Tag: toxic
Woman Fading Away
𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙈𝙚𝙣 𝘿𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙊𝙧 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙙𝙧𝙖𝙬 (𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙉𝙤, 𝙄𝙩’𝙨 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜)
This has happened to almost every woman. You are dating this promising man who ticks all your boxes. You are messaging back and forth, having conversations that make your heart glow, and this healthy dose of physical attraction is going on. You might have already met for a coffee or two, or he wined and dined you in his favorite restaurant. You are over the moon and slowly but surely fall in love.
And then, out of the blue, he disappears off the face of the earth. He doesn’t answer your texts and ignores your phone calls. He ghosts you hook, line, and sinker.
It leaves you wondering, “Did I do something wrong?”
Let me be clear: if you didn’t throw tantrums, mooned him on the first date, or completely spooked him out by smashing all your fears and shadows in front of his feet in the first conversation, the answer is NO.
You did not do anything wrong.
A man’s self-worth comes from his ability to provide happiness for you. When he starts dating you, he wants to feel validated as a good partner, and he does this by trying to please you.
So a man might woo you and take you to the most romantic places in town. He’ll excel and surpass anything to be captivating, intelligent, funny, and seductive – Mr. Perfect himself! Because your happiness justifies his worth as a potential romantic partner.
But….
… men’s brains are not wired like women’s, which are wired to efficiently understand and process deep emotions. As a woman, you can tell super fast how you feel about a relationship. A man’s ability to tune into his feelings is much less adept.
Long story short? It takes a man longer to figure out how he feels about you, exactly because of his brain… but also because of his heart.
Men are very protective, almost guarded, of their hearts. Although men are predominantly depicted as the strong sex, they are incredibly vulnerable and have to be treated gently.
In his world, a guarded heart is a safe heart. It takes care of him, guards him against harm, and always has his best interests in mind.
On the other hand, it can also become a heart that does not feel as much, is controlling, and won’t let go of its reins. It even can become, due to disappointments in the love department, a selfish and egocentric heart eventually… a hard heart.
Not consciously, of course. It’s done out of fear of pain, rejection, and not being validated as a good man.
So what happens next?
They disappear. Or withdraw. Yes, there is a significant difference.
Disappearing is mostly permanent.
Men disappear while pursuing you when they, out of the blue, have the revelation that they do not want to be long-term with you. They might not be into you all that much, after all. Or they believe their freedom will vanish into thin air and simply refuse to commit. They might even get scared of the direction the fresh connection is heading in. And poofffff…. gone they are.
Disappearing is the easy way out. Most men who disappear are avoiders.
Withdrawing is mostly temporary, and men do this for many reasons.
According to a man’s logic, he mostly wants to be in control of the relationship and where it is heading, but he is unwilling to share the control. When he feels forced into making a too swift commitment, he might withdraw to be with his feelings and figure out what he wants.
He is afraid that he is not good enough for you. He only wants to make you the happiest woman on this earth, and when he feels he cannot give you this, even if it’s only a fraction, he might retreat to his cave. It’s better to be ahead of possible rejection, right?
And he gets tangled up in his emotions. Sometimes, an inside-out beautiful woman can release so many contradictory feelings in a man that he might be overwhelmed by all these sensations. Instead of opening up and communicating, he’ll probably withdraw to process everything at his own pace.
Men who withdraw are not always avoiders. They are hurt, insecure about their feelings, in doubt, scared, or guarded.
I’m not saying you must be okay when you feel ignored or ghosted.
I’m not saying you must constantly pretzel yourself around all his emotional quirks.
And I’m definitely not saying you must keep waiting for an unavailable guy.
I simply say that when you feel a mutual, honest connection, giving “your guy” some space to digest, withdraw, and come back stronger and more transparent than before would be constructive.
Remember that this process in men goes in layers, just like yours. So he will be present and withdraw, be present and withdraw.
A fantastic man out there will adore you for holding this space for him. And when you find him (or he finds you), he will gladly do the same for you.
Plastic Makers secret
Chemicals ; I met a man who made lots of money on patients he had created chemicals for .
He was a major drunk and braggart.
Do not want to be fixed
People do not want to be fixed,
Brokenness often gets more clicks.
In a world where attention is gold,
Pain and struggles become stories told.
Brokenness becomes a badge to wear,
A way to garner sympathy and care.
Attention flows to the ones who cry,
While those who heal silently pass by.
But true healing lies in facing the pain,
In letting go of the need for gain.
It’s not about attention or fame,
But finding peace within, a sacred flame.
So let us offer support without judgment or scorn,
Encouraging growth, helping hearts be reborn.
For in lifting each other, we mend what’s torn,
And find true healing in love’s embrace, worn.
GeoEnginering
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The narcissist marriage of servitude / Control not connection
When you marry a narcissistic man, you never get a chance to be a wife; instead, you take on the role of a mother because these adults behave like man-children.
They go to work Monday through Friday and then spend their weekends sitting in front of a laptop, downloading music, playing video games, or making messes for you to clean up.
You find yourself single and a father simultaneously, taking on the burden of responsibilities without the support of a partner.
Narcissists don’t marry for love or partnership; they marry because they want a maid, cook, secretary, banker, and a nanny.
They crave control, not connection. Their selfish desires consume them, leaving you to run the household, raise the children, and satisfy their every whim.
Your dreams of a loving and equal relationship are shattered, replaced by the harsh reality of servitude.
As days turn into weeks, and weeks into years, you become a shadow of your old self.
Your identity is erased, replaced by the exhausting duties of handling a narcissist’s life.
You are obliged to sacrifice your own desires, interests and friendships to accommodate their demands.
Emotional childbirth is suffocating, leaving you drained, resentful, and wondering how you ended up in this nightmare.
You’re not alone in this fight.
Many women have fallen prey to the charming facade of a narcissist, only to find themselves trapped in a loveless and ungrateful role.
Remember, you deserve better.
You deserve a partner who loves, supports, and respects you.
Defining Parental Alienation
There is some debate surrounding the term “parental alienation” that reflects broader complexities within the realms of mental health, legal practice, and social dynamics. Let’s break it down:
Parental Alienation: This term is recognised chiefly by those who have experienced it for themselves, it is a way for us to find each other in what otherwise is an isolating, traumatic experience. The term itself refers to a situation where one parent deliberately manipulates their child’s perception of the other parent, often leading to the child’s unjustified rejection or hostility towards that parent where, before separation or divorce, there existed a good, loving bond.
Some renowned experts in the field prefer the term “attachment disorder” or “attachment-based parental alienation” to describe the dynamics seen in what others might label as “parental alienation.” The argument is that focusing on attachment disorders provides a more nuanced understanding of the underlying psychological mechanisms. Others criticise the term “parental alienation”, claiming it to be ‘debunked’ ‘pseudoscience’ which is misused in legal contexts. Certain women’s advocacy groups argue that the term “parental alienation” can be weaponized by abusive individuals, particularly men, to deflect accountability and continue exerting control over their former partners.
However, with all this debate, we are divided rather than united in combating the real problem, which is partner/spousal and child psychological abuse. The focus should not solely be on debating semantics or labels but rather on addressing the actual harm inflicted upon children and families when one parent uses them as pawns in their own conflicts. Whether termed “parental alienation” or viewed through the lens of attachment disorders, the fundamental issue is the manipulation and abuse of children for personal gain or vengeance. By prioritizing the well-being of children and holding accountable those who engage in such harmful behaviours, we can work towards fostering healthier familial relationships and protecting vulnerable individuals from further harm.
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