Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Nudging

“If my energy doesn’t wake you up,

I’m not for you.

If my mind doesn’t inspire you,

don’t force the connection.

If my thought doesn’t make you think deeper,

it’s no point in keeping me in mind.

If my passion doesn’t move you,

then you better change your direction.

If my presence doesn’t help you evolve,

my absence certainly will.

If my love doesn’t open your heart permanently, another love will.

Go and find what vibrates your being,

don’t even stop to look behind you.

One of the greatest acts of love is letting go.

The vibration doesn’t lie.

Trust your process. ”

🤍

Alejandro Jodorowsky

Real Relationships

A real relationship is not made of flawless perfection. It’s made of two imperfect souls who refuse to let go of each other, no matter how rough the road gets.

In a world where giving up has become the easy way out, real love is a quiet rebellion. It’s the whispered promise of two hearts that say, “We’re in this together, always.”

It’s waking up on bad days and choosing love, even when it feels hard to find.

It’s fighting battles side by side, rather than against each other.

It’s understanding that arguments are not signs of a failing love, but proof of two people who care enough to fight for it.

A real relationship isn’t about perfection:

It’s about messy moments that turn into cherished memories.

It’s about misunderstandings that teach you to communicate better.

It’s about flaws that make you human and love that makes you extraordinary.

You’ll see the worst in each other and still choose to stay.

You’ll witness the tears, the anger, the doubts—and still believe in “us.”

You’ll learn to forgive more than you judge, to hold on tighter when life tries to pull you apart.

Real love is a choice, made every single day.

When pride tempts you to walk away, you choose patience.

When distance creates silence, you choose connection.

When the storms of life rage, you choose to shelter each other instead of letting the rain drown you both.

A real relationship isn’t fairy-tale perfect.

It’s raw. It’s unfiltered. It’s filled with both joy and pain.

But that’s what makes it beautiful. That’s what makes it real.

Because at the end of the day, love isn’t about finding someone who makes life easy. It’s about finding someone who makes life worth it and never giving up on them, no matter how imperfect they or the journey may be.

Here’s to the real relationships. To the imperfect souls creating perfect love stories, one day at a time.

– Unknown

Hysteria

There is a movie about this as well

In antiquity, women who had anxiety, mood swings and depression were sent by their husbands to the doctor, who diagnosed them with a disease called ′′ hysteria “. Their treatment was based on a ′′ pelvic massage ′′ with the purpose of achieving hysterical paroxysm, now known as orgasm.

There were so many women who began to attend consultations to have their ′′ treatment for hysteria ′′ that doctors at the end of the workday were exhausted and their hands were shaky; that’s why they decided to invent a useful device that produced rhythmic vibrations and that hysterical paroxysm was achieved easier and faster in the patient without the need for the common manual massage: this is the origin of the vibrator. At that time it was seen as a healing artifact, even the wealthiest women had them in their homes for when they felt ′′ bouts of hysteria “.

For more info there are many books written on this subject.

Counting

I counted my years

and realized that I have

Less time to live by,

Than I have lived so far.

I feel like a child who won a pack of candies: at first he ate them with pleasure

But when he realized that there was little left, he began to taste them intensely.

I have no time for endless meetings

where the statutes, rules, procedures & internal regulations are discussed,

knowing that nothing will be done.

I no longer have the patience

To stand absurd people who,

despite their chronological age,

have not grown up.

My time is too short:

I want the essence,

my spirit is in a hurry.

I do not have much candy

In the package anymore.

I want to live next to humans,

very realistic people who know

How to laugh at their mistakes,

Who are not inflated by their own triumphs

and who take responsibility for their actions.

In this way, human dignity is defended

and we live in truth and honesty.

It is the essentials that make life useful.

I want to surround myself with people

who know how to touch the hearts of those whom hard strokes of life

have taught to grow with sweet touches of the soul.

Yes, I’m in a hurry.

I’m in a hurry to live with the intensity that only maturity can bring.

I do not intend to waste any of the remaining desserts.

I am sure they will be exquisite,

much more than those eaten so far.

My goal is to reach the end satisfied

and at peace with my loved ones and my conscience.

We have two lives

and the second begins when you realize you only have one.

Mental Health in Parental Alienation- Charlie Mc Cready

Psychiatric evaluations can offer benefits by providing an objective and professional assessment of a person’s mental health, including any disorders or conditions that may affect their behaviour or functioning within a family setting. This information can inform court decisions regarding child custody, visitation, and other family arrangements.

