Tag: parents

Let them – Elders Parents message to their children

When Parents Grow Old!

Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow… Let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child… Let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win… Let them enjoy their friends just as they let you… Let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them… Let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away… Let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you…

LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!

The Vicious Cycle of Helicopter Parenting – The Atlantic

“Separation anxiety, a fear of heights, nervousness about the unknown—those are normal parts of development that serve an evolutionary purpose in keeping kids safe. They don’t dissipate on their own, though; they’re gradually allayed through experiences that draw kids further from parental oversight: spending an afternoon at a friend’s house, climbing a tree, walking to the bus stop by themselves. Learning to cope with the strong emotions that often attend these exploits is valuable. Some psychologists trace the ongoing decline in American children’s mental well-being directly to the constraints on their freedom.”

When so many people think hovering is what good parents do, how do you stop?
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/07/helicopter-parenting-child-autonomy-standards/674618/

David Brooks: The New Old Age – The Atlantic

Yes yes , reverence for the wisdom of elders instead of what we have come to be in regard to our older generation.. Drs treated me old in my late 30s … I watched and listened to my elders.. It’s way past time to do better 👍😘

What a new life stage can teach the rest of us about how to find meaning and purpose—before it’s too late
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2023/08/career-retirement-transition-academic-programs/675085/

America Is in Its Insecure-Attachment Era – The Atlantic

Detachment was a horrible failure , attachment can get very distorted . It’s time to address exactly what the individual child needs and not fail the needs of foundation.

Do you see me ?

Do you hear me ?

Do I matter ?

Discomfort with intimacy seems to be on the rise—and no one’s quite sure why.
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/04/insecure-attachment-style-intimacy-decline-isolation/673867/