Tag: child Psychological abuse

Beyond a certain age children criticize targeted parent – Charlie McCready

Our children repeated comments made by X or his gal or family , which were filled with hatred , blame and name calling .

It’s a painful reality when our reaction to the provocation becomes the focal point, allowing the alienating behaviour to go unchecked. Everyone seems to look the other way, directly at the target parent. This power is amplified when the child also points fingers at the target parent. The child has been enmeshed, coerced, lied to, bribed, manipulated, and essentially brainwashed into sharing the alienating parent’s delusions triggered by separation or divorce. The ‘aligned’ parent’s narcissistic wound has been opened, and they’ve weaponised the child.

We must be careful how we react because this is not a normal child/parent relationship from here on. This isn’t adolescence or estrangement, and it has been inflicted on you and the child. It is child psychological and spousal psychological abuse, commonly known as parental alienation.

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Charlie McCready-Toxic

Over the years, I’ve become alert (and impervious probably) to the language expressed in comments, such as when I can detect an alienating parent is in our midst, and they usually are quite aggressive in their assertion that they’re protecting their child from abuse. Often, it’s not hard to detect, because they might say something along the lines (polite version here …) ‘You don’t understand because you’re male’. I don’t even bother replying that I work alongside my partner who was an alienated mother (and step-mother, as I was an alienated step-father too). It’s not mothers vs fathers or vice versa though some do all they can to make it so, and this is incredibly unhelpful to all alienated parents, and grandparents and of course the children too.

Of course, protecting children from abuse is paramount, and there are instances where parents genuinely need to protect their children from abusive situations. But when the child is being kept from a non-abusive, loving, available parent with no justification whatsoever, alienating behaviours are themselves abusive. It’s important to distinguish between cases of abuse and situations where parental alienation is used as an excuse to maintain control. But if a parent thinks their ex is toxic, as one example here, that is not reason enough for them to wilfully limit, obstruct, or damage the relationship between their child and the other parent. ‘Toxicity’ is their opinion, not the child’s. The children should be free to enjoy the love of both parents. They should not be coerced into choosing one over the other to suit the alienating parent’s wishes/vendetta.

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#emotionalabuse

Family Court Nightmare for Mom

19 Year-Old Sues Family Court Officials for $250 Million for Taking Her Away from Mom; Giving Custody to Father

Defendants Include Lawyers, Social Workers, Evaluators, GAL’s

“The defendants conspired to deny Annelise access to the courts and intentionally inflicted emotional distress on Annelise while she was still a minor. Defendants knowingly interfered with Annelise’s constitutional right to a relationship with her mother and four siblings, causing inordinate stress and difficulty.”

– Dede Evavold, blogger at Red Herring Alert

Annelise Rice, a hockey player at UND [University of North Dakota] and graduate of Minnetonka High School, filed a lawsuit on March 17, 2017, in Minnesota federal court seeking damages for deprivation of civil rights by tortuous [sic] intervention [interference] in a mother-child relationship and deprivation of rights under color of the law (Civil Action No. 17-cv-796 ADM/HB).

…The defendants include court-appointed Guardians at litem, Social Workers, and lawyers who were involved in the custody evaluation and CHIPS (Child in Need of Protection or Services) proceedings for Annelise Rice.

…Judges, lawyers, and social workers no longer have absolute immunity and can be held responsible for their actions that deprive Constitutional rights, even if they are acting in an official role.

This case is highly unusual due to the large amount of defendants involved.

…Annelise asks the court for relief in an amount great enough to deter defendants and others in similar positions from engaging in this egregious misconduct in the future. There have been many cases of negligence by social services that have put young lives at risk.

Social workers, Guardians at litem, lawyers, and judges need to be held accountable to prevent further neglect, abuse, and deaths of children in protective care. This lawsuit could potentially turn into a class action suit, because of the amount of families that have been mistreated in this way. Contact: Annelise Rice at More.moxie@me.com

EXCERPTS from:

19 YEAR-OLD SUES FOR DEPRIVATION OF CIVIL RIGHTS

https://redherringalert.wordpress.com/2017/04/28/19-year-old-sues-for-deprivation-of-civil-rights/comment-page-1/#comment-863

SUMMARY:

Annelise’s mom, Caroline, went from being a stay-at-home mom to losing custody of her five children. When the father decided he wanted to take the kids away from his ex, family court officials, led by Judge Richard Perkins, kicked into gear and made that happen. Full custody was awarded to the father, even though the children testified to horrible physical abuse by him.

