Cheaters

Cheaters aren’t really in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
Cheaters have arrangements with people who either willingly or begrudgingly accept the situation.
At first, it might not seem that the cheating is accepted, but once we take a cheater back and it keeps happening, then we have settled into a certain level of acceptance, even if we don’t like it.
Believe it or not, infidelity is not a “regular” relationship issue.  
It’s an issue of being involved with someone who has very little morals.  (By the way, I am not referring to people who start affairs because their partner is emotionally abusive or withholds intimacy – and (for the record) withholding intimacy because of constant cheating isn’t toxic.  Withholding intimacy to control and devalue IS.)
Once the threshold has been crossed with one or more incidents of cheating, it’s up to us to uphold our own boundaries and dealbreakers.  It’s not up to the cheater to stop being a cheater (because they won’t).  
No doing the ‘pick me’ dance or allowing a cheater to prove their so-called devotion.  Cheaters often apologize but the damage to your self-esteem is already done.  Worse, they may say YOU’RE the reason they are cheating, giving you some lame-o excuse as to why they made such a devastating choice.
If this is happening to you, here are things that don’t stop cheaters from cheating:
-Losing weight-Getting a new hairstyle-Doing that uncomfortable thing in the bedroom-Getting any kind of plastic surgery-Getting engaged-Dressing sexier-Letting them move into your home
There is virtually nothing you can do to make a cheater stop cheating.  The only thing that works is hard cutting them out of your life, doing the healing work, and deciding what you want to do with the rest of your precious life.
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Holding you in my heart.  Xo
Kim
#shuthimdown #youdeservebetter

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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