Believe your children

Stop leaving your kids with them.

Stop leaving your children with your boyfriends you barely know.

Stop letting your family members you don’t entirely trust watch them because it’s free.

If you have a gut feeling about someone that doesn’t sit right with you when it comes to your child, cut all ties with this person.

If your little one comes to you and says I don’t want to stay with a particular person …. do me a favor and listen to them.

~ Cody Bret

And ALWAYS believe them!! I myself would rather believe them and be wrong, then call them a liar and be wrong πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

Can Children Sexually Abuse Other Children? | Saprea

Can and do… A half sister who was molested

by her Uncle before age 5 , tried to initiate me, within family , and neighbors .

We double dated when I was 12 , and not enjoying the ” throw down ” by my ” date ” , I passed .. never spoke to him again… Sis took him , and I found that out 1 night camping in our yard…

There was so much perversion targeted at me I felt to blame , like it was my looks .. I looked

16 at 12 🐸

I was scared of boys , dated but chastely until age 17 ..

I prefer , choice , not force and casual is not

my thing…

That said , I did have a few masculine

dominate tendencies …. 😘❀️🐸

Sister died in 2013 , never knowing who her Dad was …

Darkness , all her life , the shadow … she could not hear or talk , maybe not see at her end .

See no evil , hear no evil , speak no evil ..

She never healed , holding the darkness

into her transitional exit from her body .

Imitation would be her choice …

reality is below .

I’m grateful to have thwarted , all attempts by boys as a result of a single incident , he did NOT touch my soul πŸ™ŒπŸ™πŸΌ

Can children sexually abuse other children? COCSA is a form of sexual abuse where a child is sexually abused by one or more children.
β€” Read on saprea.org/blog/can-children-sexually-abuse-other-children/

Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse Lead Research Group

Thomas Schlingmann and CSA survivors introduce a “self-organized research” approach, emphasizing the active role of childhood sexual abuse survivors in mental health research, challenging traditional objectifying methods.
β€” Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/10/self-organized-research-championed-by-survivors-of-childhood-sexual-abuse/

Charlie Mc Cready – Child Psychological Abuse

I always stress that it’s not a good idea to share my posts with your alienated children/grandchildren because they are very likely to be insulted and upset. Much as you’d like to educate/support, this can backfire. It is a minefield, and best to tread carefully. These are coerced, vulnerable children, who believe they’re autonomous, and they may be concealing, from you, a great deal of suffering, guilt and confusion. What we often only get to experience is the anger or the emotional cut-off. ⁠

However, I always appreciate when people share my posts (including my link) because I’m working very hard to spread awareness. My posts go out on social media every day. I give my time and energy to this because I have been through alienation myself, I have over 20 years of experience, and I’m here to help others with my posts, program and coaching. The posts are free for everyone. To inform, spread awareness and, where I can, to provide some comfort too. You’re not alone. It’s not you. It’s a pathology. Although it is not officially recognised (yet) it is real.

We are up against several well-funded and supported, united lobbies who claim parental alienation not only doesn’t exist but is a dangerous concept. For those of us who have been through it – fathers, mothers, grandparents, step-parents, step-siblings, not to mention alienated children – this is frustrating and upsetting. I hope we can come together, those of us who work in this space – life coaches (parental alienation) such as myself, legal and mental health professionals, those involved in safeguarding, schools, family courts, therapists – and collaborate. I wish I could multiply myself x 12, I am, as I’m sure you can imagine, at full capacity, full-time, doing these posts every day, seeing my 1-2-1 clients, and trying to advocate and engage others who might be able to lobby, support and spread awareness. ⁠

I am always glad and grateful when you write to me saying my posts help, and when you can share my work, not with alienated children, but with those who can help me , help you, and help all of us who want ‘parental alienation’ recognised as abusive, disordered pathological parenting which is causing harm to so many. ⁠

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Thanks, ⁠

Charlie.⁠

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#rejectedparent

#alienatedchild

#parentalalienation

#fathersrights

#mothersrights

#fathersrightsmovement

#alienatedgrandparent

#parentalalienationawareness

#DivorceSupport

#custodybattle

#custody

#traumabond

This Former Child Welfare Investigator Says Family Policing Must Be Abolished | Truthout

Alan J. Dettlaff once worked for Child Protective Services. What he saw made him realize the system should be abolished.
β€” Read on truthout.org/articles/this-former-child-welfare-investigator-says-family-policing-must-be-abolished/

Erin’s Law Foundation

Warning ⚠️ details of abuse described. I know I have a lot of survivors following me and in no way want to trigger them reading this.

