Charlie Mc Cready – Punishment via the parent / Alienator

I think this post is pretty self-explanatory for those of us who know what this is all about. The alienator is quite capable of telling us we actually have no children anymore, we don’t deserve to see them, we’re no good …. and the reason? They want to punish us, and through doing this are quite willing to punish the children by doing all they can to remove a loving, willing, available parent from their life, from their positive thinking and beliefs, and from as much involvement as possible. These alienators are not mentally healthy. This is not the behaviour of a loving parent, or a person of sound mind. It doesn’t bring our children back to know this, but it is always worth remembering the pathology and that the problem lies with the alienator and not the child. Even though the child is coercively controlled to behaving in ways that align them with the alienating parent, it was not their choice (that’s estrangement and in some ways part of the ‘cutting the ties’ that is a right of passage), because children ideally want a good relationship with all their family, both their parents and not just the bullying, alienating, controlling one.

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Single parents & $$$

Something to think about….

What if you were a single parent with a child . You work full time for $14.00 hr. You bring home roughly $800 .00 per paycheck (bi-weekly).

Your bills:

$1, 000 . 00 / rent

$150 .00 / electrical

$250 .00 / car payment

$150 .00 / car insurance

So let’s do the math :

You bring home about

$1,600 .00 a month & your bills average about $1,550.00 (give or take).

You’re making it, but barely.

This doesn’t even include groceries, internet, cable, cell phone, etc .

(nor does it include child tax credit, or child support)

Now, it’s a really cold December and you get a power bill for $600 .00

How do you pay that?

To put it simply , you don’t.

Because you can’t.

So your power gets shut off.

But you know what your lease says?

It says you get evicted if your utilities are terminated.

So now you’re in court crying to a judge who doesn’t care, & you have 10 days to get out.

Well you’re in luck, because you found somewhere with 3 days to spare & it’s only $650.00 a month!

But to get in, you must pass a background & credit check. Which you can’t because you just got evicted.

You’ve never been a criminal, but even if you could pass it, you’re looking at $1300 to move in, after paying the deposit & first month’s rent.

Time’s up ….

Landlord shows up at 7am with the police & changed your locks.

So, now you’re living in your car with your 7 year old son & everything you need to get by.

You tried to get a storage unit, but you don’t have a billing address so they won’t sell one to you. So you could only take what would fit in your backseat.

You pay to shower at local truck stops & eat whatever can be cooked in a gas station microwave.Someone sees you & your son living like this & calls C.P.S; guess what happens next ? ? ?

They remove your child from your care.

As if this isn’t devastating enough, you lose your job too. (Because “an employee losing their child reflects poorly on this company .”)

So now, you apply for an apartment with the region where the waiting list is 3-7 years.

Then you go into Wal-Mart to put in an application.

When you get back to your car you see that your back window has been smashed & someone helped themselves to your belongings. Remember that it is December & really cold. Now you have damage to your only shelter.

You call your car insurance, who says your deductible is $1,000.00

~ AND ~ they’re going to increase your monthly rate since you’re now

“ high risk .”

You call the homeless shelter as a last resort & all their beds are full.

I’ll stop here …..

Because I think you get the point .

The people we work with everyday are these people .

WE ARE THESE PEOPLE .

We are all so close to homelessness & don’t even realize it .

All it takes is :

* one unexpected bill📃~

* one fender bender🚙💥🚗~

* one lay-off 📊~

* one house fire 🏠🔥 , etc.

Instead of talking trash about people who are poor , homeless , or need assistance , why don’t you try being grateful that you’re not in their shoes …… YET !

This is about staying humble & being kind .

BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE ❤ (copied)

We Are All Struggling In Different Ways.. 😭😩

Believe your children

Stop leaving your kids with them.

Stop leaving your children with your boyfriends you barely know.

Stop letting your family members you don’t entirely trust watch them because it’s free.

If you have a gut feeling about someone that doesn’t sit right with you when it comes to your child, cut all ties with this person.

