Origins & Causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

When people in society talk about narcissism, there is usually a definitive statement of, “Well it’s caused by childhood trauma…” with an undertone of…”So any aggressive behavior is justified.” However, according to research that’s not always or even usually the case – at least, not in the way people often definitively describe it. There has actually been mixed empirical “results” on the causes of narcissism from studies that have investigated it, although research has yielded surprising associations between parental overvaluation and the traits of narcissism, with less evidence for a direct effect of childhood maltreatment. It’s important to note that there is also no clinical verdict on the cause of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So even if we learn more about the origins of the traits of narcissism, more research needs to be conducted on NPD as a full-fledged disorder too.

***Childhood trauma regardless of whether it is present or not is also not a justification for abuse. #originsofnarcissism #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #mythsaboutnarcissism #shahidaarabi

Sex Addiction

My worth, my love is no longer ignoring the reality of sex addiction and my desire not to involve myself in that energy.

As a survivor of childhood oral rape, intimate partner abuse and failed attempts to engage me in relationships have fueled my celibate state .

Sex is far from a sleep aide , and intimacy, trusting in a partner has not jelled , yet

As a Mom of 3 sons , I was drugged into Hell on Earth, and education and truths denied , and much has been distorted about the normal flow .

It’s very sad to sense that energy, and it’s often not noticed because I’m not seeking a casual sexual experience . I did not marry in an open marriage mind set , but in the shelter that dispelled the Predators.

For years o thought it was something I did to encourage the secually addicted, but I learned long ago it was not I. Pornorgraphy and Sex Addiction as everything was a disorder, labeled to profit the industry of death that has been psychiatry.

It’s open season now , as the chemical soup offered up , further alters our natural self and reversion to very low energy, primal and often distorted in unhealed trauma tries to benefit from those they consider ” weaker” .

Tie a knot in the end of your rope , and hang on as light and love washes you clean and your creative juices aide you in evolving New Earth .

Let it Flow , Let it Flow

I’m keeping this little light of mine , safe …ending cycles and generations of abuses that deserved healing .

My living death , deserves an autopsy , a burial and grieving for losses beyond human endurance , ignored by laws , society , religion, medicine 💊which is the rabbit hole we are unprepared for ..

Know your boundaries in this new earth , know all is not seen .

Know your gifts . Know ego is a passenger, not the driver Your ego works with your higher self in synergy and balance .Rest and Rejuvenate.

Let your burdens go ..free fall or leap into the safety of Divine Love and begin again ❤.

Much Love Much Peace Many Blessings 🙌

Dona Luna ✌

https://www.healthline.com/health/addiction/sex#outlook

Childress : NPD Pathology & Delusions

Narcissistic Pathology & Delusions

The narcissistic personality collapses into persecutory delusions under stress – like the stress created by their public rejection during and surrounding divorce.

This is a known fact about narcissistic personality pathology, that it collapses into persecutory and paranoid delusions under stress.

Theodore Millon is considered among the top experts in personality disorder pathology. He is author of the Millon Clinical Multi-Axial Inventory (MCMI), considered the gold standard assessment instrument of personality disorder pathology.

Theodore Millon wrote the book on personality pathology. Look at the title of the book. Then listen to what he says about narcissistic personality pathology.

Millon. T. (2011). Disorders of personality: Introducing a DSM/ICD spectrum from normal to abnormal. Hoboken: Wiley.

From Millon: “Under conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure, narcissists may decompensate into paranoid disorders. Owing to their excessive use of fantasy mechanisms, they are disposed to misinterpret events and to construct delusional beliefs. Unwilling to accept constraints on their independence and unable to accept the viewpoints of others, narcissists may isolate themselves from the corrective effects of shared thinking. Alone, they may ruminate and weave their beliefs into a network of fanciful and totally invalid suspicions.” (Millon, 2011, pp. 407-408).

From Millon: “Among narcissists, delusions often take form after a serious challenge or setback has upset their image of superiority and omnipotence. They tend to exhibit compensatory grandiosity and jealousy delusions in which they reconstruct reality to match the image they are unable or unwilling to give up. Delusional systems may also develop as a result of having felt betrayed and humiliated. Here we may see the rapid unfolding of persecutory delusions and an arrogant grandiosity characterized by verbal attacks and bombast.” (Millon, 2011, pp. 407-408).

It is a known fact of the pathology that the narcissistic personality will collapse into persecutory delusions under stress.