I wrote this 18 years ago. I haven’t read it since I wrote it. I found it yesterday. I have so many answers to what I wrote then. We are getting storage unit in area we are moving to and going to start moving stuff down over winter months so I am going through bins in the basement. Finding elementary-high school yearbooks, report cards, diplomas, and a whole lot of journals that I think I need to throw all in the next campfire we have and watch them burn.

He is still alive.
He never married or had kids.
2 years after writing this I finally did what he told me never to do. I reported it to authorities.
I was believed including by his sister whom he lived with all those years. He denied it all. His sister took my side and πŸ’― supported me and kicked him out. This was someone she loved and trusted and then to learn the ugly truth about the evil monster he is.

Back this summer I shared this video on social media. https://lnkd.in/gbGJVb-i

I share details of what my cousin and her brother did in this speech I gave in August. There was only one reason I was hesitant to put it on the internet. I wanted to protect her from watching it. She was betrayed by her brother for what he did. I didn’t want her to be reminded just how evil he was and what was going on inside her house. So I hoped it wouldn’t show up in her feed. I shared more details than I normally do in that speech.An hour after discovering this old journal entry his sister was scrolling facebook and came upon that video I hoped she wouldn’t see 2 months ago. She immediately commented after watching it.

β€œI some how missed this post. I am so freaking proud of you.” I sent her a message.
She wrote me back saying how she watched a cute video of Jack and then scrolled up and saw the video and clicked on it and said, β€œI was watching it and crying. I am so damn proud of you. So proud of you.”

I told her the timing of her watching that and coming across this journal entry from 18 years ago an hour earlier. We went back and forth in messages after that. This journal entry is perfect example of why we need Erin’s Law.

What you read below in this journal is what Hell on Earth looks like and it’s happening all the time to children. On this same day he pulled out a pocket knife as he sat next to me on his bed. He took my finger and made me feel how sharp it was. He told me this knife would hurt me a lot more than him. At 8 years old I feared I was not going to make it out alive. I will never be able to understand how someone could inflict this type of pain on a child looking down at them crying and have no care in the world. I have often wondered what could cause someone to become this evil. How did this man become such a monster?

It has crossed my mind many times how different my life would look if nobody every laid a hand on me. While I walked out of this room alive that day a part of me definitely died and changed the entire direction my life would go. Innocence stolen, a childhood scared, trust taken, and painful memories that I will never forget. Their is only one thing from that day and the other days he assaulted me that I can get back and that is the voice he had for so many years forcing me to stay silent. I took that voice back and haven’t stopped talking since. It is empowering to use my voice and raise awareness to what so many stay silent about.

A year ago I posted a photo where all this abuse discribed below occurred on this page. I used it to describe you don’t always know what is going behind closed doors. Terrible things can be happening in a house, school, or church. What I was not prepared for was the private message I got after. It was a woman that is a teacher who has folllwed me on Erin’s Law FB page for 8 years. I have never spoken to her. She said she used to play in that house in the photo I posted all the time as a child. She knows the monster uncle in that home and had her own creepy grooming encounters. She told me he would rub her shoulders or touch her hair. It happened on a few occasions and creeped her out and she would pull away from him. Then came the day she was in the room I describe in this journal entry. She said he cornered her in the bedroom and pushed himself up against her. She told me she pushed him off and quickly ran out of the house escaping what could have been a horrible situation. Much like the one below. Child predators / rapists often have multiple victims. I cannot stress that enough. If we don’t stop them they will keep doing it and find more victims.

I am asked by reporters often in interviews where do I get this drive and passion to keep fighting to pass my law in each state? The answer is simple. I know there are children experiencing this same horror I endured that I want to save. I know they keep assaulting you if they are not stopped. This man raped me on multiple occasions. Finally escaping him by moving and then discover the monster in my own family a few years later.

