Tag: Parental Alienation

Family Court killed Virginia Giuffre

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Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre

The System Enables Fathers to Alienate Kids from Mothers

Sadly, Virginia Giuffre, the most prominent victim of Jeffrey Epstein’s sex-trafficking ring, ended her life Friday.

In a not-so-cryptic message to her followers, she pinned a black screen with a broken heart emoji to her Instagram just before committing suicide.

The black screen and stars obviously reflect the ending of her life. The broken heart emoji conveys her great sadness at having been alienated from her children, whom she described as “the light of her life.”

Causation or just correlation?

We will never know for sure, but in an earlier post Virginia said being alienated from her kids was the worst thing that had ever happened to her. And it is not uncommon for mothers to have suicidal ideation after being estranged from their precious children.

It is important to keep in mind that the father would not have been able to alienate her children from her without a judge enabling it, and the judge would not have been able to enable him if it were not for the “specialized” system that gives judges virtually absolute power.

So it is not hyperbole to declare: “Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre”.

Let’s put the ultimate blame where it belongs so we can end the Custody Crisis once and for all.

MSM is blaming her suicide solely on the “toll” of Virginia’s long-past victimization as a child and teen.

“In the end, the toll of abuse is so heavy that it became unbearable for Virginia to handle its weight.”

This misplaced blame, despite Virginia clearly revealing in past months her present victimization of domestic violence and being kept away from her children. This is par for the course since mainstream media is largely controlled by Old Boys. Definitely don’t want to place blame on the father or the system that is designed to let the father get away with domestic violence and alienating children…

In a column earlier this month we told Virginia’s true story. See Epstein Victim Says Being Alienated from Kids Worse than Being Sex-Trafficked for more detailed coverage. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/epstein-victim-says-being-alienated

Virginia had warned multiple times in recent months that she was seriously depressed as a result of being cut completely out of her children’s lives and them being “poisoned” against her. She stated that it was getting worse with each passing day.

“My beautiful babies have no clue how much I love them and they’re being poisoned with lies. I miss them so very much.

I have been through hell & back in my 41 years but this is incredibly hurting me worse than anything else. Hurt me, abuse me but don’t take my babies.

My heart is shattered and every day that passes my sadness only deepens.”

But neither the court nor the father did anything. Of course not. Cruelty is the point. Make the bitch suffer. Make her pay. Oh how men covet their patriarchal power to punish and torture “their” woman by not only taking her children, but turning them against her.

In fact, many men assiduously work to drive their ex to suicide. The Ultimate Revenge.

It is no wonder the Old Boys implemented a special court system that maintains this fabulous, age-old leverage.

RECENT EVENTS

Virginia endured a brutal assault by her husband in January that landed her in the hospital with serious injuries—a broken sternum and perforated eye. This followed over ten years of DV, according to relatives.

But her ex was granted a Restraining Order against her that included the children. Typical “Screw the Bitch” strategy of men’s rights groups.

Virginia was kicked out of her family home. She had to live alone, suddenly—after being a full-time mama to her three children, who are all now teens. She had bought a beautiful home on the beach for her family with money from settlements compensating her for the horrific child sexual abuse she had endured.

But sure, give the house to the father. Kick Mom out. And let him keep the kids in the family home bought with her blood and tears.

Virginia was later criminally charged and was being prosecuted for sending the father a text, likely asking about the kids. This supposedly violated the bogus RO, and the D.A. agreed to charge it. D.A.’s and Criminal Court judges often act as accomplices to Family Court judges—as the enforcers.

Virginia posted from her hospital bed last month that she had only 4 days to live—which got a lot of media attention. Apparently, a doctor had told her if she did not treat a kidney problem, she would soon die. She used the occasion to beg to see her children “one last time”. But the condition was treated and she was released from the hospital in a few days.

There was a preliminary hearing scheduled in criminal court on the violation of the RO on April 9th but it was continued due to her hospitalization. Shame on the D.A. for prosecuting her, which contributed to her feelings of powerlessness and depression.

This is in contrast to RO’s issued against men for real violence against women. These protection orders rarely last long, nor include the children. The narrative is that the father has “only” abused the mother so it is not relevant to custody. The case of the attempted murderer of Pennsylvania Governor Josh Shapiro is a good example. He had an active criminal indictment against him for domestic violence, yet he was granted primary custody. The. System. Is. Rigged.

