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Face of the Crisis: Jessie

I lost custody of my 3 children during my second divorce. We were divorcing because I discovered when I was 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd that my husband had been having a long-standing affair for years.

Both of my ex-husbands teamed up, lawyered up and kicked my ass. I was in court at least once a month for over 2.5 years. I have been portrayed as a drug addict and a mental case—but I only broke down after losing my children!

I was a stay at home mom for 8 years prior to my divorce so I am unable to make the amount assigned as my earning capacity and am ordered to pay $1800 a month in child support. I am behind on all my bills and I’m on food stamps. Family Court says if I don’t make the payment each month they will put out a bench warrant on me.

I haven’t spoken to my 14 yr old from my 1st marriage in over a year. I speak with my younger 2 when their father feels like picking up the phone.

Never on holidays.

FROM: “Faces of the Crisis” a Women’s Coalition Exhibit
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Why are women losing custody in epidemic numbers?
“The Custody Crisis: Why It’s Happening & How We Can End It”
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“FACES OF THE CRISIS” is an exhibit created by The Women’s Coalition to raise awareness about the international epidemic of judges switching custody to self-serving and abusive men: https://www.womenscoalitioninternational.org

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Girl Child

”In the very beginning of her life, the girl-child has direct access to the spirit of life. It is as near to her as the breath that fills her. And it connects her to everything. She is not alone. Her spirit is one with the spirit of her beloved grandmother, her favorite rock, tree, and star. She develops her own methods for contacting the spirit in all things.

She climbs a tree and sits in its branches, listening. She loves the woods and listens there too. She has a special friend—a rock. She gives it a name and eats her lunch with it whenever she can. She keeps the window open next to her bed even on the coldest of nights. She loves the fresh air on her face. She pulls the covers tight around her chin and listens to the mysterious night sky.

She believes that her grandmother is present even though everyone else says she is dead. Each night, she drapes the curtain over her shoulders for privacy, looks out the window near her bed, listens for Grandma and then says silent prayers to her.

Her imagination is free for a time. She does not need priest or teacher to describe god to her. Spirit erupts spontaneously in colorful and unique expressions. God is Grandma, the twinkling evening star, the gentle breeze that washes across her face, the peaceful quiet darkness after everyone has fallen asleep, and all the colors of the rainbow. And because she is a girl, her experience and expression of spirit is uniquely feminine. The spirit of the universe pulsates through her. She is full of herself.

Eventually the girl-child will turn away from the Spirit-filled One. Her original spirituality will become confined within the acceptable lines of religion. She will be taught the right way to imagine and name god. “He” will be mediated to her through words, images, stories, and myths shaped, written, and spoken by men. She will adopt the god she is given. It is too dangerous to rebel. If she dares to venture out of the lines by communing with the spirit of a tree, the mysterious night sky, or her grandma, she will be labeled heretic, backslide, or witch. She is told:

Prideful One, your grandma is not god; neither is your favorite star or rock. God has only one name and face. You shall have no gods before him. God is Father, Son, and Holy Ghost. He is found in the church, heavens, and holy book, not in you. God is the god of the fathers and sons; the daughters have no say in the matter. As it was in the beginning, it is now and ever shall be.

The Spirit-Filled One falls asleep. Occasionally she awakens to remind the girl-childturned-woman of what she once knew. These periodic reminders are painful. The woman fills her life with distractions so she will not hear the quiet inner voice, calling her to return home. Years later, new teachers enter the woman’s life—a therapist, a self-help group, a support circle, a beloved friend, or perhaps this workbook. They remind her of what she once knew:

Spirit-filled One, your grandma is god and so are your favorite star and rock. God has many names and many faces. God is Mother, Daughter, and Wise Old Crone. She is found in your mothers, in your daughters, and in you. She is Mother of all Living and blessed are her daughters. You are girl-woman made in her image. The spirit of the universe pulsates through you.” -Patricia Lynn Reilly, A Deeper Wisdom, The 12 Steps from a Woman’s Perspective

Painting by Helena Nelson Reed

Daughters , I AM .

