Tag: Children

Wife-Mother / Stay at home – She doesn’t work…

My wife doesn’t work…

Conversation between a husband (M) and a psychologist (P):

P: What do you do for a living, Mr. Rogers?

M: I am an accountant in a bank…

P: And your wife?

M: She doesn’t work. She’s a stay-at-home mom.

P: Who prepares breakfast for your family?

M: My wife, since she doesn’t work.

P: What time does your wife wake up in the morning?

M: She wakes up very early since things have to be organized. She prepares lunches for the children, she makes sure they are well dressed and combed, that they have eaten, brushed their teeth and collected all their school belongings. She wakes up with the baby, changes his diaper and breastfeeds him.

P: How do your children get to school?

M: My wife drives them to school, since she doesn’t work.

P: After driving the children to school, what does she do?

M: She goes to the supermarket to buy groceries or she does shopping for the house. Sometimes she forgets something and has to do the whole trip again with the crying baby. Once she returns home, she has to feed and breastfeed the baby, change his diaper and prepare him for a nap, clean the house and do the laundry. You know, since she doesn’t work.

P: In the evening, when you come back from the office, what do you do?

M: I’m resting, of course. I’m exhausted from my long day of work at the bank.

P: What does your wife do in the evening?

M: She cooks dinner, serves us food, washes the dishes, cleans the house and walks the dog. After helping the children with their homework, she gets them ready for bed and checks that they have brushed their teeth. Then she changes the baby’s diaper and breastfeeds him again. When she is in bed, she wakes up regularly to breastfeed and change diapers as needed, since she does not have to get up to go to work.

This is the daily routine of many women around the world. It starts at dawn and continues until the wee hours of the morning… and it’s called “don’t work”?!

Being a stay-at-home mom may not require a degree, but it is an essential family role!

Appreciate your wife, your mother, your grandmother, your aunt, your sister or your daughter… because their sacrifices are priceless.

Someone asked me…

“Are you a working woman, or are you just a stay-at-home mom?” »

I answered :

I am a woman who works at home, 24 hours a day…

I am a mother,

I’m a woman,

I am a girl,

I am an alarm clock,

I am the cook,

I am the housekeeper,

I am the mistress of the house,

I’m the waitress,

I am the nurse,

I am a nurse,

I am a manual worker,

I am a security guard,

I am the advisor,

I am the comforter,

I don’t have any time off,

I work day and night,

I am still on duty,

I don’t get paid and…

Even then, I often hear the phrase:

“But what do you do all day?” »

In tribute to all women who dedicate their lives to the well-being of their families.

To share with all the beautiful women in your life.

Cognitive Dissonance-Charlie Mc Cready

Cognitive confusion contributes to the emotional cut-off and psychological splitting that an alienated child typically adopts to enable them to cope with what is a hugely stressful, confounding and challenging situation. They shut down. There are two conflicting narratives/parents. On the one side, they have the ‘favoured’ parent, whom they align with, believe, defend, protect, and often, deep down fear too. Then there’s the parent they have loved and who now is apparently out of bounds, bad, unloving and whatever else the alienating parent cares to attribute to them. But when the child finds out this isn’t true – their ‘good’ parent has lied to them – it may feel like they’ve got nowhere to turn. They’ve been coerced into rejecting a loving, loved parent. It is an appalling situation for them. The ‘target’ parent might seem out of limits, out of fear of upsetting the ‘favoured’ parent. The child may feel they’ve burned their bridges. The child was ‘asked’ to choose, but in fact, given little choice at all. They feel if they reach out to the ‘target’ parent, they lose the ‘only’ parent they have known to trust …. but who to trust now? It is incredibly isolating for the child. This is the impact of triangulation, which is another alienating behaviour. Divide and rule. Keep everyone apart so they can’t share notes and get to the truth. But cognitive dissonance is something that can be cured, with the truth, with time. Do all you can to keep your door open, be available when they call, keep it light if and when you see them, and try not to react to provocation or rudeness. They have suffered child psychological abuse and coercive control. It is terrible for them to have been put into that situation and not have known it, and it’s also terrible for them to know the truth of it. We have to treat them with great patience and love, as and when they ‘see the light’ one day. They may see it long before they ‘dare’ to come back to us or ever admit this realisation of the truth. They might be afraid and confused for some time and continue denying their alienating parent’s behaviours. This is difficult, I know, but we have to be careful not to rush them.

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