it’s about treatment. The solution is NOT in the legal system, a child rejecting a parent is not a crime, it’s a pathology. The solution is in the healthcare system – diagnosis and treatment.

BUT… you can’t get a diagnosis or treatment. The systems in the family courts are 100% dysfunctional. We are headed toward the same thing everywhere around us.

We are purging. I’ll be purging the mental health system in the family courts of its incompetence… which will create a 100% dysfunctional system until competent mental health services can be established.

Trump and his Maga-mind minions are purging our society… which will create 100% dysfunctional systems. Same… but different outcomes.

The over-line is the incompetence polarity – the under-line is the competence pole of balance – one dark, one light.

What we’re watching is the Purging. If you want to see an excellent Purging, it’s the French Revolution. I know exactly what’s happening, I’m riding exactly the same lines.

We are in the Encounter phase in our social surround. I’m on the Encounter phase in the family courts. My work is precise. I’m riding lines of movement – cowabunga baby – this is going to be one helluva ride.

I’m estimating my departure from here in five years (plus or minus two)… then… everything becomes entirely your problem and entirely none of mine.

If you’re going to use my understanding and knowledge… you’d better use it quickly, I’m turning 70 this year and I’m not planning on sticking around.

I’ve done things to shorten the time of collapse in the family courts. There’s nothing I can do for you in our larger social surround. I spoke when I need to speak to protect the nation I love.

This is what you want. This is what you need. You need to purge your Shadow… again.

Now it’s time for me to grow silent… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak on the over-line. Hail Trump <Maga hand salute of mutual love>. Everything Trump does is exactly right.

Bots watch. Bots move. Advertising bots creating my algorithm for marketing are one thing, governmental surveillance bots searching for the “enemies within” to be purged are something else.

Elon Musk is going to save us. Elon Must is brilliant. Trump is the anointed of God. Trump is our savior. Mark Zuckerberg is a innovative genius and Meta is my favorite social media platform. We need more tax cuts for the wealthy… it will trickle down to everyone else eventually.

Bots are moving and watching – AI has arrived – Big Brother of 1984 is arriving a few years later than predicted by Orwell. Face recognition is here. They have our data. They know where we are. It’s not quite here yet… but I plan ahead.

I need to clean up my online algorithm so bots won’t locate me. Shhh… Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is going to make America Great again. Canada should be our 51st state and we should get Greenland from Denmark. Gaza should be redeveloped into beachfront resorts for the wealthy. Ukraine started the war with Russia. Putin is on our side.

What’s in it for us?

I’ll need to grow silent soon so the bots won’t notice me once the surveillance bots arrive. I’m small, I’m inconspicuous. Nothing to see here. I’m leaving not arriving.

This is your world that’s coming, not mine. This is the world you wanted. This is the world you’ll get.

We need to fire the lazy federal workers. We need to deport immigrants to make our country White again, we need to eliminate the undesirable people. There are no trans-gender people, they don’t exist, and anyone who says they’re trans-gender should be banned from participation in our society and shunned… and they should be persecuted for being different.

Tariffs are an excellent economic policy. Elon Musk will save us. Elon Musk is brilliant and he’s our protector. Elon will make everything right with the world if we simply give him the power to do what he wants to fix the things that are broken.

For those of you following along on your Play at Home version of Parallel Process, as far as I can see, the family courts are ahead of our social surround. The collapse will be quicker, and the recovery will come sooner.

Germany in 1935 took ten years and a World War to reach Germany in 1945… and the world was in ruin when they arrived at the end. We’ve still a long way to go in an increasingly dangerous world around us.

Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is always right. Trump is making America Great… again.

We’ll see what happens. June is when the next solid numbers arrive for your equations of you. Watch out for big rocks.

Never mind. It’s too late and there’s nothing the forensic psychologists can do at this point. There’s nothing you can do either. Complete destruction of the old ways is coming – here – there – everywhere.

