Tag: erasing families

When the “ living connection ” of mother & child is broken

One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognize the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them. Remaining in the relationship means continuing to wait for changes that will never materialize, tolerating hurtful actions, accepting minimal effort, and losing ourselves in an attempt to avoid loss. Although departing will be painful, it will ultimately lead to healing. Conversely, staying will perpetuate the cycle of hurt, causing the wound to deepen. Sometimes, choosing to leave is not a reflection of a lack of love for the person, but rather a demonstration of self-love and self-care, which necessitates leaving with love. -Unknown

Misdiagnosed Child Abuse -Craig Childress PsyD

Follow the yellow brick road. Follow the yellow brick road. Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow brick road.

If you’re not Following me on Bluesky, why not? It’s useful information.

If your attorney, your involved mental health professionals, your GALs and Parenting Coordinators, are not Following me on Bluesky, why not?

Sometimes I skeet about diagnosis. Sometimes I skeet about dark personalities. Sometimes I skeet about the court-involved assessment. Everything I skeet about is court-custody and treatment related.

Droplets of information each day, like a gentle rain of knowledge into the parched desert of the family courts.

I do what I do. You do what you do. We’re both working toward exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse by a pathological parent.

I’m not your warrior – you’re the warrior fighting to protect your child. I’m a clinical psychologist with knowledge that’s useful to you. I’m your weapon.

I’m headed into the AFCC to contact the Hydra. You can’t do that. I can and I am because I do something different. I’m a clinical psychologist not a parent. We’re both working for exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse – differently.

Because we’re in different roles.

Part of my role as a doctor is to educate the patient – you – about the pathology you have in your family… and with your child… so that you, as a parent, can get a proper assessment that will return an accurate diagnosis and effective treatment plan… to fix things.

Courts and the legal system land on the wrong end-point. Courts and the legal system land on the Court’s custody decision. That’s the wrong end-point of consideration.

The healthcare system lands on treatment. That’s where we need to end up – with a treatment plan that fixes things and gives the child a normal-range childhood.

For a treatment plan… you’ll need a diagnosis. For an effective treatment plan, you’ll need an accurate diagnosis.

If we treat cancer with insulin because we think it’s diabetes, the patient will die from the misdiagnosed cancer. Whenever possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our returned diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.

Misdiagnosing child abuse is too devastating to the child. We need to get it right – every time. We can do that when there’s the motivation to to that.

The appellate system in healthcare for a disputed diagnosis is a second opinion, or even a third opinion. Doctors in healthcare consult all the time – because we need our diagnosis accurate and early – we need to start treatment right away.

Any diagnosis returned into the legal system will be a disputed diagnosis – so – let’s get a second or even third opinion right at the start through telehealth.

Get one primary treatment provider who will both diagnose and then treat the pathology. Allow each litigant parent to appoint a second-opinion doctor of their choice to represent their interests and concerns. Then let the doctors do what doctors do.

You’ll get a report from the primary treating doctor (duty of care) and two consulting reports that agree, or perhaps disagree to a degree. Provide this information to the Court for its decision-making.

The Court can decide which doctors make sense – and the doctors should make sense. They should 1) describe the symptoms, 2) describe the diagnostic criteria and established knowledge applied, and 3) the diagnosis that is supported by the symptom pattern.

Doctors are not concerned with custody. That’s the Court’s decision based on all the evidence it considers. There is NO quasi-judicial role for doctors. Doctors diagnose and treat pathology.

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with the child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with the child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming that parent.

Is there child abuse? If a child is rejecting a parent, yes, there is child abuse by one parent or the other, we just don’t know which one yet.

It might be authentic child abuse by the targeted parent creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent – OR – it might be child psychological abuse by the allied parent who is creating a persecutory thought disorder and false (factitious) attachment pathology in the child for secondary gain to the parent.

Which parent is abusing the child? We need a proper risk assessment to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent to answer that question.

Then we protect the child. That’s what we do in ALL cases of child abuse. We always protect the child because ALL mental health professionals have a duty to protect in cases of three types of dangerous pathology – suicide – homicide – abuse (child, spousal, elder).

It’s not “complex” – it’s simple. What’s the diagnosis? Collect the symptom patterns, apply the diagnostic criteria patterns, and if there’s a pattern-match… that’s your diagnosis.

That’s not complex. That’s simple.

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Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857

Unhealed Parents

A child’s first enemy is often an unhealed parent. It’s a subtle, almost invisible dynamic that creeps into a household without warning. Picture a parent, heavy with unprocessed pain, wielding their wounds like invisible weapons—sharp words, dismissive glances, unreachable affection. The child doesn’t see the parent’s trauma; they only feel the sting of its consequences. An unhealed parent might unintentionally pass down shame, anger, or fear, not because they don’t love their child, but because their own love has been tangled in the web of their past. Imagine a parent who flinches when their child cries—not because they don’t care, but because the sound dredges up their own unheard cries from decades ago. Without realizing it, they teach the child that emotions are dangerous, that their needs are burdensome.

