Leaping & Love, Liberating Old Souls

Closer to 67, than this 66th year that has increased my insight , which

has again increased , since the 11/11/18 that speaks to my soul.. Again

a miracle on the 23rd as our Gaia quantum leaped… (far too many examples)

but to state mine , in this being the 23rd which was the ” induced ” ..our

3rd Child is a #3, his being was uber light ..I loved him from 1st sight, his

thatch of dark hair , after 2 blonds , only a pang of loss of a daughter !

I was a proud Mama of 3 sons and Bucky was calm itself ..He chose to

stay low to the ground , a ” crumb snatcher ” , the sweetest Buddha Baby”

sucking his middle 2 fingers , like my Mom , Joyce , his eyes were hazel

blue grey , who unintentionally named his and wife’s 1st son Grayson

without knowing ” Big Granny ” Joyce’s Dad , 1st name is Grayson.

Bucky was “induced” into a Scorpio/Sagittarius cusp , and a child , was

mystical, a joker, always observing .. His kindness towards me could not

have been any more real than a female , as years ago I accepted the gift

of Divine , in not having a daughter being abused by our abuser .

I am not in denial that I don’t know the totality of shadow that affected

each son..there has been little communication , having shared 5 years

in hell on Earth..

Bucky started slow, observed , and is so beloved.. Quantum Leaping is Like

Bucky , and I know he’ll champion his Destiny ! Asking questions never

pondered , sensing the shift .

I believe I qualify as ” knowing ” as a Leap Year Baby , 2/29/52 , and an

” Old Soul “.. it’s been a lovely quest ,of late bearing fruits of labor , that

this Pisces honors as HOPE ..it was very difficult in times of suck

shadow that has created a breach of Mother/Child …it’s coming

up.

In this Kryon message, He speaks of children , the children

of now .. and their needs. .

He’s 110%, correct ..

I released in a major way, which is totally individual…I allow

my soul to know ..,

Blessings and Peace

Doña Luna

https://youtu.be/KjKKW53J02A

Traumatic Grief -Childress

The pathogen has three defenses,

Remain hidden

Seek allies

Attack with great viciousness

Allies. It is important with this pathogen to identify your allies, and the pathogen’s allies. This is a trauma pathogen of sides.

False allies subvert.

Notice how the Gardnerians responded. They’re arguing to keep you locked to “parental alienation” that continues your abuse by having to prove something in the courts. Why? Do you see? Are they giving your children the DSM-5 diagnosis of Psychological Child Abuse?

Do you see? Now you will learn of allies. Get your PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief) properly diagnosed, and I want you to get at least 6 months of treatment with a trauma-informed therapist for your PTSD (complex trauma). Do it.

And then, we are going to enlist the voices of your trauma recovery therapists in support of what I am saying to professional psychology – we have to stop abusing and traumatizing you – you.

None of this is about child custody. You know that, and I know that. That’s a lie. It’s all about abusing and traumatizing you.

So I want you to find your allies. Your choice. They are your allies. I’d recommend someone with trauma-ish knowledge, but whoever you feel comfortable with. Some of you, maybe some of the moms, will find a domestic violence trauma recovery person more suitable. That would be completely understandable.

So don’t be looking for “experts,” start identifying your allies.

I don’t want to wait 10 years to solve this. Today. That sounds about right. Is there any reason you couldn’t start serious loving on your kid today? Didn’t think so, so today.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Childress On Heroes – Takes One To Know One !

There’s this thing in trauma recovery called “vicarious trauma,” the trauma the healer feels from working in the trauma dream of abuse to recover the person. You saw that in the Major Winters scene at the beginning, Bull kneeling down trying to process his vicarious trauma, and then again at the end, the soldier with that look… the vicarious trauma.

That’s been a near constant for me working with you and your families. Your grief and loss is so great. I’ve worked serious stuff, cancer and birth defects, child abuse and trauma. I know how to keep a handle on my empathy to modulate my own vicarious trauma.

But I tell ya… I have to keep a near constant check on the extent of my empathy for your situations. That’s been one of the most remarkable aspects of this situation – the phenomenal absence of empathy for you – for you the parents.

I’m trying to avoid vicarious trauma from just being with you, and yet these other people… what’s wrong with them? I don’t understand. The absence of empathy leads to the capacity for human cruelty, and you have been the recipients of much cruelty and suffering.

I’m sorry.

My vicarious trauma doesn’t come from working with you, when I working I’m in a zone so to speak – my psychologist is on. It’s those other times.

