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Signs of manipulation

15 SIGNS YOU’RE BEING MANIPULATED:

1. They never apologize, even when they know they’re wrong.

2. They always make excuses or give empty promises.

3. They use your weaknesses against you.

4. They prioritize others but treat you like an option.

5. They try to control you.

6. They use guilt trips.

7. They twist your words to benefit themselves.

8. They shut down and get defensive instead of talking.

9. They project their feelings onto you.

10. They gaslight you to create self-doubt.

11. They give you the silent treatment.

12. They lie constantly.

13. They leave you feeling crazy and confused.

14. They always make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

15. They always play the victim.

Recognizing these signs is the first step to taking back control. You deserve respect, kindness, and healthy relationships.

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Marriage – A sacred bond 💯

As a man, protecting your wife from your parents and siblings is essential, but in the context of your marriage, your wife must come first. It is your primary responsibility to shield her from toxic individuals, even if they happen to be your family members.

As a husband, it is your home and your wife. Do not stand by and watch as others create tension within it. If you allow them to break your home, the same people will eventually use your failure against you.

Marriage is a sacred bond, and as a man, you must place your wife at the center of your priorities. When you marry, you commit to creating a life together, and that means protecting that life from any threats, no matter where they come from.

Your role as a man is not just to love your wife but also to ensure her emotional and mental well-being. This includes standing up for her when she is mistreated, even by those closest to you.

Many men struggle to balance loyalty between their family of origin and their wife. However, you must understand that your loyalty now primarily lies with the family you are building with your spouse.

As a husband, protecting your wife does not mean disrespecting your family. It means setting healthy boundaries that ensure mutual respect and harmony. A strong man knows how to communicate these boundaries with firmness and love.

Failing to defend your wife in the face of toxic behaviors from your family sends a message that she cannot rely on you. Over time, this can erode trust, intimacy, and respect in your marriage.

Toxic behaviors, such as constant criticism, interference, or manipulation, should not be tolerated from anyone, regardless of their relation to you. As a man, love for your family does not justify letting them harm your marriage.

It is your responsibility to ensure that your home is a sanctuary of peace for your wife. She should feel safe, valued, and cherished within your relationship, free from unnecessary conflicts or judgments.

Remember that your parents and siblings may not always understand or agree with your decisions, but that does not mean their opinions should dictate your marriage. As the leader of your home, you must stand with your wife as an equal partner.

By protecting your wife from harmful dynamics, you are also setting a powerful example for future generations. Your children, if you have them, will learn what a healthy and respectful marriage looks like.

As a man, a successful marriage requires unity. Stand with your wife, face challenges together, and make it clear to the world that your bond is unbreakable. The strength of your marriage depends on your ability to prioritize and protect it.

– Abhikesh

When they come back

Sometimes when people come back saying that they miss you, they’re confessing that they’ve discovered that no one can love them the way you did.

They once took you for granted and treated your love like a common thing. Then they tried replacing you, and they were shocked at how impossible it was.

Now they’re crawling back, hoping you’re still stuck where they left you and you’re desperate enough to allow them back.

Whenever people return, always remember how they left.

The way someone treats you when they no longer need you is a true reflection of how much they respect you.

When you feel like you miss that connection, just remember the disrespect.

You may not have moved on to another person, but you have moved onto something more important. That’s self-respect!!

Just because you’re not with someone doesn’t mean you’re still vacant.

You’re a complete person by yourself, and you have the right to take your time to heal and regroup.

If someone else has been flipping one relationship after another, it just shows how uncomfortable they are by themselves.

If they need so much support just to face existence, they have a deeper problem.

Never become the plug-in when someone has failed at replacing you.

They will never value you, and their resentment towards you will multiply because, in a sense, you’ll have beaten them.

They will continue looking while still with you. You’re basically a placeholder. Eventually, they’ll leave you for people who don’t challenge them to change or grow.

In short, it’s also self care when you shut your doors to inconsistent people. You may have a history with them, but when they prove themselves unworthy of where you’re going, it’s a wrap.

Sometimes your feelings can’t think and you have to think for them

“ Good “ Woman

My ex taught me a lesson:

no matter how good of a woman you are, you will never be enough for a guy who isn’t ready to be a man. I don’t matter how much love, care, and effort they give in, if one is not mature or willing enough to become a man, nothing shall work in that relationship.

Being a “good woman” means being kind, supportive, and loving. But if the guy doesn’t value those qualities, it’s not your fault. You can’t make him appreciate you or grow up when he’s not ready. A real man understands responsibility, respects your worth, and works with you to build a solid relationship.

Sometimes, we hold on hoping the other person will change. Fact is, change happens from within, and you cannot make someone change. When the man does not want to be one-to commit, communicate, and care-then end.

This lesson is not one of bitterness. It’s about knowing your value and not settling for anything less. You deserve someone who is willing to be the partner you need, who appreciates the phenomenal woman you are. Don’t waste your love on some bum who’s unwilling to grow up.

Neena Gupta.

ⓒ Love Is An Emotion of Strong Affection

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Reality check

Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk – you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people doesn’t fit.

Woman Power

Having an understanding of this as a new wife and Mother , I was not supported or acknowledged as having any value .

At the time of X’s departure I was not myself and unable to respond correctly ; incorrectly assuming since I had legal representation, I was being cared for .

Protected

I was horribly wrong .

As the years passed and I worked hard on myself , I did grow empowered and motivated to finish old business . I know accept why on many levels how varied challenges hindered my progress , except for my faith . I think there are more than a few who grasp who I am . A male friend just stated how strong I am in a phone call .

I am grateful for the hands on my back and repel the hands that hold knives !

