Tag: wisdoms

Family Court Trauma

Adrenal fatigue is something I’ve had since the age of 5 when I was violated by an uncle ; no one knew 🥲

On average, a person living in a perpetual trauma loop due to family court abuse, parental alienation, ongoing isolation, and chronic injustice may need 2 to 4 hours every single day—just to regulate their nervous system enough to function at baseline.

And this isn’t healing time.

This is just what it takes to not collapse.

Here’s why:

• The nervous system is constantly hijacked by threat perception—court dates, false accusations, withheld children, financial strain, and the unpredictable behavior of abusive parties.

• Sleep is disrupted, digestion is impaired, and cortisol levels are chronically high—meaning the body wakes up in a state of alarm before the day even begins.

• Cognitive clarity is diminished, requiring meditation, breathwork, movement, or emotional release just to think straight.

• Energetic fragmentation from being ignored, gaslit, and silenced in a legal system designed to retraumatize requires constant repair.

For many survivors:

• It takes 30–60 minutes just to calm down after waking from anxiety-ridden sleep.

• It takes another hour of grounding practices—breathwork, walking, journaling, neuro-regulation tools—just to be able to engage in tasks or speak coherently.

• By afternoon, the body often crashes again from adrenal fatigue, needing another hour or more of emotional regulation just to avoid dissociation or panic.

• And by night, the mind races with court-induced hypervigilance, requiring intentional wind-down routines to avoid nightmares or insomnia.

All of this—before any real productivity, parenting, or healing work can even begin.

This is the invisible cost no one talks about.

Not the legal fees.

Not the time in court.

But the hours stolen from your life every single day just trying to survive the psychological warfare that never stops.

The system is not just unjust.

It is trauma-inducing by design.

And surviving it demands the energy of someone running a marathon with a broken leg—every single day.

Affirm out loud:

“I honor the energy it takes to survive this. I am not lazy, broken, or weak. I am surviving a system meant to silence me—and I will rise.”

#FamilyCourtTrauma #ParentalAlienation #NervousSystemRecovery

Let your self grieve

Indeed , I looked at all I knew and my

intuitive kicked in , I saw my parents

as doing the best they knew . Yes there are

things about them that ping , however my

heart and mind have chosen to feel the

love and compassion over riding the pain

of past

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The way it is – Leadership

What if everything you thought about leadership was upside down?

A photographer studying a wolf pack revealed a formation that challenges our deepest assumptions about power, authority, and responsibility. What they found turns conventional wisdom on its head:

🟠 The weakest wolves set the pace, guiding the pack without force.

🟠 The strongest flank and guard, shielding the group from danger on every side.

🟠 The so-called “leader” takes the rear, observing, protecting, and guiding from behind.

In the wild, leadership isn’t about standing at the front or asserting dominance. It’s about awareness, timing, and service — knowing when to lead, when to defend, and when to step back to let others thrive.

This natural blueprint offers a profound lesson for humans: true leaders don’t just command; they protect, they empower, and they ensure the whole group succeeds. Sometimes, the greatest act of leadership is quietly holding the line from behind.