Alienated Children & their awareness

Our 3 resist awareness or healing

As they grow older and gain more life experience, the alienated child may start to question the narrative that has been imposed upon them and realise the manipulation and control tactics employed by one of their parents (typically it’s a parent). They may become aware of the discrepancies between the image of the targeted parent presented by the alienating parent and the reality they observe themselves. This is why it’s so important we do all we can to remain non-reactive, calm, loving … as I cover in many of my posts.

This realisation can be a gradual process, sparked by various factors such as interactions with the targeted parent, exposure to different perspectives, or their own inner reflection. As the child starts to critically analyze the situation, they may begin to see the patterns of emotional manipulation, denigration, and falsehoods employed by the alienating parent. They may recognise the parent’s ulterior motives, such as jealousy, vengeance, or a desire for control.

Becoming aware of the disordered parenting of the alienating parent can be a transformative and emotionally challenging experience for the child. It may evoke a range of emotions, including anger, confusion, and a deep sense of betrayal. However, this awareness can also be a catalyst for personal growth and healing as the child begins to reclaim their own voice and establish their own identity independent of the alienating parent’s influence. It opens the door to the possibility of reconnecting with the targeted parent and developing healthier relationships based on truth, understanding, and mutual respect.

Hold on, my friends. Stay strong. Stay loving. Strive to be happy.

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Judicial Bias – Craig Childress PsyD

Enter Player 2.

I spend over an hour talking with Melanie this morning. We’re on different over-lines and exactly the same under-lines.

The over-lines are glacial. The under-lines are in ludicrous speed. Wheee, hold on.

Melanie is Public Police – and she’s going Political Science. That is an entirely different line from a clinical psychologist.., yet we are fully entangled. When one spins-up, magically so does the other. When one spins-down, magically so does the other.

Spooky action at a distance.

Melanie saw the patterns a long time ago – once you see the patterns, you see the “tells” on the pathology – the signs that the pathogen is in that person’s brain.

I watched as she played with the pathogen when it signaled its presence on my Facebook page. She’s gotten better. Now… she’s doing a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception on it.

She’s collapsing the delusion into its dissociative core. Oh my. It’s relatively easy once you see the patterns. You set it up. It doesn’t think – it lacks linear-logical reasoning… it’s a thought disorder.

If you remain immensely linear and logical… you’ll pop it out – *pop* – oh… high there delusion, nice to meet you.

We don’t diagnose delusions based on History… we pop the delusion right out in front of us during the session – and we cal turn it this way and that. We can even rate it on a 7-point scale called the Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale item 11 Unusual Thought Content.

Social Constructions… uh-oh pathogen-people… in clinical psychology Social Construction is an entire School of psychotherapy like psychoanalytic, CBT, or family systems.

The Social Construction therapies include Solution-Focused (Berg) and Narrative (White). They are immensely powerful. I use them all the time… without your knowledge that I’m using them. Hee-hee-hee, I do things you don’t see.

Melanie’s in the world of Social Construction. Uh-oh for you pathogen-people. Judicial Bias? That is an entirely different line than the one I’m on… on the over-line. It is spot-on the same under-line, and it’s the under-line that is moving.

Soon… the under-line will explode into the over-line and the world changes immediately as if from nowhere. It’s called a paradigm shift. I may be dead… but its coming.

I should “Interview” Melanie. I could be like Joe Rogan interviewing topical people of the day. I should learn how to do that on my video platform.

Hey Melanie… I want to Interview you on Judicial Bias in the Child Custody Decisions. We can present three to five slides and talk about them.

She’s a rock star. She’s tough. She’s been battling the pathogen a long time as it attacks in a variety of ways… and she’s turned it. She caught it and she’s turned it.

Excellently done. She’s going one way. I’m going another. it is exactly the same under-line. One spins up, the other spins up. One spins down, the other spins down. The lines are entirely entangled.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical P;sychologist,

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857

Mental Health in Parental Alienation- Charlie Mc Cready

Psychiatric evaluations can offer benefits by providing an objective and professional assessment of a person’s mental health, including any disorders or conditions that may affect their behaviour or functioning within a family setting. This information can inform court decisions regarding child custody, visitation, and other family arrangements.

