Tag: family

Some Parentified Kids Grow Up to Be Compulsive Caretakers – The Atlantic

Some people who have to be responsible for their siblings or parents as children grow up to be compulsive caretakers.
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2017/10/when-kids-have-to-parent-their-siblings-it-affects-them-for-life/543975/

Why Parents and Kids Get Estranged – The Atlantic

Both parents and adult children often fail to recognize how profoundly the rules of family life have changed over the past half century.
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/01/why-parents-and-kids-get-estranged/617612/

Charlie Mc Cready – Social Services

It is tragic that social services etc in this case, and so many others, are so concerned about the alienating parent’s mental health, that they sacrifice the child’s and the target parent’s. The child has finally come to a teacher saying they’re afraid to go home, that their parent is ‘trouble’ and yet this isn’t seen as an opportunity for the ‘target’ parent to step in because that will upset the alienating parent. It’s madness. Of course, the child will probably be saying they don’t want to go to the alienated parent’s home because they fear the retribution, and also they’ve been programmed to believe this is not good for them either (for many reasons that have been imprinted on them). It is incredibly sad that this isn’t an opportunity to mend the relationship with the non-abusive parent. Social services try to do their best, but it is based on false information and a child who has been enmeshed, trauma bonded and psychologically abused.

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Coming to terms with the pathology of CPA & PA – Charlie Mc Cready

Parents who become alienated (not estranged, alienation is rejection with no justification), from their previously loving children benefit from coming to terms with the pathology. This is to understand the root causes of the problem. We often find we cannot rely on the mental health and legal services offered. If they don’t have an understanding of ‘parental alienation’ it can be a waste of your time and and resources, and potentially exacerbate the situation. That is unfortunate and I hope things will change, but as I write, this is the situation we’re in. There are a number of reasons for this which I often address, but that’s not what this post is about. ⁠

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Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) is often recommended during adversarial court cases. It was originally designed for people with borderline personality disorder, and it focuses on teaching emotional management, enhancing interpersonal relationships, and developing mindfulness techniques. Incorporating acceptance and change strategies, DBT emphasises the balance between self-acceptance and personal growth, which is particularly helpful for people struggling with emotional regulation, self-destructive behaviours, and unstable relationships. Where there’s a dearth of empathy and potential for cruel behaviours (in the alienated parent or the children), Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) could be integrated. They are often dealing with the drama, disruption and chaos created by a borderline/narcissistic/dark personality, alienating parent. CFT helps those who are trying to cope with shame, guilt, and self-loathing. It can rewire the shared delusional beliefs imposed on them through the alienating behaviours. It incorporates mindfulness too for stress reduction. ⁠

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Navigating the complexities of parental alienation isn’t easy, but through the application of therapeutic approaches like DBT and CFT, there’s a path toward fostering healing and understanding. Also through my 9-step program or 1-2-1 private coaching, alienated parents can work toward restoring the bond with their children, building resilience, and a more positive future.⁠

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Apps to monitor communication between parents ? Charlie Mc Cready

There are several apps and platforms that family court lawyers may recommend to parents involved in custody battles to facilitate communication and monitor interactions related to their children. Features may include secure messaging, shared calendars, and document storage. The idea is to improve communication and reduce conflict after divorce or separation, especially in cases where there are disagreements over contact and custody. It’s supposed to include communication from grandparents and other family members, as well as parents and children, connecting all important information in one secure place. Abusive texts are monitored. It’s supposed to make life harder for the abusive parent, to check their tone, their language, or their lack of communication, but for many, a ‘tonemeter’ is an extra fee. The children have access, but there are safeguards in place so they can’t see communication between their parents. A Family Court Advisor undertaking a Section 7 report, or a mediator, or a childcare worker, can also have access. ⁠

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Some users may find the app to be helpful in facilitating communication and document sharing between co-parents, while others may have concerns about its cost and functionality. There are many complaints, with some people saying the software inverted who owes whom what. Others have said it’s near impossible to cancel renewals. Nobody answers phones. It’s generally said that the only reason anyone uses this software is because of court orders to do so. Most reviews seem to agree it’s all a waste of time and money. It’s a pity they’re not better. What do you think? ⁠

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Mothers worth $

New research has confirmed that being a mother is equivalent to working 98 hours a week 🤯

In a survey of 2000 mothers, researchers found that the average daily start time is at 6:25am and her end time is not until 8:31pm. That’s a 14 hour day plus weekends. 🥵

So next time you are tired or doubt yourself as a mother, just remember that you are a QUEEN 👑