May all broken hearts be healed!!
Artist – Charles H Geilfus (1856 – 1914) “ Repairing Hearts” – 1900.

May all broken hearts be healed!!
Artist – Charles H Geilfus (1856 – 1914) “ Repairing Hearts” – 1900.

When entering a relationship, a woman should always ask about the purpose of the man she is considering. A man without vision is like a ship lost at sea—drifting aimlessly, reacting to every wave, and never setting a clear course. Without purpose, he will move through life without direction, unable to provide stability or leadership in a relationship.
A man will either chase you, find you, or walk beside you, but in all these cases, he must have a purpose for you. He must know why you are in his life, beyond fleeting desires or surface-level attractions. If he does not, he will treat you as just another passing moment rather than as a significant presence in his journey.
There are many types of men, and their purposes in relationships vary. Some seek comfort, a place to rest from the world’s burdens. Others seek physical satisfaction, driven by temporary passion. Some desire emotional security, looking for someone to heal the wounds they cannot tend to themselves. And then there are those who seek power, control, or validation through relationships, using love as a means to an end.
But the purpose of a man should not be limited to acquiring material wealth, buying cars, building homes, or achieving success in business. These are mere outcomes, not true purpose. A man’s purpose should be infinite—it should transcend his own needs and contribute to something far greater than himself. His purpose should be a force that nurtures, builds, and elevates everything around him.
A man with true purpose does not see a relationship as a way to simply fulfill his personal needs. Instead, he sees it as an opportunity to grow, to support, and to co-create something meaningful. He understands that his role is not just to take but to give, to cherish, and to build something lasting. His presence should bring peace, clarity, and strength to the woman beside him, not confusion or instability.
When a man is aligned with his purpose, everything else in his life flourishes—his work, his relationships, and even his personal growth. He does not wander aimlessly or fall into destructive patterns. Instead, he leads with conviction, knowing that his mission is greater than himself.
For a woman, it is crucial to recognize whether a man’s purpose aligns with her own values and vision. Does he see her as a companion in his journey, or merely as a convenience? Is he building something meaningful, or just existing without direction? The answers to these questions will determine whether the relationship is one of depth or one of mere survival.
A man with purpose will never make a woman feel like an option. He will never leave her questioning where she stands. Instead, his actions will reflect a deep sense of responsibility, care, and unwavering commitment. He will not just promise; he will prove his purpose through his consistency, his vision, and his ability to create a life where both partners thrive.
A woman should never settle for a man who does not have a higher calling. A man without purpose will inevitably lead both himself and his relationship into chaos. But a man with vision, discipline, and a true sense of purpose will create a foundation that is unshakable—a love that is not just about existing but about evolving, creating, and leaving a lasting impact.
So, when you enter a relationship, do not just ask how he feels about you—ask what he is building, what he stands for, and what his soul is devoted to. Because a man with a purpose is not just a lover; he is a force that transforms everything he touches.
– Abhikesh

I adore her
“Getting older is not for the weak. One day, you wake up and realize that youth is behind you, but with it, insecurities, haste, and the need to please also fade away. You walk more slowly, but with greater confidence. You learn to let go without fear and to cherish those who stay. Aging is about acceptance; it is discovering that beauty was never in the skin but in the story we carry within us.”
– Meryl Streep

Patience visited me
And it reminded me
That good things take time to come to fruition
And grow slowly with stability
Peace visited me
And it reminded me
That I may remain calm through the storms of life
Regardless of the chaos surrounding me
Hope visited me
And it reminded me
That better times lay ahead
And it would always be there to guide and uplift me
Humility visited me
And it reminded me
That I may achieve it
Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less
But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me
Kindness visited me
And it reminded me
To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself
And those surrounding me
Confidence visited me
And it reminded me
To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents
In order to make others feel more comfortable
But to embrace what makes me me
Focus visited me
And it reminded me
That other people’s insecurities and judgements about me
Are not my problem
And I should redirect my attention
From others back to me
Freedom visited me
And it reminded me
That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing
But me
And love visited me
And it reminded me
That I need not search for it in others
As it lies within me.
-unknown

Being in a relationship with a narcissist means there’s always a hidden world unfolding behind your back.
These individuals are deeply empty, constantly seeking stimulation from multiple sources just to get through life. Whether it’s indulging in addictions like drugs or pornography, engaging in emotional affairs, or chasing risky financial ventures that often lead to trouble, they thrive on chaos.
Flirting and stringing people along isn’t just for fun—it’s a strategy. They know they’ll eventually get bored of you or that you’ll start recognizing their games. Since being alone is unbearable for them, they’re always grooming new prospects, ensuring they have a backup supply of admiration and attention.
You’ll also notice their pattern of making promises—dangling them like bait to control you. If you don’t comply, they withdraw the promise. Sometimes, they deny ever making it, or they delay it until you give up. The truth? They never planned to keep it in the first place.
A narcissist has no real moral compass. Their only concern is satisfying themselves, no matter the cost.
When you finally walk away, they’ll circle back, pretending to check on you when, in reality, they’re just seeing if they still have access to you.
If you share a child, they’ll weaponize that child to manipulate and torment you. Unless you set firm legal boundaries or cut them off completely, they’ll continue their psychological warfare. Sadly, the child may be deeply affected—either molded into another narcissist or left emotionally shattered.
Most people don’t truly understand narcissists.
Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of leaving—until you realize the pain of staying is far worse.
Other times, you convince yourself you’re staying for the children—until you see that the narcissist is either shaping them into mini versions of themselves or breaking them entirely.
The only solution is to accept the truth: this person is incapable of peace. Their greatest skill is manipulation and keeping you confused.
Real life begins when you detach, reclaim your sense of self, and pursue genuine emotional stability.
