Not Holding Space for Narcisst Distortion by Kim

It’s not our mission in life to hold space for someone’s toxic and abusive behaviors.
This doesn’t help us and it doesn’t help the toxic person.
Instead, we teach them that their seeming positive traits make up for their abuse, giving them no motivation to change.
And if you’re dealing with a narcissist, no amount of self-sacrifice will make a difference.  
Recovery includes learning–perhaps while still trying to function within the relationship–that this sort of behavior pattern likely means change is next to impossible and your efforts to maintain this disruptive relationship will likely never bear fruit for long. 
It means recognizing that, despite your repeated attempts to change yourself or the narcissist, the primary change that’s happening is the loss of your own sense of self, independence, and vitality.
In other words, you are sacrificing yourself in the relationship, not for some greater future reward, but for NOTHING.   Your efforts to maintain the relationship are effectively allowing a dysfunctional person to continue to be dysfunctional, but without suffering the natural consequences of his or her dysfunction (which would be perhaps the first step in their own healing, if it were possible).
Instead, YOU are suffering for them—enabling their continued dysfunction, even while enduring their abuse.  You’ve been acting as a buffer between your abusive partner and reality, and all the rest is just the collateral damage from your own well-meaning, but pointless, self-sacrifice.
This can be a hard pill to swallow because it effectively means giving up hope on both the relationship AND your abusive partner.  Once you’ve realized, however, that the person you thought you loved was merely a phantom conjured up by your abuser in an effort to “hook” you through your heart and manipulate you–THEN your radical acceptance of the truth about your partner puts you one step out the door.
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Cutting cords , ties to Shadow deserve to be severed

You are allowed to leave relationships. You are allowed to leave a relationship with any person, mother, father, sibling, child, boss, friend or romantic partner who is manipulating and abusing you. You have the right to protect yourself and remove these people from your life.  
Life is miserable when you live in perpetual states of confusion, fear and trying surviving on relentless hope. This is not love. Whoever is making you feel these ways is not loving you. 
 If anyone tells you that you should not cut ties with family because “life is short,” you must hold the mindset that the exact reason you did cut ties is because your life is absolutely too short to allow yourself to be continually abused by your family or any other toxic relationship in your life. You have a much better life to live.

By Sherrie


Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, **not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. 

The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other silence. It is hard to find. In its presence we can remember something beyond the moment , a strength on which to build a life. 

Silence is a place of great power and healing ..

~ Rachel Naomi Remen ~

Art by Pascal Campion

Web page : Illegal Retaliatory Evictions

Unfortunately, as the ex wife of a landlord

who has distorted everything business , financial

as well as our personal life and certainly with

regard to our 3 sons and 6 grandchildren ( that I know

of) .

His residence to change , his slow and methodical

planning of years , aided by his family whose opinion

of me , was critical from the get go because I didn’t

accept , that I had to wear a fake mask , or hold a man

on high , when he lived in distortion far too much .

Was it my imagination , that I saw higher sides in him

and held faith for his more attached and balanced

mood in consistent growth ? I have realized our family

was a business , his pride at creating 3 sons to carry

his family name 📛📛📛📛📛📛📛📛📛 had nothing to

do with me ..Secrets and untruths have been held

rotting the core of what was , with our son’s and I

and aided by many who agreed to shut me up , has

ultimately failed .

As any professional , dare retaliate in these unique times

of COVID , their boomerangs will be swift …But just in

their very acts , those wormholes are being exposed

and there are no exemptions .

Any professional business who puts folks in jeopardy

in foundational ways to retaliate , repeadly , covering

themselves , taking no responsibility , discriminations ,

failure to comply with code , forced evacuations that

are delicious with over powering abusive energy ,

enjoying the trauma for the recipient to whom

all abuse is projected .

I lived through this, survived this and I KNOW what

this is .

