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Love is never enough for a Narcissist

Relationships with narcissists are some of the most mentally and emotionally exhausting experiences a person can go through.

This is the one relationship where your love, kindness, and loyalty don’t bring closeness, but instead invite betrayal, anger, and devaluation.

The harder you love them, the more they seem to want to break you.

At first, a narcissist will mirror everything you want to see. They will make you feel special, adored, and irreplaceable. They will listen intently, act supportive, and say all the right things to gain your trust.

It feels like the connection you’ve always wanted—until it isn’t.

Over time, things shift. The same person who once admired you now seems irritated by your presence.

The one who used to appreciate your kindness now belittles you for it.

The same loyalty they once praised suddenly feels like a weakness they exploit.

You start to feel like you can’t do anything right, no matter how hard you try.

Narcissists thrive on control. They manipulate through guilt, gaslighting, and emotional highs and lows. One day they make you feel like you’re everything to them, and the next, they withdraw affection, lash out, or treat you like you don’t matter.

It keeps you stuck in a cycle—always trying to get back to the good moments, always blaming yourself when things go wrong.

The truth is, a narcissist’s love is conditional, but their hatred is not. The better you are to them, the more they want to tear you down. They see your kindness as weakness, your love as something to exploit, and your loyalty as something they own.

The more you give, the less they respect you.

Trying to love a narcissist doesn’t heal them—it drains you. You will bend over backward to prove your worth, but they will never be satisfied.

They don’t want love; they want power. The moment they feel they have complete control, they lose interest or seek ways to break you further.

Walking away is the only way to win. Narcissists don’t change, and they don’t suddenly wake up one day and appreciate you.

The love, kindness, and loyalty you so freely gave to them – give it back to yourself. That’s where true healing begins.

Costly mistakes made by husbands

1. WORKING SO HARD AT YOUR JOB/BUSINESS BUT NOT IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Men, your company, your career, and your business are growing and flourishing because you lead them; your marriage will grow and flourish when you lead it and dedicate time to it.

2. THINKING THAT FLIRTING WITH OTHER WOMEN IS NOT CHEATING

You may not physically sleep with other women, but emotionally cheating is also unfaithfulness. Receiving nude images and having phone intimacy with other women is also cheating. Talking suggestively and attracting temptations is also cheating. If you are a flirt, flirt with your wife. If you claim your wife is too rigid, treat her well, and she will respond to your kinky ways. She also wants intimate pleasure and to feel wanted.

3. BEING GENEROUS OUTSIDE AND STINGY AT HOME

Don’t be the husband who quickly says yes when other people ask for help, for your time and your money, but stingy to your wife and child/children. Your family comes first. Don’t go to harambees contributing large sums, helping out people because you want to have a good public image yet to your family you deprive and deny.

4. THINKING THAT SHOWING LOVE IS AN UNMANLY THING

When you were dating and courting, you were romantic and thoughtful; but now that you are married, you wrongly think showing love is beneath you. If you truly love your wife, tell her, she needs to hear it. Warm her heart. Romance her. Date your wife. Her being a wife doesn’t mean she doesn’t need to feel loved. Real men show their love. God is a loving God. If God doesn’t find showing love as something beneath Him, who are you to shun showing affection yet you are created in the image of God?

5. THROWING MONEY AND GIFTS AT PROBLEMS

When your wife and kids get concerned about you spending much time away from home, when you are told you are not doing what you are supposed to; change, improve. Don’t throw money and gifts at them to silence them. They want your time and presence, not lifeless things.

6. ADMIRING OTHER WOMEN MORE THAN YOUR WIFE

If you find other women better looking than your wife, work on your wife. Nourish her with compliments, buy her clothes you think she’d look good in, take her shopping, pamper her, love her up till she glows. Go to the gym with her. Jog with her.

7. WASTING YOUR FAMILY MONEY ON MEANINGLESS THINGS

Stop wasting your family money on alcohol, drugs, prostitutes, strippers, and addictions. Invest that money in your family, the future of your child/children. Even if you are a super wealthy man, you can find other ways to have fun that contributes positively to your family life. You can channel your money into more honorable things like supporting your parents, your siblings, the less fortunate, and the needs of society. You don’t have to be unfaithful and reckless just because you have lots of money.

8. JUSTIFYING PORNOGRAPHY

Pornography is lusting after other women on videos and images. This is actually cheating because you are desiring other women, not your wife. This also lays the ground for future acts of unfaithfulness. Because you see no harm in desiring strange women on videos and pictures, soon you will see no harm in desiring women in the streets, at work, in your neighborhood; then you might actually sleep with another woman.