At one point, Annelise ran away from her father and fled to Canada with her mom, however they were caught and Caroline was jailed. Caroline was jailed three times in her many attempts to protect her children, and she was tormented there in an effort to break and silence her.

Judge Perkins presided over the prosecution of Caroline for “abduction”, which was a clear conflict of interest, and at which she, not surprisingly, was convicted. But the appellate court actually overturned her conviction citing Judge Perkins’ biased handling of the case, including exclusion of evidence of the father’s abuse from the jury. So there was some due process for Caroline at the appellate level, which is unusual.

The children have spoken about the pain of losing their mother for many years.

COALITION NOTE: The sheer number of court-affiliated officials whom Annelise is suing spotlights the systemic coordination to empower fathers to take custody of their children—and that is not an exhaustive list. There are likely many more professionals who participated. Most cases in which a mother is trying to keep or protect her children involves many court-affiliated professionals who go along with the agenda and help the father win custody—whether he is abusive or just wants to avoid child support.

It is unclear why Judge Richard Perkins is not included in the lawsuit, since the article asserts that judges can now be held accountable through these civil rights lawsuits, and especially since an appellate court found Judge Perkins to have been biased.

It is also unclear who the judge is on Annelise’s federal civil rights case. The docket states that it is Judge Ann Montgomery, but that it is referred to Judge Hildy Bowbeer. Hopefully, whoever it is will not dismiss the case and will make fair rulings.

Answers to Annelise’s complaint are due in June. Watch this space for updates.

Previous Safe Kids post:

Judge Richard Perkins Held Accountable for Covering Up Abuse!

Some of the story as told by Annelise’s older sister, Lauren

A Mother’s Love: Caroline Marie Halonen-Rice Jailed for Protecting her Children- In Her Daughter’s Own Words- a Plea for Help, for Justice for Love

[Pictured: Annelise and Caroline (top left); Judge Ann Montgomery (left middle); Judge Hildy Bowbeer (left bottom); Annelise (right)]

Family Court killed Virginia Giuffre

Here is the entire article if you didn’t link to it on Substack. Plz share to raise awareness about the epidemic of fathers being enabled to alienate children from mothers in family courts.

Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre

The System Enables Fathers to Alienate Kids from Mothers

Sadly, Virginia Giuffre, the most prominent victim of Jeffrey Epstein’s sex-trafficking ring, ended her life Friday.

In a not-so-cryptic message to her followers, she pinned a black screen with a broken heart emoji to her Instagram just before committing suicide.

The black screen and stars obviously reflect the ending of her life. The broken heart emoji conveys her great sadness at having been alienated from her children, whom she described as “the light of her life.”

Causation or just correlation?

We will never know for sure, but in an earlier post Virginia said being alienated from her kids was the worst thing that had ever happened to her. And it is not uncommon for mothers to have suicidal ideation after being estranged from their precious children.

It is important to keep in mind that the father would not have been able to alienate her children from her without a judge enabling it, and the judge would not have been able to enable him if it were not for the “specialized” system that gives judges virtually absolute power.

So it is not hyperbole to declare: “Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre”.

Let’s put the ultimate blame where it belongs so we can end the Custody Crisis once and for all.

MSM is blaming her suicide solely on the “toll” of Virginia’s long-past victimization as a child and teen.

“In the end, the toll of abuse is so heavy that it became unbearable for Virginia to handle its weight.”

This misplaced blame, despite Virginia clearly revealing in past months her present victimization of domestic violence and being kept away from her children. This is par for the course since mainstream media is largely controlled by Old Boys. Definitely don’t want to place blame on the father or the system that is designed to let the father get away with domestic violence and alienating children…

In a column earlier this month we told Virginia’s true story. See Epstein Victim Says Being Alienated from Kids Worse than Being Sex-Trafficked for more detailed coverage. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/epstein-victim-says-being-alienated

Virginia had warned multiple times in recent months that she was seriously depressed as a result of being cut completely out of her children’s lives and them being “poisoned” against her. She stated that it was getting worse with each passing day.

