Tag: communication

Conflict Communications – Child Psychological Abuse

I regret I spoke truths sons were not ready for.. I regret they carry the anger , hostility, and fears of their Dad that allow them to target me and relay how worthless I am .

I regret I did not have an awareness in 2003 , as I began to wake , eventually understanding the gravity of decisions made when I wasn’t awake, or alert to schemes to separate me from anything normal in so many ways including the rejection of me , so Dad would be happy ..

I regret , but am surrendered after over 2 decades that I remain the monster in their closets , they are happy and secure in the love and family dynamic of a Dad who had to WIN, at everything , disregarding the abuses of each child and myself .

They have families, they have children , and their own destiny which they have allowed me to know doesn’t include me .

Critical Mass- Inspired

Waking in 2003 to a lot of change , in a state of addiction via psychiatry, and the cover up of my abuse , I had absolutely no input in our children’s lives , etc , I was aware of the spiritual impact. I was a seeker of information on many levels , many topics , as I withdrew from the toxic RX , I studied on line .

I was thrilled to be so Blessed by so many teachers , showing up , and sharing their information on whatever subject I needed guidance with .. I learned to research ..I self tested and rebuilt my life.. albeit walking it back often! But I did not give up .

I realized that a light shone within me and I tried to let that shine that has been off/on .

I ran across a lady , Karen Bishop who wrote on a site ” What’s up on Planet Earth.

She spoke of the shift , around 2006/7 , she wrote of it only taking 11% of the World’s population to create a shift / change , and acknowledged that we had that .

Generations before us , over time laid the foundation , for the change that is happening currently .

#WeGotThis😘🙏🏼✌️

It’s a given that many have cleared generations of abuses , untruths , and much harm.. Not everybody has or will awaken to the positivity of change , and sadly I have acknowledged that , and that there are folks I many never see again..

I am ready, I am resting by grand design and I am rewarded for my efforts that have been ignored , destroyed as the attempt to strip me of possessions , in such trying times, indeed to depress me so much as to take my life… nope , not even close .

Sad that folks come together to do much harm, have a boomerang headed their way , as they expose their hypocrisy and ignorance and lack of growth, in these days of rising , too often the choice is to descend ..

Inspired below

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Craig Childress PsyD – Pathology of Lies

Devoid of truth or light … know this all too well

This is a pathology of lies. How many times have I told you that?

Countless times – because is is true. Stop reacting like it’s unexpected. It’s not. It’s a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time. Not some of the time… all of the time.

Even when there is no reason to lie… it lies. This is a pathology of lies, the pathogen lies all the time. All. How do you know when the pathogen is lying? Its lips are moving. All the time, it lies ALL the time.

I wish I had an example from our everyday world I could show you of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who is collapsing into persectuory delusions and constant continual lies.

You know what that’s like. Your pathological ex- lies to the judge in declarations and you spend hours and hours compiling all the evidence to prove the lies. What do they do when you prove their lies are lies?

They lie again. They just don’t stop lying. It’s a symptom feature of the pathology. So are your huge mountains of evidence you’ve compiled trying to prove reality to people.

You don’t need to prove reality to me. I already know reality – you’re fine – you did nothing wrong, it’s not your fault, you’re ex-spouse is psychotic and cruel – the type of psychotic (out of touch with reality) is called a “persecutory delusion” – delusion is the professional term for the big-lie, the one at the core.

The big lie is that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by you. That’s not true, that’s a lie, that’s just crazy… the professional term for “that’s just crazy” is a delusion, in this case it’s a persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.

I wish I had an example from everyday life I could show you. I think a real-life example would make it oh-so-clear… lying is a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time – all of it. All.

Its lips are moving… it’s lying again.

The pathogen seeks to destabilize you in every way possible. It creates a false reality of lies. You trigger… don’t trigger. Stay grounded. You’re the healthier parent, you’re the protective parent. You have work to do, you’ll need to step-up and step into leading the family.

You will face challenges because the mental health system in the family courts is immensely broken. We’ll need to fly the airplane at the same time as we fix the airplane. That’s a challenge. I’m a certified pilot, I’m here with you and will talk you through it.

We have to obtain an accurate diagnosis for the cause of the attachment pathology with you and your child. You want a treatment plan to fix it. Hold onto that and don’t let go… you want a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology being displayed by the child.

The pathogen tells lies about you. Of course it does – it lies all the time, not some of the time… ALL the time. Even when it doesn’t have to lie… it lies. It’s the craziest thing to see… it doesn’t need to lie… but it can’t help itself… it lies all the time.

Perhaps if you look around you can find an example from our everyday life of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who lies all the time – all of it – forcing the real-world to generate mountains of detailed evidence proving the lies.

And what’s the pathogen’s response when caught – in detail – in the lie? It lies again. Expect it. Anticipate it. Don’t trigger. Don’t disprove the lies – speak the truth – it’s a shared (induced) persecutory delusion – and get an accurate diagnosis because you’ll need a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology in your child and family – to fix the problem.

You’re the healthier parent. We need your leadership in times of chaos and collapse. You’re the protective parent. I know that and you know that. So let’s get to work protecting your child.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Sadness

While reading a book i found this Irish words “Ta Bron Orm”. That means “Sadness is on me”. instead of saying “I am sad”. I love that because you don’t identify yourself with the emotion fully. “Ta Bron Orm” it’s just like sadness is on me.. for a while. You feel sad, but that is not you. Sadness is just there sitting but eventually it’ll leave. And the next day or two, something else will be there for you. That will be not sadness anymore. But something else. You are a person and your emotions are not you. You are not a prisoner of them. 
— Clau Blanco 

Decline of independent children – Mad in America

Childhood anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts are on the rise as opportunities for children to be independent have dwindled, according to a new article in The Journal of Pediatrics. The research, led by psychologist Peter Gray from Boston College, used data on adolescent independence from multiple decades and countries to investigate the high incidence of mental health issues, like anxiety and depression, among today’s youth.

Gray and his co-authors observed that children in the 1970s or earlier had far more freedom to roam, play, and engage in activities without adult supervision than children today. They argue that the decline in opportunities for children to participate in independent activities has contributed to the rise in mental disorders. Independent activities can promote mental health by providing immediate satisfaction and building mental resilience to cope with life’s stresses.

“Those of us old enough to have been children in the 1970s or earlier know from experience that children then had far more freedom to roam, play, and engage in various activities independently of adults than do children today. Research has confirmed that our memories are not distorted,” the authors write.

“Our thesis is that a primary cause of the rise in mental disorders is a decline over decades in opportunities for children and teens to play, roam, and engage in other activities independent of direct oversight and control by adults. Such independent activities may promote mental well-being through both immediate effects, as a direct source of satisfaction, and long-term effects, by building mental characteristics that provide a foundation for dealing effectively with the stresses of life.”

The Decline of Independence and Its Toll on Kids’ Mental Health

www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/the-decline-of-independence-and-its-toll-on-kids-mental-health/