However, there are potential drawbacks to consider. Evaluations may be subjective, leading to different conclusions from different evaluators. They can also be costly, time-consuming, and may not always yield clear or actionable recommendations.

One concern is the potential emotional stress and charged atmosphere that evaluations can create, particularly in custody disputes or contentious family matters. Mental health professionals must approach evaluations sensitively and ethically, prioritising the well-being of all parties involved.

It’s also important to note that evaluations rely on the information provided and the cooperation of all parties, which can be challenging if an alienating parent manipulates or deceives the assessment process. Additionally, evaluations are most effective when conducted by professionals experienced in parental alienation.

#charliemccready

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#FamilyCourt

#fathersrights

#mothersrights

#custody

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#childcustody

Misdiagnosed Child Abuse -Craig Childress PsyD

Follow the yellow brick road. Follow the yellow brick road. Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow brick road.

If you’re not Following me on Bluesky, why not? It’s useful information.

If your attorney, your involved mental health professionals, your GALs and Parenting Coordinators, are not Following me on Bluesky, why not?

Sometimes I skeet about diagnosis. Sometimes I skeet about dark personalities. Sometimes I skeet about the court-involved assessment. Everything I skeet about is court-custody and treatment related.

Droplets of information each day, like a gentle rain of knowledge into the parched desert of the family courts.

I do what I do. You do what you do. We’re both working toward exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse by a pathological parent.

I’m not your warrior – you’re the warrior fighting to protect your child. I’m a clinical psychologist with knowledge that’s useful to you. I’m your weapon.

I’m headed into the AFCC to contact the Hydra. You can’t do that. I can and I am because I do something different. I’m a clinical psychologist not a parent. We’re both working for exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse – differently.

Because we’re in different roles.

Part of my role as a doctor is to educate the patient – you – about the pathology you have in your family… and with your child… so that you, as a parent, can get a proper assessment that will return an accurate diagnosis and effective treatment plan… to fix things.

Courts and the legal system land on the wrong end-point. Courts and the legal system land on the Court’s custody decision. That’s the wrong end-point of consideration.

The healthcare system lands on treatment. That’s where we need to end up – with a treatment plan that fixes things and gives the child a normal-range childhood.

For a treatment plan… you’ll need a diagnosis. For an effective treatment plan, you’ll need an accurate diagnosis.

If we treat cancer with insulin because we think it’s diabetes, the patient will die from the misdiagnosed cancer. Whenever possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our returned diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.

Misdiagnosing child abuse is too devastating to the child. We need to get it right – every time. We can do that when there’s the motivation to to that.

The appellate system in healthcare for a disputed diagnosis is a second opinion, or even a third opinion. Doctors in healthcare consult all the time – because we need our diagnosis accurate and early – we need to start treatment right away.

Any diagnosis returned into the legal system will be a disputed diagnosis – so – let’s get a second or even third opinion right at the start through telehealth.

Get one primary treatment provider who will both diagnose and then treat the pathology. Allow each litigant parent to appoint a second-opinion doctor of their choice to represent their interests and concerns. Then let the doctors do what doctors do.

You’ll get a report from the primary treating doctor (duty of care) and two consulting reports that agree, or perhaps disagree to a degree. Provide this information to the Court for its decision-making.

The Court can decide which doctors make sense – and the doctors should make sense. They should 1) describe the symptoms, 2) describe the diagnostic criteria and established knowledge applied, and 3) the diagnosis that is supported by the symptom pattern.

Doctors are not concerned with custody. That’s the Court’s decision based on all the evidence it considers. There is NO quasi-judicial role for doctors. Doctors diagnose and treat pathology.

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with the child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with the child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming that parent.

Is there child abuse? If a child is rejecting a parent, yes, there is child abuse by one parent or the other, we just don’t know which one yet.

It might be authentic child abuse by the targeted parent creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent – OR – it might be child psychological abuse by the allied parent who is creating a persecutory thought disorder and false (factitious) attachment pathology in the child for secondary gain to the parent.

Which parent is abusing the child? We need a proper risk assessment to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent to answer that question.

Then we protect the child. That’s what we do in ALL cases of child abuse. We always protect the child because ALL mental health professionals have a duty to protect in cases of three types of dangerous pathology – suicide – homicide – abuse (child, spousal, elder).

It’s not “complex” – it’s simple. What’s the diagnosis? Collect the symptom patterns, apply the diagnostic criteria patterns, and if there’s a pattern-match… that’s your diagnosis.

That’s not complex. That’s simple.

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Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857