“My beautiful babies have no clue how much I love them and they’re being poisoned with lies. I miss them so very much.

I have been through hell & back in my 41 years but this is incredibly hurting me worse than anything else. Hurt me, abuse me but don’t take my babies.

My heart is shattered and every day that passes my sadness only deepens.”

But neither the court nor the father did anything. Of course not. Cruelty is the point. Make the bitch suffer. Make her pay. Oh how men covet their patriarchal power to punish and torture “their” woman by not only taking her children, but turning them against her.

In fact, many men assiduously work to drive their ex to suicide. The Ultimate Revenge.

It is no wonder the Old Boys implemented a special court system that maintains this fabulous, age-old leverage.

RECENT EVENTS

Virginia endured a brutal assault by her husband in January that landed her in the hospital with serious injuries—a broken sternum and perforated eye. This followed over ten years of DV, according to relatives.

But her ex was granted a Restraining Order against her that included the children. Typical “Screw the Bitch” strategy of men’s rights groups.

Virginia was kicked out of her family home. She had to live alone, suddenly—after being a full-time mama to her three children, who are all now teens. She had bought a beautiful home on the beach for her family with money from settlements compensating her for the horrific child sexual abuse she had endured.

But sure, give the house to the father. Kick Mom out. And let him keep the kids in the family home bought with her blood and tears.

Virginia was later criminally charged and was being prosecuted for sending the father a text, likely asking about the kids. This supposedly violated the bogus RO, and the D.A. agreed to charge it. D.A.’s and Criminal Court judges often act as accomplices to Family Court judges—as the enforcers.

Virginia posted from her hospital bed last month that she had only 4 days to live—which got a lot of media attention. Apparently, a doctor had told her if she did not treat a kidney problem, she would soon die. She used the occasion to beg to see her children “one last time”. But the condition was treated and she was released from the hospital in a few days.

There was a preliminary hearing scheduled in criminal court on the violation of the RO on April 9th but it was continued due to her hospitalization. Shame on the D.A. for prosecuting her, which contributed to her feelings of powerlessness and depression.

This is in contrast to RO’s issued against men for real violence against women. These protection orders rarely last long, nor include the children. The narrative is that the father has “only” abused the mother so it is not relevant to custody. The case of the attempted murderer of Pennsylvania Governor Josh Shapiro is a good example. He had an active criminal indictment against him for domestic violence, yet he was granted primary custody. The. System. Is. Rigged.

ALIENATION IS VALID

Since mothers have been encouraged to not use the word “alienation” by Domestic Abuse/Protective Parent [DAPP] organizations, a word of explanation is offered here as to why that is a bad idea for our cause to end the Crisis. They claim alienation is not valid or scientific.

However, the concept of alienation is valid, whether alienation by a parent—parental alienation—is empirically validated as a distinct construct or not. Or whether it has been designated as a psychiatric diagnosis or not. That does not matter and is not the problem in contested custody cases. Concepts can be valid without having been scientifically proven, and judges can use them in their decisions.

Just because judges routinely lie about mothers alienating does not mean the word or concept should be tossed out. Alienation best describes the phenomena, and mothers should not be made to stop using it. That is counterproductive. They should be encouraged to use it to help expose the truth of what is going on in family courts.

More focus and activist energy must be on how judges are enabling fathers to alienate children from mothers. It is epidemic and has led to death of too many mothers like Virginia [See below for a list of a few of the casualties]. Attention and support should be given to the leagues of alienated mothers around the world who are hanging on but continue to suffer on a daily basis.

Alienation from mothers also, of course, harms children. Taking them away from their primary nurturer causes trauma, which often causes dissociation. This keeps the truth and pain out of consciousness but can cause psychological and physical problems. Children harmed and traumatized this way via Family Court is also epidemic.

It also causes much harm to society indirectly—but also directly as in the case of the Florida State University mass shooter. He had been alienated from his mother from the age of 10, and that undoubtedly contributed to his violence: FSU Mass Shooter Was Taken & Alienated from Mom at 10-Years-Old. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/fsu-mass-shooter-was-taken-and-alienated

THE SYSTEM: THE ULTIMATE ENABLER

A father cannot alienate children from a mother without a judge enabling him to do so. This important fact is often missed.