If your little one comes to you and says I don’t want to stay with a particular person …. do me a favor and listen to them.

~ Cody Bret

And ALWAYS believe them!! I myself would rather believe them and be wrong, then call them a liar and be wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mothers worth $

New research has confirmed that being a mother is equivalent to working 98 hours a week 🤯

In a survey of 2000 mothers, researchers found that the average daily start time is at 6:25am and her end time is not until 8:31pm. That’s a 14 hour day plus weekends. 🥵

So next time you are tired or doubt yourself as a mother, just remember that you are a QUEEN 👑

Children’s Trust & Fathers

The Children’s Trust partners with state and community agencies to bring the Nurturing Fathers Program to dads and father figures across Massachusetts.

In the video below, recent
Hampshire Sheriff’s Office, Jail and House of Corrections #NurturingFathers graduates express their gratitude and reflect on how the Nurturing Fathers program has helped them become the fathers they aspire to be.

Can Children Sexually Abuse Other Children? | Saprea

Can and do… A half sister who was molested

by her Uncle before age 5 , tried to initiate me, within family , and neighbors .

We double dated when I was 12 , and not enjoying the ” throw down ” by my ” date ” , I passed .. never spoke to him again… Sis took him , and I found that out 1 night camping in our yard…

There was so much perversion targeted at me I felt to blame , like it was my looks .. I looked

16 at 12 🐸

I was scared of boys , dated but chastely until age 17 ..

I prefer , choice , not force and casual is not

my thing…

That said , I did have a few masculine

dominate tendencies …. 😘❤️🐸

Sister died in 2013 , never knowing who her Dad was …

Darkness , all her life , the shadow … she could not hear or talk , maybe not see at her end .

See no evil , hear no evil , speak no evil ..

She never healed , holding the darkness

into her transitional exit from her body .

Imitation would be her choice …

reality is below .

I’m grateful to have thwarted , all attempts by boys as a result of a single incident , he did NOT touch my soul 🙌🙏🏼

Can children sexually abuse other children? COCSA is a form of sexual abuse where a child is sexually abused by one or more children.
— Read on saprea.org/blog/can-children-sexually-abuse-other-children/

The Alienated Abused Child is stuck in a matrix – Charlie Mc Cready

An alienated child has been coached to see one parent (the favoured/alienating one), as good and the other (the target parent) as bad. They align with the good and reject the bad. The child cannot bear to hear the words ‘parental alienation’ and will angrily and defensively reject this idea. I know this from personal experience. It’s a mistake. It doesn’t help us to tell them of their alienation. It just adds fuel to the fire. But how can it possibly make things better for ‘the bad parent’ to say ‘bad things’ about their influencing ‘good parent’? All the defences will go up. They’ve been in the trenches. It feels real. They’ve been put in a warzone. They bear the wounds. It’s too much for them to think their ‘reality’ needs reviewing and unpicking. They were doing their best to survive. Trying to tell a child in this unbearable situation that they were put there by their apparently loving, aligned, ‘good’ parent, makes them feel attacked. This doesn’t help or heal anybody. It doesn’t heal your relationship, which is what you want. It is a ‘handle with care’ situation because of the abuse they (and you) have suffered at the hands of the parental alienator. What we need to do is remove the reason for their defensive behaviour. Don’t give them ‘ammo’ and try to avoid talking about ‘parental alienation’ or anything associated with it. Be there with your white flag. Peaceful. Loving. Non-reactive. Be the healthy, sane parent. If they continue rejecting you based on the unreal fiction in their mind, and when you’ve done nothing other than being the target parent (suffering spousal psychological abuse to their child psychological abuse), we wait for them to wake up to the truth. It is far easier to stay in the dark ‘unreality’ of the alienating narratives they heard for so long. But when they truly become independent-minded, if they can step out of the ‘matrix’, they can start to heal and see you in the right, true light.

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#fathersrights

#mothersrights