ALIENATION IS VALID

Since mothers have been encouraged to not use the word “alienation” by Domestic Abuse/Protective Parent [DAPP] organizations, a word of explanation is offered here as to why that is a bad idea for our cause to end the Crisis. They claim alienation is not valid or scientific.

However, the concept of alienation is valid, whether alienation by a parent—parental alienation—is empirically validated as a distinct construct or not. Or whether it has been designated as a psychiatric diagnosis or not. That does not matter and is not the problem in contested custody cases. Concepts can be valid without having been scientifically proven, and judges can use them in their decisions.

Just because judges routinely lie about mothers alienating does not mean the word or concept should be tossed out. Alienation best describes the phenomena, and mothers should not be made to stop using it. That is counterproductive. They should be encouraged to use it to help expose the truth of what is going on in family courts.

More focus and activist energy must be on how judges are enabling fathers to alienate children from mothers. It is epidemic and has led to death of too many mothers like Virginia [See below for a list of a few of the casualties]. Attention and support should be given to the leagues of alienated mothers around the world who are hanging on but continue to suffer on a daily basis.

Alienation from mothers also, of course, harms children. Taking them away from their primary nurturer causes trauma, which often causes dissociation. This keeps the truth and pain out of consciousness but can cause psychological and physical problems. Children harmed and traumatized this way via Family Court is also epidemic.

It also causes much harm to society indirectly—but also directly as in the case of the Florida State University mass shooter. He had been alienated from his mother from the age of 10, and that undoubtedly contributed to his violence: FSU Mass Shooter Was Taken & Alienated from Mom at 10-Years-Old. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/fsu-mass-shooter-was-taken-and-alienated

THE SYSTEM: THE ULTIMATE ENABLER

A father cannot alienate children from a mother without a judge enabling him to do so. This important fact is often missed.

Judges can directly empower the father to alienate children through orders giving him sole custody and restricting contact with the mother, or they can simply refuse to enforce orders that allow for visitation. Any way you slice it, it is the judge who is responsible in individual cases, not just the father.

But, more importantly, it is the system that gives judges the virtually-absolute power necessary to falsely deem mothers alienators and permit fathers to alienate.

So the Family Court system is the Ultimate Enabler.

That’s why the only way to end the Crisis is to remove custody cases from Family Court and for them to be heard in a real court, with a jury as the fact-finder, not a judge.

PLEASE share this column to help raise awareness about this horrible epidemic of court-enabled alienation of mothers from their children.

Virginia would no doubt like for her untimely and unnecessary death to be used to help expose and end the Custody Crisis. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/the-custody-crisis-why-its-happening

RIP VIRGINIA

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FAMILY COURT CASUALTIES

Here is a list of mothers who lost their lives via the Family Court system. Their stories are linked to in the Substack post: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/family-court-killed-virginia-giuffre

Mary: RFK Jr. Drove His Wife to Suicide via Family Court

Catherine: Mom Uses Suicide to Warn Women about Family Court

Narkis: Mom Who Said “Many Women End Up Dead” Has Died

Terra: Mom Dies Following Years of Judicial Torture

Lindsay: Judge Enables Father to Murder Mother & Daughter

Anne-Christine: Dad Murders Mom: Gets Custody

Nia: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death

Star: Judge Denies Protective Order: Mom Stabbed to Death in Front of Son

Michelle: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death

Nicole: Mom Dies Due to Son Being Taken Away, Given to Ex

Nashwa: Protective Mom Found Dead Day after Mother’s Day

Kymberlie: Woman Commits Suicide by Train on Daughter’s 16th Birthday

Nicole: Mom Murdered after Judge Orders Shared Custody

Jennifer: Missing Mom’s Ex Charged with Murder: Held on $6M Bail

Hayley: Mom of 4 Drops Dead in Court after Custody Ruling

Marissa: Face of the Crisis

Shannon: Mom Passes Away after Battling Fervently to Regain Custody

Kimi: Mom with Cancer Passes Away without Seeing Children

Sheila: Despondent Mum Commits Suicide after Kids Given to Father

Jessica: Mom Commits Suicide After 8 Year Battle for Her Kids

Olga: Family Court Causes Another Tragedy

Brenda: Another Woman Commits Suicide after Children Taken and Given to Father

Rest in Peace Mamas…

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IN OTHER NEWS

CHAPTER 28 NEXT SECTION IS OUT!

https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/chapter-28-the-opera-act-iii-pt-4-080

Legion finishes up with her questioning of Herry on the stand. He continues to lie and evade, but she gets him to admit to many things that demonstrate he should not continue to have sole custody—not even half—not even unsupervised. He acknowledges he has never told the boys he loves them, and his neglectful parenting does not support he loves them either.