However, there are potential drawbacks to consider. Evaluations may be subjective, leading to different conclusions from different evaluators. They can also be costly, time-consuming, and may not always yield clear or actionable recommendations.

One concern is the potential emotional stress and charged atmosphere that evaluations can create, particularly in custody disputes or contentious family matters. Mental health professionals must approach evaluations sensitively and ethically, prioritising the well-being of all parties involved.

It’s also important to note that evaluations rely on the information provided and the cooperation of all parties, which can be challenging if an alienating parent manipulates or deceives the assessment process. Additionally, evaluations are most effective when conducted by professionals experienced in parental alienation.

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Misdiagnosed Child Abuse -Craig Childress PsyD

Follow the yellow brick road. Follow the yellow brick road. Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow brick road.

If you’re not Following me on Bluesky, why not? It’s useful information.

If your attorney, your involved mental health professionals, your GALs and Parenting Coordinators, are not Following me on Bluesky, why not?

Sometimes I skeet about diagnosis. Sometimes I skeet about dark personalities. Sometimes I skeet about the court-involved assessment. Everything I skeet about is court-custody and treatment related.

Droplets of information each day, like a gentle rain of knowledge into the parched desert of the family courts.

I do what I do. You do what you do. We’re both working toward exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse by a pathological parent.

I’m not your warrior – you’re the warrior fighting to protect your child. I’m a clinical psychologist with knowledge that’s useful to you. I’m your weapon.

I’m headed into the AFCC to contact the Hydra. You can’t do that. I can and I am because I do something different. I’m a clinical psychologist not a parent. We’re both working for exactly the same goal – protecting the child from child abuse – differently.

Because we’re in different roles.

Part of my role as a doctor is to educate the patient – you – about the pathology you have in your family… and with your child… so that you, as a parent, can get a proper assessment that will return an accurate diagnosis and effective treatment plan… to fix things.

Courts and the legal system land on the wrong end-point. Courts and the legal system land on the Court’s custody decision. That’s the wrong end-point of consideration.

The healthcare system lands on treatment. That’s where we need to end up – with a treatment plan that fixes things and gives the child a normal-range childhood.

For a treatment plan… you’ll need a diagnosis. For an effective treatment plan, you’ll need an accurate diagnosis.

If we treat cancer with insulin because we think it’s diabetes, the patient will die from the misdiagnosed cancer. Whenever possible child abuse is a considered diagnosis, our returned diagnosis needs to be accurate 100% of the time.

Misdiagnosing child abuse is too devastating to the child. We need to get it right – every time. We can do that when there’s the motivation to to that.

The appellate system in healthcare for a disputed diagnosis is a second opinion, or even a third opinion. Doctors in healthcare consult all the time – because we need our diagnosis accurate and early – we need to start treatment right away.

Any diagnosis returned into the legal system will be a disputed diagnosis – so – let’s get a second or even third opinion right at the start through telehealth.

Get one primary treatment provider who will both diagnose and then treat the pathology. Allow each litigant parent to appoint a second-opinion doctor of their choice to represent their interests and concerns. Then let the doctors do what doctors do.

You’ll get a report from the primary treating doctor (duty of care) and two consulting reports that agree, or perhaps disagree to a degree. Provide this information to the Court for its decision-making.

The Court can decide which doctors make sense – and the doctors should make sense. They should 1) describe the symptoms, 2) describe the diagnostic criteria and established knowledge applied, and 3) the diagnosis that is supported by the symptom pattern.

Doctors are not concerned with custody. That’s the Court’s decision based on all the evidence it considers. There is NO quasi-judicial role for doctors. Doctors diagnose and treat pathology.

In the absence of child abuse, parents have the right to parent according to their cultural values, their personal values, and their religious values.

In the absence of child abuse, each parent should have as much time and involvement with the child as possible.

In the absence of child abuse, to restrict either parent’s time and involvement with the child would damage the child’s attachment bond to that parent, thereby harming the child and harming that parent.

Is there child abuse? If a child is rejecting a parent, yes, there is child abuse by one parent or the other, we just don’t know which one yet.