9. THINKING THAT BEING THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY MEANS BEING A DICTATOR

This is what makes some husbands beat up their wives, abuse them, sit on them, and hinder their progress. Your wife is not your junior but your partner, she is one with you. Hurting her is hurting you. She is not your competitor, celebrate her progress. Being head doesn’t mean your word is law or that you treat your wife as a slave. In fact, because you are the head you should serve more, give more and humble yourself to make sure your wife and child/children are doing well.

10. IGNORING YOUR WIFE’S ADVICE

Don’t hide things from your wife. Engage her in making family decisions, you are stronger when you move as a team. Your wife has sharp instincts and she will help you navigate through life’s issues.

11. BEING TOO PROUD TO SAY SORRY OR TO LISTEN

You are capable of doing wrong, and when you do wrong, admit it. Problems don’t get solved when you deny them. You are not perfect. Learn to say sorry to your wife and child/children. By refusing to say sorry, you are showing your wife you are insensitive and that will hurt her and damage the mood at home. Sometimes all a woman needs is for you to say, “I am sorry.” Be open to learning and being corrected. Far too many men are ruining their homes because of pride.

12. ABANDONING YOUR SPIRITUAL ROLE

You are to lead your family, even spiritually. Don’t neglect this role and leave it for your wife alone. Your wife needs your prayers, she needs you to walk with her in God. Your child/children need to see you living for God, praying, and teaching them about God. You say you want a Godly household, well, be an actively Godly husband and father.

13. TAKING YOUR JOB TITLE HOME

Whether you are a C.E.O, Manager, Director, or an award-winning professional, once you get home or are with your wife and family, put away your title. Play your role as husband and father. Don’t treat your wife and children like subordinates, lording over them. The home is a place of love, not a place for orders, restrictions, pressure, and intimidation.

14. HIDING YOUR FAILURES

In case things don’t go well, you get fired, you get retrenched, or you make a bad decision; share it with your wife, don’t hide it trying to project a fake image of ‘everything is alright’. Your wife is there for you, she will walk with you. Share with her your weaknesses and failures. Love will always win.

15. WORRYING MORE ABOUT WHAT YOUR MALE FRIENDS OR PARENTS THINK THAN PLEASING YOUR FAMILY

Don’t let your friends or parents run your marriage. Don’t let your friends negatively influence you by mocking you that you are being sat on by your wife or wrongly advise you to be tough on your wife just to prove you are man enough. A true friend is a friend to your marriage. Your parents might mean well but might drive a wedge between you and your wife. You left your father and mother to be one with your wife. Defend your home.

16. BEING INTIMATELY SELFISH

Your wife has intimate needs too. Don’t just seek your own gratification and then sleep or leave her unsatisfied. Fulfill her physically. Kiss her, touch her, embrace her, massage her, stimulate her, explore her body, evoke her passion, make her tremble, give her every sensual pleasure. She is devoted to you, and no other can fulfill this role like you can. Make sure she’s fulfilled, and she’ll reciprocate. Your responsibility is to arouse her and satisfy her intimately. A passionately engaged wife is a content wife and fosters a harmonious home. Make love to her.

17. LETTING HER BE THE PARENT ALONE

When she gets pregnant, don’t abandon her. Walk with her as she carries your child. After birth, be proactive in teaching, mentoring, and guiding your child/children. Stop the nonsense of when the child does wrong, the child is your wife’s; when the child does well, you are a proud father.

18. FAILING TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN FOR YOUR SUCCESSION

When you start a business, involve your child/children. Let your wife know of your properties, assets, and ventures. Prepare your children’s future. Write a will. Share information, don’t keep things in the dark. Too much unnecessary confusion plagues families because of lack of preparation in your marriage.

PA is a Sinister Form of Domestic Abuse

Parental alienation is a complex attachment disorder in which one parent psychologically, wilfully, and covertly conditions a child to fear and despise the other parent—whether mother or father. This results in the child’s unjustified rejection of a loving parent and anyone associated with them. Through a relentless campaign of lies, coercion, and manipulation, the alienating parent enforces their control, exploiting the child’s vulnerability. These destructive behaviours often surface after a high-conflict separation or divorce, stemming from a need for vengeance. While it’s non-gendered, it’s frequently associated with a cluster B personality disorder, such as narcissism. Parental alienation is not a custody issue—it’s a profound issue of child protection, a mental health crisis, and a form of psychological abuse that demands urgent recognition and action.

It goes by many names—‘the excluded parent’ phenomenon, pathogenic parenting, hostile aggressive parenting, child alienation, intractable contact, psychological manipulation, chronic litigation, spousal abuse, family bond obstruction… but by any name, it is abuse. And it is woefully misunderstood, maligned, and mistreated.