The rejection inherent to divorce will present the narcissistic parent with conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure. The narcissistic parent will decompensate into persecutory delusions.

We know this. This is an established fact about narcissistic personality pathology

Shared (induced) Delusional Disorder

The pathology of a shared delusional disorder is also called an induced delusional disorder.

Wehmeier Barth, & Remschmidt (2003). Induced Delusional Disorder. Psychopathology,

37-45.
https://www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/69657

From Wehmeier Barth, & Remschmidt: “Induced delusional disorder (or shared paranoid disorder), also known as folie à deux, is a fairly uncommon disturbance characterized by the presence of similar psychotic symptoms in two or more individuals. Most often the symptoms are delusional. Usually the ‘primary’ case, i.e. the individual who first develops psychotic symptoms, can be distinguished from one or more ‘secondary’ cases, in whom the symptoms are induced.”

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Usually the primary case in Shared Psychotic Disorder is dominant in the relationship and gradually imposes the delusional system on the more passive and initially healthy second person… Although most commonly seen in relationships of only two people, Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, p. 333)

Shared (induced) Delusions in Family Courts

The journal Family Court Review is the flagship journal of the AFCC.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

Diagnosis Guides Treatment

In healthcare, all of healthcare, including all of mental health care, diagnosis guides treatment. The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes.

Is there a shared (induced) persecutory delusion created by the pathogenic parenting of the allied parent? Creating delusional thought disorder pathology in the child that then destroys their attachment bond to the other parent is a DSM-5 diagnosis of V-995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Diagnosis guides treatment. Is the DSM-5 diagnosis V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse? Was a proper risk assessment for possible Child Psychological Abuse conducted?

Apply knowledge to solve pathology, ignorance solves nothing.

2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments
Psychologists’ work is based upon established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

https://www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/69657

EMF interference & medical addiction

From dirty pollution of the 80s to radiation of wifi , the 5g roll out and vaccines that address COVID were but conspiracy theories until the economy tanked ..

Chemicals are huge profitable businesses ..

Gates & Company want less carbon foot prints and its equal opprotunity..

Speculators drive the frenzy of addicting folks and creating clients from cradle to grave .

An awareness predominates , as the side effects take hold ..

I learned the very abusive side effects of addiction for profit through psychiatric abuse.

3 sons lived in Distortions, and rupture , allowed to think I was totally to blame…

I urge each of you to research and make smart choices for your best interest.

Blessings & Peace ,

Dona Luna ✌✌

My belief was chipped away until 2008..”friendship never was :WAR Within

Too many beautiful, loving folks believe they and the narcissist are soul mates or twin flames. They believe the narcissist is simply fulfilling the “runner” dynamic and will ‘come to their senses’ and return to the relationship sooner or later.⁣⁠
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And they will wait YEARS for this to happen, enduring untold, horrific abuse.⁣⁠
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Please understand that a soul mate will not betray you, stab you in the back, tell you pathological lies, or make it their duty to cause you to feel unworthy of their love. Only sadistic manipulators do that.⁣⁠
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Many writers and content creators are romanticizing emotional abuse and calling it ‘spiritual lessons’ and ‘evolution’.⁣⁠
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This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting.⁣⁠
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The truth is, staying in a relationship with an individual who emotionally abuses you and repeatedly breaks their promises can cause crippling levels of chronic depression due to repeated emotional traumas, the nature of which is made worse by the limiting beliefs we form in response to the narcissist’s degrading verbal assaults.⁣⁠
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Even more alarming, repeated emotional injuries shrink the brain’s hippocampus, which is responsible for memory and learning, while enlarging the amygdala, which houses primitive emotions such as fear, grief, guilt, envy, and shame.⁣⁠

In short, you habitually become hijacked by your freeze response, unable to form rational thoughts or reactions. Over time, this becomes your baseline state of being. It’s a cycle of emotional destruction of the most grievous kind.⁣⁠
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⁣⁠I cannot recommend enough to stop romanticizing abuse and stop self-abandoning.

The Modules of THRIVE are dedicated to helping you evolve into a healed version of yourself so you can say “NO” to continued abuse.

And you will be restored in more incredible ways than you ever believed possible.

Learn more about THRIVE here: https://bit.ly/331a4j7

Much love xo

Kim

Famly of “womb mates”

The eldest , long dark hair never knew her bio Dad . She was a very young child when uncle began his sex implantation /abuse which continued thru her adult life , regardless of status .

