Ego Loves Pain, and Does Not Want You to Heal.

Trauma before we can remember still leaves a mark – Futurity

” There is so many empowering healing modalities

it’s a matter of research and personal choice.

And that make it so much easier to hold hope


The denial is over however , as is the ” targeted ”

parent/partner .

“there may be a ‘sensitive period’ in which stress is more likely to affect the development of the hippocampus.”
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Why Family Courts Cannot Protect Children: ACE vs. PAS. * Cannot? Do not, just more abuse ..


The essence of domestic violence is that abusers use a variety of tactics to scare and coerce their partners to do what the abuser wants.  This results in the mother and children living in fear.  There are ten adverse childhood experiences.  In the context of a contested custody case, the child usually starts with a score of one for the parents separating, one for domestic violence and one for emotional abuse of the child.  Fathers who abuse the mother are 40-60% more likely to also abuse the children physically and sexually.  If both, that would increase the score to 5.  If one or both parents have a substance abuse problem or mental illness those are two more possible points.  Physical or emotional neglect are two more possibilities.  Significantly all of the other ACEs are more likely when a father abuses a mother.  An ACE score of 6 results in an average reduction in life expectancy of 20 years.

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2 types of alienated children…which is yours? – Ryan Thomas Speaks

Accepted , in our suicidal culture as normal.

The side effects are equal to a sexually abused

child..those side effects don’t just go away.

Ryan Thomas, Child of Parental Alienation Helping Parents Reconnect
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Shame is Lethal

I had a huge breakthrough in the Shame gig , so

worthy that I know I personally don’t have to go

there , nor allow anyone or anything to take me

to that place ..

I totally get it, and all it’s fall out , and have empathy

for anyone holding shame .

Allowing myself to be vulnerable , is part of my 51 out of

55 score on emotional intelligence .. My words , my actions

are catching up with my score 🙏🏼

Codependency: What Are The Signs & How To Overcome It

This article offers so much info, but I would urge caution, in

acceptance of terms that have become lucrative labels for

human begins that is discrimination.

My co dependence was my expectation of a partner , my Christian

and social conditioning that allowed me compliant , Xanax

and professional denial of my abuse , by a partner , whose

ownership is still a force in his mind .

Rendered incapacitated , by any illness , which limits in

clarity , participation , being targeted has been a vulgar

acceptance of immorality that left our sons in alignment

with my unworthiness..

Addicted, legally , our children grew up , with addicts in the

house , as all that was normal was rejected , my faith eroded

in detachment that was very necessary in opposition coming

at me, openly disputing co anything..

What is codependency and how can it affect people, how to recognize signs of codependency, and resources for learning more about and overcoming it.
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New Mexico Governor: Opioid addicts to qualify for medical marijuana – KVIA

Gov. Michelle Lujan Grisham says she will direct health officials in her administration to begin making opioid addiction a qualifying condition for patients seeking to use medical marijuana.
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Trump administration quietly changes definition of “domestic violence” and “sexual assault” |

The past devaluation of rape , and life long ramifications , towards

anyone , of any gender, race , and age has been exposed as unimportant

from stockpiles of unprocessed rape kits , and being further abused

in a culture of profession acceptance .. Transforming this , will be

a community effort , in a consciousness that does not the rape,

of children, ( molestation seems to desensitize an act that overpowers

a child , doing much harm) .

Healing modalities , love and acceptance await , as we lift the bar

to reconnect with sacred soul contracts , ending so many doing

so much harm.

Last April, Justice Department office on violence against women began to narrowly redefine its basic concepts
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Social worker gloats on Facebook over breaking up a family | Daily Mail Online

No one with character that is not acting in the best interest of the child

who sees their job, as winning , trumping a family , bragging is

in the wrong line of work.

The ” burn out ” happens rather quickly , which points to lots

of room for improvement ..

Siobhan Condon, 41, bragged breaking up the family and revelled in the judge giving the parents a ‘massive rollicking’. The post gave enough information to identify the family.
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The Trump administration quietly changed the definition of domestic violence.

The Admin Of Domestic Abuse, rules on their own abuse.

And of course, it’s not them, ever .


It is too early to assess the full impact of the change.
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