After Herry steps down, a good friend of Legion’s takes the stand. She testifies that Legion is a wonderful mother, Herry is not a good father, and that he had said he wanted Legion to “hit bottom”. In retrospect, Legion sees that the three men present—judge, opposing counsel, and Herry—were all just biding their time, tolerating her, while she got testimony, facts and evidence on the record. But none of her brilliant, pro se lawyering would matter—“not one whit”. They all already knew what the outcome was going to be…

In the last section, Legion continues her direct examination of Herry. She makes many relevant points with her skilled questioning, despite his constant lies and assertions that he does not remember. She “landed into the areas of his sexual addiction, his ordering of the sabotage to my life and career as a veterinary professor and practitioner and his failures at loving.” She gets him to admit he is not allowing any contact with the boys, he’s telling them she’s crazy, and he’s using the stepmother to do all the parenting. But he will not admit that he had repeatedly beat her—including in front of the boys.

CHAPTER 28 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act III, Part 4 of “The Opera” from Book 3. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one for each of the three Family Court and two Appellate Court trials. Chapter 28 covers all of Act III: Part 4: the third Family Court trial and Part 5: the second Appellate trial. This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.

Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.

Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are published every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!

TEASERS

“Dr. Edinsmaier, isn’t it a fact that you don’t tell your children that you love them?! Ever?!”

But––none of this testimony of Ms. Fannie Issicran McLive’s or from Dr. Herod Edinsmaier … mattered. To ‘the Court’. Not one whit…Nothing at all this was but an exercising of the intolerance limitations of three men who, in no way, intended near the end of this display, this particular Part Four of The Opera, to do anything differently as The Outcome of it all than what the three of them had wanted at Its Overture.

“Is it your impression and have you heard words spoken out of the lips of Dr. Edinsmaier that Legion True hasn’t hit rock bottom, not until she loses her food and her home?”

“I have heard that.”

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Lies : Parental Alienation/ Charlie McCready

The nature of lying in the context of parental alienation is far more complex and crafty than ordinary dishonesty. It’s a carefully constructed web of deceit designed to distort reality for both the child and the wider world. Alienating parents are skilled manipulators, often displaying traits consistent with narcissistic personality disorder or other serious mental health conditions. They are masters of creating false narratives—convincing others to believe in a twisted version of events that serve only their interests. This is why, despite the lies often being blatant and the emotional damage obvious, they manage to draw others into their delusions. By painting themselves as the “superior” parent, they garner sympathy and support while slowly eroding the child’s ability to trust the targeted parent.⁠

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Such lying is deeply pathological. It goes beyond mere deception. Pathogenic lying can become an ingrained part of the alienator’s personality, a coping mechanism that feeds into their need for control, dominance, and/or retribution. When these behaviours are normalised, they might be passed on to the children, who absorb the alienator’s pathology. It becomes a form of intergenerational trauma, where lying and the complete disregard for the targeted parent’s reality are seen as acceptable ways to navigate conflict. Children learn to deny their own perceptions and internalise the alienator’s delusions, which not only harms their relationship with the alienated parent but also distorts their own sense of right and wrong.⁠

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This isn’t just harmful on an emotional level; lying also has a profound impact on the brain. Research shows that habitual lying can alter brain structure and function. The more a person lies, the less active the amygdala—the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions and moral behaviour—becomes. This means the liar feels less guilt or discomfort with each new falsehood, making lying easier over time. It’s as if the brain rewires itself to accommodate deceit, numbing the persecutor to the damage they are causing. For children caught in the throes of parental alienation, this means their developing brains are being conditioned to accept lies as a valid coping mechanism, harming their ability to form healthy, trusting relationships in the future.

Family courts and legal professionals often fail to recognise the full extent of this psychological warfare. Instead, they take a superficial view of the situation, believing the alienator’s carefully curated version of events. When courts claim to be acting in the “best interests of the child” while ignoring the trauma inflicted by the alienating parent’s lies, they are perpetuating the problem. It’s a systemic failure that results in the legal system effectively siding with the abuser, enabling the alienator to continue their campaign of deceit and abuse unchecked.

For the alienating parent, the law is simply another tool to manipulate. They believe they are above accountability, and this perceived invincibility only emboldens them further. They don’t just lie to the targeted parent—they lie to the courts, to mental health professionals, and to anyone who might expose them. They do so with a brazenness that defies logic, because they know they are rarely held to account.

