The effort to control , the silent aggression, the covert , full fact frontal abuse …modeled to 3 sons as ” normal ” …
The Narcissist Teacher – Thank you- Goodbye
Thankful for the lesson, the growth , and the conclusion of these harsh lessons … no more blocks towards my ” normal ” which is of peace and harmony even if it’s a party of one… I’m never alone or unloved or neglected in this exquisite , beautiful world that’s being being rebirthed, recreated in love 😻.
Alienating behaviours include what’s known as parentification. Signs of this will be when a child shows signs of parenting one of their parents (the alienating one). The child knows far too much about what should be purely adult problems or concerns. Also, the child feels responsible for the well-being of the parent – a role-reversal. It could be that the child feels guilty because the alienating/aligned parent makes them feel they’ve sacrificed for the child. Or they’ve been trauma bonded through shared persecutory delusions. It is, of course, psychologically abusive. All children, especially the alienated enmeshed child, should be free to be themselves, to ‘find themselves’, to self-realise, and develop a separate identity. This is an important goal of adolescence onwards. They need love, support, encouragement, and the space to do this, which is the opposite of the control and coercion inflicted on them by an alienating parent, intent only on creating an obedient mini-me, with imprinted thoughts and beliefs.
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It is not normal for a child to align with one parent over another who is ‘normal-range’, willing, loving, available. It should be something all family courts are alert to because it is a sign of parental alienation and there is pathogenic parenting going on here. It is child psychological abuse. To cope with the traumatic experience of being told terrible things about one parent by the other who also requires and coaxes that child to fear, loathe and reject their loved, loving ‘target’ parent, the child psychologically ‘splits’. It is a way of cutting off from the love they feel (that they cannot feel anymore) for the rejected parent. It seems counter-intuitive but even in abusive relationships, the victim seeks love and affection from the perpetrator. It’s Stockholm Syndrome, and ‘identification with the aggressor’ which I’ve covered in other posts. The alienated child is angry, rude, and highly critical of the ‘other’ parent. The experts should be wary of the child who has few if any good memories of the alienated parent, and has no wish to repair the relationship. Abused children want a good relationship with their abusive parent. This is hard to believe but true. The abused (alienated) child wants to downplay or deny any wrongdoing on the part of the ‘aligned’ parent, they don’t do the same with the ‘target’ parent. These are red flags.
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Despite their similarities, psychedelic experiences are often met with care and compassion, while psychosis is treated with coercion.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/what-psychosis-researchers-can-learn-from-the-compassionate-approach-to-psychedelic-research/
My oh my… look what the birdies brought me… Colorado. My oh my.
It looks like Linda Gottlieb’s going down, down, down, and it looks like she’s taking Jennifer Harman and all of “parental alienation” with her. My oh my.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you, because I did. Right here on my Facebook page, I said “Holy Cow everybody, don’t use Gottlieb’s Turning Points program. She’s going to crash and burn and take everyone with her.”
I said that. Right here, I said that. Now it looks like the crash and burn part is here.
Hey, notice this. The pathogen is restricting who can testify on your behalf. I’m a testifying and consulting expert in the family courts, do the new restrictions affect me?
Nope.
From ProPublica: “The new law, which takes effect immediately, also requires experts who advise the court on custody cases to have training in working with victims of domestic violence and child abuse.”
There’s something wrong with that, does anyone notice something wrong? The order is reversed. The concern in the family courts should be child abuse and domestic violence. The order’s wrong.
I qualify as an expert under Kayden’s law. Lucky you. Otherwise, you’d be in trouble. I’m telling you, mental health in the family courts is an absolute mess – until they’re motivated to fix it.
I’m a qualified expert under Kayden’s Law. It’s right there on my vitae – I’m a trauma psychologist out of child abuse and foster care. That’s why I’m here. This is my pathology – child abuse and IPV spousal abuse using the child as the weapon.
I know exactly where I am. I’ve always known… I’m a trauma psychologist out of child abuse and foster care, of course I recognize child abuse, don’t be ridiculous.
Here’s the entry from my vitae that qualifies me as an expert in the family courts under Kayden’s law – Clinical Director for an assessment and treatment center for children in foster care.