I’ll be working with someone, a parent, on some project or advocacy thing. And we’ll start talking, people stuff. How’s your world, how’s your kids, normal stuff. But it’s the how’s your kids part…

I admire you. All of you. Boy, what you have been through.

These people I work with from time to time, you, parents, I like you. You’re nice people. Ordinary normal people. So when I talk with you as we do other stuff, I’m interested in you, hi, how ya doin’. It’s your stories. I admire you for what you’ve been through, and for what your doing. You’re impressive.

But then, unbeknownst to me, I’ve taken a bit of your trauma into me… because I care. I don’t notice it, because all my normal psychologist defenses against vicarious stuff are working away – clinkity-clonkity-clonk, keeping me protected from my client’s stuff, from their trauma and pain.

But then… sometimes, when I’m out doing something else, all the little pieces of your trauma that I’ve collected rise and sit in my heart. I like that, and then I also don’t. I don’t like it because your pain hurts so much. I like it because it’s real. It’s yours. I like that I’m there in that. I can’t make your hurt go away, but at least I can pull up a chair.

When people hurt, I like sitting in that chair. That’s why I’m a clinical psychologist. That’s why I’m a PsyD rather than a PhD. I want to be in that chair, sitting there with people in their authenticity. I like that place, even when it hurts. And kinda funny, especially when it hurts.

In the past, in my practice, I’ve told people I’m a connoisseur of sad. I don’t mind sad. It’s real. It hurts, because it’s supposed to. Something bad happened.

With my kiddos, the angry-grumpy 12 to 16 year old getting in trouble at school, at home, and elsewhere… they’re sad. Nobody knows it because they believe the angry that the child presents. But that’s a lie.

My kid, my angry-grumpy teenager who’s getting in trouble all the time – is actually very sad. Something bad happened, or is happening to them. We need to find out what that is, and when we fix that, they stop being so angry and grumpy – because they were a good kid all along.

They told you a lie. They told you this was about the child. Of course we all love the child. That’s a given. They used your love to manipulate you. They used your love for the child to take away your power to defend yourself.

They manipulated the child. If we have an authentic child, then absolutely… but not if they’re manipulating and controlling the child. You got caught. They used your love for your child to manipulate you.

I know you love your child. They can’t manipulate me. This isn’t about the child, it’s about you. It’s about how they are abusing and traumatizing you. I know. I can’t get vicarious trauma unless you’ve got trauma. You’ve got lots and lots… your sad is so deep, and your grief is so large…

So the thing about sad is… it makes us strong. People think strength comes from angry because violence is more visible. They’re wrong. Strength comes from compassion, from being sad.

But the strength of compassion isn’t always seen right away, and the apparent strength of violence is more visible. But compassion is relentless in its force.

I want to thank for your gifts of sadness and grief… sort of. You know what I mean. Let’s see what we can do about getting your children back. Even, and especially your now grown kids.

Grandparents, I hear you. South Africa, Romania, Netherlands, England, you too.

The world for you has been crazy, and painful, very painful. First, we start by returning to sanity. You, your trauma and your grief, are important. We love the child, we all do. That’s a given.

You don’t have to prove anything. I know you love your child, we know you love your child. The whole idea that you had to “prove” you were “worthy” was all part of the trauma dream – the abusive and brutal nightmare of the trauma dream.

It’s time to tell of your pain, to lift the lie that has held you in silence. Wendy speaks with your voice, and each of you has your voice too, your authenticity and the truth of your pain and loss.

Victims is not a correct way of framing it. The psychiatrist Victor Frankl survived the Holocaust, and his book, Man’s Search for Meaning is considered a pinnacle achievement in existential psychotherapy. Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, says we are never victims, we always have choice. He is a persuasive voice for the dignity of the human spirit.

I don’t see you as victims, as much as heroes. What you have been made to endure, your grief and loss, is unendurable, and yet… you do… and you prosper in spite of your suffering.

So as we enter a new phase – a grounding in actual reality – it’s my pleasure and honor to stand with you. I couldn’t ask for a better company of people to stand with on this battlefield.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Balance

” Coming to ” , I visited churches searching for a fit for my soul.

I felt that connection in a sweet Baptist church in my neighborhood .

In addition to “winging it ” in my own recovery , leaving a very insulated

shroud of existence in the 10th year of treatment for Domestic Abuse

translated as Bipolar Manic Depression ll, induced as were each of our

son’s births by humans vested in corporate profit over people . What

was induced or birthed was Complex Chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

ignored , by each professional , that has observed , ruled or diagnosed

until 2006.