Dealing with people like this is extraordinarily difficult. But we must remember that while we can’t control their behaviour, we can control ours. No matter how tempting it is to mirror their tactics in our desperation, we must never lower ourselves to their level. We have to focus on our own well-being, keeping our minds and hearts clear, so that we remain the loving, consistent parent our children can look to—now or in the future—as a role model of strength, integrity, and truth. Because the greatest victory is not in proving them wrong; it’s in staying true to who we are, refusing to be like them, and letting our children see, whether near or far, what real love and honesty look like.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#alienatedparent

#coercivecontrol

Shared Persecutory Delusions – Charlie McCready

Alienating parents delude themselves about their superiority and their x’s inferiority. The following quote from Theodore Millon, considered an expert in personality disorder pathology, describes the alienator’s delusions very well. “Deficient in social controls and self-discipline, the tendency … to fantasize and distort may speed up. The air of grandiosity may become more flagrant … As their behaviors and thoughts transgress the line of reality, their alienation will mount, and they may seek to protect their phantom image of superiority more vigorously and vigilantly than ever … No longer in touch with reality, they begin to accuse others and hold them responsible for their own shame and failures. They may build a “logic” based on irrelevant and entirely circumstantial evidence and ultimately construct a delusion system to protect themselves from unbearable reality.”

Unbearable reality – that’s so key. Unfortunately, they share their delusions with the child/ren, and they make no apologies for any harm caused as a result of their behaviour. It’s narcissistic and selfish, and their grandiose, alienating behaviour often worsens after a humiliation, sense of failure, or serious setback challenges their (deluded) image of themselves, such as a separation or divorce. They need to reimagine themselves anew, with a narrative that protects their delusions, and the ‘target’ parent is the perfect scapegoat. Things become misconstrued, twisted, and when that doesn’t work, the alienator just makes stuff up that didn’t really happen.

It is child psychological abuse when the alienating parent shares their persecutory delusions, and tells the child/ren ‘a good parent wouldn’t do this/that/whatever’, putting the blame on the other parent and destroying their attachment bonds. While ‘parental alienation’ as a term is deemed controversial, Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995.51) is an accepted pathology. A shared persecutory delusion is abusive. The child should be removed from the abusive/alienating parent and given time with the healthy-minded target parent. Obviously, checks must be made to ensure the target parent isn’t (also) abusive, or using false allegations of ‘parental alienation’.

Psychoeducational guidance, such as I provide in daily social media posts (and to the parents I work with/coach), hoping to support people going through this – as I did myself – can help you to try and understand and validate this confounding, extraordinarily challenging experience. It’s important to be the parent your child needs and may return to one day and to be the person you truly are regardless of others’ behaviour. Embrace your strengths, seek support, and strive to do something that lifts your mood and makes you feel happier each day.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#traumabonding

#coercivecontrol

#parentalalienationawareness

Keep standing in your truth – Charlie McCready

This father’s words are a testament to the resilience it takes to endure parental alienation. It can be a long and painful journey, but healing yourself is just as important as holding onto hope for your child. Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being doesn’t mean giving up—it means staying strong enough to be there when your child is ready.⁠

Parental alienation can make you feel powerless, but the love between parent and child is not so easily erased. Even when they cannot show it, even when they have been taught to suppress it, that bond still exists.⁠

Keep going. Keep healing. Keep standing in your truth.⁠

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#alienatedchild

#alienatedparent

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparent

Harmful Dynamic of Parental Alienation on the child

Children subjected to the harmful dynamic known as parental alienation, exhibit distinct attitudes and behaviours. They become fixated on denigrating one parent, reciting numerous grievances, and treating that parent as if they hold no value. What’s even more concerning is that many deeply alienated children express desires for the parent’s demise or disappearance. Strikingly, they do so without any accompanying guilt or remorse for their hostile behaviour. Children who have experienced physical abuse, typically fear the person abusing them, adopting a compliant demeanour to avoid further harm. They do no such thing with the alienated parent they reject because they say they’re not safe, or unwelcome in their life – with no real justification for these accusations and a previously loving relationship. Often their reasons are trivial or irrational like disliking being asked to help around the house, or not swearing, or any other reasons which do not warrant the rejection and hatred. Again, this contrasts with abused children who can offer justifiable and real evidence for their aversion.