Judges can directly empower the father to alienate children through orders giving him sole custody and restricting contact with the mother, or they can simply refuse to enforce orders that allow for visitation. Any way you slice it, it is the judge who is responsible in individual cases, not just the father.

But, more importantly, it is the system that gives judges the virtually-absolute power necessary to falsely deem mothers alienators and permit fathers to alienate.

So the Family Court system is the Ultimate Enabler.

That’s why the only way to end the Crisis is to remove custody cases from Family Court and for them to be heard in a real court, with a jury as the fact-finder, not a judge.

PLEASE share this column to help raise awareness about this horrible epidemic of court-enabled alienation of mothers from their children.

Virginia would no doubt like for her untimely and unnecessary death to be used to help expose and end the Custody Crisis. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/the-custody-crisis-why-its-happening

RIP VIRGINIA

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FAMILY COURT CASUALTIES

Here is a list of mothers who lost their lives via the Family Court system. Their stories are linked to in the Substack post: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/family-court-killed-virginia-giuffre

Mary: RFK Jr. Drove His Wife to Suicide via Family Court

Catherine: Mom Uses Suicide to Warn Women about Family Court

Narkis: Mom Who Said “Many Women End Up Dead” Has Died

Terra: Mom Dies Following Years of Judicial Torture

Lindsay: Judge Enables Father to Murder Mother & Daughter

Anne-Christine: Dad Murders Mom: Gets Custody

Nia: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death

Star: Judge Denies Protective Order: Mom Stabbed to Death in Front of Son

Michelle: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death

Nicole: Mom Dies Due to Son Being Taken Away, Given to Ex

Nashwa: Protective Mom Found Dead Day after Mother’s Day

Kymberlie: Woman Commits Suicide by Train on Daughter’s 16th Birthday

Nicole: Mom Murdered after Judge Orders Shared Custody

Jennifer: Missing Mom’s Ex Charged with Murder: Held on $6M Bail

Hayley: Mom of 4 Drops Dead in Court after Custody Ruling

Marissa: Face of the Crisis

Shannon: Mom Passes Away after Battling Fervently to Regain Custody

Kimi: Mom with Cancer Passes Away without Seeing Children

Sheila: Despondent Mum Commits Suicide after Kids Given to Father

Jessica: Mom Commits Suicide After 8 Year Battle for Her Kids

Olga: Family Court Causes Another Tragedy

Brenda: Another Woman Commits Suicide after Children Taken and Given to Father

Rest in Peace Mamas…

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IN OTHER NEWS

CHAPTER 28 NEXT SECTION IS OUT!

https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/chapter-28-the-opera-act-iii-pt-4-080

Legion finishes up with her questioning of Herry on the stand. He continues to lie and evade, but she gets him to admit to many things that demonstrate he should not continue to have sole custody—not even half—not even unsupervised. He acknowledges he has never told the boys he loves them, and his neglectful parenting does not support he loves them either.

After Herry steps down, a good friend of Legion’s takes the stand. She testifies that Legion is a wonderful mother, Herry is not a good father, and that he had said he wanted Legion to “hit bottom”. In retrospect, Legion sees that the three men present—judge, opposing counsel, and Herry—were all just biding their time, tolerating her, while she got testimony, facts and evidence on the record. But none of her brilliant, pro se lawyering would matter—“not one whit”. They all already knew what the outcome was going to be…

In the last section, Legion continues her direct examination of Herry. She makes many relevant points with her skilled questioning, despite his constant lies and assertions that he does not remember. She “landed into the areas of his sexual addiction, his ordering of the sabotage to my life and career as a veterinary professor and practitioner and his failures at loving.” She gets him to admit he is not allowing any contact with the boys, he’s telling them she’s crazy, and he’s using the stepmother to do all the parenting. But he will not admit that he had repeatedly beat her—including in front of the boys.

CHAPTER 28 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act III, Part 4 of “The Opera” from Book 3. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one for each of the three Family Court and two Appellate Court trials. Chapter 28 covers all of Act III: Part 4: the third Family Court trial and Part 5: the second Appellate trial. This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.

Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.

Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are published every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!

TEASERS

“Dr. Edinsmaier, isn’t it a fact that you don’t tell your children that you love them?! Ever?!”

