Tag: abuse

People die how they lived : Narcissist are worse at dying- it all comes out

Fear of death seemed to motivate him and others I’ve known who are separated from Christ Consciousness

Very sad but it’s their journey

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Toxic Family Projections -Sherrie Campbell

It should never cease to amaze you when your toxic family members
come at you projecting all of who they are onto you. They demonstrate a dogged refusal to own any of their behaviors, twisted thoughts, and atrocious behaviors. When you take a step back from the relationship, they also show the audacity to act shocked and offended.

This type of crazy-making is core to these types of people. They thrive on manipulation. When you stand for yourself, they criticize you. When you confront, they belittle you.

There is no point in engaging in these dynamics. This is not a sustainable relationship. This is an ongoing battle against the odds that cannot be won and will not end.

Forgiveness- Jeff Brown

Forgiveness is not a concept. It’s a process. And, if you choose not to forgive at the end of that process, it doesn’t mean that you are unhealed. It doesn’t mean that you are a lesser human. It doesn’t mean you are not spiritual or evolved. It doesn’t mean you will come back in the next lifetime to live it out again. It may just mean that forgiveness is not actually in your integrity. The assumption that forgiving the abuser is the benchmark of a completed emotional and karmic process is the mistake. The real benchmark of resolution is whether you have gone through your emotional process authentically and have arrived at a place where the negative charge around the experience has dissipated. Perhaps you will learn some lessons, or perhaps you will eventually be legitimately liberated from the memories. Perhaps you will work it through so completely that you have very little energetic charge around the events. Or perhaps you will actually realize that forgiveness is not essential to your healing, and not your responsibility. The point is that focusing on our responsibility to forgive a wrongdoer sidetracks the whole process. Your sole responsibility is to arrive at whatever destination is true to you.

Sherrie Campbell – create Distance with psychologically abusive family

The goal of any psychologically abusive family member is to make you look insane through the actions of their own insanity. Never will you come across louder, more obnoxious, dramatic or bold people than toxic family members who feel slighted.

When you set boundaries on their outlandish ways of reacting, how abusive they become makes itself plainly obvious. They get loud, they bully, and stonewall hoping you will cower. The goal is to get you to give in and give them their way.

The teaching to take is to create distance, to stoically stand your solid ground, set boundaries and to ignore, ignore, ignore their tantrums.