Tag: abuse
7 Hidden Effects of Trauma and Complex Trauma | Psychology Today Canada
Crone Jealousy,It’s a very real thing.Where crones were once perceived to be undesirable, irrelevant, and unable to reinvent themselves to birth new things, non-crone women counted us out of many things.In modern times, I am witnessing crones defy the old stereotypes, outdated images and redefine what a “crone” woman is – and some of the younger women are paying attention with an eye of envy.Crones- we are illuminated now more than ever. Our confidently wise, openly wild, and soul joy freedom is the magic younger ladies are seeking, but they don’t have it, not yet. In an age with everything is instant, they have to wait their turn. They have to travel the linear and gather the wisdom through chronological order and biological development. This, with older women being more lusciously glorious in every aging moment of her life and changing the game, Crone jealously is alive and active.My beautiful crone ladies, we are incredible, dynamic, and changing the stories for women in the most necessary way. Cheers to us not stopping!Some are seeing us in a way they’ve never seen us before, and it’s changing old narratives. No longer are the stories of older women being jealous of youth and younger. We are our own women, living it up!Celebrating us!!
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Not Holding Space for Narcisst Distortion by Kim
It’s not our mission in life to hold space for someone’s toxic and abusive behaviors.
This doesn’t help us and it doesn’t help the toxic person.
Instead, we teach them that their seeming positive traits make up for their abuse, giving them no motivation to change.
And if you’re dealing with a narcissist, no amount of self-sacrifice will make a difference.
Recovery includes learning–perhaps while still trying to function within the relationship–that this sort of behavior pattern likely means change is next to impossible and your efforts to maintain this disruptive relationship will likely never bear fruit for long.
It means recognizing that, despite your repeated attempts to change yourself or the narcissist, the primary change that’s happening is the loss of your own sense of self, independence, and vitality.
In other words, you are sacrificing yourself in the relationship, not for some greater future reward, but for NOTHING. Your efforts to maintain the relationship are effectively allowing a dysfunctional person to continue to be dysfunctional, but without suffering the natural consequences of his or her dysfunction (which would be perhaps the first step in their own healing, if it were possible).
Instead, YOU are suffering for them—enabling their continued dysfunction, even while enduring their abuse. You’ve been acting as a buffer between your abusive partner and reality, and all the rest is just the collateral damage from your own well-meaning, but pointless, self-sacrifice.
This can be a hard pill to swallow because it effectively means giving up hope on both the relationship AND your abusive partner. Once you’ve realized, however, that the person you thought you loved was merely a phantom conjured up by your abuser in an effort to “hook” you through your heart and manipulate you–THEN your radical acceptance of the truth about your partner puts you one step out the door.
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Kim
Cutting cords , ties to Shadow deserve to be severed
You are allowed to leave relationships. You are allowed to leave a relationship with any person, mother, father, sibling, child, boss, friend or romantic partner who is manipulating and abusing you. You have the right to protect yourself and remove these people from your life.
Life is miserable when you live in perpetual states of confusion, fear and trying surviving on relentless hope. This is not love. Whoever is making you feel these ways is not loving you.
If anyone tells you that you should not cut ties with family because “life is short,” you must hold the mindset that the exact reason you did cut ties is because your life is absolutely too short to allow yourself to be continually abused by your family or any other toxic relationship in your life. You have a much better life to live.
By Sherrie
Awoke Masculine vs Parasitic Attachment
The awoken masculine energy is one of the most beautiful things on this or any other planet.
But first. Before it realizes its truth.
It will betray. Hurt. Play. And discard the feminine as if nothing.
In the distorted clouds of what it knows
it will run from the power of the love it had never previously felt or known
And after it pushes away and discards the feminine, between numbing, crying and distracting — everything will slowly dawn.
Regardless of how hard it tries to hide from the love it feels unworthy of.
It will realize
Jigsaw piece by jigsaw piece —
— That the feminine is the only one that that ever truly cared. Truly loved. Truly seen. The masculine.
And the regret will hit like a train full of lead hitting a mountain the size of a planet.
The truth of who the feminine is will show itself though the divine
Numbers and symbols and dreams.
In realization after realization
Sign after sign
Who the feminine has always been
Intentions of pure love
Not just in this life.
In every life
– a kaleidoscope of infinity –
Different faces. Same people.
Feeling lost and helpless, the masculine will delve deeper into the depths of isolation – ripping open the passageways and sealed shut areas of the heart – discovering and realising what has always mattered most.
What had always been there.
A love beyond time and space
Lost in a self sabotaged darkness it chose over the feminine. It will regret. Scream. Cry. As it realizes its own stubbornness and ego destroyed the most beautiful thing it had ever known.
Something pure. Something it lost hope in existing.
And eventually.
It will seek. Tired of its cycles and patterns. Tired of its hiding from its truth.