Sadly so many decisions I have made in my life are the result of this man’s actions. It bothers me it is this way because it is as if he still has some control over my life 30 years later. Not allowing my children sleepovers, limited the friends houses they are allowed in without me. As we get ready to move to another state immediately looking up sex offenders in the area to the address of a house we come across we like. Yet knowing at the same time we could be moving next to a monster who isn’t on any registry. It took me such a long time to get comfortable and build trust in some of our friends and kids friends we have made since moving to this neighborhood ten years ago. I am not looking forward to starting over in a new neighborhood wondering who I can trust my children around. Having to explain to other parents why my children cannot sleepover. Not wanting these moms and dads think I judge them for allowing their own children sleepovers. I have had mom friends tell me I know you probably frown upon me allowing my kids sleepovers. I don’t judge their decisions. I tell them my children would very likely be having sleepovers and playdates with everyone but I witnessed at a young age the kind of evil out there and won’t allow it.

It has been said to me more than once including by therapists who have never met me, to not allow my childhood experiences to ruin my children’s childhood by not allowing them sleepovers, play dates, etc. Really I am ruining their childhood πŸ™„ What you read below ruins a childhood not missing out on sleepovers. I don’t waste a second on these people and just delete the comment and block them. I don’t give a care in the world what anyone thinks about the way I am raising my kids. My favorite line I tell people is I would rather have my child in therapy one day for missing out on the birthday party sleepovers then allowing them and find them in therapy because of abuse that happened at a sleepover. It is not worth the risk for me.

This is why I will spend a lifetime fighting to get it passed in America and other countries. I try to find the silver lining in the horrendous abuse I endured. One of those things is all of the friendships I would not have had it not been for this trauma. The people that have come into my life for the positive as a result of this trauma. Some of my very best friends I would not know had I not experienced this. I would have never had trust issues and probably married much earlier in life and not have the beautiful family I now have.

The other thing I think about is how my trauma has helped put monsters behind bars because of my law. Had I never been abused this law wouldn’t exist in almost every state. That principal who molested 26 children in upstate NY who got arrested after my law was taught would very likely have a child in his office today molesting them. I can think of dozens of stories of men behind bars because of Erin’s Law. To me it’s worth it to live with this ugly past that has brought me many sleepless nights and PTSD. To know the lives that are being saved as a result. While I may have never gotten justice I know God will give me that in the end.

The bond between Narcissists, their Mom and their sisters

How many ways , I noted this and every attempt to discuss this unholy bond was pacified, often with ” well as a Christian” …

The children began to divorce , the youngest 1st , after a time of dating , then the eldest , which was a ” shit show ” and then I developed ” Bipolar ” , and with no support , nor intervention , 5 years into that toxic induction into the dank shadow , having hooked up with his twin , he left .

” I love you , but I’m not in love with you “, he walked away from our 3 children and me , never looking back,

Things got worse , and always he has had this connection with his sisters , his Mom deceased , his control, fading , his health is poor, and he keeps adding nails to his coffin, by perpetuating his hatred , his lies, projecting still it was all my fault.

He has poisoned so many folks against me and I have felt their hatred , and spite for decades..

It’s like he believes , he married down, from his level.. I sense I married out of my species .

With the abuse and alienation of our children and grandchildren, continuing, Divine has stepped in.. I sense he’s already feeling the ” side effects” of his actions , and there’s no intervention this time.

The cycle of control and dominance are over.. He can align himself with any one, anytime, on any level. 3 strikes and he’s out .

Pray our children wake , it’s totally up to them, however, I am moving on.. Grateful for having protection from the multi faceted cult that has prayed for my very death .

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Types of Flying Monkeys: The 2 Main Kinds of Narcissistic Enablers

Forward by Craig Childress , Psy D

Flying Monkeys & Social Distribution

The pathology in the family courts has many interesting and unique features. For one thing, the pathogen has motivation, it wants to create itself.

No other pathology has motivation to be the pathology. The autistic child doesn’t want to be autistic, ADHD doesn’t fight to remain ADHD, the person can’t help but produce the symptoms of the problem they’re having.

With this pathology, however, the pathology of the narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent NEEDS to create the pathology in the child in order to create a false narrative – the trauma reenactment narrative – of a supposedly “abusive” targeted parent, the supposedly “victimized” child, and the supposedly “protective” allied parent.