The transformation was in large part due to my ability to step out of

norms that were not of my choice or soul intent . Akin to being shunned

with a scarlet letter , I was invited to an SGI-Buddhist group , and some

thing clicked within me , and practicing , communing with others fed

and fueled my base line : Hope… It’s what I am known for , born of

my hope, for all the years of abuse , in so many areas of my life , thus

3 sons , born over shame , greed , all the lowest of human value systems ..

I held Hope.. yes there were times I felt defeat , alone in a battle that

seems to have no end ..

Exposure …Speak of truths , that scream out for transformation ..this

is huge for one silenced since , my 5 year old self was raped by a Narcissistic

long deceased maternal uncle .

I had no choice , personally but to open the Pandora’s Box , that professionals

had no key, no advice for. Religion , as I knew it , rejected my every attempt

to integrate . I had to loose fear , Buddhism opened my head , my heart

and supported my quest …Spirituality just about covers , what is .

All there is , All there will be , and like Love, and Healing , has

divinely placed many Light Filled Folks , from birth to exits , teaching

me well.

” To know that knowledge is ignorance

Is to be Ignorant and to Believe

That Ignorance is knowledge

Is a mental disease

To be sick of sickness

Is the cure

The wise spirit avoids sickness

By being sick of it

That is the way to Health .

=Balance ( Tao)

I personally have applied this theory to all aspects of my life .

My delay has been as always , the opposition that has catalyzed

but has no power no place in my life any longer .

Gratitude and Peace

DonaLuna❤️😘

Childress on pathology for targeted parent, grandparents of PTSD -Traumatic Grief

I’m a pathology giver, but I’m not allowed to give you – personally – your pathology, because I’m only allowed to give you your pathology in person, once I directly inquire as to your symptoms.

I’m kind of like a pathogen. I cause pathology. Before the child enters my office the child has symptoms, but they don’t have a pathology. Not yet. When the child leaves my office, the child has a pathology. I’ve given it to them.

I’m a pathology giver – I’m a form of pathogen… I cause pathology. You have ADHD, you have schizophrenia…

Now imagine if I could give people pathology over the Internet. I might accidentally cause an epidemic. Best that we confine pathology givers to one patient at a time.

But I’m still going to give you your pathology, now, in this post. By the time this post is done, you will have your pathology, given to you by an authorized pathology giver.

But you will need to go to your own local pathology giver to get your pathology attached. You’ll be kind of like Peter Pan, you’ll need your shadow sewn on. I’ll tell you how to find a pathology giver to sew on your pathology-shadow, and what to tell the pathology giver to get them to sew on your shadow.

You have a trauma pathology. The symptom is traumatic grief. There are five possible trauma pathologies I can give you in the DSM-5. Two of them are early childhood attachment trauma pathologies, and they don’t apply to you.

Of the three remaining, Adjustment Disorder does not apply to you because the stressor for Adjustment Disorder is normal-range, and the loss of children is not a normal-range stressor.

That leaves two trauma pathologies. The DSM-5 specifies that Acute Stress Disorder pathology becomes Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder pathology after one month. Your pathology is longer than one month, so that leaves only one trauma pathology as your pathology; PTSD. But I can’t give it to you yet.

Because the DSM-5 PTSD pathology requires a death-trauma (exposure to death) not a complex trauma (relationship-based trauma). Your trauma is complex trauma, a relationship-based trauma – not a death-related trauma.

I am a pathology giver. I will give you your pathology. I have several paths and choices available to me.

I could give you no pathology: V71.09 No Diagnosis.

You have a pathology. It is not captured by the DSM-5. I will not use No Diagnosis. I will give you your pathology.

I could give you a “Provisional” temporary pathology or a “Rule-Out” pathology of possible differences. This just delays. I will give you your pathology. I am a pathology giver.

I could turn to another DSM-5 pathology category, apply those symptoms and give you that pathology category (if it applies).

No other DSM-5 pathology captures your symptoms of traumatic grief. You have a trauma pathology. I am a pathology giver, I will give you a trauma pathology.

I have another choice in the DSM-5 trauma category… and this is my first actual choice; Unspecified Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorder. This is the “Other” non-specified trauma category.

When a symptom set is within a category but does not match a specific DSM-5 pathology, the first available option for the pathology giver is the “Other” category of pathology – a general category pathology, but not a specific pathology.

But a pathology giver does not select the “Other” category as the first option, only as the last option. I have other choices available to give you your pathology. The other options are more accurate. The other options give you an accurate pathology.

I am allowed to bend DSM-5 pathologies, when certain conditions apply. I am a pathology giver, under certain conditions I am allowed to bend the DSM-5 pathology in order to give someone their pathology.