Now, contrast this with a healed parent. Imagine a parent who has faced their own darkness, who has wrestled their demons and come out on the other side. They create a different kind of space for their child—a sanctuary where emotions are allowed to breathe and wounds can be mended instead of ignored. When a healed parent hears their child cry, they don’t recoil; they lean in. They don’t silence the child or rush to fix it. Instead, they validate, comfort, and teach resilience. The difference is profound. An unhealed parent unknowingly becomes an adversary, while a healed parent becomes a guide. One teaches survival; the other teaches thriving. And yet, the tragedy is that the unhealed parent was once a child too—a child whose first enemy might have been their own unhealed parent. The cycle is unrelenting until someone, somewhere, decides to break it.

Exadus Project

The soul of a woman, a mother who has been emotionally tortured by a depraved narcissistic abuser, cannot be explained in simple terms. Being stabbed from the inside out, in front of your children, in front of God, takes a special kind of demon, the kind that many are convinced only exist in the movies. If only that were true.

We see this ugliness up close and in person every month. Mothers with broken teeth, mothers with scars over their whole body, mothers with children who have been severely abused, mothers so severely traumatized that they can barely talk. This year, our abuse advocacy program has helped over 500 mothers and their children (over 1,100) escape homelessness, as the result of fleeing abusive relationships of every kind. We’ve stepped in and bailed mothers out of jail who were falsely accused by their abuser to manipulate the family court system into taking their children, and helped to reunite those mothers with their children by providing assistance to secure permanent housing. 51 of the mothers had to be relocated to undisclosed locations with permanent housing to escape abusers hell bent on violating restraining orders and taking children the courts awarded full custody to the mother. One mother, one too many, was sadly murdered by her abuser in front of her children, just 2 days before we were set to move her into her new permanent housing.

We end each year with a drive, a push to help 125 abused mothers and their children secure permanent housing. This December, we’ve helped 87 mothers and their children secure permanent housing with rent/utility deposit, household furnishings, food and personal necessities. We have 38 mothers remaining and I am personally asking friends and supporters to help us help these mothers end the nightmare of homelessness with a year-end donation to The Exodus Project. I am asking those who can to make a generous donation of $10 or whatever God puts on your heart. Please visit The Exodus Project today to lend your support by following to link below and in my comment to this post. Bless you and thank you!

Website: http://www.theexodusproject.com/helping-homeless-abuse-victims/

Craig Childress PsyD – Petition to the APA

Hey, hey, hey… do you know why I hand-delivered the Petition to the APA signed by 20,000 parents to the APA – to expose the pathogen in the APA… and in you… the targeted parents.

I took two parent advocates with me. Neither parent followed up with the APA. Nothing. They didn’t care about you – just them – “what about me?”

If it’s not directly relevant to them… they don’t care… you don’t care. I know that about you. The Petition to the APA was a “probe” of your motivational networks.

You… the targeted parents… are NOT motivated to solve the pathology in the family courts. You want to solve YOUR family situation… you don’t care about what happens to the other children and parents.

Just you.

I delivered the Petition to the APA for two reasons, 1) to document the APA was told – pursuant to Standard 1.05 – I fulfilled my mandatory (required) obligation. I told them.

What did they do? Nothing. That’s exactly negligent cover-up I wanted to expose in them… so I did. I knew what their motivation was… so I exposed it in the documentation… for now.

I’m solving the pathology in the family courts entirely by myself – goat – I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working. This is my pathology. I’ve fixing systems to fix the pathology.

Now, in 2025, I’ll be turning into the AFCC to deliver broadside after broadside into their forensic custody evaluations… and once I’m sufficiently satisfied, I’ll turn into the APA with the same devastating cannon fire – I told you.

They gave the Petition to the APA to someone within the APA… I know who… it’s like the permanent paint banks put in bags of money in a robbery. When the robber opens the bag – bam – they’re marked with permanent paint.

The Petition to the APA is like that for all psychologists who read it – we all have mandatory, required, obligations under 1.04 and 1.05. There’s a reason for ethical standards. There’s a reason for Standards 1.04 & 1.05.

Sometimes… people just need to see.

I work two to five years ahead. Covid created a delay in my timing. The Petition to the APA is now beginning to glow. I’ll be re-activating it soon.

And it told me about you. You, the parents, never followed-up. Not exactly the you-parents current here, the you-parents who didn’t care about what happened to you… just to them.

So they parents left the awful-awful forensic psychologists they had… for you. Next.

You’re next. I watched. I documented it. That’s what I’ve been doing, documenting everything that’s there – everything – from minor’s counsels, to custody evaluators, to 4-day workshops, to self-proclaimed “experts” in made-up pathology, to the flying monkeys that harass anyone who tries to help you.

The core is the forensic psychologists – the betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t.

They exploited you for you money. That’s the only thing they did. They solved nothing with their experimental approach on you and your children. There’s no quasi-judicial role for doctors… they just made up that role.