Trauma Bond

It is my belief that each of us were affected by her experience or initiation.

No boundaries as far a partners which has been a theme for siblings .

I did not buy into it and avoided all engagement in entaglents even as a child , to be corrupted by the sexual trauma bonds .

I had many close calls .

I had no memory of my own oral rape and effort to initiate me into this shadow .

For this , knowledge and my truths , I hold in a place of distortion , or witchery in their minds and hearts to blasphemy me for not accepting sex as a weapon or tool or addiction .

It was this that fed , my past experience within the distorted masculine I married and had 3 sons with .

Not only sexually fed , taking of my property , allowing my financial support …a sister stated that she was going to help me IF I did as told….

Dad had seen the same energy as I experienced and it adversely affected Mom and Dad’s marriage .

Mom ignored a lot and allowed infighting, power plays etc

It shows , up in adults .

Nothing was acknowledged by Mom for her brother’s rape of 2 of her daughters .

It seems all 5 children were sexually molested outside of our home and carried on the abuse within and without our home without my knowledge or comprehension until 2005ish

Taking charge of Dads estate after his years of widowed existence , was a power play for brothers who Stockholmed Dad as he mentally declined .

The estate suffered from their devilish deeds , I was given a 1/3 of what I should have received.

I’m quite sure Dad would not have set a will up that had 2 brothers deciding how to carry out his wishes .

Dad had Dementia and after his accident without oxygen , with COPD , he developed Hypoxia, the brain cells died .

He had end stage COPD

He had end stage heart disease .

I did not know, nor was I told any of this .

In caring for him , I had no support and lost in my effort to keep him safe and at peace in his own home to die .

Mom died at home due to a very high profile nursing home neglecting her urgent care needs .

Dad brought her home and she passed within days .

I have not had funds to take this matter before court.

Just as ex has controlled my income , for nefarious , self provoked greed , covering up their misdeeds, family caste me out , after he did totally and demure I am the witch , but they love me !

Eldest passed horribly , never healing trauma or seeking absolution or forgiveness.

She seldom crosses my mind , sadly , her behaviors had many shadow effects on me and I understand and released her long ago . No attempts were made on her part , after I responded to her effort to have me disconnect from Dad and share my inheritance in 2004.

A lot of devil energy exist in siblings , I totally separated from after buried Dad in Jan of 2013.

She passed within months .

Family Fail strengthened my resolve to know and do better .

Remaining sister offers help as with my eviction , then spirals into shadow that has allowed me harm , so after 2020 , I am in no contact.

My failure was in ignoring Intuitive messages and signs , falling for the mask that devil/shadow energy and trauma unhealed that is not my place nor desire to heal for anyone beyond my facts and truths offering .

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna

Cheaters

Cheaters aren’t really in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
Cheaters have arrangements with people who either willingly or begrudgingly accept the situation.
At first, it might not seem that the cheating is accepted, but once we take a cheater back and it keeps happening, then we have settled into a certain level of acceptance, even if we don’t like it.
Believe it or not, infidelity is not a “regular” relationship issue.  
It’s an issue of being involved with someone who has very little morals.  (By the way, I am not referring to people who start affairs because their partner is emotionally abusive or withholds intimacy – and (for the record) withholding intimacy because of constant cheating isn’t toxic.  Withholding intimacy to control and devalue IS.)
Once the threshold has been crossed with one or more incidents of cheating, it’s up to us to uphold our own boundaries and dealbreakers.  It’s not up to the cheater to stop being a cheater (because they won’t).  
No doing the ‘pick me’ dance or allowing a cheater to prove their so-called devotion.  Cheaters often apologize but the damage to your self-esteem is already done.  Worse, they may say YOU’RE the reason they are cheating, giving you some lame-o excuse as to why they made such a devastating choice.
If this is happening to you, here are things that don’t stop cheaters from cheating:
-Losing weight-Getting a new hairstyle-Doing that uncomfortable thing in the bedroom-Getting any kind of plastic surgery-Getting engaged-Dressing sexier-Letting them move into your home
There is virtually nothing you can do to make a cheater stop cheating.  The only thing that works is hard cutting them out of your life, doing the healing work, and deciding what you want to do with the rest of your precious life.
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Holding you in my heart.  Xo
Kim
#shuthimdown #youdeservebetter