It might be authentic child abuse by the targeted parent creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent – OR – it might be child psychological abuse by the allied parent who is creating a persecutory thought disorder and false (factitious) attachment pathology in the child for secondary gain to the parent.

Which parent is abusing the child? We need a proper risk assessment to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent to answer that question.

Then we protect the child. That’s what we do in ALL cases of child abuse. We always protect the child because ALL mental health professionals have a duty to protect in cases of three types of dangerous pathology – suicide – homicide – abuse (child, spousal, elder).

It’s not “complex” – it’s simple. What’s the diagnosis? Collect the symptom patterns, apply the diagnostic criteria patterns, and if there’s a pattern-match… that’s your diagnosis.

That’s not complex. That’s simple.

So is Following me on Bluesky. Sign up then Follow. Easy peasy for such valuable information to your professionals who surround you. Once they know… they can’t un-know what they know.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857

Common Sequence that leads to Estrangement

For me , they were distant , marriage then children brought out the primal energy and the competition, drama , control were too unhealthy to continue .

One of the most intractable problems that can lead to estrangement: sons-in-law and daughters-in-law.

The sequence above is surprisingly common in my experience, which is why I tackle it in my book, Rules of Estrangement, by asking questions like…

👉 Why does the adult child sometimes cut everyone off?

👉 What’s in it for him or her to estrange?

👉 Is there any hope for the son-in-law or daughter-in-law—can they be changed?

👉 How should a parent understand them?

Pick up your copy to learn more about it: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Estrangement-Adult-Children-Conflict/dp/0593136861

Contact Refusal / PA – Charlie McCready

It may start with what seems like innocent enough excuses: Uncle Bulgaria is over for the weekend and we’ve not seen him in years, so we’ll have to skip this weekend. And yet there’s no effort to make up your lost time. Maybe there’s a school rehearsal: they can’t miss it. And yet there’s not a reason given as to why they can’t do that from your house or a discussion about possible solutions. All the excuses mount up and it becomes obvious that everyone and everything else takes priority over your child spending time with you. If and when you get ‘given’ the time, it may well be, with all the excuses under the sun, sabotaged, shortened, or overshadowed.

Another issue that when ‘allowed’ time with your child, alienating tactics may include constant text messages or phone calls which make the child feel guilty, angry, upset. They might be told how much more fun they’d be having if they didn’t ‘have to’ be with you. The child will get the impression, loud and clear, that it’s a nuisance for them, and annoying for their ‘good’ parent whenever they spend time with the ‘bad’ parent, the one who is ruining everyone’s fun. Contact, even when indirect such as a phone call or a text message, can be even labelled ‘harassment’ in some cases.

Subliminal programming of a sort has been inflicted on the child, a form of emotional manipulation and psychological abuse. Subtly but most certainly, the child will realise that the alienating parent is delighted when the child ‘chooses’ not to spend time with the other parent. The child may even be rewarded for contact refusal. These patterns of contact refusal are the first signs that the child is being alienated.

Do any of these signs sound familiar to you?

If you face these challenges, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through all this myself, with over 20 years of experience, and I am now reunited with my children. I am here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Feel free to reach out to me anytime—I’m here to help.

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Charlie McCready -Coaching offer

My daily posts aim to spread awareness and empower you with a greater understanding of alienating behaviours. Alienation from our child creates traumatic grief in our lives. It is one of the hardest but most misdiagnosed, under-supported, and covert forms of abuse of us and our children.

I’m glad to say the amazing parents I have the honour and pleasure of working with talk of gaining emotional and mental resilience and peace of mind in just a few weeks (the 9-step program is 10 weeks). It has been described as ‘the best investment you can make’. It helps you understand and deal with your alienated child/ren, the alienating parent, plus how to overcome and survive the many challenges. Please send me a message if you are interested to know more, and I can send you testimonials and further details on what the program/coaching covers and the benefits you could gain.

I also do 1-2-1 coaching. Sometimes, people prefer to do these private sessions with their partner who is keen to support and get a better understanding. I have also helped many alienated children, and I am always happy to accommodate this when possible, and when it is most beneficial.

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