Tag: survivors

Nature as Partner, Not Resource: A Call for Ethical Treatment of Therapeutic Environments

This is so true , the ocean attracts for its sedative , antidepressant effects , and the forest attracts for the peace and challenges here on my mountain. Life expectancy for rural women is longer.

The disruption of these therapeutic environments has not deterred me from making my home here and even after being warned I’d be run off , I stayed .

The blow back to each and every individual who presented my challenges , is happening or has happening .

I surrendered all these grievances to Divine long ago, who allows me survival.. onward to thrive .

Patric Plesa’s ‘ethical ecology’ urges us to rethink therapeutic environments, bridging mental health with environmental ethics.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/08/nature-as-partner-not-resource-a-call-for-ethical-treatment-of-therapeutic-environments/

The Journey by Mary Oliver

I fell in love with this poem, feeling the totality of each word around 12 years ago .

I thought about this poem several days ago and could not recall the title. I had been printing , saving, collecting data and meaningful things to blog about over 20 years , now in storage , or some out of date . I am behind in my effort to complete this part of my mission and move on to the next one.

The Journey

THE JOURNEY

One day you finally knew

what you had to do, and began,

though the voices around you

kept shouting

their bad advice –

though the whole house

began to tremble

and you felt the old rug

at your ankles.

“Mend my life!”

each voice cried.

But you didn’t stop.

You knew what you had to do,

though the wind pried

with its stiff fingers

at the very foundations,

though their melancholy

was terrible.

It was already late

enough, and a wild night,

and the road full of fallen

branches and stones.

But little by little,

as you left their voices behind,

the stars began to burn

through the sheets of clouds,

and there was a new voice

which you slowly recognized as your own,

that kept you company

as you strode deeper and deeper

into the world,

determined to do

the only thing you could do –

determined to save

the only life you could save.

~ Mary Oliver ~

Photo: Art Print by Tammy Wampler

Archaeology for the Woman’s Soul

The split has begun

My life is calm , if not peaceful, as the unraveling , revelations cast light , that is not seen nor acknowledged by one’s held dear in my heart .

Wobbly is definitely how it feels , and I definitely want and need more on my own time, as I pray and hold patience.

All is not as it should be and that’s coming , soon.

As I hold space , for others, in their own journey , their own destination , while I am in reality holding plan B , and a ” fuck it bucket” for those things I release, those things and people that have no interest in rising to their higher self, the self of higher power , of knowing yourself and your gifts .

For over 20 years , I have exampled the monster in the closet , disposal, hatred and vengeance , the lack of love and respect and a preference to lie , cheat and steal , in order to own power that’s distorted realities .

My miss is my mercy , and so happily , I seek my home , a fall of preparing , a winter of rest and writing , and peace in my heart .

I never wanted certain things to be hopeless, and I prefer to have faith that what’s meant for me will be : Thy Will Be Done .

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Cured: A Memoir—Sarah Fay on Giving Everyone the Chance to Heal – Mad In America

Author Sarah Fay joins us to discuss why “cured” is such a seldom-used word in psychiatry.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/08/cured-memoir-sarah-fay-giving-everyone-chance-to-heal/

Communication with a Narcissist

After recent business conversations , including meetings , I have decided no contact is a must …

TO US, LANGUAGE IS A TOOL OF COMMUNICATION….to a narc, language is a tool of deception, abuse, manipulation, and control. That’s why you have to listen carefully and decode what a narc says. (He or She)

Annie Kaszina says: “Narcissists win you with their – lying, falsely loving – words and then destroy you with their – abusive – words.

That doesn’t happen by chance. They are master manipulators. Whether they are academically bright or educationally challenged, they use language, quite deliberately, to make you fear and obey them.

Often they say that they are not good with language. They use that and other similar ploys because they know how easy it is to dupe you.

They know that you will be slow to believe who they truly are – not least because you don’t want to believe that people like that not only exist but share your home and your bed.

You have to listen to What a Narcissist says and get confident about translating it correctly so that you discern their true agenda.

Whatever they say to you is only ever about safeguarding their best interests at your expense.

When did you realize what the narcissist was saying was manipulation?

For me, the light bulb first went on when I saw the Narcissist planning what he would say to the couples’ counselor… and what a fabulous victim story that was.”

Crone – A woman who has found her voice

”A crone is a woman who has found her voice. She knows that silence is consent. This is a quality that makes older women feared. It is not the innocent voice of a child who says, “the emperor has no clothes,” but the fierce truthfulness of the crone that is the voice of reality. Both the innocent child and the crone are seeing through the illusions, denials, or “spin” to the truth. But the crone knows about the deception and its consequences, and it angers her. Her fierceness springs from the heart, gives her courage, makes her a force to be reckoned with.”

— Jean Shinoda Bolen (Crones Don’t Whine: Concentrated Wisdom for Juicy Women)

Painting by Andrea Redmond