THE 6 POWERS OF A WOMAN

Your power as a woman goes beyond your body. It’s okay to have great curves! The ability to get a man chase you hard is power on its own. Having a hour glass (figure 😎 shape is an automatic magnet for lustful men and some can eat the very sand at your feet just to get in between your thigh. Getting a man pant after you is power but your power goes beyond sensuality, sex and seduction, they don’t last! We are talking about lasting power here!

You carry so much power that you are not aware of. This power can make you a success. It can make your man an outstanding success. Make you a voice to reckon with and cause great changes in the society.

1. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF WORDS

Words are powerful! They can make or break someone. No! They can shatter someone to a million pieces without repair! Women are known with verbal power! Either to make, mend, destroy or kill! It is in every woman! By words alone, Delilah brought Samson to his death! By words, Jezebel made her husband commit murder! By words, Esther the queen saved a whole nation! By words, Abigail saved her life from death and became the wife of a king! By words, Adichie Chimamanda Ngozie is promoting feminism in Africa and beyond! By words, Linda Ikeji amassed billions of Naira into her account! Whether written or verbal, your words carry power! With your words you can end up a global success, challenge your man to success and change the society for good! Maximize your tongue by using words to your advantage!

2. YOU HAVE BODY POWER!

Men are attracted to beautiful women. Use your feminine body to your advantage! Not by sleeping around for money/job/promotion, etc you lose power and control that way. The moment you give a man sex he is not entitled to through marriage, he loses respect for you and you lose power! Package for excellence!

Be irresistible, charming, appealing, comely and worth chasing then divert his attention from your body(clothed body please. I’m not asking you to go about naked/show him your boobs and curves. You get what I mean) to your mind, intellect, talents, potentials and vision. That is how to hold a man spell bound! That is how to make him stay glued. That is how to command respect and honour. That s what make some men chase certain women hard till they marry them and after marriage, support with all you’ve got till he becomes a phenomenal success. You have the brain, wisdom, power, intellect, money and God to help your man succeed, that power lies within you. Maximize it!

3. YOU HAVE BRAIN POWER!

Women are blessed with the power of imagination. What you can see, you can achieve! Women who go out to change the world always do so especially when you have divine backing! You can be the next Nigerian president, you can build orphanages, you can create women empowerment programmes, you can rescue juvenile delinquents, you can cause great changes in the society. You can feed the poor, you can end up a great philanthropist.

4. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF INFLUENCE

You can influence your man, children, neighbour, friends and family for good. The power is within you. Once your mind is made up to achieve a result, cause a great change or turn your man to an international stardom, you can! You can influence a whole community, nation or country! You can influence your customers/clients and attract more money into your account. The power of influence lies within you. Esther the queen influenced a whole nation to fast and pray till they obtained their freedom. You are a great influencer!

5. YOU HAVE MONEY POWER!

Because women are naturally endowed with relationship skills, it’s easier to win more customers/clients and swell your bank account beyond your imagination. You can make as much money as you want.

6. YOU HAVE GOD POWER

Women connect with God at a deeper level than men. Not all women though, but a good percentage of women draw strength deeply and powerfully from God than their male counterparts who like to go macho with everything to the point of self destruction! Maximize your God power! With deep, intimate relationship with Him, you will draw power to achieve the impossible and up a phenomenal success. A role model millions look up to round the world.

Every woman carry power. Maximize yours, unleash it and end up a celebrity!

Parental Duty -Charlie McCready

It is a parental duty to foster, encourage, and support the child’s relationship with the other loving parent and their extended family. Maintaining a healthy and positive connection with both parents is important for a child’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Denying or undermining this relationship can be harmful to the child, as it deprives them of the opportunity to form and maintain important emotional bonds and support systems that are necessary for their overall development and happiness. It is in the best interests of the child to have access to the love, care, and guidance of both parents, as long as it is safe and beneficial for their well-being.

An alienated child may still experience moments of happiness in areas of their life, but the absence of a loving relationship with one parent can create emotional and psychological challenges that may impact their overall and long-term well-being. The absence of a meaningful and nurturing relationship with both parents can have a profound impact on a child’s sense of identity, and overall happiness. It can, unfortunately, lead to depression, and self-destructive behaviours. It is important to address and heal the wounds caused by parental alienation to give the child the best opportunity for happiness and healthy emotional development.

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Liberation

The person I needed the most taught me that I don’t need nobody, a painful yet liberating lesson etched in the scars of my heart, where love and abandonment once entwined like fractured vines.

Their absence became my greatest teacher, guiding me through the dark landscape of self-discovery, where I unearthed an inner strength, a resilient voice that whispers “I am enough” amidst the echoes of rejection.

In the hollow of their departure, I found a profound sense of self-sufficiency, learning to fill the void with my own light, nurturing a garden of self-love that blooms in the cracks of shattered dreams.

Their silence became my loudest awakening, alerting me to the realization that my worth isn’t anchored in someone else’s approval, but in the unwavering acceptance of myself.

Through the fire of their neglect, I forged an unshakeable resolve, tempered by the understanding that true freedom lies not in the arms of others, but in the unyielding love I hold for myself.

Safe Space

There’s a man out there who will tell you that she’s crazy, emotionally unstable, and aggressive.

There’s also a man who will say he’s never felt more appreciated and respected, that she has created the safest space for him, and that being around her makes him feel nurtured, cared for, and at peace.

Believe them both!

You get the woman you take care of, whatever you give her, she will reflect back to you.

If you show up in confusion, gaslighting her, or are indecisive, of course she’ll seem crazy!

However, if you show up with clarity, know how to lead, and make this a safe space, you’ll see a totally different woman.