It will remember the guidance of the feminine.
It will treasure. Every. Word.
It’s reverence – the apology it cannot yet express.
Where it once felt prideful and dismissive and confused.
It will acknowledge the blindness to the wisdom the feminine gave so selflessly
And in a wave of truth —- it won’t take for granted anymore.
What it initially feared within the depths of forever love
It will rise to.
Step by step.
Finding it’s worth
sitting with its traumas and belief systems that caused it to treat people with such coldness and cause so much pain
It will realise that forgiveness starts with self
With doing better
With understanding followed by action
And from within that newfound worth an incorruptible strength will bloom
The masculine will understand where it went wrong. How it was dominated by ego and pride, lust and appearances.
It will realize how all its priorities were in all of the wrong places.
How it was always trying to please everyone except who truly mattered.
In its quest for the truth — strength will keep rising— becoming innate and from the heart
Shedded layer by shedded layer — conviction will unlock as it chops away that which never never mattered or served, the superficial , the parisites and leeches it once listened to — taking back it’s power from a life that now seems alien—
—- It will begin to know no bounds.
It will fight for what it knows to be it’s true north – through any obstacle, any toxicity, any impurity that it was once a slave to.
It will break free of generational cycles slicing away anything that is in the way of the chance for forgiveness and unity with the feminine with it’s gleaming and pure sword of truth
doing what it must to return home
It will understand it’s birthright
A warrior.
Not a slave.
It will shed. It will change. In the name of what it has recognized to be home.
It will see no greater treasure than what it once pushed away and overlooked.
Not the status it once clung to. Or the opinions of others it chose over the feminine
And when it does step up. Owning its truth.
Reaching out. Despite it’s greatest fear of Rejection.
It won’t be the same person.
It will honor and protect the guidance and expansion of its feminine
It will be faithful.
Powerful.
And support the brilliance of the feminine by being the person the masculine always was to begin with.
A beautiful expression of the divine.
A warrior of love.
– by Matthew Cullen
Cheaters
Cheaters aren’t really in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
Cheaters have arrangements with people who either willingly or begrudgingly accept the situation.
At first, it might not seem that the cheating is accepted, but once we take a cheater back and it keeps happening, then we have settled into a certain level of acceptance, even if we don’t like it.
Believe it or not, infidelity is not a “regular” relationship issue.
It’s an issue of being involved with someone who has very little morals. (By the way, I am not referring to people who start affairs because their partner is emotionally abusive or withholds intimacy – and (for the record) withholding intimacy because of constant cheating isn’t toxic. Withholding intimacy to control and devalue IS.)
Once the threshold has been crossed with one or more incidents of cheating, it’s up to us to uphold our own boundaries and dealbreakers. It’s not up to the cheater to stop being a cheater (because they won’t).
No doing the ‘pick me’ dance or allowing a cheater to prove their so-called devotion. Cheaters often apologize but the damage to your self-esteem is already done. Worse, they may say YOU’RE the reason they are cheating, giving you some lame-o excuse as to why they made such a devastating choice.
If this is happening to you, here are things that don’t stop cheaters from cheating:
-Losing weight-Getting a new hairstyle-Doing that uncomfortable thing in the bedroom-Getting any kind of plastic surgery-Getting engaged-Dressing sexier-Letting them move into your home
There is virtually nothing you can do to make a cheater stop cheating. The only thing that works is hard cutting them out of your life, doing the healing work, and deciding what you want to do with the rest of your precious life.
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Holding you in my heart. Xo
Kim
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Sex without consent : Denmark Stats
“Incredibly, Denmark has become only the 12th country in Europe to recognise sex without consent as rape, although momentum for change is building in other countries to amend their laws.
Rape in Denmark is hugely under-reported and even when women do go to the police, the chances of prosecution or conviction are very slim.
Every year, 11,400 women in Denmark are subjected to rape or attempted rape, according to the Danish Ministry of Justice. The University of Southern Denmark’s research estimates that this figure may have been as high as 24,000 in 2017. However, in 2019 just 1,017 rapes were reported to the police and only 79 resulted in convictions.
Randy Travis – Diggin Up Bones Lyrics
Às Beloved and I communed on Sunday , part of
of our day was excavation…One of us thought of the
following song , and pulled it up.
Fully enjoying the song together in it’s intent , agreeing
healing by 1 chosen in their family to hold truth
and light , even if you go throught hell, that
does end and we are chosen by ancestors .
Signs abound …
And yes it’s like digging up a grave , digging up
bones ..
Much thanks to Amanda , my guide and beloved
soul sister , which holds many connections .
A Blessing 💘, in her wholeness , her great love
and her journey with me and others as we
collectively dig up the bones , know the stories
and heal them compassionately that we may begin
brand new, as we deserve and have manifested
over lifetimes .
Blessings & Peace ,
Dona Luna
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