Ordinarily, children, especially in the teenage years, hold a mix of sentiments toward their parents, including both love and loathing. However, children subjected to parental alienation often lack ambivalence. They struggle to articulate anything positive about the alienated parent while protecting the preferred (alienating, abusive) parent with whom they are aligned and being indoctrinated. During parental disputes, these children instinctively side with their preferred parent and accept without question that parent’s allegations against the alienated parent. Their expressions of criticism often mirror the aligned parent’s grievances, even if they don’t fully understand the words and phrases used. This happens despite their insistence that their rejection of the parent is solely their own decision, unaffected by the parent they have been induced to favour.

As the alienation deepens, it extends beyond just the parent. It encompasses other family members and friends on the alienated parent’s side. Even hobbies and interests. Even pets. It is ‘hatred by association’. It is irrational and yet can become powerfully ingrained behaviour. It might be a cherished grandparent who they no longer want to see. It is tragic for all involved. The only person who might be considered a ‘winner’ is the alienating parent. ‘Winner’ is not a word to describe their behaviour. ‘Abuser’ is much more fitting.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienationawareness

#childrensrights

Unresolved Grief

Definitely: the ” Living connection ” for a Mom experiences living unresolved grief , which is the intent and mission of their non co parent .

One of the toughest things is that there’s no closure for the alienated parent. No justice. Ambiguous loss is a term that came about in the 1970s. A researcher called Pauline Boss studied military families, specifically those of soldiers missing in action. The body is not found, but until recovered, they could be alive. It can also be the case that someone is physically there but psychologically not, such as with Alzheimer’s. It is difficult to mourn in these circumstances. It is unresolved grief. Many people call the experience of parental alienation a kind of ‘living bereavement’ which describes this phenomenon. It can also be that we don’t or can’t accept our loss. Resilience and hope can help us accept our situation. Anticipatory grief is one we prepared ourselves, as we know the loss is coming, as with an Alzheimer’s patient, we lose them incrementally, while they’re still alive. And ‘frozen grief’ can make us numb and stuck. Ambiguous grief is, in a way, shapeless, and we have to make the best sense of it that we can. It is the only way. Facing up to our situation, and gaining a better understanding, is a step towards our healing, and we need to do this to lead the way for our alienated children. Focus on the love, not the loss, and the present not the past and strive to be happy, no matter what. ⁠

I have been through the trauma of alienation, and am totally invested in helping others. As well as my daily posts, I offer 1:1 coaching, and a 9-step program. Reach out if you’d like to know more about how I could help you.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#ambiguousloss

#healing

#mentalhealth

#emotionalabuse

#coercivecontrol

#gaslighting

#triangulation

Not being like the Alienating parent- Charlie McCready

Moving on from the anguish of parental alienation is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. It requires a conscious effort and resilience, as grief, injustice and anger can have a powerful hold on us, keeping us tethered to both the past and the present pain. Parental alienation is often described as a living bereavement. It’s ongoing. It’s unfinished business. But however difficult it may be, choosing to move forward is often the best course of action.

Parental alienation is profoundly isolating and traumatic, made worse by the fact that it is widely misunderstood and poorly supported. In some circles, it’s outright denied. The lack of recognition and action raises an obvious question—why is nothing being done? The reality is that the legal system, as it stands, often serves its own interests rather than prioritising the well-being of families. It operates on delay, deflection, and bureaucracy, allowing alienation to take hold while the targeted parent fights a ever steepening uphill battle. Even when alienation is recognised, enforcement is weak or non-existent.

While parental alienation may become a legal battle, at its core, it is an attachment disorder caused by pathogenic parenting—deeply unhealthy, psychologically damaging, and rooted in coercion, manipulation, and control. It is not a normal parent-child dynamic; it is an induced psychological condition that thrives on fear, guilt, and distorted loyalty.

Now, let’s talk about the alienating parent and their pursuit of revenge. This is what drives many of them. Their actions are not grounded in love or concern for the child but in a pathological need to control and punish. They draw others into their conflicts, creating division and chaos. Their wounded ego demands retribution—especially against the “target” parent, who may have exposed the truth about them or triggered their own abandonment issues. But there’s no excuse. They should be working through their issues, not destroying their child in the process. Instead, they refuse accountability. They project, manipulate, and engage in coercive control, turning their own children into unwitting pawns in their vendetta.