But––none of this testimony of Ms. Fannie Issicran McLive’s or from Dr. Herod Edinsmaier … mattered. To ‘the Court’. Not one whit…Nothing at all this was but an exercising of the intolerance limitations of three men who, in no way, intended near the end of this display, this particular Part Four of The Opera, to do anything differently as The Outcome of it all than what the three of them had wanted at Its Overture.

“Is it your impression and have you heard words spoken out of the lips of Dr. Edinsmaier that Legion True hasn’t hit rock bottom, not until she loses her food and her home?”

“I have heard that.”

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Lies : Parental Alienation/ Charlie McCready

The nature of lying in the context of parental alienation is far more complex and crafty than ordinary dishonesty. It’s a carefully constructed web of deceit designed to distort reality for both the child and the wider world. Alienating parents are skilled manipulators, often displaying traits consistent with narcissistic personality disorder or other serious mental health conditions. They are masters of creating false narratives—convincing others to believe in a twisted version of events that serve only their interests. This is why, despite the lies often being blatant and the emotional damage obvious, they manage to draw others into their delusions. By painting themselves as the “superior” parent, they garner sympathy and support while slowly eroding the child’s ability to trust the targeted parent.⁠

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Such lying is deeply pathological. It goes beyond mere deception. Pathogenic lying can become an ingrained part of the alienator’s personality, a coping mechanism that feeds into their need for control, dominance, and/or retribution. When these behaviours are normalised, they might be passed on to the children, who absorb the alienator’s pathology. It becomes a form of intergenerational trauma, where lying and the complete disregard for the targeted parent’s reality are seen as acceptable ways to navigate conflict. Children learn to deny their own perceptions and internalise the alienator’s delusions, which not only harms their relationship with the alienated parent but also distorts their own sense of right and wrong.⁠

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This isn’t just harmful on an emotional level; lying also has a profound impact on the brain. Research shows that habitual lying can alter brain structure and function. The more a person lies, the less active the amygdala—the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions and moral behaviour—becomes. This means the liar feels less guilt or discomfort with each new falsehood, making lying easier over time. It’s as if the brain rewires itself to accommodate deceit, numbing the persecutor to the damage they are causing. For children caught in the throes of parental alienation, this means their developing brains are being conditioned to accept lies as a valid coping mechanism, harming their ability to form healthy, trusting relationships in the future.

Family courts and legal professionals often fail to recognise the full extent of this psychological warfare. Instead, they take a superficial view of the situation, believing the alienator’s carefully curated version of events. When courts claim to be acting in the “best interests of the child” while ignoring the trauma inflicted by the alienating parent’s lies, they are perpetuating the problem. It’s a systemic failure that results in the legal system effectively siding with the abuser, enabling the alienator to continue their campaign of deceit and abuse unchecked.

For the alienating parent, the law is simply another tool to manipulate. They believe they are above accountability, and this perceived invincibility only emboldens them further. They don’t just lie to the targeted parent—they lie to the courts, to mental health professionals, and to anyone who might expose them. They do so with a brazenness that defies logic, because they know they are rarely held to account.

Dealing with people like this is extraordinarily difficult. But we must remember that while we can’t control their behaviour, we can control ours. No matter how tempting it is to mirror their tactics in our desperation, we must never lower ourselves to their level. We have to focus on our own well-being, keeping our minds and hearts clear, so that we remain the loving, consistent parent our children can look to—now or in the future—as a role model of strength, integrity, and truth. Because the greatest victory is not in proving them wrong; it’s in staying true to who we are, refusing to be like them, and letting our children see, whether near or far, what real love and honesty look like.

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#alienatedparent

#coercivecontrol

Shared Persecutory Delusions – Charlie McCready

Alienating parents delude themselves about their superiority and their x’s inferiority. The following quote from Theodore Millon, considered an expert in personality disorder pathology, describes the alienator’s delusions very well. “Deficient in social controls and self-discipline, the tendency … to fantasize and distort may speed up. The air of grandiosity may become more flagrant … As their behaviors and thoughts transgress the line of reality, their alienation will mount, and they may seek to protect their phantom image of superiority more vigorously and vigilantly than ever … No longer in touch with reality, they begin to accuse others and hold them responsible for their own shame and failures. They may build a “logic” based on irrelevant and entirely circumstantial evidence and ultimately construct a delusion system to protect themselves from unbearable reality.”

