Tag: relationships

Evolution & Sexuality ❤️

“A person’s approach to sexuality is a sign of his level of evolution. Unevolved persons practice ordinary sexual intercourse. Placing all emphasis upon the sexual organs, they neglect the body’s other organs and systems.

Whatever physical energy is accumulated is summarily discharged [through orgasm], and the subtle energies are similarly dissipated and disordered. It is a great backward leap.

For those who aspire to the higher realms of living, there is angelic dual cultivation [transmutation]. Because every portion of the body, mind, and spirit yearns for the integration of yin and yang, angelic intercourse is led by the spirit rather than the sexual organs.

Where ordinary intercourse is effortful, angelic cultivation is calm, relaxed, quiet, and natural. Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body.

Culminating not in dissolution [orgasm] but in integration [sublimation], it is an opportunity for a man and woman to mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness.

The sacred ways of angelic intercourse are taught only by one who has himself achieved total energy integration, and taught only to students who follow the Integral Way with profound devotion, seeking to purify and pacify the entire world along with their own being.

However, if your virtue is especially radiant, it can be possible to open a pathway to the subtle realm and receive these celestial teachings directly from the immortals. ”

– Hua Hu Ching, chapter 69, by Lao Tzu

Alienated Children – Lack of self love

Parental alienation can lead to children distancing themselves emotionally and physically from one parent due to the influence and manipulation of the other parent. The child’s response to this complex situation includes severing contact and adopting a defensive, even hostile stance toward the ‘target’ parent. This strategy serves as a mechanism to navigate the loyalty conflicts and psychological pressures they experience. This inadvertently compels the child to suppress their genuine emotions and authentic self, as they prioritise gaining the approval of the alienating parent to maintain a semblance of peace and stability. The child may internalise the negative narratives about themselves and their alienated parent promoted by the alienator, leading to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, self-blame, and diminished self-worth. ⁠

Children have limited perspectives. Unconsciously, they may believe that any abuse they get from their parents is deserved because it’s their fault. When ignored or their needs and interests are neglected, a child can believe it’s because they’re not good enough. Or that they’re difficult, a nuisance, a problem. If nothing is done to correct these erroneous beliefs, the child will believe they’re true, and the lack of self-worth and the general self-loathing they feel for themselves may be reinforced. It’s not the child that is the problem, but the parenting. This, unfortunately, is how dysfunctional parenting from an unhealed parent can get passed on to the child. ⁠

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These internal conflicts and loss of self-love, combined with the desire to maintain attachment to an alienating (abusive) parent, can suppress feelings for the targeted parent. This may not be forever. The love for the alienated parent can endure despite the manipulation and psychological pressures inflicted upon them. Love, as a force, can prevail over the influence of hate and manipulative abuse. ⁠

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#CoerciveControl

#traumabonding

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#ChildCustody

#mothersmatter

#FathersMatter

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Good People

The strange thing about good people is that they’re the easiest to break up with.

They don’t cling, they don’t beg, they don’t threaten to kill you or hang themselves.

You only need to play games in their faces, and that’s it. It doesn’t matter how deeply in love they were with you, they will see themselves out of your life.

They will glow after the breakup, and you’ll know you were the problem.

Perhaps you lied in the beginning, and they trusted you, but you made it your habit.

Perhaps other people have been accommodating your lies because they didn’t have options. After all, they were not that invested in their own growth.
So you came to believe that you’re something special.

What you don’t realize is that good people always have options. They

Their biggest option is not someone else but their own space and peace. They can always live peacefully by themselves, and that’s their superpower.

So you can’t threaten them with, ‘Where will you go? You’re too old. You’re no longer handsome. You have too many children.’

Good people may love you wholeheartedly, but you must not mistake it to mean that they’re stuck with you.

They’re committed, but their commitment is a choice. You’re better off paying your part of the bargain instead of getting comfortable.

Most people who say they’re unlucky in love actually met someone good along the way, but they took too long to shape up.

If you don’t tame your ego and your attitude on time, you’ll wake up after you’ve lost the only person who cared for you so deeply as to be with you through thick and thin.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

A part of me died

It didn’t kill me, but something changed,

A piece of me lost, forever estranged.

I walked away, yet not the same,

A shadowed soul, a quiet flame.

That day took part of who I was,

Left me searching, without cause.

I carry on, but feel the void,

A heart once whole, now destroyed.

It didn’t end me, but I’m not whole—

An echo remains, deep in my soul.

I’m here, I breathe, but truth denied—

A part of me, that day, quietly died.

Divine Souls

Convictions

For those who have found refuge in the illusion of distance, shielding themselves from perceived threats to their ‘liberties,’ a formidable question emerges: How does one anchor themselves in unyielding ideals—emotional, material, and ideological—while navigating the relentless tides of a world in perpetual motion? How does one remain steadfast without severing the delicate threads of human connection?

Let us turn our gaze to those who stand immovable, their convictions etched in stone, their defiance an unbroken anthem against the symphony of change. These are the architects of their own fortresses, those who would rather let empires of love crumble, careers disintegrate, and entire lifetimes be rewritten in the ink of resistance rather than surrender to dictates they deem unjust. We may wonder: What compels a soul to clutch at grievances with the grip of eternity, to wage wars that scorch the very ground they walk upon?

It is not merely fear of consequence that drives such defiance. No, it is the primal fire within—the indomitable human spirit that rebels against the yoke of perceived tyranny. It is the ancient, sacred call to forge one’s own path, to sculpt triumph from the raw material of adversity, even if that triumph is born of rage—a rebellion against the hands that seek to mold them.

Yet before we cast judgment upon those who refuse to yield—whether out of self-interest or what they deem a higher calling—let us recognize the sanctity of their resolve. Some will forsake the world before they betray the compass of their own soul, believing that in their resistance lies an unspoken justice, an inviolable truth.

But to those whose fear of letting go has become an anchor rather than a refuge, hear this: The world is not waiting for you. It is not pausing, nor pleading for your compliance. It is shifting, evolving, dancing forward with or without your consent. If you cannot meet it with courage—if you cannot surrender to the tempest without drowning in it—then, my dear, it is time to awaken.

Dare to venture beyond the perimeters of your comfort. Chase knowledge like a lover who leaves traces of wonder in their wake. Let new experiences unsettle you, let fresh perspectives sculpt the edges of your understanding. Fall in love with the unknown, and in doing so, reclaim your passion for existence itself.

Katie Kamara

[Art: Charles Young Walls]

#kamaraholisticconnections

Kenny Loggins – Conviction’s of the Heart ❤️

https://youtu.be/rQZbB5CUXFI?si=bt9rJdTSeo5RYszl

Never Again

She’s been the girl who was lied to.

She’s been the girl who was manipulated, cheated on, and accused of doing things the other person was doing the entire time.

She was gaslight so hard she questioned what colour the ocean was.

She’s been the girl who gave chances on top of chances because she knows change doesn’t happen overnight.

She’s begged for counselling, pleaded for effort, and shown more patience than you couldn’t even begin to imagine.

She even changed the way she communicated to adapt to what someone else needed.

She buried her complaints and kept her feelings to herself so she could keep the peace.

She’s twisted her boundaries so much to try and make things work with other people she shouldn’t have given the time of day in the first place.

She used to do all those things so she could have peace of mind, but when she finally walked away, she knew she had done everything in her power to try to make things work.

And what she knows now is that every single time she did that …. all she was doing was showing people how they could treat her and still stick around.

And looking back, she can say with total confidence that not once was it worth it.

So she will never do it again.

~ Cody Bret