Grandchildren used as leverage ,cycle continues

“Parents who try to punnish or coerce grandparents by witholding visitation defeat thier own child. Whenever there is a conflict between parents and grandparents, the child in the middle is likely to lose.

Some parents and grandparents get it wrong. It is not the parents’ or grandparents’ right over a child, it is a child’s right (and need) to have the love and access to both sets of grandparents without fear, guilt or conflict of loyalty.

A child must not be put in the position of taking sides. A major conflict between parents and grandparents teaches a child wrong lessons about parent-child relationships of grownups. Such a situation might have future repercussions for the quality of relationship the child might have with his parents or his or her own children in the future.” ~ Vijai Sharma, PhD

It Women Rose Rooted

“Before there was the Word, there was the Land, and it was made and watched over by women. Stories from almost every culture around the world tell us that once upon a time it was so. For many native tribes throughout America, Grandmother Spider continually spins the world into being. For the Andean peoples of South America, Pachamama is the World Mother; she sustains all life on Earth. In Scotland and Ireland, the Cailleach – the Old Woman – made, shaped and protects the land and the wild things on it. …

Women: the creators of life, the bearers of the Cup of knowledge and wisdom, personifying the moral and spiritual authority of this fertile green and blue Earth.”
~ Sharon Blackie, If Women Rose Rooted

Art by by Dee Mulrooney

Mother’s Blamed in PA

Yes I know this happens .

It happens with Dads who are not hands on , need to target all responsibilities failure elsewhere, projecting blame to Mom . No proof required , just stating blame , having supporters with an agenda 😉and utilizing services and courts and judges who do not serve the best interest of children nor family .

It is billions in revenue and allows systems to control families, to erase them , causing or adding to psychological damage that need not be.

I hear more about Dad and money ; his wanting to hold on to his , or miser it out , still controlling , manipulating and winning what is competition.

Seldom is a male admitting grief for his children, never negotiating, cooperating but holding the energy of domestic abuse , which does adversely affect children .

Society can and will do better.

Children are not leverage or deserving of abuse that’s fallout from parents.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2678528/The-vengeful-mothers-tear-fathers-childrens-lives-Britains-parenting-guru-one-unspoken-scandals-age.html?ito=facebook_share_fbia-middle

Setting a standard

4.26.19: Conversations have an almost uncanny way of looping back to wellbeing and fitness today, no matter the direction you try to steer them. Perhaps there are some words of wisdom on those topics that you’re meant to hear in the repetitive mix. There are always more ways to squeeze healthy foods and activities into your lifestyle, and positively influence your family’s habits. Don’t ignore the proven benefits of stress reduction and sufficient rest. Dr. Sonya Friedman wrote, “The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others.”

Be worried about Boys , especially baby boys

Let’s include circumcision done

the 1st 12 hours …not needed

I had rooming in and knew the

horror of separation, fear

saturated me , as I was alone

Dad was out , celebrating with

his gal pals .

I had to accept his disconnect

as I became a single married

Mom of a gift from God , in

A beautiful baby boy , and in

and out of reality , I had 2

more boys which repeated

my awareness of how I lacked

a partner in all ways .

https://www.socialjusticesolutions.org/2017/02/17/worried-boys-especially-baby-boys/

Erasing Families on the Rise

Are today’s adult-children ignorant of the significance in multigenerational relationships? Has society evolved into a graceless culture that is living in The Age of Grace? Everything owned, every $1.00 in the bank, is valueless in comparison to those Grandparent and family moments that makes ones heart sing! Emptiness vs. Heaven on earth. We all can learn a lot from this article. It speaks volumes.

https://illinoisfamily.org/uncategorized/family-estrangement-on-the-rise-in-america/

Meeting God Self thru Twin flames

My experience , has been one

of being blamed and shamed

, targeted and told to do as I’m

told to gain access to son or

grandchildren , 2 I have never

met .

Like one of my 3 lawyers stated

“Dona they will do anything to

hurt you , be very careful , no

contact .”

Of course not offering me

protection legally and dropping

me , taking evidence critical

to an appeal before the

Virginia Supreme Court (2006)

She handed me over to my

abuser for which I sense she

was compensated or threatened

into.

Fear of God self , lack of empowerment, unhealed trauma, support in distortion allows this .

I just know I am better on my

own than invite opposition

and lower energies in my life.

Meet halfway in truth ..

Be a bridge not a tower

https://mirror-of-my-soul.com/2015/04/21/how-meeting-our-twin-flame-leads-us-to-god/

Child Abuse via Alienation

“My 16 year old son said he won’t see me this Christmas. He texted me to leave his present on his dad’s front porch and admitted his dad wants me to stay away. He asked me not to knock on the door. I was initially so mad I thought there was no way I’d give the gift but then I thought, it’s a gift, there should be no strings attached, I’ll leave it on the porch and at least my son may feel loved by me. I did it and guess what! He snuck out and gave me a big hug and told me he loved me! Going forward I’m going to keep trying to always take the high road in every interaction I can with my son and his father. It really paid off last night. That doesn’t mean I’ll let them be abusive toward me but for something like a gift…a gift is just a gift and if there’s a chance it could make my child feel loved I’m going to do anything I can to get it to him, even if it means leaving it on the porch.

I think I’m on to something…I’ve been thinking a lot about the advantages of taking the high road and self care. They’re the only two positive things I can do when it comes to my situation.

Wishing everyone peace and happy moments today.”

***

Parent with better outcome .

There has been no healing as holidays are leveraged , along with children. Not desirous of healing , of ending the nightmare of trauma bond , ignoring the emotional and psychological and physical consequences and retarding spiritual grown in a distortion to shut off the truth , the light , at all cost.

In 2 days the anniversary of his exit , to find happiness with another openly , proudly, in distorted union that ended after almost 20 years . United towards my complete destruction, winning at all cost to sons and I, fracturing the living connection , preferring the living grief and trauma of estrangement so secrets are safe .

It has been 8399 days

It has been 275.93 months

It has been 22.99 years

And it will be concluded this

year , legally offering healing

restoring balance .

I have no choice but self care.

Thankfully I have support I did

not have in 1998 .

The inability to accept

responsibility , relates to non

response and great harm

Distorted thinking allows them

rewrite history to escape

responsibility .

I am not crazy , but psychiatric

“Care” induced trauma as I

lived hell on earth and our sons

were unionized in my

destruction in the perpetual

darkness of a projector,

unhealded trauma victim

who must have allies to do his

dirty work .

I am spiritually killing what’s

killing me

I have stopped trying , there is no reciprocation of anything positive unless information or trickery is involved .

I wasn’t favored for my inability to produce $1000 per son and a $1000 per grandchild which was stated before a judge for ” His” family .

Judge didn’t get the malignant distorted, abuse within that ego based power control so keep things as they are , devalue my word , my essence .

Spiritual Warfare at its highest .

What began with promise and

much speed in 76, with an

engagement ring , his request

to keep it quiet ..as it was less

than a month at Christmas

became his had to marry me

because of our sacred beautiful

baby conceived 3 months

after marriage in March 77.

Again lack of responsibility on

his part , projecting and

targeting me .

Awareness that he prefers I

take my life has been clarified

many times .

Blessings & Peacr

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/peaceful-parents-happy-kids/201403/dont-get-hijacked-take-the-high-road