Unbearable reality – that’s so key. Unfortunately, they share their delusions with the child/ren, and they make no apologies for any harm caused as a result of their behaviour. It’s narcissistic and selfish, and their grandiose, alienating behaviour often worsens after a humiliation, sense of failure, or serious setback challenges their (deluded) image of themselves, such as a separation or divorce. They need to reimagine themselves anew, with a narrative that protects their delusions, and the ‘target’ parent is the perfect scapegoat. Things become misconstrued, twisted, and when that doesn’t work, the alienator just makes stuff up that didn’t really happen.

It is child psychological abuse when the alienating parent shares their persecutory delusions, and tells the child/ren ‘a good parent wouldn’t do this/that/whatever’, putting the blame on the other parent and destroying their attachment bonds. While ‘parental alienation’ as a term is deemed controversial, Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995.51) is an accepted pathology. A shared persecutory delusion is abusive. The child should be removed from the abusive/alienating parent and given time with the healthy-minded target parent. Obviously, checks must be made to ensure the target parent isn’t (also) abusive, or using false allegations of ‘parental alienation’.

Psychoeducational guidance, such as I provide in daily social media posts (and to the parents I work with/coach), hoping to support people going through this – as I did myself – can help you to try and understand and validate this confounding, extraordinarily challenging experience. It’s important to be the parent your child needs and may return to one day and to be the person you truly are regardless of others’ behaviour. Embrace your strengths, seek support, and strive to do something that lifts your mood and makes you feel happier each day.

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#parentalalienationcoach

#traumabonding

#coercivecontrol

#parentalalienationawareness

Keep standing in your truth – Charlie McCready

This father’s words are a testament to the resilience it takes to endure parental alienation. It can be a long and painful journey, but healing yourself is just as important as holding onto hope for your child. Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being doesn’t mean giving up—it means staying strong enough to be there when your child is ready.⁠

Parental alienation can make you feel powerless, but the love between parent and child is not so easily erased. Even when they cannot show it, even when they have been taught to suppress it, that bond still exists.⁠

Keep going. Keep healing. Keep standing in your truth.⁠

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#alienatedchild

#alienatedparent

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparent

Harmful Dynamic of Parental Alienation on the child

Children subjected to the harmful dynamic known as parental alienation, exhibit distinct attitudes and behaviours. They become fixated on denigrating one parent, reciting numerous grievances, and treating that parent as if they hold no value. What’s even more concerning is that many deeply alienated children express desires for the parent’s demise or disappearance. Strikingly, they do so without any accompanying guilt or remorse for their hostile behaviour. Children who have experienced physical abuse, typically fear the person abusing them, adopting a compliant demeanour to avoid further harm. They do no such thing with the alienated parent they reject because they say they’re not safe, or unwelcome in their life – with no real justification for these accusations and a previously loving relationship. Often their reasons are trivial or irrational like disliking being asked to help around the house, or not swearing, or any other reasons which do not warrant the rejection and hatred. Again, this contrasts with abused children who can offer justifiable and real evidence for their aversion.

Ordinarily, children, especially in the teenage years, hold a mix of sentiments toward their parents, including both love and loathing. However, children subjected to parental alienation often lack ambivalence. They struggle to articulate anything positive about the alienated parent while protecting the preferred (alienating, abusive) parent with whom they are aligned and being indoctrinated. During parental disputes, these children instinctively side with their preferred parent and accept without question that parent’s allegations against the alienated parent. Their expressions of criticism often mirror the aligned parent’s grievances, even if they don’t fully understand the words and phrases used. This happens despite their insistence that their rejection of the parent is solely their own decision, unaffected by the parent they have been induced to favour.

As the alienation deepens, it extends beyond just the parent. It encompasses other family members and friends on the alienated parent’s side. Even hobbies and interests. Even pets. It is ‘hatred by association’. It is irrational and yet can become powerfully ingrained behaviour. It might be a cherished grandparent who they no longer want to see. It is tragic for all involved. The only person who might be considered a ‘winner’ is the alienating parent. ‘Winner’ is not a word to describe their behaviour. ‘Abuser’ is much more fitting.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienationawareness

#childrensrights