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True Love

Forgiving the dark and the those that have harvested us is really a way to set us free

As Only TRUE LOVE can set the mind hive free and the prisons for the diamond christ prisms to awaken within the body

forgiving the part of you that’s been parasitical too- seeking outside for love for the next hit the Light the source / the part these entities attach and latch too and then forgive them too

I have found that in this big purge the parasiticals and entities /energies have amplified up their harvest because they know their food source is going to end and the light will transform

Them too – as we step into the solar light of our cells and raise our vibrations in our light body

Yet I had found shaming them or fighting them or even going in very intense detoxes really kept this battle going and turning to face the inner parasitical –

And loving them all – forgiving them all in the divine heart of unconditional love healed this so deeply without any force or fight…

There will come a time you will have to forgive the unforgivable and forgive the worst things imaginable –

Yet when we find the courage to Forgive it all – watch things shift because you will naturally shift vibration as you accept the past of you that attracted this all and no longer orbit with them 🌟💎🌟

Love over fear – as Easter allows us to cleanse the smoke screens and mirrors , and transform the inner vessel from the inside out and find light there in the dark

Find love where there was once pain …

Where we have been ruled by fear

Let us now be ruled by love and the spirit taking over our egoic and Parasites by forgiveness – acceptance is really a healing tonic for all ..

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When we rise with the sun and turn to face the light

…. The gold can be reclaimed as we strengthen the inner boundaries like a Magnet field around the aura as we stop seeking light and love outside and just become it

these energies are no longer going to be aligned or a match to feed off us from the inside out as

we integrate the egoic back to her heart

It is the only cure

Unconditional Love 🌟🌹♾️

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This is when the true awakening can begin to a whole mother level – whale level and also magnitude Magnet level of higher consciousness opening within the higher womb of Christ – the higher heart and in turn the higher over sol and higher mind and body

Christ consciousness dna

This is where we get to experience a love that’s so pure that we found it from the bottom of the ocean where we put all our pieces back togther again to unlock the jigsaw to the next level ——

And literally a whole new world

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This is a higher awakening of the Sophia Christ entering to love us from the inside out unlocking the gate to being sin free

And HE is returning within her

Present

Stable

A base of a house of god

Where all can bloom in his halo

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To awaken the sol back into its own re possession as the passion of Christ and fire of their love as one with

No false ownership to separate the inner twins

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When you become love

You no longer seek it

You just become and beacon it

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The cup is full ,

the chalice restored

And it’s here we can welcome healthy whole free and safe love

True love

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A peaceful love – a stable love no longer a battlefield of amnesia or one fighting the other

Equilibrium, balance and unity – purity.

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And we no longer need anything filled from the outside in to fill this void space as we closed the illusions webs and gates feeding it ….

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We found the good within and forgave the rest and god re connects as a frequency of home within ….

Magic births and miracles come true when we journey back to gods code within

And trust that we are the saviour and we get the pen back to co create our dreams come true and we are worthy so very worthy of them all !!!

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The omnipresence of love

Is the Christ return here on earth

And this is what we attune to

This is the end and the beginning of all we knew and now all we can remember

Who we always were

Trauma free

Parasites free

And rise again at Easter

🪻🤍🪽🌻🌟🌹🌟🕊️🪄♾️🗡️🍎

Kathryn Emily

Emotional Coercion, Psychological Abuse & Manipulation- Charlie McCready

The idea that the alienating parent is not standing in the way of your relationship with your child is pure theatre. It’s an act. Behind the scenes, they’ve already given the child their lines and coached them into believing the character they’re supposed to play. Indoctrination, such as when a child is alienated and without justification for their rejection of you, is what’s happening. The child isn’t being given choices. They’ve already been coercively controlled and enmeshed into an alignment with the alienating parent.⁠

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A child’s expression of wishes holds such power and is often a deciding factor in proceedings concerning them, but it should be acknowledged as a voice, not a choice. Placing the child in a position where they must select one parent over the other goes beyond being inappropriate. Children often desire things at age 8 or 9 that they’d go nowhere near ten years later. I’ll give you an example. I thought it would be incredibly cool to be a lion tamer. Thankfully my parents didn’t think to put me in a lion’s den with a whip and a whistle, thinking that my needs must be met because this is what I believed was right for me. I also wanted to be able to fly, and they didn’t send me off to be operated on with wings attached to me surgically. Of course, children need to be heard, but they also have to be guided, nurtured, given boundaries while not being totally indoctrinated. Children might not know better than to wish for something detrimental to them, as in the case of being allowed to choose to reject a loved, loving parent, having been encouraged by the alienating parent to do so.⁠

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Research shows that many adults who, in their youth, rejected a parent, having been given a lot of pressure to do so by the other parent, later came to regret it and wished somebody would have had the sense to help them realise this was not a good idea – friends, family, legal or mental health professionals, anybody. ⁠

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Taking, ‘it’s their choice’ at face value fails to recognise the extent of coercive control, psychological abuse, and manipulation at play, which can have profound negative effects on the child’s emotional development and well-being.⁠

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