Tag: Children

Parental Alienation- More than a phase – Charlie McCready

The people who say ‘it’s just a phase’, ‘enjoy your freedom’ and things like this probably mean well but totally misunderstand the pain and trauma of parental alienation, the not knowing when/if we’ll see our children again. It’s not empty nest syndrome, either. Nor is it estrangement when a child has a justified reason for not wanting to see a parent. Alienation is unjustified, coerced, and psychological abuse from a parent with an attachment disorder, narcissism, and/or a vengeance campaign against a loved/loving parent. I’ve taken inspiration from Simone de Beauvoir’s quote: ‘“Her wings are cut, and then she is blamed for not knowing how to fly.” Our children have their wings clipped, certainly. It is covert abuse, and so many people don’t get it. Even people who really should get it. Others suffering from alienation as a knock-on effect, such as grandparents, understand it (though not all), but friends and others say these things to us from a place of kindness but ignorance. They don’t mean to hurt us more with their lack of understanding. May they never know how far off the mark they are.

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Detractors – Charlie Mc Cready

Many detractors hate us being happy, none more so than an alienating parent. They’ve made it their mission to make us miserable by harming the love and relationship we have with our children because they know that will hurt us the most. What kind of person does this? Not a mentally sound or particularly happy one is the answer. Sometimes, this isn’t the case; they didn’t have a miserable childhood or unresolved issues; they’re ‘just’ vengeful, disordered, dark personalities. They will typically often have narcissistic traits and be manipulative, being comfortable lying and creating false narratives, and particularly good at provoking a reaction that then becomes all the focus. ⁠

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What we need to focus on is NOT them and their behaviours. That brings us down and makes us angry and upset. It’s not easy, but it is helpful to focus on what you envisage as an amazing outcome, a future you want to create. When we’re focused on problems, we magnify them, and they can dominate our thoughts and actions. It can drive us crazy. Instead, we are better off doing things and being with people who make us happy. It lifts our vibration/mood. That brings us more of the same. Like attracts like. Like gardening, if we water our plants, they grow. But also, if we water the weeds, they grow too. When we see a weed, we can pull it out at the root, and keep going back and weeding some more, if they grow back. The weeds don’t allow the flowers to bloom as they should. We have to grow and rise above the ‘weeds’ in our lives (and you know who I am referring to, I’m sure). Whatever you love will grow. Believe you are stronger than your problems. You are beyond them already. Focus on that. Love what you can, here and now. ⁠

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White Ravens

” Mom, in the animal kingdom the Mom releases the child to the wild…yes I replied , in some species , for whatever reason the Mom eats her young..”

* He was in college, independent and bearing shame , and I was awakening and thoughts like this response , came from a place of surprise that I had any prior knowledge, healthy useful knowledge left after 13 years of intense toxic prescriptive medications, and trauma upon trauma ..