Strength of a Woman – Shaggy

My dear friend Susan Huff shared this song with me , instructing me to turn it up and 🕺!

Susan Huff showed up on my mountain top home and proceeded ( with many challenges ) with her life partner John Bell to open a community store full of local offerings .

Susan graduate of Integrative Nutrition is a superb and creative organic maestro in the culinary. She has worked with me and provides A plus meals and specializes in Soup ; thus The Soup Shop was born and it answered a long standing dream of mine !!!

And it’s as locally stocked as one can provide !

I am indeed Blessed ; especially after the experience of an opponent who targeted me , in business and reduced my income to the degree of requiring charity !

WOW !

Shades of the former ” partner” without marriage , just a very crooked shadow that failed in an attempt to divest me of everything , or counting on me to commit suicide ?!

It’s been a very harsh and hard lesson that brought about much enlightenment and now conclusions that insure I am not ever going to be vulnerable in any way shape or form

Like the former , in affirming you don’t care if I eat or am safe but create drama and trauma to steal anything and every thing , in denial of your responsibilities…. END GAME

So yea I know my invaluable strengths , the karmic return for each person who masked the evil and devil energy of lies and secrets .

Thank you and I surrender this to Divine

Almost brunch time , yes I cook in my room and it’s so much easier with my angels Susan Huff whose food is my medicine

Hailing from Florida and a very tiny lady , Susan feels our chill on our mountain which is damp based and righteous!

The Soup Shop Is on Face Book

Strength of A Woman – Shaggy

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Self Love

I had to self love or buy that the distorted , malignant abuse was deserved .

I touched on his distorted mentality, but had no validation and then it was the chemical straightjacket of psychiatry that allowed him to blame me for everything and he to be the hero/ savior/ father /child who was never interested in partnership or growth as a couple or in parenting our 3 sons

He’s past due for the facts and an end to his every effort to control and destroy me , mentally , physically and most of all spiritually . I never ever sensed his connection to any higher power .

Self nurture , and self love were absolutely necessary in my varied efforts to survive !

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna

“Do you love Me?” Alice asked.

“No, I don’t love you!” replied the White Rabbit.

Alice frowned and clasped her hands together as she did whenever she felt hurt.

“See?” replied the White Rabbit. “Now you’re going to start asking yourself what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so that I can’t love you at least a little.

You know, that’s why I can’t love you. You will not always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored with life, will have their heads in the clouds, and will hurt you.

Because people are like that, they somehow always end up hurting each other’s feelings, whether through carelessness, misunderstanding, or conflicts with themselves.

If you don’t love yourself, at least a little, if you don’t create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the feeble annoyances caused by others will become lethal and will destroy you.

The first time I saw you I made a pact with myself: ‘I will avoid loving you until you learn to love yourself.’ ”

– Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Time Passes By ; People Move On – Kathy Mattea

Always loved this song and not came to mind last night as I once against face exiting the distorted and abusive past .

I accept that the marriage was a sham on his part and I became the past as he exited for his ” happiness ” .

Feeling his distortion, his causal , distracted interest which required him to make plans . A new partner, his money and property were his main concern and owing victimhood he slowly made it clear to our sons and family and friends that they favor him exclusively! It was a breech if they did otherwise unless gathering information he needed . I can assure you he hasn’t let go and won’t until a court hearing.

The past , is long past and my effort for over 20 years has be thwarted by laws that protect him and his deceits and transgressions of the law of men and not of our state .

Yes , even white women are enslaved by laws erected in the early 1950’s !!!

Time For A Change for sure and it’s coming by force after decades of asking , he had a choice to correct everything .

Even after discussing the mental and physical side effects of his malignant abuse on our children .

It’s always what’s best for him .His sense of family , of cooperation lost in lieu of the all powerful , all knowing and all shadow that he repeated with his new ” happy” but just wants in the past as if it never happened .

Time has marched on , and the losses in that time have been many but only strengthened my spiritual experience.