But it’s all a false narrative created by the pathology in the narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent, and it meets diagnostic criteria for both a shared persecutory delusion and a factitious (false) attachment pathology imposed on the child (FDIA).

Google factitious: artificially created or developed.

This is a false pathology. This is a pathology of lies.

If we try to alter what the pathological parents is seeking to do, i.e., if we try to change the false attachment pathology and promote bonding of the child to the targeted parent, the allied parent (and psychologically controlled child) will fight AGAINST treatment, seeking to keep the child’s pathology in place.

No other pathology (problem) fights AGAINST being solved, no other pathology wants to be the pathology. This pathology does.

As you examine in closer detail this unique and interesting motivational feature of this specific pathology, you’ll discover it’s because it’s ultimately an attachment trauma pathology that has crystallized into the personality disorder pathology of the parent – now being transferred to the child – the trans-generational transmission of attachment trauma.

The attachment system is a primary motivational system of the brain. Because this pathology is an attachment-trauma pathology, the damaged information structures in the person’s attachment networks (the pathogen) has access to the person’s motivational networks – it is a motivational pathology, a problem in the motivations for love-and-bonding (the attachment system).

Eating disorders also have this motivational feature, i.e., the motivation to remain eating disorders. Eating disorders are a pathology (problem) in another primary motivational system of the brain, the eating system. Eating disorders are a motivational pathology as well, just to a different primary motivational system.

The attachment system is a primary motivational system of the brain, the love-and-bonding motivational system. A child rejecting a parent is a problem in attachment bonding, it’s a motivational pathology surrounding love-and-bonding.

The pathology in the family courts has another unique and interesting feature – it’s shared between multiple people. It’s a shared delusional pathology. There’s no shared ADHD or shared autism, there’s not even a shared eating disorder – all the other pathologies are individual, the attachment system though, is a ‘shared’ relationship system.

Interestingly, it’s not simply shared between the pathological parent and the child. Once the false trauma reenactment narrative is established, other minds with the unresolved trauma seek to bond into the false narrative in the role of the “protective” other (in parallel to the pathological parent’s role as the “protective” parent).

These pathological people – extended family, mental health professionals, and random people – then become allies of the pathology in enacting the false narrative. In trauma-work this is called the “bystander” role.

There are four roles in child abuse: abusive parent, victimized child, protective parent, bystander.

The pathological bystanders attach as supposedly “protective” others to the false trauma reenactment narrative created by the pathological parent in order to work-through the unresolved attachment trauma of the bystander person.

In psychoanalytic terms, this is called their “counter-transference”.

This pathology seeks allies. No other pathology seeks and acquires allies who work to create and maintain the pathology. This pathology has a social distribution feature – it spreads from brain to brain and creates a shared thought disorder, a shared delusion.

Another important feature of this particular pathology is that it’s the abuse pathology – narcissistic personality pathology is the abuse pathology; child abuse and spousal abuse. It’s from the absence of empathy characteristic of the narcissistic personality. The absence of empathy is the capacity for cruelty (Baron-Cohen).

This pathology is immensely dangerous. This is the most dangerous pathogen on the planet – narcissistic-borderline-dark personalities are extremely dangerous people if you try to stop what they need to do – if you try to interfere with what their damaged motivational networks are requiring them to do.

If you try to stop the pathology of the narcissistic-borderline-dark personality human… they will attack you with great viciousness.

We can see all of these features displayed in the social surround in parallel process – same pathology. This isn’t politics, it’s pathology. I’m using the pathology’s display in the social surround to educate (those who can see) in the features of the pathology.

If you have the eyes to see, it can be helpful to understanding to see the pathology’s multiple features writ large across the public display.

There are allies like Lindsey Graham, Mitch McConnell, Kevin McCarthy, and Fox who work to enable the pathology to be enacted. Without their support, the Big Lie (the false narrative of persecution) would not exist and survive.

Then there’s another layer of ally. These are the dangerous stray humans who attach to the false narrative for their own darkly malevolent and sadistic purposes. These are the Proud Boys spectrum of allies – these are the SA of Nazi Germany – these are the flying monkey spectrum of allies.

They swarm around and abuse anyone who is trying to alter the enactment of the pathology. They seek to destroy the person professionally and personally through slander, false allegations, and lies.