Those conditions apply here.

Pathology givers are allowed to bend the DSM-5 pathologies under two conditions… the point of bend must be minor, and we must indicate in the pathology I give you what the point of bending is.

This is the pathology I am going to give you. I am going to exercise my ability as a pathology giver and I am going to bend the DSM-5 trauma-related pathologies to give you yours.

Are you ready. Do you want to invite anyone to join you right now? It’s not everyday you get a pathology from a licensed and authorized pathology giver. Remember, once I give you your pathology you’ll have to go to a local pathology giver to get your pathology sewn on, like Peter and his shadow.

Your DSM-5 pathology, bestowed to you by an authorized pathology giver, is:

309.81 Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (complex trauma; traumatic grief)

The bend point is minor – death trauma to complex trauma – and the bend point is specified in your pathology. The two bend criteria are met.

I am also specifying your type of complex trauma; traumatic grief. This is a little perk that a good pathology giver does.

That is your pathology: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (complex trauma; traumatic grief).

I have given you your pathology. Once you get it sewn on by a local pathology giver, like Peter and his shadow, that pathology becomes yours.

You will want to do that, get your pathology sewn on to you. This is because you need someone to help you with your grief and loss. Also, a pathology giver who sews on your pathology of PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief) for you, may also be able to help you convince others, maybe by writing letters and reports about your PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief), and how it is not a good thing to take children away from their parents.

When you tell people your pathology, I’d say it this way: “I have a form of PTSD, it’s for traumatic grief.”

That’s accurate. I think it also helps for you to always emphasize the traumatic grief of your loss, every time you tell someone your pathology.

When you write the pathology (once you get it sewn on), I’d write the whole thing, code and all: 309.81 Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (complex trauma; traumatic grief)

In looking for a therapist for your PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief), I’d look in two places. First, the PTSD trauma people (after all, that’s your pathology), and the domestic violence people.

The PTSD trauma people will look at you a little funny at first, because they’re used to working with PTSD combat veterans. But once you explain things a little, they’ll totally get it and will help you work with your PTSD (complex trauma).

Or you may want to look for a therapist who is experienced in domestic violence. They know trauma, and your trauma is also a form of domestic violence; post-divorce spousal violence and assault using the child as the weapon.

To get your pathology giver to sew on your pathology, tell them what your pathology is (you can tell them I gave it to you but you want it attached), and then tell them about your traumatic grief.

Once you tell them of your traumatic grief, then ask them to sew on your pathology to you by giving you the pathology of 309.81 Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (complex trauma; traumatic grief). They just have to say “Okay” and write in in your chart. That’s all it takes.

So that’s where I’d start.

Psychology is dividing. It’s another one of those knot things that is emerging.

Part of psychology, forensic psychology, will be abusing you and causing you traumatic grief and PTSD (complex trauma). Meanwhile, the other part of psychology, clinical psychology, will begin treating your PTSD and complex trauma created by forensic psychology.

That’s a little strange, don’t you think? That one part of psychology is treating the trauma created by another part of psychology. Maybe that other part of psychology shouldn’t be creating trauma in their patients.

What happens when one part of psychology starts treating the trauma created by another part of psychology? I don’t know. Let’s find out.

I hope you like your new pathology. You should be glad that I didn’t give you schizophrenia or something. Whew.

Your child’s DSM-5 pathology is on the second page of the Diagnostic Checklist, the child is also a trauma pathology, the child has an Adjustment Disorder pathology in the DSM-5, because a divorce is a normal-range stressor and they’re having all sorts of problems adjusting to it.

The important DSM-5 pathology for your kids is the pathology of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed. That’s a “modifier” pathology (called a “V-Code” because all modifier pathologies begin V-).

The DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse for your child is the core for the trauma-informed AB-PA legal argument package being developed by family law attorneys.

I know many of you would like a pathology giver to give your ex-spouse a pathology, but we don’t give a pathology to someone unless that person wants one, or unless we need to give a pathology to the person to protect them or other people.

You’re ex-spouse doesn’t want a pathology, and there are other ways we can protect the child without giving your ex-spouse a pathology… so we’ll skip that for now. We’ll give you and the child your pathologies, and that should be more than enough;

Targeted Parent: 309.81 PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief)

Child: V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed

Besides, shouldn’t we be trying to get rid of pathologies rather than adding more – like getting rid of your traumatic grief by getting your kids back to you.