I am the daughter of a daughter.


Who is the daughterof a daughter.


Who is also the daughterof a daughter.


Some of us are mothersbut all of us are daughters,all

birthed through linesthat weave back tothat First

Mother.


All connected fromthe very beginning.All connected in

the now.


Mothers,Daughters,Grandmothers,Great

Grandmothers,Great Great Grandmothers.All daughters

born fromOne. Original. Egg.fromOne. Original. Woman.


So why the separation?Why the animosity toward each

other?Why the arguing and fighting,back-stabbing and

lack of support?


The next time you see another woman,look in her eyes

and see theAncestral Lines – the lines of women –that

lead back to you.


Where are we going Mother?And how will we get there

Sister?By staying connected Daughterand allowing for

difference.


For we are each one,after all,all Daughtersof Daughters

Of Daughtersof ourOne Mother.


_________________________________The Daughter Line, Arlene Bailey ©2020
Four Generations by Giuseppe Torre

Woman’s Rights

“Rather than fighting for every woman’s right to feel beautiful, I would like to see the return of a kind of feminism that tells women and girls everywhere that maybe it’s all right not to be pretty and perfectly well behaved. That maybe women who are plain, or large, or old, or differently abled, or who simply don’t give a damn what they look like because they’re too busy saving the world or rearranging their sock drawer, have as much right to take up space as anyone else.
I think if we want to take care of the next generation of girls we should reassure them that power, strength and character are more important than beauty and always will be, and that even if they aren’t thin and pretty, they are still worthy of respect. That feeling is the birthright of men everywhere. It’s about time we claimed it for ourselves.” -Laurie Penny
Painting by Leticia Banegas

Witches -WiseWoman

It was not witches who burned.It was women.Women who were seen as-Too beautifulToo outspokenHad too much water in the well (yes, seriously)Who had a birthmarkWomen who were too skilled with herbal medicineToo loudToo quietToo much red in her hairWomen who had a strong nature connectionWomen who dancedWomen who sungor anything else, really.
ANY WOMAN WAS AT RISK OF BURNING IN THE SIXTEEN HUNDREDSSisters testified and turned on each other when their babies were held under ice.Children were tortured to confess their experiences with “witches” by being fake executed in ovens.Women were held under water and if they floated, they were guilty and executed.If they sunk and drowned, they were innocent.Women were thrown off cliffs.Women were put in deep holes in the ground.
The start of this madness was years of famine, war between religions, and lots of fear. The churches said that witches, demons, and the devil did exist, and women were nothing but trouble. As we see even today, there is often a scapegoat created, and the chaos escalated in Sweden when the Bible became law and everything that did not line up with what the church said became lethal. The Bible fanaticism killed thousands of women. Everything connected to a woman became feared, especially her sexuality. It became labeled as dark and dangerous and was the core of the witch trials throughout the world.
Why do I write this?Because I think the usage of words are important, especially when we are doing the work to pull these murky, repressed and forgotten about stories to the surface. Because knowing our history is important when we are building the new world. When we are doing the healing work of our lineages and as women. To give the women who were slaughtered a voice, to give them redress and a chance of peace.
It was not witches who burned.It was women.
Author: Fia ForsströmThank you Andrea for this post 🙏

Age, Looks and Character

“Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,they won’t last the journey.Your sense of humour though, will only get better.Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.And your desire to live each and every moment will transcend all other wants.Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish like ivy on a castle wall.Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,they will change forevermore,that pursuit is one of much sadness and disappointment.Prioritise the uniqueness that make you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.These are the things which will only get better.”
Donna AshworthImage: Phillipe Vogelenzang

Woman’s OBGYN told her she needed her husband’s permission to get her tubes tied…in 2020

They wouldn’t sign off on the procedure without permission from her husband.
— Read on megaphone.upworthy.com/p/obgyn-husband-permission-tubes-tied