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Whom Should I Be Loyal To? — Choosing Between Our Parents and Our Partner

Many couples grapple with the challenge of one partner’s parents exerting a significant influence in their lives, often resulting in compromises being imposed on the other. Whether it’s decisions related to leisure time, parenting choices, or even seemingly trivial matters like how to serve holiday soup, it’s often the mother-in-law or father-in-law who takes charge.
— Read on esztersweeklyelephant.substack.com/p/whom-should-i-be-loyal-to-choosing-between-our-parents-and-our-partner-60d1cd9b4a27

Parenting Tip : Dorcy Pruter

Despite obstacles that we may face, life is all about what you make of it. How you choose to go about each day and how you choose to face challenges, makes all the difference.

We can choose to stay stuck, or we can choose to move forward; we can choose to be upset for months on end, or we can choose to overcome the pain; we can choose to blame other factors for why we don’t take action, or we can choose to just take action ourselves. The choice is up to US!

While life can be full of obstacles and challenges, fortunately we can choose to overcome those.

We are so thrilled to be working with the Chosen Parents who are choosing to resolve their family conflict and reunite with their children, despite obstacles.

The Alienated Child – Charlie Mc Cready

The alienated child is coercively controlled, enmeshed and trauma bonded into a confusing, frightening, upsetting and terrible experience. The drip-feeding of a negative narrative about a parent they love and who they are led to believe no longer loves them and/or has abandoned them is immensely difficult for them to process. It’s traumatic, and the alienating behaviours are like a poison entering their system and contaminating them. It is psychological abuse. In order to cope/survive, they will gradually ‘split’ (induced psychological splitting), because of the pressure to align with one parent and reject the other. Because of the indoctrination inflicted on them, subtly, and manipulatively they enter into a shared delusional mindset with the alienating parent and basically succumb. They start believing: I disown / hate / reject my mum/dad, who I loved so much. I know they’ve not actually harmed me, and they love me too, but at the same time, I hear all these things my aligned/alienating mum/dad is saying. It makes me feel protective, upset, and angry. I’m confused. I feel betrayed. This is horrible, I feel bad, and for this, I blame the parent who caused all this. They think I am being controlled but I have a mind of my own. If I have fears and doubts, I hide them. I don’t want to talk about this with anyone. If I think about it, I know deep down, I love my other parent, but I don’t want to feel anymore pain, guilt, or shame. I know what I’m doing. My ‘aligned’ parent needs me, and loves me more, and they do all they do for my sake, to protect me, because they love me. I have to reject the other parent to make my ‘aligned’ parent happy. It’s just easier like this. There must be a reason why this is all happening.

And, when the alienated child finds out the reason for ever ‘hating’ one of their parents was simply because of selfishness and disordered parenting from their apparently protective, caring, loving parent, it is a terrible sense of betrayal.

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Boys Are Feral and Raising Them Is Worth Every Single Wild Moment – Her View From Home

Boy moms know that little boys are feral and raising them is worth every single wild and crazy moment with your sons.
— Read on herviewfromhome.com/boys-are-feral-and-raising-them-is-worth-every-single-wild-moment/

Foxes guarding the hen house – Charlie Mc Cready – Parental Alienation

“The fox guarding the hen house” is an idiom which evokes the imagery of a potentially harmful situation where those in authority might exploit their entrusted responsibilities, just as a fox, an animal known to prey on hens, shouldn’t be assigned the duty of protecting the hens it might be tempted to sacrifice for their own good. In the context of ‘parental alienation’, the family court system, and the role of mental health professionals, this idiom resonates deeply with the struggles faced by alienated parents who often lack robust support from those placed in positions of authority and guidance. It suggests a huge conflict of interest. It could also be that the alienating parent is the fox. They present themselves as protective, when in fact, they are just looking after their own interests. They exploit their connection to their child, they manipulate the child’s perception of the world outside ‘the henhouse’. The child does not perceive the danger they’re in. ⁠

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In either of these scenarios, the fox becomes symbolic of those who exploit their authority or positions of trust, potentially causing harm to the well-being of children and families. ⁠

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There is a need for unbiased risk assessments, collaborative solutions, and a commitment to the well-being of all parties involved. It cannot be taken at face value that there’s ‘parental alienation’ or ‘domestic abuse’ and those in positions of power and safeguarding need to be able to determine what’s really going on. We need vigilance, fairness, and objectivity, with those in positions of authority understanding alienating behaviours and acting with the utmost integrity and empathy, ultimately safeguarding the well-being of families and children caught in these complex dynamics.⁠

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I Want My Son To See His Father Love His Mother – Her View From Home

Sadly 3 sons did not see their father love their mother , far from it

As my son is growing up I want him to see what it looks like for his father to love his mother, so when he’s married he’ll be a husband who loves his wife.
— Read on herviewfromhome.com/marriage-my-son-see-father-love-mother/

Teenagers n Adults – Human Condition

HumanCondition.com

By the age of 13, the reality of life deepens. Adults are unable to adequately explain the horror of the world to #teenagers because they themselves are in denial of the #humancondition.

But for teenagers, who can see it all clearly, the wrongness of adult behaviour is a mystery.

From their point of view, adults have been fake and fraudulent and don’t even admit that there is a very real and serious problem with human behaviour.

• Why is everyone so unhappy and preoccupied?

• Why are people so fake?

• Why do people kill each other?

• Why do parents fight so much?

• Why are we going to a party when people are starving?

There’s a huge issue in life that nobody is talking about, and children have had to discover for themselves why it was so necessary to ignore it. They’ve had to work out why adults find the human condition such an unconfrontable, off-limits subject. Eventually they too resign themselves to the reality of life, but given the truly awful world that adolescence have to resign themselves to, it’s little wonder they retreat, become retaliatory and try to block the whole world out, trying their utmost to resist the inevitable resignation to a life of denial.

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BUT wonderfully, adults can now be honest about the human condition, be honest about their fraudulent, superficial existence and explain why it has been such an important and necessary part of the human journey. The relief this honesty will bring to teenagers (and adults) is astronomical and most beautifully will allow them to retain their zest for life and make the need to resign to the hellish adult world unnecessary.

Thank goodness! http://www.humancondition.com

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Symptom of Parental Alienation/Child Psychological Abuse

When a child decides they never want to see one of their parents again, they might come up with a silly or made-up reason.

It could be a story with little or no real evidence, but somehow it becomes a strong, believable experience in their mind.

This often happens when a child is caught in the middle of a difficult family situation, and their emotions may lead them to create reasons that might not be entirely true.

It’s important for adults involved to understand and address these situations with sensitivity and care, considering the emotional impact on the child and working towards a resolution that benefits everyone involved.

Join us on this journey of support and shared experiences. Register at pa-a.org

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