And I know I am called on , and called to aide others

as much as I can . *** new leases have clasuses that

stipulate that they cannot be legally held ” responsible “,

the same language ex used in his divorce , making me

responsible for legal and health , and every freaking

thing negative , as 20 years with yet another who

met him energetically , and delighted in increased

abuse , as did others who joined in family ,

savoring my son’s disposal of me , adding the death

of our son’s mom , was a complete and done deal

and they wanted nothing to do with me .

Shadow of the matriarch , who has ruled with a

vengeance, that negates a peaceful landing upon

exit from this plane of existence .

The choice is his, to liberate himself or stay as is ..

I’ve been long gone, exhumed from the grave , and

the box of Distortion , and my voice is clear and

much needed , plus Spirit is in the house .

My house , and I am , I am home And that’s magnetic

as my tribe awakens and we converge in cosmic

love and joy 💖.


Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna

Watch “You Are Now Approaching The Master Number 44⎮Kryon Late Night Series” on YouTube

I surrender to and honor “old souls” who are

Magic ,Mystical , Walking & Talking Historians

It’s wisdom that is timeless as we strive to

exit negatives of past .

This morning I danced in a pj top and a sheet

and felt like my actress self as a young child.

With little furniture there is dance room and

I did and I felt renewed ..I am weary now

as I wash , dry , sort and hang cloths , much

to give away’s exciting .

I was given new things , by a lady , goddess who

stole my heart with her compassionate nurture

and friendship ..So this new life is a reality .

I’m in a home to witness Mother Earth , in Spring and

Summer , having a taste of the worst of Winter

I learned a lot and my list increased of required

readiness items , lol .

But I’m good , ready for bath and bed after some

dinner .

Pay should hit and my $3.37 balance increases!

As my inheritance hits , I’m wisely manifesting

my dreams , many of childhood , many of our

sons …Beloved and never having to worry about home

or being unheard , I have such peace today , as

I am called on to aide many in abusive situations

that example the less concious , who in these

days , highlight the disparity in legal judgements .

Writing in , the lease …cannot sue company

Oh but that’s a very bad move ….

I have a suit that should be open, and it’s

clear what’s going on.

Talking legal is not fun..glad I have close and trusted

advisors .©


Blessings & Much Peace ☮️💯🙏✌️❤️🥰

“I’ll never be Your Maybe “

Honey,I’m not the kind of person that will wait for you to “figure things out.”I know what i want and who I want it from- I expect the same from you.If you can’t make me a priority, then don’t think that I’ll stick around as a possibility.I know my worth and I’m as good as they come.If you can’t see that, someone else will.I may not have everything always figured out and I may just have “those” days sometimes where i cry in the shower, but then, who doesn’t?I never said I was perfect and I don’t ever want to be.So, if you’re looking for Barbie, Ken, you won’t find her here.I’m imperfectly beautiful in all the most chaotically wonderful ways, and if you’d stop looking at me and start actually seeing me, you might just get that.I need someone strong, confident and passionate-I don’t want to sit idly and watch a small camp fire, I want passion fiery enough to set a thousand nights ablaze.If you’re trying to define me like every other woman you’ve known, then let me just stop you right there.You may never figure me out, you might have a challenge trying to understand me, but if you want something badly enough, I’d think you’d do your best to try to unravel my layers.True love and blazing romance doesn’t just appear for the faint of heart.You can call me stubborn, headstrong or sassy- I’ll just smile and thank you for the compliments.I’m not going to be just another option in your playbook and I’m not happy settling for small slivers of your attention.So, this is your chance and I’m your wake up call.If you’re playing a game, then find another field to play on.My love isn’t something I value lightly and i don’t waste my time with hopscotch of the heart.So, do us both a favor, won’t you?Forget your maybes, hopefully and possibilities.Step up and treat me with some respect if you want to earn my love.My life isn’t a dress rehearsal and this isn’t an audition.This time..I’m playing for keeps.|ravenwolf