Tag: abuse

Discernment or Loyalty?

Part of my authenticity was to speak my mind and way too fast . I had friends who called and we talked for long periods of time while watching our children , cooking a meal , having a coffee

Not having an adult invested in our family was hard ; single married mom .

So yes I am guilty of saying things that could have been trippy for our children and I’ve asked and received forgiveness from on high . 🙏🙏🙏

Love the shadow & the dark within

Love the Saint & the Sinner

With

The child who hears you gossip about friends and family is not learning about other people.
They are learning that the people we love are targets for criticism the moment they leave the room.

You think it’s just harmless venting. A quiet phone call while they play nearby.
You believe they don’t understand the adult complexities.
Let’s call it what it really is.
You are not just talking. You are teaching them your definition of loyalty.

In those moments, you teach them that affection and judgment can come from the same mouth.
You teach them that relationships are conditional, and trust is something that evaporates with distance.
You are damaging the very concept of a safe, authentic friendship.

This is how you raise an adult who is deeply insecure, always wondering what is being said about them when they walk away.
Or worse, an adult who perpetuates this cycle, unable to form genuine bonds because they only know how to connect through criticism.

Speak of others as if they are in the room.
Model the integrity you want your child to embody. The most powerful lesson on loyalty is taught in the whispers they were never meant to overhear.

Author: Arsalan Moin

War Vet Brains in kids of Alienation Conflict

A groundbreaking study using brain scans has revealed a disturbing parallel: children exposed to intense family conflict show brain changes similar to those found in combat veterans. That’s right — the emotional warfare inside a home can mimic the neurological toll of literal battlefield trauma.

Researchers found that kids who witness chronic yelling, aggressive arguments, or domestic tension have altered brain activity in areas linked to fear, stress, and emotional regulation. These are the same brain regions often affected in soldiers returning from war zones.

The amygdala, a part of the brain responsible for processing threats and fear, becomes hypersensitive, constantly on alert. Meanwhile, the prefrontal cortex, which helps manage emotions and make rational decisions, often becomes underdeveloped or impaired. This combination can lead to long-term emotional difficulties, anxiety, or even PTSD-like symptoms later in life.

What makes this even more alarming is that many families underestimate the impact of loud fights or emotional tension on children. But the science is clear: a child’s brain is shaped by the emotional climate they grow up in.

This discovery highlights the urgent need for family therapy, safe environments, and emotional education to protect developing minds. Just because there are no visible bruises doesn’t mean the damage isn’t real.

#DidYouKnow #ChildPsychology #BrainFacts #MindMirror #FamilyHealth #TraumaScience