This is narcissistic parenting at its most destructive—erasing the child’s ability to form secure, healthy attachments and forcing them into an unnatural psychological alignment with the alienating parent. And yet, what’s striking is how these people remain stuck in a cycle. They don’t change. They don’t grow. They repeat the same toxic patterns.

Who would want to be like the alienating parent with their lives full of manipulation, deceit, and emotional abuse? Their existence is a façade, a charade built on falsehoods, and their actions perpetuate suffering for all around them. We got out of their lives, and we await our children realising why we did this and that maybe they should do the same.

Reach out if I can help you, as I’m helping many others, with the coaching I offer.

#charliemccready

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#FathersMatterToo

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#custodybattle

Live no Bereavement – Charlie McCready

For many target parents, the loss of a child feels like a kidnapping or a death that has no closure – a living bereavement. It is agonising. For the alienated child, they are unwitting victims of terrorism. While they can be quite afraid of their captors (the aligned/alienating parent), it is like ‘Stockholm Syndrome’ because they’re also afraid of abandonment by them or not being loved by them, having been induced to believe they are their only hope, their lifeline. They’re led to believe that any relationship or affection towards the ‘enemy’, the target, alienated parent, will only bring them trouble and more suffering. Undoubtedly, this is a psychologically abusive experience for both target parents and alienated children. But we need to find some kind of acceptance. Some way towards peace of mind. Looking back, focusing on the past and the pain is not the way forward. It keeps us stuck. We have to be okay with the present moment. The now. This is the starting point. Right now.

If you face these challenges, know you’re not alone. I have been through the trauma of alienation, and with over 20 years of experience, I am totally invested in helping others. As well as my daily posts, I offer 1:1 coaching, and a 9-step program. I’m glad to say clients who do my program talk of gaining emotional and mental resilience and peace of mind, often within just a few weeks of starting. I help my clients understand and deal with their alienated child/ren, the alienating parent, plus how to overcome and survive the many challenges. Please send me a message if you are interested to know more, or you can visit my website.

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#parentalalienationcoach

#childcustody

#parentalalienation

#fathersrights

Continued Domestic Abuse via PA

Parental alienation is a deeply harmful form of psychological abuse and coercive control, making it a clear instance of post-separation domestic abuse. Yet the term itself has been deliberately distorted by groups with ideological and financial motives, often because statistical patterns show that more fathers experience it than mothers. However, this is not, and never has been, a gendered issue. It affects countless devoted parents—both mothers and fathers—who are unjustly torn from their children’s lives by manipulation and control.⁠

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At its core, parental alienation is an abuse of power. The parent with primary residency is typically in the strongest position to alienate the child, preying on their most primal fear: abandonment. But alienation is not exclusive to resident parents—non-resident parents can also engage in these tactics. Children, caught in the crossfire, are coerced into rejecting one parent to secure the approval of the other, often without realising how they are being manipulated. The psychological consequences are severe and long-lasting. Adults who were alienated as children are now speaking out, confirming the devastation they endured. Ignoring their testimonies only serves to protect those who inflicted the harm.⁠

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Despite its severity, parental alienation has yet to be formally recognised in the UK as the child protection issue it so clearly is. Initially, the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 acknowledged alienating behaviours within its draft statutory guidance, listing clear examples of coercive control that align with parental alienation. However, after just over 1,000 responses to a public consultation, these references were removed in July 2022. This wasn’t because the harm was disproven—it was a political decision, driven by those who find the term ‘contentious.’ Even organisations such as Women’s Aid acknowledge that these behaviours are abusive, yet they continue to reject the term ‘parental alienation’ itself, leaving alienated parents fighting an uphill battle in family courts.⁠

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The truth is, parental alienation is already reflected in existing legal definitions of domestic abuse. The Domestic Abuse Act explicitly identifies coercive and controlling behaviours, including isolating a victim from supportive family and professionals, blocking communication, using children as weapons of control, making threats, and inflicting psychological harm. Yet despite these behaviours being recognised in law, many professionals still fail to connect them to the reality of parental alienation, leaving children unprotected from its devastating effects.

History shows that abusive behaviours often go unchallenged until enough people demand change. Marital rape was once dismissed as a private matter. Coercive control took years to be legally recognised. Now, alienated children are beginning to break free and reclaim their voices—not the ones shaped by fear and coercion, but their true, authentic voices. More of them are reaching out, joining my coaching calls with their targeted parents, and confirming what we have always known: parental alienation is real. The tide is turning. Recognition is coming. Hold strong.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#domesticabuseawareness

#childpsychologicalabuse

#alienatedchild