Then they made up a new type of assessment for their experimental quasi-judicial role. It failed. Their experimental evaluation is “dangerous” and “harmful to children”, and it “lacks scientific and legal value”.

They are ignorant, incompetent, and unethical… and I’m going after their licenses for their negligently incompetent and unethical malpractice and failure in duty to protect obligations.

If a psychologist participates in child abuse and spousal abuse of their client… they should NOT be a psychologist. They have a duty to protect the child – and the parent – they are failing.

Miserably failing. Their experiment failed – and the lives of thousands of children and their parents were irrevocably destroyed by their failed experiment… these psychologists with names… that I know.

To reveal that which is hidden – The Mirror.

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, are the targeted parents motivated to solve the problem?

No. Only your problem. The targeted parents don’t care what happens to the others. I sent in a probe of their motivational systems… silence from the APA… silence from the parents.

I took two parent advocates with me to hand-deliver the Petition to the APA to the APA offices in Washington, DC… to probe your motivational networks (and to give you a weapon if you wanted one… you don’t want one).

Okay. If you require me to solve everything all by myself… I will. I am. I have. It will take longer. More children and parents of the future will be lost to the pathology.

But you don’t care – they didn’t care – about you – you don’t care about those who follow – “What about me?”

I understand. Your children mean the world to you, you’re afraid, disoriented, and abused – you have a traumatized brain. I understand why.

It’ll just take longer and we’ll lose more children and parents to the pathology. Oh well.

The Petition to the APA is not the only probe I have sent into the motivational networks of the targeted parents. You have the ruby slippers, you can solve this whenever you want… but you don’t – they didn’t.

So you’re here now in exactly the same position they were in… with exactly the same awful-awful doctors and no choice. Go ahead, prove “parental alienation” to a judge at trial just like all the others before you tried to the same outcome… failure and destruction of your lives.

Go ahead… do it over-and-over… try to prove a made-up pathology label rather than rely on the DSM-5. You – don’t – listen.

I have several probes into the parents (and other sectors) to obtain the information I needed… you don’t want to solve the pathology… you want to “prove something to someone”.

What do you want to “prove”? That you “deserve” to be a parent. You don’t believe you do. You question yourself.

Plus you’re abused. You’re an active spousal abuse victim. You have a traumatized brain. The problem isn’t you… it’s my folks, the psychologists… the betrayers.

One group of psychologists exploits you for your money and solves nothing, the forensic psychologists. One group of psychologists abandons you and your children to the pathology, the clinical psychologists.

You have NO competent mental health services in the family courts.

None. Zero.

Let that sink in… you have NO competent mental health services available to you… and professional psychology, the AFCC & APA, and the licensing boards don’t care.

I wonder why that is? I know why that is.

“Dr. Childress, how do I get a diagnosis for my child and family?” A: I don’t know when none of the doctors you have will diagnose pathology.

All the doctors everywhere else in healthcare will diagnose pathology – ADHD – cancer – diabetes – autism – only YOUR doctors, your “forensic” psychologists refuse to diagnose the problem.

And you accept that. They did, the ones before you… so now you have to accept it too. You cannot get a diagnosis for your child and family.

It’s child abuse – Psychological Child Abuse (V995.51) – a shared persecutory delusion and a false (factitious) attachment pathology imposed on the child for secondary gain to the allied parent – but you cannot get a diagnosis for the child abuse from your doctors.

And that will be true for the parents who follow after – because those who came before didn’t care about what happens to you… just them.

Just like you don’t care what happens to them… just you. No one is motivated to solve the pathology… not even you.

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall, show me their motivation.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 6153848 – CA PSY 18857

The manipulated alienated child – Charlie Mc Cready

It’s painful for the alienated child when they realise they’d put their trust in a parent who didn’t entirely have their best interests in mind, they were mostly thinking of themselves. They were being childish, vengeful and selfish when as a parent they’d have been expected, and trusted to be emotionally mature, mentally balanced, nurturing, and unconditionally loving.

Coming to terms with being manipulated, lied to, and deprived of a relationship with a loving parent can be a challenging process for an alienated child. It often involves recognising and acknowledging what really happened, which can evoke feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal. Healing and reconciliation requires support from people who understand parental alienation. They can gradually gain insight into the dynamics at play and develop a healthier perspective on the situation. It is essential for the child to separate their own identity and emotions from the alienating parent’s influence, allowing them to reclaim their autonomy and make informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the healing process involves finding ways to rebuild trust, establish boundaries, and create a fulfilling life that includes a sense of love and connection with both parents, regardless of the alienating parent’s actions.

A significant amount of programming of false beliefs and fictions need to be untangled so they can move on with their life as a sovereign, happy, healthy-minded individual who is free to love who they choose, not only who their alienating parent allows them to love.

Alienated children need to be immensely brave and strong to break free, but they can and do. Some cut ties with the alienating parent; some find a way to have both parents in their lives, which was always the best situation for them.

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