Tag: family
How Secrets And Lies Can Harm The Mother-Daughter Relationship – Reach Out Recovery
Mom wasn’t chatty especially about the past , which held so much shame and regret . She took it with her and our connection in the afterlife has been sketchy .
Secrets and lies, while even well intentioned, canhave disastrous results. Here we will look at the ways secrets and lies can hurt
— Read on reachoutrecovery.com/how-secrets-and-lies-can-harm-the-mother-daughter-relationship/
Pain
Whom Should I Be Loyal To? — Choosing Between Our Parents and Our Partner
Many couples grapple with the challenge of one partner’s parents exerting a significant influence in their lives, often resulting in compromises being imposed on the other. Whether it’s decisions related to leisure time, parenting choices, or even seemingly trivial matters like how to serve holiday soup, it’s often the mother-in-law or father-in-law who takes charge.
— Read on esztersweeklyelephant.substack.com/p/whom-should-i-be-loyal-to-choosing-between-our-parents-and-our-partner-60d1cd9b4a27
Deprivation Trama s and their consequences
The Way it is – Eviction Job Loss Homelessness
Something to think about….
What if you were a single parent with a child . You work full time for $14.00 hr. You bring home roughly $800 .00 per paycheck (bi-weekly).
Your bills:
$1, 000 . 00 / rent
$150 .00 / electrical
$250 .00 / car payment
$150 .00 / car insurance
So let’s do the math :
You bring home about
$1,600 .00 a month & your bills average about $1,550.00 (give or take).
You’re making it, but barely.
This doesn’t even include groceries, internet, cable, cell phone, etc .
(nor does it include child tax credit, or child support)
Now, it’s a really cold December and you get a power bill for $600 .00
How do you pay that?
To put it simply , you don’t.
Because you can’t.
So your power gets shut off.
But you know what your lease says?
It says you get evicted if your utilities are terminated.
So now you’re in court crying to a judge who doesn’t care, & you have 10 days to get out.
Well you’re in luck, because you found somewhere with 3 days to spare & it’s only $650.00 a month!
But to get in, you must pass a background & credit check. Which you can’t because you just got evicted.
You’ve never been a criminal, but even if you could pass it, you’re looking at $1300 to move in, after paying the deposit & first month’s rent.
Time’s up ….
Landlord shows up at 7am with the police & changed your locks.
So, now you’re living in your car with your 7 year old son & everything you need to get by.
You tried to get a storage unit, but you don’t have a billing address so they won’t sell one to you. So you could only take what would fit in your backseat.
You pay to shower at local truck stops & eat whatever can be cooked in a gas station microwave.Someone sees you & your son living like this & calls C.P.S; guess what happens next ? ? ?
They remove your child from your care.
As if this isn’t devastating enough, you lose your job too. (Because “an employee losing their child reflects poorly on this company .”)
So now, you apply for an apartment with the region where the waiting list is 3-7 years.
Then you go into Wal-Mart to put in an application.
When you get back to your car you see that your back window has been smashed & someone helped themselves to your belongings. Remember that it is December & really cold. Now you have damage to your only shelter.
You call your car insurance, who says your deductible is $1,000.00
~ AND ~ they’re going to increase your monthly rate since you’re now
“ high risk .”
You call the homeless shelter as a last resort & all their beds are full.
I’ll stop here …..
Because I think you get the point .
The people we work with everyday are these people .
WE ARE THESE PEOPLE .
We are all so close to homelessness & don’t even realize it .
All it takes is :
* one unexpected bill📃~
* one fender bender🚙💥🚗~
* one lay-off 📊~
* one house fire 🏠🔥 , etc.
Instead of talking trash about people who are poor , homeless , or need assistance , why don’t you try being grateful that you’re not in their shoes …… YET !
This is about staying humble & being kind .
BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE ❤
We Are All Struggling In Different Ways.. 😭😩

Training Your replacement / Father-Son
Normal vs Covert Narcissist
How to Teach Kids Manners Without Asking for the ‘Magic Word’ – Raised Good
She makes some good points , but some things sound alienated.
She states that if her 5 year old forgets to use his manners , she
does it for him…
I used time outs, corners and magic words .. proof positive my
” professional ” advisors , Dr Spock , articles in parenting magazines
and friends were misled ..
The main thing I grasp here is control..and I have experienced that
from DILs and seen the dynamics within their relationships with
other women and their Moms .
Why prompting, prodding and “teaching” children manners doesn’t work and eight respectful, positive parenting strategies that do.
— Read on raisedgood.com/asking-magic-word-teach-manners-what-do-instead/
