Reminds Me of You , Van Morrison

Years have passed since I felt the loss of a marriage that did not serve higher ground .

Coming to I knew that pills , drink , sex etc we’re not the antidote for the pain of what this marriage did to our sons .

Secrets are still unraveling but long ago when I mourned and ruminated , I can more objectively experience life ; many remedies and healing modalities await the ardent seeker .

So memories dim as does pain that I know will never fully abate , but will never be manipulated to abuse me or our children .

Circle has closed never to be unbroken again .

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Hug the Mother

Hold the mother, not the baby.⁣

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Because the baby’s being taken care of—⁣

fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—⁣

by not only the mother,⁣

but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.⁣

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But the mother,⁣

may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,⁣

may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,⁣

may feel more like a mess than a mother,⁣

may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,⁣

may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, “she’s not good enough,”⁣

and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.⁣

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And the mother’s that baby’s whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn’t disappear into that postpartum fog.⁣

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So, hold the mother, not the baby.⁣

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A mother agrees that her baby matters more.⁣

But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,⁣

in the background, making it all happen:⁣

feeding her baby at all hours,⁣

snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,⁣

and being that baby’s everything.⁣

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So, it’s the mother who needs your love.⁣

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And a mother will remember who held her up.⁣

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So instead of β€œI’m coming to see the baby,”⁣

try saying, β€œI’m coming to see you 𝘒𝘯π˜₯ meet the baby, too.”⁣

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Because the mother needs to be held more.⁣

πŸ“Έ: This Mama Doodles

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