I first encountered the flying monkey phenomenon surrounding Dorcy Pruter. The pathology and its flying monkey allies have been inflicting abuse on Dorcy for year-and-years. She’s been abused with slander, hostility, and lies her entire time in the family courts because she successfully fixes the breached attachment bond.

The pathogen hates Dorcy… for a reason. She sees it. She fixes it.

Despite all the abuse Dorcy’s endured for the sake of the children and their parents, she’s still standing, which says a lot about the quality of person she is – and – she’s not only still standing, she’s successful.

Stupid pathogen.

When I first recognized that Dorcy had the solution in her hip-pocket with the High Road workshop, and the extent of the flying monkey abuse she endured as a result, I tried to give her all the professional protection I could from my degree-status.

If the flying monkeys wanted to destroy her, they had to get through Dr. Childress first, that provided some layer of protection, but not nearly enough. No one should have to endure the abuse that the professionals seeking to solve the pathology in the family courts have to endure.

We know what the pathology is. We know about flying monkeys. We know that narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology is the most dangerous pathology on the planet. We need the APA to get over here. Clinical psychology needs to return to court-involved custody conflict.

But they won’t come, they will refuse because it is too dangerous to their licenses, and after 40 years of being absent from the family courts, none of the clinical psychologists are competent in this court involved factitious attachment and delusional thought disorder pathology created by a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent.

With this pathology, it’s not enough to simply identify the pathology, we must also identify – by name – its allies who are supporting and enabling the pathology to exist. The doctors need to be doctors and clearly identify (diagnose) the child abuse and spousal abuse involved… and the doctors will need protection from retaliation.

How do we protect the doctors? Professional psychology tried an experiment with you, they gave you your own “sub-discipline” of psychologists called “forensic” psychologists and then gave them authority to do whatever they wanted to protect themselves.

The forensic psychologists protect themselves from retaliation by exempting themselves from all ethical standards of practice and accountability. The forensic psychologists are allowed by licensing boards to self-review their own… and they all do the same thing.

They cover-up for the unethical malpractice of other forensic psychologists… because they all do the same thing. The licensing boards are corrupted by the influence of the forensic psychologists. How do you think things got so bad here?

No oversight – no meaningful scrutiny (NY Blue Ribbon Commission on Forensic Custody Evaluations).

It’s a mess, and it’s immensely dangerous for any clinical psychologist – or anyone – to try to help you. We need to substantially elevate the standards of practice for psychologists practicing in the family courts – and we need to protect them.

How do we protect them? We need an agreed upon diagnostic assessment and treatment protocol of the highest caliber that accurately diagnoses the pathology for treatment and the court.

This is active child a abuse – DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse. This is active spousal abuse using the child as the weapon – DSM-5 V995.82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological. The doctors need to return an accurate diagnosis 100% of the time so we can protect the children and their parents.

We have obligations.

How do the psychologists protect themselves? By making an accurate and supported diagnosis that can be verified by second-opinion. We should be generating second opinion (or even third opinion) consultations are all child abuse diagnoses returned in the family courts.

We have the Internet – tele-health consultation is easily available. We, the psychologists, need to go in as pairs. Consultation always improves the quality of healthcare services received.

This is the most dangerous pathogen on the planet. It’s in the family courts. It is cruel and abusive – it is narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative, delusional, retaliatory, and sadistic…

…and it is currently undiagnosed and untreated.

We need focused attention paid to the family courts from professional psychology – from the APA – we have obligations. We are failing our obligations to the court, to the parents, and to the children.

Children, parents, and professionals are being abused daily surrounding the pathology in the family courts, and it is not being addressed. This is active child abuse. This is active spousal abuse. This is active professional abuse.

And no one is stopping it… yet.

Accountability is coming for the enabling allies. Many of the Jan 6 flying monkeys have been sentenced to jail. We need accountability in the family courts – we need to hold the forensic psychologists accountable for their unethical malpractice, and clinical psychology accountable for their abandonment of these children and parents.

We need to fix things. We can do that, we just need the motivation. This is a motivational pathology.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

A flying monkey is someone who enables a narcissists campaign of abuse. Here are the two main types of flying monkey and how to spot them.
β€” Read on www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/types-of-flying-monkeys/