10/06 – 6/08: Clinical Director
START Pediatric Neurodevelopmental Assessment and Treatment Center
California State University, San Bernardino
Institute of Child Development and Family Relations
Clinical director for an early childhood assessment and treatment center providing comprehensive developmental assessment and psychotherapy services to children ages 0-5 years old in foster care. The primary referral source for the clinic was Child Protective Services. Directed the clinical operations, clinical staff, and the provision of comprehensive psychological assessment and treatment services across clinic-based, home-based, and school-based services. The clinic was a three-university collaboration, with speech and language faculty and services through the University of Redlands, occupational therapy faculty and services through Loma Linda University, and psychology faculty and clinical staff through Calif. State University, San Bernardino.
When CPS identified child abuse and placed the child in foster care, they would send the child to our clinic for assessment, diagnosis, and treatment. Have you ever assessed a 3-year-old who’s just been placed in foster care? I have.
Have you treated child physical abuse, the kids with the welts and bruises? I have. Have you diagnosed profound child neglect that destroys the brain? I have. I’ve personally treated all four forms of child abuse, and I’ve personally led the treatment teams with CPS social work involvement for children in foster care.
I’ve personally gotten moms with children into the hidden shelters that have no address, because I had access to the addresses of the IPV spousal abuse shelters for moms and kids that have no addresses. I worked behind the curtain of protection.
I’m a real honest-to-goodness trauma psychologist out of child abuse and foster care – I know exactly where I am. This is my pathology – child abuse and spousal abuse using the child as the weapon.
This battlefield is going to become intense. Wheee.
It looks like Gottlieb is spiraling down-down-down, and it looks like she’s taking all of “parental alienation” world with her, starting with Jennifer Harman. I warned you, I told you so, you should listen to the cricket. Stay in school, Pinocchio, and learn the proper knowledge to use.
Don’t listen to the Fox and Cat, don’t go to the “parental alienation” Funhouse. But do you listen? No. So then you get turned into a donkey and sent to the salt mines. Oh my goodness.
Somebody’s got to rescue you from the pathogen’s allies. But no one qualifies as an expert on your behalf… except me. I guess I’m kinda like your blue fairy. Stop being such a donkey, return to being a real person who uses real knowledge to solve the problem (pathology) in your family.
The pathogen’s tricky. It drove all the clinical psychologists away, it made all the forensic psychologists stupid, and it gave you a worthless new “parental alienation” pathology to keep you forever locked-up in continual conflict.
Then… now that “parental alienation” has finally run its course, the pathogen is now closing the trap. You’ll be trapped for a hundred years. No one will ever believe you, and you can’t tell anyone because the only “experts” you can get to speak for you are the pathogen’s allies.
Except me. La-dee-dah, dum-dee-doe, the pathogen missed me. It thought it got rid of all the clinical psychologists, and it had… except I tripped and fell down a rabbit hole, and, you see, it turned out to be quite the curious adventure. It just kept getting curiouser and curiouser.
But I’ve made it back to reality. Apparently just in time to be an expert in the family courts. I hear they’re getting hard to come by, these “expert” folks.
Seems like we’ll be losing a few soon. Bye Linda. Bye Jennifer. Good luck. Boy, I’ll bet they’re both kind of stressed out about how things are developing. I’m glad I’m not them right now, or anytime actually.
Kayden’s law is coming everywhere. If you want to get busy on your state legislators, now’s the time. The pathogen’s activated your legislators, you just need to add Eryk to Kayden so that both sides are protected from child abuse and spousal abuse (proper order).
My oh my. That’s all I can say. And maybe holy cow.
Just a heads-up from me to you, keep your head down. My oh my.
Incoming. I love the smell of napalm in the morning.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
An alienating parent seeks to control the children to hurt the other parent. They lie, they twist the truth, they misinterpret events wilfully, and they say and do everything and anything to control the narrative so that your truth and your love become something the alienated child no longer trusts. This is why parental alienation is described as abuse (psychological, mental, emotional). What is even harder for you is that other people – even those who could support and protect – all too often do not recognise the lies and false allegations. Saying it rubs salt in the wound is insufficient in describing the injustice, grief pain inflicted. It is not the behaviour of a loving parent, but a fearful, controlling and/or vengeful parent who does this. It is a disordered mentality and yet this person will typically refuse counselling or collaboration. There are so many signs that should be fairly easy to spot. What we need to do is to educate those who can help us about how they can do their job and help us. Please see my red flag warning post and others for more on this.
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What to do about the deadly misfits among us? First, recognize the problem.
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/01/lost-boys-violent-narcissism-angry-young-men/672886/
Much truth to Sam’s content
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