Long live King Donald I, the anointed of God who will save our nation from the dangers it faces.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857

Victimhood – The Alienation Abuser Stance

Alienating parents typically will create a villain-victim dynamic to rationalise their behaviour. By casting the target parent as the villain of the story, they absolve themselves of responsibility and maintain a sense of moral superiority despite their manipulative, abusive actions. This also reinforces their own image as hero/victim. Various psychological and interpersonal factors can contribute, but there’s a connection between the behaviour of alienating parents and certain delusional disorders, particularly those involving fixed false beliefs or paranoid ideation, and they may construct and maintain a distorted narrative about the target parent based on unfounded suspicions, misconceptions, or exaggerated negative interpretations.

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Craig Childress – Child Abuse / This is where we are heading legally

This is where we are headed.

When child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time. The consequences for misdiagnosing child abuse are too devastating for the child.

The appellate system for a disputed diagnosis is second opinion. Each litigant-parent is making allegations of abuse against the other.

The Court should identify a psychologist to conduct the diagnostic assessment, and each litigant parent should be allowed to appoint a second opinion consultant to ensure that both parents’ issues are properly addressed.

Forensic custody evaluations need to end. They are a failed experiment in a quasi-judicial role for doctors. They were allowed to experiment on children and parents without proper oversight or review… and their experiment failed.

Miserably failed. As a result of their failed experiment on children and parents, the lives of thousands upon thousands of children and their parents were irrevocably destroyed.

Why were they allowed to experiment on children and parents?

We need to end this failed experiment that is destroying the lives of children and parents daily, and we need to return to standard healthcare practices of diagnosis and treatment.

There is no quasi-judicial role for doctors. Doctors don’t decide on custody – courts do. Courts don’t diagnose pathology – doctors do.

The doctors left the field of healthcare to do something… different. They tried to be mini-judges deciding on custody rather than diagnosing pathology. That was a very-very bad thing to do.

When doctors don’t diagnose pathology, the courts need to start diagnosing (identifying) what the problem in the family is, and that’s not their role or their training.

When doctors stop being doctors, everything gets messed up.

All the doctors in the family courts, all the forensic psychologists, need to return to their healthcare role as doctors and provide the Court with an accurate diagnosis of the pathology 100% of the time.

Any diagnosis returned into the legal system will be a disputed diagnosis – so second opinions through telehealth should be routinely obtained.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857

Alienating Parents

An alienating parent can appear loving and protective while inflicting psychological abuse on their child through manipulative tactics such as creating fear of the other parent, portraying themselves as victims, withholding information, isolating the child from the targeted parent and extended family, using rewards and punishment to control behaviour, emotionally manipulating the child, gaslighting, discrediting the targeted parent, and undermining their authority. This facade of care masks their intention to control the child’s perceptions, isolate them from the other parent, and maintain dominance over the child’s emotions and choices, ultimately causing harm to the child’s emotional well-being and relationships.

Denying a child a healthy and affectionate relationship with a non-abusive and caring parent is neither protective nor loving, and it certainly doesn’t serve the child’s best interests. This denial robs the child of the opportunity to experience love, support, and guidance from an emotionally available and nurturing parent. This abusive behaviour intentionally obstructs and robs the child of the love and support of an extended family network that genuinely cares for them. This includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, step-parents, and step or half-siblings. These family members often contribute to a child’s emotional growth, sense of belonging, and overall well-being.

Alienating parents often elude detection even by mental health experts and family courts due to the complexity of their manipulation tactics, their ability to present a convincing facade of concern, and the child’s genuine emotional distress, which can be misattributed to the targeted parent. They create a narrative that aligns with the child’s distress, leading professionals to overlook the underlying coercive control and psychological abuse. Family courts may struggle to discern the dynamic due to a limited understanding of parental alienation, inadvertently perpetuating the child’s isolation from a loving parent.

Parental alienation needs urgent address so that no children are harmfully absented from a loved, loving parent and all their family. Please reach out you’d like to know more about the coaching I offer.

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