I think that would be a good idea.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Childress : Symptoms and Pathology of Child Abuse

The pathology giver gives you your pathology based on your symptoms. Your pathology is not your symptoms. They are different things. I give you your pathology based on your symptoms. Your pathology is what I give you.

So let me ask you about your symptoms. Then I will give you your pathology.

Dr. Childress: What is your symptom?

Parent: I’m sad.

(depression; mood pathology)

Dr. C: Why are you sad?

P: Because I miss my children.

(grief and loss)

Dr. C: Why aren’t you with your children?

P: Because they were taken away from me.

(trauma; traumatic grief)

Dr. C: Is that happening now? (current trauma?) Or did this happen before, and now you’re having trouble coping with it? (post-traumatic?).

At this point, I have three pathologies in the DSM-5 to choose from, I will give you one of these three.

Your sadness is caused by trauma. It’s called traumatic grief. That’s not your pathology, it’s your symptom. I’m going to give you your pathology in a moment.

My choices in trauma pathology are:

Acute Stress Disorder: Current abuse causing current trauma;

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Past abuse and trauma causing current adjustment problems;

Adjustment Disorder: Adjustment difficulties and over-reaction to normal-range stressors.

But I cannot give you a pathology, not yet.

I will not give you Adjustment Disorder, because the loss of your children is not an over-reaction to a normal-range stressor. Losing your children is not normal-range.

That leaves two trauma pathologies I can give you; Acute Stress Disorder (ongoing abuse and trauma) to the parents whose children are under the age of 18, and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (problems in adjusting to past abuse and trauma) to parents whose children are older than 18.

But the DSM-5 will not allow me to give these pathologies to you… yet.

There are two types of trauma – death-trauma and complex trauma. The DSM-5 pathology system only recognizes death trauma.

In the DSM-5 pathology system, a sexually abused child is not traumatized – sexual abuse of the child (complex trauma) is not a trauma experience for the child according to the DSM-5 pathology system.

Childhood trauma professionals strongly disagree. Sexual abuse of the child is a trauma to the child. Complex trauma is a trauma.

The DSM-5 does not allow that. The reason is that the current genre of DSM wants to be completely an individual pathology system – no relationship-based pathology.

Complex trauma is a relationship-based trauma, and so complex trauma is excluded from recognized pathologies in the DSM-5.

Acute Stress and PTSD require death-trauma.

Let me describe the boundary line of death-trauma as allowed in the DSM-5 and complex trauma that is not. Rape is not, exactly, a death trauma. Rape is not, exactly, the Boston Marathon Bombing. There was much discussion. It was decided that rape is a death-trauma. Rape qualifies for Acute Stress Disorder and PTSD.

Child sexual abuse and a child exposed to chronic and severe physical abuse and domestic violence is traumatic to the child. There – continues to be – much discussion. The DSM-5 decided that child abuse and domestic violence are not traumatic for the victim – or at least are not identifiable as a trauma.

The DSM-5 is a psychiatric manual, written by psychiatrists. In an earlier version of the DSM, the DSM-II, homosexuality was a pathology. I could give you the pathology of homosexuality. The DSM-3 said that homosexuality was not a pathology. I could no longer give you the pathology of homosexuality. Probably the most widespread cure of any pathology ever.

Pathology givers give pathology, and we take it away.

I am not a psychiatrist, I am a clinical psychologist. I am a pathology giver, I will give you a DSM-5 pathology, even when the DSM-5 is not… adequate – because I have choices and options in this type of situation.

I will give you your pathology. I am a pathology giver.

I now have paths and options to choose from in giving you your pathology. I will give you a DSM-5 pathology – the question is, what is your pathology?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Liz Becker

I am NOT a Faberge egg.

My innocence of what it meant to be female in this world was taken long ago, as a result of several traumatizing events – at almost every stage of my life, starting in childhood and as recently as just 2 years ago.

I am not a Faberge egg.

I learned long ago that girls are not on pedestals at all, that they are not treated gently or compassionately – even by those they were suppose to trust. The reality is that a female is not safe at any stage of life.

I am not a Faberge egg.

I am not coated in jewels and glitter or wrapped in gold. I am coated with wariness, and chainmail armor. I am not fragile and breakable anymore – instead I am filled with dragon-fire and knowledge, and I will not be subjected to unwanted advances or assault without getting the predator’s DNA in whatever manner I have to – because no one will believe you without proof.

Make no mistake, I am not a Faberge egg . . . I am a warrior, I am a predator’s worst nightmare.

Never refer to me as a damn Faberge egg. I am human being.

Human beings have empathy, compassion and respect for others.

I am a human being. Treat me as such.