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I am still posting on my cell phone which does not show the option to post a link.

I’m working on a resolution!

Blessings & Peace ☮️

Dona Luna

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Childress -Treatment

I should talk about treatment.

You should know stuff about treatment. I thought about telling you about delusional disorders, you should know what they are too. But you need to know about treatment more.

Not the treatment of your children and this pathology – yet – just treatment of treatment stuff. Like behavior therapy and an Applied Behavioral Analysis. You should know about that (it will lead into DBT therapy because DBT is based on behavioral therapy principles of Applied Behavioral Analysis).

Behavior therapy is the “B” in DBT. You should know what the A-B-C’s of ABA are. What? Exactly.

It’s easy once you understand it. The Contingent Visitation Schedule is a behavior therapy structure (over a Strategic family systems intervention).

You should know about Solution-Focused therapy most definitely. That’s what’s going to unlock the trauma piece of the puzzle and get things moving forward. Do things seem stuck in one place? Solution-Focused therapy will unstick it.

You should also know about Narrative therapy – it is excellent. It’s a tricky little post-modern social constructionsist therapy, it’s in the same school of psychotherapy as Solution-Focused therapy. I use Narrative therapy all the time and no one sees it because no one knows what it is. I should introduce you to Narrative therapy.

Don’t try this at home kids, Dr. Childress is a trained professional. If untrained people start using knowledge willy-nilly, you might create a better world, and you wouldn’t want that.

So be careful with the knowledge I give you. The application of knowledge by untrained people could create a wonderful world, and you’re not ready for that yet – so use it in small doses so you don’t create wonderful too fast. Slowly.

I should tell you about therapy. Not therapy for your kids, not exactly, not yet. Just therapy for therapy things. What is it and how does it work.

There’s schools of therapy – four – actually five – actually six. Five and six are amazingly effective, but you need to know schools one-through-four as the basics for understanding therapy, then add five, then add six.

The four primary schools are

1. Psychoanalytic – Freud and the couch – this is the grand-daddy school of them all, called “depth-psychology” – it’s evolved to Self Psychology with a primary guy Kohut who is immensely relevant to the family conflict pathology in the courts. Bowlby, attachment, and Tronick, intersubjectivity, are in the psychoanalytic school.

2. Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT) – Skinner and lab animals – this is the reward-and-punishment behavioral therapy approach. Actually it’s about cues and triggers – what cues (elicits) the behavior. Sometimes it’s what we think – that’s the cognitive part of CBT. It’s the primary school in use most everywhere, and CBT is the foundation for DBT (Linehan).

3. Humanisitic-Existential – self-actualization and growth – this is the soft and accepting school of therapy – Rogers Client Centered therapy. This school of therapy is about transformations, it’s not appropriate for the pathology here in the family courts.

Family Systems – it’s about families and how they work – this is the school of psychotherapy that should be applied when diagnosing and treating family conflict – there’s three schools within family systems – Minuchin Structural – Haley & Madanes Strategic – Bowen Bowenian (he kinda describes it all, with the others expanding on Bowen-themes).

The fifth school is Post-Modern Social Constructionism – I think of them as boutique therapies – Cultural therapy – Feminist therapy – Solution-Focused therapy – Narrative therapy. They are all amazingly powerful, tricky to learn but powerful when used.

I strongly suggest the addition of Solution-Focused therapy to DBT family therapy for this pathology in the courts, it will release the process from its focus on the past. I add Solution-Focused therapy to pretty much everything I do from the other schools of psychotherapy.

I like Narrative therapy a lot. I use it a lot. I embed Narrative therapy into my work in the other schools as well. The Post-Modern Social Construction schools of psychotherapy are like principles – you can use the principles within the other schools as well.

They all blend. But do you know what happens when you blend a bunch of paints together? It turns to mud-color. Mixing colors to create a painting is a professional craft.

I should tell you about therapy. You’re going to want DBT (court-adapted), that’s from the Cognitive-Behavioral school, so you should know about an Applied Behavioral Analysis, you’ll find that helpful.

You should know about attachment-therapy, that’s from the Psychoanalytic school – that’s going to be Tronick and his breach-and-repair sequence. You’ll find that helpful too – watch Tronick’s Still Face YouTube description of his research on the breach-and-repair sequence.

You should know about Solution-Focused therapy too so you can get un-stuck from your stuck. You’d probably like to be unstuck from your stuck.

Dr. Childress and the School of Rock… er… Psychotherapy, this Sunday 8 Pacific on Facebook Live. Let’s change the world – slowly – go slow – you don’t want to create wonderful too fast, you’re not ready for a wonderful world just yet, so just use a little of the knowledge I give you to solve little things until you’re ready to solve everything.

Don’t create the solution too fast because then you won’t have a problem to fix, and you need your problem. Why do you need your problem? I don’t know. It makes no sense to me, but you hold onto it so I guess you need it.

So fix it slowly. Otherwise you’ll wind up with everything fixed and you won’t have your problems anymore.

Dr. Childress – Schools of Psychotherapy – Sunday over morning coffee and crumpets. Let’s rock this Internet thing and take her out for a spin to see what she can do – tomorrow at 8 Pacific.

Schools of Psychotherapy and coffee with Dr. Childress.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Relationships

Totally agree with this article .

I have no interest in a non interested

partner whose going to have the 3rd

party …. Mom, gal friend , work ( too busy)

Relationships can be tricky at times. Everyone has many relationships of all kinds. The Angels say that with every relationship, the degree of how satisfied, how pleased you are depends on how willing you are to let that relationship evolve at a pace that works for both of you. Each relationship is not like another and should never be held in comparison to others. If you have a preconception of how it is to look, to be and to play out, you are in for disappointment. Expecting conformity is not beneficial to either of you. A parent may have a complete map and itinerary of how their child may live their life and thus stifle their growth and creativity. A partner might seek to make the other conform to what they think is a perfect mate and find that is not what comes. Your Angels encourage you to not project illusions of what you believe or want into any relationship. You cannot mold anyone to your specifications. A relationship must have freedom and space for both parties to expand and grow. Respect the uniqueness of each relationship and of any other person. Allow them to be who they want to be and expect to be allowed the same. If you do, wonderful and beautiful things can occur.

Trust

When the masculine desires feminine surrender.. and the feminine yearns to surrender into her heart..

It is not a mental decision,

It is not a choice from the mind,

It is an entrusting state of being…

A complete release of guarded control..

When a woman is in her feminine energy, she does not desire to be the boss of the relationship…

She cannot surrender into the unlimited potency of her heart space, when her mind is activated to make decisions or keep her heart protected from harm.

She desires her man to lead..

However, whether she can surrender, and allow him to lead, all depends on if she can trust him..

If she can trust him

To keep her safe..

Does he protect her heart as his own ?

If she can trust him

To keep her held..

Does he delight in her flow of expression ?

If she can trust him

To keep her free..

Does he encourage her to be her authentic self ?

Once a woman feels

Safe

Held

And free

In the arms of her man

Once she can trust him

To always have her best interests in mind..

Once she can trust him

To make decisions from a space of unity..

Once she can trust him

To penetrate her heart from a place of love..

Once she can trust;

His inner strength

His resilience

His humility

His integrity

His devotion

Then and only then

Will she will be able to trust him

To lead her …

To lead her to a place

She has never been before

To lead her on a journey

Through rapture and pain

A journey together…

Deeper and deeper

Into love

~ Karen Star ♥️♥️♥️

Abusive Ex : Tell Your Children The Truth

I begged him for decades

He expresses love for our sons but it’s noted they belong to him .

He ignored the health and emotional trauma that result .

He excels at that .

I wish him well , but know I must address this as has been his requirement. That expose this war of his , and his Mother is adversely affected .

Who knows ? He’s not a talker….

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